Live From Love

All of us make mistakes when it comes to sex.  In this episode, we discuss 10 common mistakes almost every couple makes with sex and how to overcome them.

What kind of sex life do you want to create for you and your spouse in 2020? In this episode, I will offer some fun ideas and apps as well as a different perspective on how and why you want to create your sex life on purpose!

So much of Christmas is focused around the kids, but don’t forget about creating memories and getting gifts for your spouse.  In this week’s episode, I give you ideas of how to create a sexy Christmas with your spouse with gift ideas and ideas of what to do if you are out of town for the Holidays.

What turns you on?  What turns you off?  Many women think that there is something wrong with their accelerator.  They wonder where their sex drive went.  But they often don’t understand all of the things that hit their brakes.  Knowing your accelerators and brakes are essential to understanding your desire and why you might not just want sex and the drop of a hat, but if you can get started then you’ll be good to go. 

Sex follows a specific pattern each time from initiation to resolution. Each stage has different physical and emotional changes. Understanding the stages and knowing how your body responds helps you to see where you are and in what areas you might need a little help or to improve to create a fuller, richer experience and sex life.     Show Notes: Follow Amanda on Facebook and Instagram. Join Amanda's Private Facebook Group.   References for this episode: Sexual response cycles: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-power-pleasure/201211/what-we-can-learn-sexual-response-cycles Connection & Intimacy: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/articles/201701/the-radical-thrill-intimacy Basson’s Model Drawing: https://sexologyinternational.com/taking-a-closer-look-at-bassons-model-of-the-sexual-response-cycle/ Foreplay Radio: https://www.foreplayrst.com/2017/01/14/episode-52-stages-of-sex/ Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski Ph.D Watchful Unto Prayer Continually by Elder David A Bednar: https://www.churchofje

Do you think you don’t need coaching because things aren’t that bad?  We hire coaches for other areas of our lives, not when things are bad, but when we want to get better at anything.  So why hire a life coach? To get better at life!  Why hire a sex coach? To get better at sex!  Even when things are good, they can always be better. 

Is sex the last thing on your to-do list?  Or maybe it’s not even making the cut.  With the busy lives we live today, unless we carve out time and make sex and connection a priority, it just doesn’t seem to happen.  In this episode, I share with you ideas of why you want to carve out that time and how to do so. Download your FREE worksheet for this week’s episode.

We all have rules and expectations with sex. It just comes with the territory. But many times, we aren't even aware of the rules we have. They are unspoken. In this episode, we have a conversation about these rules, why we have them, what it can look like when we drop them or at least we are more intentional about it.  I’ll also share with you 10 essential rules I think all couples should consider.   Download your FREE worksheet for this week’s episode.   Show Notes: Follow Amanda on Facebook and Instagram. Join Amanda's Private Facebook Group. References for this episode: Living Within Reason

If you have a hard time reconciling sexual thoughts and desires with your religious beliefs, you may have Good Girl Syndrome.  How do we overcome the Natural Man but give in to the desires and appetites we were given by our Heavenly Parents? How do those two things work together for our good?  

Do you know how to be sexy? Is it ok as a woman of God to try and be sexy?  What do men think makes a woman sexy?  What do women think they need to do to be or feel sexy?   

The podcast this week is quite a bit different from my usual content.  My son returned home from his mission this past Saturday, so I’ve been busy getting him settled back into real life and wasn’t able to devote the time to research the topic I had planned.  So I’m sharing with you the talk I wrote and gave this past Sunday in our new ward’s Sacrament Meeting.  I share my testimony of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, my father’s conversion story and how it was the basis for my testimony and how I have seen the evidence of God’s hand in my life.  But don’t worry, I tie it in to why I do what I do.  Back to our regular topics next week.

In a recent survey I conducted, 40% of married women said they feel guilt and shame about sex.  In this episode, we are addressing where this guilt and shame are coming from and why it is isn’t necessary.   Are you taking the 30-Day Say Yes To The Sex Challenge?   Flex Discs: http://rwrd.io/tddnzbx Sexual Satisfaction Survey: https://amandalouder.typeform.com/to/HYppWQ

Do you often reject your spouse’s advances for sex?  Do you feel rejected by them?  Rejection is a huge issue for many couples.  Find out why we feel rejected and what we can do about it when we are.   I also challenge you to 30 days of saying Yes to the Sex!

When you think of sex, what first comes to mind?  Are you full of excitement and desire? Or are you immediately in dread? Does thinking about sex make you feel anxious?  Are you annoyed?  All of these feelings are created by your default sex thoughts.  Do you like what you are thinking and feeling?  Do you like what is happening for you?  If so, then great! No need to make changes.  But if you don’t like what is going on for you, or you have a desire to see things differently, then you might need to work on those default thoughts.

This week's episode is all about orgasms. What are they? What do you they feel like? What keeps you from having one?  

How do you feel about your body?  Do you love it? Do you embrace it?  When we don’t embrace our body it turns our desire for sex off.  So how is your body image affecting your sex life? 

Do you think you have to be “In The Mood” to have sex with your husband? So many times, we think that desire needs to come before arousal. But it often doesn’t work that way. In this episode, we will discuss what things put you in the mood and what things don’t and how you can come to understand that you don’t need to be “in the mood” to have sex.

It’s normal to have ebbs and flows of attraction during a relationship.  But what happens when you find yourself not attracted to your spouse anymore?  What can you do?  What is attraction anyway?  Can you get it back?

Sex has many aspects that benefit us physical, emotional, spiritually and in our relationships.  What are these benefits? 

What do you believe about sex?  How do those beliefs shape the way you view your sex life?  In my coaching, I have found that many women have underlying beliefs that sex is shameful, embarrassing, un-virtuous, or that it’s all about their husband.  These beliefs are preventing them from having the amazing sex life that they could be having with their spouse.  What could your life and sex life be like if those beliefs changed?  What do you want to believe about sex?