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Originally Aired: January 26, 2021Sexual betrayal is a tidal wave of pain, confusion, and grief for a wife. It can feel like the very underpinnings of her life have been destroyed; kind of like an emotional earthquake. In this episode, Geremy Keeton introduces Aftershock, a powerful book he co-wrote with Joann Condie to help wives overcome the pain of their husband's secret sin and gain a plan for recovering from such betrayal.Get your copy of Aftershock at FocusontheFamily.com/AftershockCounseling Help: 1-855-771-HELPOnline Course for Wives: Rebuilding Trust After BetrayalFor more Wives Care Resources, visit WivesCare.Bebroken.com----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donations

Today my guest is John Fort, the Director of Training at Be Broken and also a family care specialist. John brings a background in education and addiction recovery that gives him a unique perspective on dealing with sensitive issues in today’s modern family. He is also an experienced parent who can understand firsthand the challenges and difficulties of raising kids in a sex-saturated culture.In our discussion, we highlight the importance of parents being transparent with their kids about their history of sexual brokenness and leverage these conversations to help their kids navigate their own struggles with sexual topics and questions. This conversation deals with the fears that both parent and child likely have, how emotions connect to sexuality, and some practical applications to help families be more open about the ongoing journey from brokenness to wholeness in Christ.For help having these conversations, get John’s book: Honest Talk: A New Perspective on Talking to Your Kids About Sex.More Resources for Pa

My guest today is Karla Downing, the founder of ChangeMyRelationship.com. She is a speaker, author, counselor, and Bible teacher.Karla grew up in a dysfunctional family and then found herself struggling with Christian codependency in her own difficult marriage. Through her personal struggles, she discovered biblical and practical principles, which she now teaches to others. Karla’s passion is to see individuals, marriages, and families set free from the chains of dysfunction, misunderstanding, and emotional pain through a correct understanding of what the Bible teaches about relationships.In our conversation, Karla shares the 10 Relationship Changing Principles she uses to help difficult relationships thrive. We spend much of our time focusing on the principle she calls “Detach with Love” to help wives understand how to separate themselves in healthy ways from their betraying husband’s actions and reactions.To learn more about Karla and her many resources, visit ChangeMyRelationship.com.More Resources for Wiv

So many stories have come to the surface over recent decades about pastor after pastor who has been living a double life that has hidden all kinds of sexual brokenness and sin. Much pain has been left in the wake of these stories.In this episode, we read a blog post from Allison Fallon about her personal story of how this kind of betrayal played out in her own life. Then we spend time unpacking some of the key factors that often establish and perpetuate environments of hidden abuse within the church, such as isolation, unchecked and unaccountable power, pride, and even hiding behind one’s “calling.”We close with giving hope and insights for how true grace-based environments can fight against these kinds of sins and abuses. We hope this episode will help both individuals and leaders to recognize the warning signs of danger and how to fight for truth and genuine grace.Read Allison's blog post at AllisonFallon.com/grace.Related blog: The Christian Response to Moral Failure in Church LeadersRelated Podcasts:H

There is one simple starting point for men who want to work on emotional development: practice sadness. This may be overly simple, even simplistic. But after engaging with hundreds of men for over 30 years, counselor Stephen Cervantes has discovered that most men hate dealing with sadness. They don’t know how to practice sadness.Most men think emotions are messy. They hate when women cry. They think sadness is sloppy, crazy, and unnecessary emotion. Most men are good at positive emotions such as fun, play, laughter, and pleasure. They are not so good at disappointment and sadness.In this episode, we explore the issue of sadness in men and how men can better practice sadness well. We unpack the impact of fathers in training their sons to avoid or ignore sadness. Finally, we help men see sadness as an asset to growth and maturity rather than a liability.More resources for men: Men.Bebroken.comBook: Untangling Emotions by Groves and SmithRelated Podcasts:Replacing Escaping and Hiding with Healthy Thoughts and Be

My guest today is Linda MacDonald. She is a licensed Marriage & Family Therapist with over 30 years of counseling experience. She has written numerous books and articles and spoken on a wide range of topics related to marriage restoration. She is a wife, mother, and grandmother who enjoys hiking and kayaking near her home in Gig Harbor, Washington.Our conversation today centers around her book, entitled How to Help Your Spouse Heal from Your Affair. We begin by exploring the 5 options that the betraying spouse has in choosing what to do next after the affair. Then, we explore some of the 15 essential steps for repair, including healthy disclosure, rebuilding trust, responding to your spouse’s triggers, and changing your core character. For couples who want to rebuild after an affair, this book helps provide a solid road map for the betraying spouse.To learn more about Linda and her resources, visit lindajmacdonald.com.Book: How to Help Your Spouse Heal from Your AffairBlog: Through a Wife's EyesMore P

