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In today’s episode, Stephen and I share multiple comments from men who are on the journey to pursue greater integrity. Some of these comments are:“I know what’s wrong with me – it’s me!”“I’m 75 years old and no one wants to go to lunch with me.”“All my life I’ve hidden behind God and spiritual truths, but I’m not emotionally mature.”“There is pain in recovery. It feels like hope and it sucks at the same time.”“Why do I have to change? I don’t want to.”“Growing up, no one was there for me. So now, how can I show up for anyone?”Our hope in sharing these comments and the insights behind them is to help men better understand their own integrity journey and hopefully get some ideas for how to take their best next step. If you would like resources that help men grow in purity and faith, visit Men.Bebroken.com.More Resources:First 7 Days for MenEmotional Training for Men Webinar SeriesSmall Groups Online*Related Podcasts:3 Levels of SobrietyHow to Know Yourself to Grow and MatureInsights from a Brother in Recovery*T

On today’s program, our guest is Mandy Majors, founder of Next Talk and author of the new book Keeping Kids Safe in a Digital World: A Solution that Works. Our discussion highlights some of Mandy’s personal journey with her daughter on this subject and the three main sections of the book: The new problem we face.A solution that works.10 practical things to do to implement the solution.If you are a parent (or grandparent) who wants encouragement and real-world insights that work, tune in to what Mandy has to share. To learn more about Mandy and their ministry resources, visit NextTalk.org.More Resources for Parents:Keeping Kids Safe in a Digital WorldFamily.Bebroken.comA Family Game Plan for Responding to PornRelated PodcastsHOW and WHERE are Your Kids Hanging Out Online?Good Pictures, Bad PicturesA Hopeful Mom Shares How to Have Difficult Conversations----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/dona

On today’s program, our guest is Matt Dobschuetz, host of Porn Free Radio podcast and author of the book Porn Free: Becoming the Type of Man Who Does Not Look at Porn. Our conversation focuses on the topics and insights Matt highlights throughout his book.Matt shares his journey of eventually becoming porn free (he hasn’t viewed porn since 2011), the impact of loneliness in wanting to pursue porn, why “hating porn” isn’t the answer, and how to become curious about the underlying problems of porn use so that you can shift your paradigm.If you are a man (or love a man) who is struggling to overcome the stronghold of porn, Matt has a practical message of hope and freedom for you.To get Matt’s book or learn more about his coaching, visit RecoveredMan.com.More Resources:Porn Free bookMen.Bebroken.com Training for Your SoulRelated Podcasts:The Last Relapse with Sathiya SamOutgrowing the Porn PacifierHow Do You Fight Porn?----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.Su

Today’s episode is for husbands. We are aiming to answer this important question: “How do I help my wife when she falls into a ‘pit’?” In unpacking this question and its answer we touch on how couples can enjoy each other even in stressful seasons, the wrong kinds of statements for husbands to make, how to engage better emotional skills, and some very practical, tangible ideas for a husband to help his wife when she is really struggling.More Resources:Emotional Training for Men40 Days to Oneness devotionalWorthy of Her TrustRelated Podcasts:A Thank You Letter from a Repentant HusbandGrowing a Stronger Marriage Even When it's DifficultHelping Husbands Learn and Practice Empathy----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donations

In today’s episode, Stephen brings some wisdom to us from a man who has been on a journey of sexual wholeness for a while. What can we learn from an older saint in the faith? What is the value of pursuing faithfulness and continuing to fight for purity and holiness over a lifetime?Our hope by sharing these nuggets of wisdom is that you might be inspired to keep going on your own pursuit of sexual wholeness – and recognize that what you learn along the way will have value to others on a similar journey.More Resources:Men.Bebroken.comWomen.Bebroken.comOnline Integrity CoursesRelated Podcasts:Beating Porn Through All Ages and Stages of LifeSexual Healing and the Grace of GodThe Power of Purity----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donations

