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Every day we are inviting men to embark on a journey of personal growth, especially in the area of emotional growth. This is an essential part of breaking free from unhealthy, unwanted sexual behaviors and pursuing a life of integrity and joy.On today’s program, Stephen brings lots of statements from men who are stunted on their journey of emotional growth, such as, “I have a good life and I’m stable. Just leave everything alone. Why do I have to keep growing?” We then offer insights and practical ideas for getting “unstuck” and going deeper to grow in emotional maturity.For specific help on going deeper emotionally, we encourage you to download our free resource, 40 Days of Training for Your Soul, at Bebroken.org/store.More Resources:Untangling Emotions by Groves and SmithIntegrity Webinar for MenPersonal Ministry ConsultationRelated Podcasts:15 Rules of Emotionally Detached MenWhy Men Struggle to LoveEssential Truths to Heal and Mature Your Broken Emotional System----------Please rate and review our podcast

Kids today of all ages are influenced by sexual messages coming in every direction from screens all around. The most impressionable ages are 7-11. Many parents feel ill-equipped for preparing their children to navigate these topics well. My guest today is Kristen Jenson. She is the founder of Defend Young Minds and #1 best-selling author of the Good Pictures Bad Pictures series of books. She is also the executive producer of the Brain Defense Digital Safety curriculum, which is what we discuss in this episode. If you are a parent or grandparent who wants to learn how to arm your kids and grandkids with safe technology habits to protect their growing minds, this conversation will help.To learn more about Kristen and Defend Young Minds, visit DefendYoungMinds.com. To learn more about the Brain Defense online course, visit BrainDefense.org. More Resources:Bebroken.org/FamilyOnline Courses at Pure Life AcademyGood Pictures Bad PicturesRelated Podcasts:Helping Parents Teach Healthy Tech to KidsKeeping Kids Safe in

Every day we are helping wives who are experiencing the devastating effects of sexual brokenness and sin. It is always a mess and it is always traumatic. On today’s program, we have two guests who will help us understand these effects and how a wife can heal. They are Cat Etherington and Cindy Bajema from Naked Truth Recovery. Key issues we cover in this episode are where to start the healing process, defining trauma, stages of healing, something called “the window of tolerance,” why addressing the whole person is crucial to healing, and what to do if the offending partner doesn’t seek help. To learn more about Cat and Cindy, and their work and resources, visit NakedTruthRecovery.com.More Resources:Whole Hearted - support for partnersWhole Life Recovery ProgramWives Care by Be BrokenRelated Podcasts:Online Care Groups for WivesHope After BetrayalBetrayal Healing Phases----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pu

Our guest today is Karin Barbito. She is the Special Projects Coordinator at Support After Abortion, an organization whose mission is to end the demand for abortion through healing people impacted by abortion.In this episode, Karin shares her own abortion healing story, the connections between sexual brokenness and abortion, the hope of healing after abortion, specific stages of healing, and also how abortion impacts men.To learn more about Karin and the resources provided by Support After Abortion, visit SupportAfterAbortion.com or call 844-289-4673.Helpful Resources:Keys to Hope and Healing bookletsVirtual Support GroupsRelated Podcasts:Support After Abortion PodcastFreedom and Healing from Shame, Addiction, and Abuse----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donations

In today’s episode, we unpack a list of 15 rules that emotionally detached men tend to live by, and why it’s important to know this. Here is a sampling of just the first 8 rules: I don’t know me, so I can’t know you.I don’t go to deep places, so you shouldn’t go there either. Emotions scare me, so I won’t go there even if you ask. Fear hinders me; I don’t have a healthy outlet for expressing fear.I get defensive and detach in order to make you stop talking or pursuing me.The emotional chaos of a woman is overwhelming; I would get lost in there.My wife has needs I can’t me, so I won’t try.When I don’t know what to do, I’ll just try to fix something. Dive in with us on this journey to grow and mature emotionally as men so that we can have deep, thriving relationships.More Resources: 40 Days of Training for Your SoulGrace-Based Recovery Online Study GroupFind a Support GroupRelated Podcasts:Why Men Struggle to LoveHow to Know Yourself to Grow and MatureAre You Open or Closed to Emotional Growth?----------Please