My guests today are Michael and Heather Norgren. They are the founders of Triggered.app. For much of his life, Michael struggled with an addiction that he couldn't seem to overcome. He tried counseling, pastoral support, recovery programs, bible studies, and conferences. In all of these environments, he learned the importance of vulnerability and reaching out for support when he was feeling triggered.As a wife to a former addict, Heather is now able to use her story of betrayal to help others who are hurting from broken relationships. Throughout her journey, she has learned much about her own individual healing and how to come alongside someone struggling with addiction with healthy boundaries.Michael uses his abilities of developing software to create tools to help people in their journey to healing. Heather is using her gifts and passions to connect with individuals, businesses, and ministries to find more effective ways to partner together to bring hope and healing to more people. Together, they use th

In 1999, I began my recovery from over 13 years of porn and sex addiction. One of the first books I read was Russell Willinghams’ foundational work, Breaking Free: Understanding Sexual Addiction and the Healing Power of Jesus. To this day I am reaping the benefits of this resource. In fact, the name of our ministry, Be Broken, is due in large part because of chapter 9 in Breaking Free, entitled “The Courage to Be Broken.” Today’s guest is none other than Russell Willingham. Russell has worked full-time with sexually broken people since 1993. He oversees individual, couples and group counseling at New Creation Ministries in Fresno, California. He has spoken widely across the nation on issues related to sexual addiction, the healing process, marital intimacy and spiritual formation. In this episode, Russell shares insights from his 30+ years of experience to understand sexual brokenness strongholds and how we can be truly set free from such compulsions. He unpacks the goodness of our desires, the reality of the

Can you relate to stress and anxiety in a constantly changing world? Do God’s promises of peace and joy still apply in the world today? How can you find real peace, grace, and Jesus in the midst of the chaos?My guests on today’s program are Steve and Jamie Wiechman, founders of Breathe Life Ministries. They got married in 1998 and have four children. They have traveled through many peaks and valleys, physically, emotionally, and spiritually. They bring answers and insights to the questions around stress and pain from a place of deep personal experience. Steve began ministry as a youth minister in Houston, TX and has served in pastoral ministry in four different churches in Texas. Jamie, after 10 years in the trenches as a pastor’s wife and home educator, obtained an Advanced Counseling Certificate through the Townsend Institute at Concordia University – Irvine, CA. God has captured their hearts for sharing the freedom of the Gospel with Christian leaders and their families. Steve currently serves as the Direc

The world seems to always be ready to criticize and complain. What happens when those criticisms and complaints are directed at you? How well do you respond? In this episode, Stephen and Jonathan unpack how our responses to verbal barbs affect (and measure) our emotional growth journey. Discover the path of grace and love that sets your heart free from being offended and offers others the hope of Jesus.Book: Unoffendable: How Just One Change Can Make All of Life BetterMore Podcasts:A Biblical Framework for EmotionsAbout Your Emotional Connecting SkillsEssential Truths to Heal and Mature Your Broken Emotional SystemHelp for Men: Men.Bebroken.comHelp for Women: Women.Bebroken.comHelp for Families: Family.Bebroken.com----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donations

Chris and Steph were high school sweethearts who were "following all the steps that the typical southern church would have spelled out." They got married in college and everything seemed to be fine, even great. But Chris began to have doubts that didn't align with his view of faith. This episode is a conversation about Chris and Steph's journey through peaks and valleys related to faith, marriage (and divorce/remarriage), fear, freedom, and authentic community.Learn more about Chris and Steph and their music at OutoftheDustMusic.com. More podcasts on marriage:Restored to More: Clinton and Charity's StoryA Thank You Letter from a Repentant Husband4 Skills to Transform Your Marriage----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donations

God calls his followers to live a life of sexual integrity (see 1 Thes. 4:1-8). Sometimes this is also stated in the phrase "sexual purity," which gets a lot of bad press -- even in the church. In this episode, our guest Jasper Hall, president of Pure Hope, helps us understand God's greater story of sex, how to reframe what it means to be "pure," and how we can better reflect the holiness and purity of Christ.Learn more about Jasper and Pure Hope at PureHope.net. More Resources:Parenting in a Sexualized CulturePure Hope AppPure Hope PodcastJoin pastors, ministry leaders, and care givers in the sexual integrity movement at SexualIntegrityLeaders.com. (Next national Summit is April 28-30, 2022 in St. Louis. Mark your calendar!)----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donations