Today’s guest is Shelley Martinkus, speaker, author, group facilitator, coach, and founder of Redemptive Living for Women. She is passionate about helping women heal from sexual betrayal by affirming them, helping them find their voice, and empowering them to go after what they want and need all the while connecting to God, themselves, and to others.In this episode, Shelley shares some of her story and provides personal and ministry insight for wives facing betrayal, such as why a wife’s healing matters, how to take first steps, and something called liminal space. If you are a wife seeking a message of hope and practical ideas for healing from betrayal, listen in.To learn more about Shelley and the resources she provides, visit RLforWomen.com.More Resources:WivesCare.Bebroken.comBasics Webinar for WivesRescued by Shelley MartinkusRelated Podcasts:Helping Wives Recovery from the Aftershock of Sexual BetrayalHelping a Wife HealHope After Betrayal----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscr

In today’s episode, we unpack the visual nature of men. Like it or not, believe it or not, there are differences between males and females. Male brains are physically different from female brains. But this isn’t a science program. We want to focus on just one primary difference: men are hardwired with more capacity for visual processing than women.But what does this mean and what are we to do about it? Listen in as we unpack how to understand the visual nature of men and how men can steward this reality in a God-honoring way. Much of this conversation was born out of Shaunti Feldhahn’s book, Through a Man’s Eyes. You can get her book on Amazon.com or any other book distributor. More Resources:Men.Bebroken.com3 Tactics Satan Employs to Destroy Our LivesRecover Discovery 018: Your BrainRelated Podcasts:How to Look at a WomanLook Into My EyesWhat Can We Learn from Lust?----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure

Our guest today is Sara Sery. She is a mom and ministry leader who cares deeply about helping parents, especially moms, to understand God’s design for sex and sexuality and how to disciple kids to navigate a sex-saturated culture with hope and confidence.Our conversation today unpacks many of the challenges parents face in dealing with sexual struggles in their kids (and themselves) and how the gospel of Jesus applies to these challenges.If you are a parent who needs hope and help on this topic, listen in. For more information about Sara and her group and coaching ministry, visit BadChristianMoms.com.More Resources:Family.Bebroken.comHonest Talk: A New Perspective on Talking to Your Kids About SexRelated Podcasts:God Made Boys and GirlsTalking to Your Kids About Sex: What Works and What Doesn'tFighting Fears of Talking to Your Kids About Sex----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donations

My guest today is Carl Thomas. Carl is the founder of Live Free Ministries, which provides resources like the Live Free Community app for men who hunger for real freedom from unwanted sexual behaviors, and the Live Free Wives community for spouses who need a safe space to heal from betrayal. He is also the author of a new book entitled When Shame Gets Real: A New Way to Talk About Sex, Porn, and Masturbation. Our conversation today revolves around this issue of shame – what it is, how it perpetuates unhealthy (and even unwanted) sexual behaviors, what it takes to live free from it, and why authentic community is so powerful for dealing with shame effectively. To learn more about Carl and his ministry, visit LiveFreeCommunity.org. To find out more about his book, go to WhenShameGetsReal.com.More Resources:Men.Bebroken.comThe Lies We Believe by Dr. Chris ThurmanGrace-Based Recovery Online Study GroupsRelated Podcasts & Videos:Overcoming the Fear that Lives in My HeadRecovery Discovery: No More ShameSilencin

In this episode, our guest is Mary Ann Otley. She has a powerful story of sexual abuse, addiction, and the healing power of Jesus. Her abuse planted seeds of lies about her identity that she carried for decades. But she also eventually experienced the radical grace and love of God. If you or someone you love has faced the pain of abuse or addiction, Mary Ann’s story and insights will help you discover hope, joy, and the faithful, generous, gentle love of Jesus Christ. You don’t have to live in shame, guilt, and despair. No matter how broken you feel, you can be made whole. Learn more about Mary Ann and her ministry at LoveTriumphs.com. More Resources:Women.Bebroken.comFearless SeriesRelated Podcasts:Help and Hope for Women to Heal from Sexual AbuseResponding to #MeTooWhat Lies Have You Believed----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donations