Today’s guest is Ashley Jameson, the Associate Director of Women’s Groups at Pure Desire, and she has a powerful story and message related to racism and sexual brokenness. How much is one’s identity shaped by racism and/or sexual brokenness? What kinds of wounds and trauma from racism exist that then effect sexual brokenness? Ashley shares her story of how all these elements intersected in her life and how much more prevalent they are than we imagine. She also shares a message of hope and good news for those who want to heal – and anyone who wants to help break unhealthy generational patterns. To learn more about Ashley and her work, visit PureDesire.org.More Resources: Be the Bridge by Latasha MorrisonUnwanted by Jay StringerRelated Podcasts:Sexual Abuse, Sexual Brokenness, and the GospelHow False Grace is Perpetuating Abuse in the ChurchResponding to #MeToo----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-rad

Our guest on today’s program is Kristin Cary, co-founder of Living Truth, a ministry dedicated to helping those struggling with sexual brokenness to experience healing and transformation. In this episode, we focus on the Immanuel Approach and how it can be used to help individuals find deeper healing and a more intimate connection with Christ. This approach uses prayer to invite Jesus into our broken places to experience more joy and peace – and to “turn on” the relational circuits in the brain that have been shut down by trauma. To learn more about Kristin and her ministry, visit Living-Truth.org. Bonus Resources from Living Truth: Top 10 Tips to Rebuild Your Marriage After betrayal AND The Path to Freedom (ebooks)More Resources:ImmanuelApproach.comSexual Behavior Self-AssessmentMen in the BattleWomen in the BattleRelated Podcasts:Immanuel Approach with Dr. Karl Lehman (Part 1)Immanuel Approach with Dr. Karl Lehman (Part 2)Healing Your Brain----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscrib

You will be tempted. It is a fact of life. And some of those temptations will be sexual temptations. How can you respond to such temptations with confidence and wisdom? In today’s episode, Stephen and I are opening the so-called “sexual temptation management toolbox” to share very practical tips for resisting temptation. So, if you’re a man who wants to improve your ability to respond well to sexual temptation, listen in and take notes!More Resources:Men.Bebroken.comWords Have PowerGrace-Based Recovery Online Study GroupRelated Podcasts & Media:Breaking Free with Russell WillinghamRecovery Discovery: Resisting TemptationUnderstanding Failure in Recovery----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donations

Today’s topic is “Understanding Male Sexuality.” Someone once said that male sexuality can be like handing a shotgun to a 12-year-old! So, how are men to manage this powerful, and sometimes unruly, aspect of their being? In this episode, Stephen and I will highlight the goodness of male sexuality, the power of male sexuality, and how we can manage our sexuality in a way that honors God and blesses others.More Resources:Men.Bebroken.com40 Days of Purity Online CourseSexual Integrity Webinar for MenRelated Podcasts:Men, Men, Men!What is Healthy Masculinity?What is a Sexually Healthy Man?----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donations

Our guest today is Chris Kaspar, founder and CEO of Techless, a different kind of tech company that is helping people understand how powerful technology is and how to manage it in ways that are healthy and wise. In our conversation Chris shares some of the dangers he is seeing in the tech space, especially around smartphones, and some positive tips and insights for engaging technology and screens with confidence and balance. Technology does not have to rob your family of deep, vibrant relationships. To learn more about Techless and their amazing Wisephone, visit Techless.com. And if you’d like to get $40 off the purchase of a Wisephone, use promo code BeBroken40 when you checkout. More Resources:Family.Bebroken.comCovenantEyes.com*Emotional Resilience online courseRelated Podcasts:Keeping Kids Safe in a Digital World6 Reasons Kids Search for PornScreens Disciple, and What You Can Do About It*this is an affiliate link. Be Broken may receive payment on qualifying purchases. ----------Please rate and review our