Our ministry has entered a partnership with TFC Global that will allow us to bring the Gateway to Freedom 3-day workshop for men back to the northeastern United States in Pennsylvania. In this episode, we sit down with Derek Thompson, the director of Gateway to Freedom Foundation, to talk about this partnership and why this workshop is so critical for men who want to break free from any unwanted sexual behaviors.Links:Gateway to Freedom FoundationTFC GlobalBe Broken MinistriesMore resources for men: Men.Bebroken.com----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donations

Fear is natural and fear can be good; it's a kind of warning system. But what happens when fear goes beyond a healthy warning system and traps your mind in a vicious cycle of shame? In this episode, we will help you identify and understand your fear(s) in a way that offers you hope and a new vision for how to overcome fear. If you would like help in navigating your fears and learning to overcome them with grace and truth, please contact us.Previous Podcasts and Media on Fear: Recovery Discovery 008: Overcoming Fear#763: Finding Rest by Speaking Out Your Deepest Fear#776: How to Learn (and Respond to) Your Fear SystemBlog Post: Coward No More----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donations

Jon Wilkes is a tech guy. He also struggled with porn. This is his story of how his struggle and skill set turned into an incredible tool to help individuals engage in self-control while online. In our conversation, we talk about the difference between accountability and self-control, some features of Jon's technology, and some positive and negative trends happening in the tech sphere. To learn more about Jon and the resources he has built, visit Pluckeye.net.Other Internet Filters and Monitors: https://filters.pluckeye.net/If you are part of a tech company that would like to partner with Jon and Pluckeye, contact Jon.Previous Podcast: Ideas for Self-Control ----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donations

Sex is everywhere in our culture. Pornography has been normalized. With such societal saturation of sexual topics and struggles many parents feel overwhelmed and paralyzed as to how to engage their kids on such topics and struggles. In this episode, Rodney and Traci Wright from Pure Desire join us to share 10 principles to help parents talk more effectively with their children about sex. Parents, there is hope! Tune in to learn how to talk with your kids about sex in ways that are healthy and godly.Books How to Talk with Your Kids About SexHonest Talk: A New Perspective on Talking to Your Kids About SexMore resources for Parents: http://Family.Bebroken.com Previous Podcasts on Parenting:A Hopeful Mom Shares How to Have Difficult ConversationsTalking to Your Kids About Sex: What Works and What Doesn't----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donations

We say all the time that our deepest need is to be known and loved. But when it comes to being known, how well do you know yourself? Are you knowable? How do you really "know" yourself in order that others too might know you and love you? In this episode, we share and analyze one man's story to help you understand how to "map" your own emotional system to get a clearer picture of who you are. This message is about hope and growth. Dive in with us to go deeper with yourself and others. (While this episode focuses on men, the principles can apply to everyone.)Previous episodes on emotional growth:A 7-Day Challenge for Emotional Growth Essentials of Emotional Growth Emotional Training for Men Rate and review: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donations

We all live with a core fear of some kind, a belief deep in our soul that states we aren't worthy or that we will be rejected or make a mistake and fail (and more; core fears are personal). Ultimately, core fear drives you to believe that others won't like you and they would reject you if they really knew you. In this episode, we brainstorm (on air) 50(ish) things to do when your core fear gets triggered. There is hope for responding to core fear in healthy ways and we want to model for you an exercise that can help you do this well.Untangling Emotions by Groves and SmithAn app to help you when you are triggered (in any way): Triggered.appBlog post: How are You Handling Stress? Try These 5 ExercisesSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donations

Sexuality can be extremely confusing, even apart from all the brokenness and confusion that can surround it. In this episode, Dr. Juli Slattery helps us to understand how to speak the truth of God's design for sex in a way that is loving and compassionate -- not an easy task in today's world! Listen in to gain insights into how to talk with both believers and non-believers about what it means to be made in God's image as male and female.Get Juli's book: Rethinking Sexuality Christopher West's book: Our Bodies Tell God's Story Blog by Juli: What's the Purpose of Your Sexuality, Really? Today's Sponsor: CovenantEyes -- try them out for FREE for 30 days at http://CovenantEyes.com and use promo code BEBROKEN.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donations

Countless women suffer in silence from past sexual abuse. Are there any safe places within the church for women to tell their stories and heal from past abuse? In this episode, Dr. James Reeves shares his 30+ years of experience in helping women (and men) heal from sexual brokenness struggles, including sexual abuse. He shares a message of great hope and a new resource that is helping women around the globe to heal from past sexual abuse.The Fearless Series for Women covers:The Prevalence of sexual abuseThe Problems that manifest from abuseThe Priority for the Church to get involvedThe Prevention of abuseThe Pathway to healingGet the Fearless Series: FS4Women.com More Resources for Women: Women.Bebroken.comToday's Sponsor: CovenantEyes -- try them out for FREE for 30 days at CovenantEyes.com and use promo code BEBROKEN.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donations