Today’s guest is Matt Cline, the Director of Restored Ministries in Edmonton, Alberta. He is a speaker and coach who considers it an honor to tackle the epidemic of pornography and help individuals and marriages be restored from the destruction caused by sexual sin and shame. In this episode, Matt shares some of his story and key principles and insights that are proven to lead people from brokenness to wholeness. Our conversation addresses taking a serious view of sin, combating shame, understanding your true identity, and reclaiming a godly perspective on the body.Learn more about Matt and his ministry’s resources at RestoredMinistries.ca.More Resources:Help for Men: Men.Bebroken.comHelp for Women: Women.Bebroken.comHelp for Families: Family.Bebroken.comRelated Podcasts & Media:Recovery Discovery: IdentityRecovery Discovery: No More ShameHow Identity Shapes Everything----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.co

In today’s episode, we talk about pain. We know this isn’t a topic most of us like to talk about, but all of us will face pain of various kinds throughout life; physical, emotional, psychological, relational, spiritual. What if one day your life changed fundamentally because of pain? How well would you respond? What does pain reveal about our emotional health and maturity? Join us as we explore how to respond to pain with endurance and learn to “suffer well.” There can still be hope and even joy and gratitude in the midst of great pain. Resources for Wives: WivesCare.Bebroken.comResources for Men: Men.Bebroken.comResources for Families: Family.Bebroken.comRelated Podcasts & Media:Carrying a Heavy BurdenManaging DisappointmentGood Pain vs. Bad Pain----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donations

In this episode, Stephen and I unpack what we are calling the 3 Levels of Sobriety, especially focusing on the third level. These categories are broken down into 1) real people, 2) media, and 3) thoughts. If that doesn’t quite make sense to you, that’s exactly why you need to listen to this episode.If you are a man who wants to grow in integrity by digging deep into what goes on between your ears, listen closely because true sobriety goes beyond just eliminating unhealthy behaviors. You must work on your thoughts and this episode will help you with practical ideas for thought sobriety.A resource that will help you retrain your mind toward a life of sexual integrity is our 40 Days of Purity online course. Learn more and enroll at 40days.PureLifeAcademy.org.More Resources:Grace-Based Recovery by Jonathan DaughertyUnwanted by Jay StringerGateway to Freedom 3-day workshop for menRelated Podcasts:Addicted Thinking vs. Healthy ThinkingReplacing Escaping and Hiding with Healthy Thoughts & BehaviorsGuy Thoughts o

Our guest today is Sathiya Sam. He is the creator of DeepClean, a systematic process for overcoming pornography, and the author of a new book entitled The Last Relapse: Realize Your Potential, Reclaim Intimacy, and Resolve the Root Issues of Porn Addiction. In this episode, we unpack the 4 key sections of the book, which are: Taking Back Control of Your Life, Healing from Your Past,Regaining Your Confidence, And Becoming a New Man.There is good news in this episode: Freedom from porn is possible! I am confident that this conversation will give you hope and practical ideas for next steps toward greater integrity. To learn more about Sathiya and his resources, visit UltimateRecoveryGuide.com. Get the book: The Last RelapseMore Resources for Men: Men.Bebroken.comRelated Podcasts:Helping Men Overcome Porn and Get Emotionally FitWhen and Why Do Men Escape to Porn?Outgrowing the Porn Pacifier----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.Support this podcast at — https:

Our guest today is Dr. Danny Huerta, vice president of Parenting and Youth at Focus on the Family. He oversees Focus’ initiatives that equip mothers and fathers with biblical principles and counsel for raising healthy, resilient children.One of those initiatives is the 7 Traits of Effective Parenting. In this episode, Danny unpacks these 7 traits, including adaptability, boundaries, grace and forgiveness, and gratitude. If you are a parent who wants to improve how you interact with and guide your children through the joys and challenges of growing up, this episode can help.Learn more about Danny and the 7 Traits of Effective Parenting at FocusontheFamily.com/7traits. More Resources:FocusontheFamily.com/parentingPluggedIn.comFamily.Bebroken.comHonest Talk by John FortRelated Podcasts:Help, My 11-Year-Old is Looking at Porn!Fighting Fears of Talking to Your Kids About SexA Hopeful Mom Shares How to Have Difficult Conversations---------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube ch