Our guest today is Hilarie Barry, author of the book We Survived Infidelity: An Unexpected Life Lesson and founder of the support group Infidelity Care for Women. She is also a speaker who loves to share her story and help others heal from sexual betrayal. In today’s episode, Hilarie tells her story of discovering her husband’s secret affairs and the healing journey that followed. She shares the ups and downs, the fears and doubts, and ultimately the way that led to deep personal healing and even the restoration of her marriage. To learn more about Hilarie and her resources, visit HilarieBarry.com.More Resources:WivesCare.Bebroken.comInfidelity Care for Women FB group6 Stages of Recovery for Partners of Sex AddictsRelated Podcasts:Navigating the Revelation of an AffairRebuilding Your Marriage After Sexual BetrayalBetrayal Healing Phases----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donations

In today’s program, we explore how married couples can recover from infidelity and why exploring trauma issues is important to this healing process. To help us dive deep into this topic we have Ryan and Jessica McDaniel as our guests. Ryan and Jessica are both licensed professional counselors with over 10 years of experience in helping couples address infidelity and betrayal in redemptive and hopeful ways. If you have experienced infidelity in your marriage, or know someone who has, this episode will help you gain hope and ideas for a way forward. To learn more about Ryan and Jessica, visit McDanielCounseling.org.More Resources:Try Softer by Aundi KolberAffairRecovery.comWivesCare.Bebroken.comRelated Podcasts:Why Do We Cheat?Sex, God, and the Chaos of BetrayalHope and Healing for Couples----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donations

Today’s guest is Matt Wenger, the clinical director of Boulder Recovery in Boulder, Colorado. Matt has a heart for helping men overcome all kinds of unwanted sexual behaviors by addressing the whole man, including trauma from his past. In today’s episode, we talk about recovery as a means and environment for addressing all aspects of a man: his emotions, spirit, intellect, and body. True recovery is far more than just stopping negative behaviors; it is addressing the overall person to affect healthy personal growth and loving relationships. Matt shares common elements that often lead a man toward sexually compulsive behaviors and how to heal and discover a thriving life of freedom and joy. To learn more about Matt and their programs and resources, visit BoulderRecovery.com.More Resources:Sexual Integrity Webinar for MenMen.Bebroken.com40 Days of Purity Online CourseRelated Podcasts:Why Men Struggle to LoveOvercoming Shame and Embracing Your True IdentityRecovery by the Power of God's Word----------Please

In today’s episode, Damon shares a robust definition of marriage, why this matters in both the marriage relationship and the world, and the EPIC intimacy challenge for couples to experience the fullness and beauty of God’s design for marriage.There are 4 key areas of intimacy for a thriving marriage that Damon discusses: Emotional IntimacyPhysical IntimacyIntellectual IntimacyCommunicative IntimacyIf you want a deep dive for casting a strong vision for a thriving marriage, listen in to this powerful conversation with Damon. To learn more about Damon and his ministry resources, visit JoyfulEverAfter.org and EpicIntimacy.org.More Resources: The EPIC Intimacy SeriesBetter TogetherSexpectations Online Course*Related Podcasts: What Are Your Sexpectations?The Challenge and Benefits of VulnerabilityWhat is Intimacy?*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken my earn referral fees from qualifying purchases.----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.Support this podcast at —

In today’s episode, Stephen and I will unpack a number of sexually stupid comments by men. Here’s just a sampling of some of these comments: “I will keep it a secret. No one needs to know.”“No one will get hurt.”“My wife doesn’t desire me, but the other woman does!”We will unpack some of the immature thinking underneath these statements and offer healthier, more mature ways to think. Our hope is that this episode will help you examine your own thinking regarding your sexual brokenness and take a bold next step toward greater insight and better relationships.More Resources:Integrity Webinar for MenMen.Bebroken.comEmotional Training for MenRelated Podcasts:Three Levels of SobrietyAre You Open or Closed to Emotional Growth?Grace to Grow Up----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donations

In today’s episode, Stephen and I draw from Donald Miller’s book, Hero on a Mission, to help you better understand your own story and take your next best step to embark on a mission of growth and adventure.Every great story has four roles in it:1. Victim2. Villain3. Hero4. GuideAs we learn together about these roles, we can see how our own stories weave in different ways into each of these roles. And, with help, we can learn and grow from such perspective and analysis.So, go on a journey with us today to better understand your story and how you can be a hero on a mission and a guide for others in their story.To get a copy of Donald Miller’s book, go to Amazon.com or anywhere books are sold.More Resources:How to Tell Your StoryCounselors.Bebroken.comThe Missing Connection to HealingRelated Podcasts:How to Know Yourself to Grow and MatureHow to Experience Excellent Emotional ConnectionsThree Purposes in Life----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.Support this

Today’s guests are Roane and Eva Hunter, counselors and co-authors of the book, Sex, God, & the Chaos of Betrayal: The Couples' Road Map of Hope & Healing - Recovery from Infidelity, Affairs, Pornography & Sexual Addiction.In this episode, they share their histories of brokenness and the impact this had on their marriage. Through the many ups and downs of their relationship, they gained many insights that they now share with other couples seeking help in their own marriages. To learn more about Roane and Eva and their book, visit SexGodChaos.com.More Resources:Lifeworks Intensives and GroupsWivesCare.Bebroken.comMen.Bebroken.comRelated Podcasts: Rebuilding Your Marriage After Sexual BetrayalHow to Help Your Spouse Heal from Your AffairHope After Betrayal----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donations

In today’s episode, our guest Tammy Gustafson shares her story of sexual betrayal in her marriage and the healing and restoration that followed. Through her journey of healing from such trauma, she developed what she calls the Betrayal Healing Phases, which are: RevealRumbleResolutionRebuildTammy wrestled with how to return to God after betrayal, when and how to forgive her husband, and God’s call on her life to help other wives. If you are a wife facing similar struggles, today’s conversation will give you hope. To learn more about Tammy and the counseling and courses she offers, visit BetrayalHealing.com. For the Betrayal Healing Phases quiz, visit BetrayalHealing.com/quiz.More Resources:WivesCare.Bebroken.comFirst 7 Days for WivesFREE Wives Care Basics WebinarRelated Podcasts:Helping Wives "Detach with Love" in a Difficult MarriageHelping Wives Recover from the Aftershock of Sexual BetrayalOnline Care Groups for Wives----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTu

This episode is a special bonus. Our guest is Matt Riley, the development director of our ministry. Matt will share his story of sexual brokenness and addiction and the recovery road he has traveled.Story is a core value of our ministry. It matters to know that others have experienced some of the feelings and challenges we too have faced. This is why we want you to hear Matt’s story – that you might gain some hope and insight into your own story and discover next steps that will help you keep going on your own journey.You can connect with Matt at 210-822-8201 x108 or by sending him a note/question on Contact.Bebroken.com.Helpful Resources:Abba's Child by Brennan ManningWorthy of Her Trust by Jason MartinkisSecrets by Jonathan DaughertyRelated Podcasts:Outgrowing the Porn PacifierAn Unexpected Journey to HopeRecovery Discovery: Telling Your Story----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donatio

On today’s program, we have one of our fan-favorite guests back with us, Dr. Eddie Capparucci. Eddie is certified as a licensed professional counselor and certified in treating sexual and pornography addiction. He is the creator of the Inner Child Model for the Treatment of Sexual and Pornography Addiction and the author of multiple books and workbooks.Today our conversation focuses on his newest book, Why Men Struggle to Love: Overcoming Relational Blind Spots. In this book, Eddie identifies 14 blind spots in men that can prevent them from building healthy love relationships. So, if you are a man who wants to understand the deeper issues of recovery beyond just behavioral sobriety, this conversation will benefit you.To learn more about the book and get a copy, visit StrugglingMen.org.More Resources:Men.Bebroken.comInnerChild-SexAddiction.comGrowth Map by Stephen CervantesRelated Podcasts:3 Levels of SobrietyDo Your Emotional Beliefs Lead You to Connection or Disconnection?About Your Emotional Connecting Skil