Our guests today are Jorge and Danisa Suarez. They are marriage counselors and sex therapists providing therapy together and individually to couples as they overcome infidelity, sexual addiction, a lack of intimacy, betrayal trauma, and intimacy disorders.In this episode, Jorge and Danisa share about their ministry to couples around the world struggling with all sorts of sexual brokenness and pain. They bring incredible nuggets of wisdom and truth that have helped hundreds of couples experience healing and discover the hope and beauty of full restoration.Whether you are married or not, this episode will help you understand key elements and principles that will help couples rebuild a marriage affected by sexual betrayal.Learn more about Jorge and Danisa and their ministry resources for couples at CCICounseling.com.More ResourcesDivine Sex: Live Your Best Experience Now by Danisa & Jorge SuarezRebuilding Trust After BetrayalBebroken.com Related PodcastsHealthy Sexuality After BetrayalHow to Help Your Spouse

My guest today is Ted Shimer, author of The Freedom Fight, a research-based discipleship curriculum that equips men and women to break free from pornography so they can run their race and reach their God-given potential in Christ.In this episode, Tim shares his 30+ year history of discipling college students and how he got involved in specifically helping young adults address struggles with porn and how to break free. He also shares 6 main roots to porn addiction, some key principles that lead to long-term freedom from porn, and why addressing porn is a huge opportunity for the church to help Christians know what it means to live out their true identity in Christ. Ted’s heart is not just that men and women get free from porn, but that they outgrow the perceived need for it.Learn more about Ted and The Freedom Fight at TheFreedomFight.org.More ResourcesMen.Bebroken.comWomen.Bebroken.com40 Days of Purity for Men40 Days of Purity for WomenRelated PodcastsBreaking Free with Russell WillinghamThe Power of Communit

In today’s episode, counselor Stephen Cervantes shares with us one man’s ups and downs of his journey of recovery – especially the ups and downs of faith. How does faith fit into recovery? What if Christianity doesn’t “cure” your addiction? Is it okay to wrestle with faith questions on a recovery journey? We will peel back the layers of these questions and more to help you discover how faith weaves into recovery in a way that is hopeful, meaningful and life-changing. When you persist with curiosity on your recovery journey, breakthroughs happen!To help you understand the key principles it takes to break free from addictive patterns, check out the First 7 Days for Men at 7Days.Bebroken.com or the First 7 Days for Women at 7DaysWomen.Bebroken.com.More Resources:40 Days of Training for Your SoulResurrection and RecoveryIs Recovery Worth the Cost?Grace-Based RecoveryRelated Podcasts:Why Jesus?Breaking Free for Good----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.Support

In today’s episode, we talk about beliefs and how they affect the way you live and interact with others. We especially focus on beliefs about emotions. Do these beliefs move you toward or away from deeper connections with others?To help you understand the “lens” through which some see the world we will highlight several comments from different men’s lives.Listen in to gain insights into yourself about what you believe and the effect this has on how well you connect with family, friends, and neighbors.More Resources for Emotional Growth:40 Days to Oneness by Stephen CervantesUntangling Emotions by Groves and SmithTraining for your Soul devotionalBlog Posts:The Next Step: GrowingThe Good News About DepressionRelated Podcasts:Essential Truths to Heal and Mature Your Broken Emotional SystemAbout Your Emotional Connecting SkillsA 7-Day Challenge for Emotional GrowthSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donations

Originally Aired: July 6, 2021Drew was a kid who loved Jesus and hated porn, but still couldn't stop his unwanted behavior. Are you a man who can identify with this vicious cycle? In this episode, our guest is Drew Boa, the founder of Husband Material, a ministry to help men outgrow porn by changing your brain, healing your heart, and saving your relationship. If you want to discover hope for true freedom from porn, tune in to hear Drew's story and practical insights.Learn more about Drew and his ministry: HusbandMaterial.com40-Day Online Course for Men: 40Days.PureLifeAcademy.orgMore resources for Men: Men.Bebroken.com----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donations