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Originally Aired on February 22, 2022View this episode on YoutubeIn this episode, Stephen and I unpack what we are calling the 3 Levels of Sobriety, especially focusing on the third level. These categories are broken down into 1) real people, 2) media, and 3) thoughts. If that doesn’t quite make sense to you, that’s exactly why you need to listen to this episode.If you are a man who wants to grow in integrity by digging deep into what goes on between your ears, listen closely because true sobriety goes beyond just eliminating unhealthy behaviors. You must work on your thoughts and this episode will help you with practical ideas for thought sobriety.A resource that will help you retrain your mind toward a life of sexual integrity is our 40 Days of Purity online course. Learn more and enroll at 40days.PureLifeAcademy.org.More Resources:Grace-Based Recovery by Jonathan DaughertyUnwanted by Jay StringerGateway to Freedom 3-day workshop for menRelated Podcasts:Addicted Thinking vs. Healthy ThinkingReplacing Escapi

Originally Aired on March 8, 2022View episode on YoutubeLAST WEEK to make your generous year-end donation at Bebroken.org/give. Thank you for your partnership!Today’s guest is Matt Cline, the Director of Restored Ministries in Edmonton, Alberta. He is a speaker and coach who considers it an honor to tackle the epidemic of pornography and help individuals and marriages be restored from the destruction caused by sexual sin and shame. In this episode, Matt shares some of his story and key principles and insights that are proven to lead people from brokenness to wholeness. Our conversation addresses taking a serious view of sin, combating shame, understanding your true identity, and reclaiming a godly perspective on the body.Learn more about Matt and his ministry’s resources at RestoredMinistries.ca.More Resources:Help for Men: Men.Bebroken.comHelp for Women: Women.Bebroken.comHelp for Families: Family.Bebroken.comRelated Podcasts & Media:Recovery Discovery: IdentityRecovery Discovery: No More ShameHow Identi

Make your generous year-end donation today at Bebroken.org/give!How does brokenness fit with wholeness in Christ? Are these contradictory or might they be explained as a paradox that actually unlocks the door to experiencing God’s grace and transformative work in our lives?On today’s episode, I’m flying solo to help unpack this amazing paradox between brokenness and wholeness. I will share three “types” of brokenness and three contexts for wholeness and how this all fits together on our journey of transformation in Christ. You may download my outline for today’s episode at Bebroken.org/paradox. More Resources:Our Bodies Tell God's Story by Christopher WestHumility by Andrew MurrayGrace-Based Recovery Online Study GroupsRelated Podcasts:The Immanuel Approach in RecoveryThe 7 (or More) Pillars of Emotional GrowthWhat Can We Learn from Lust? ----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donations

Pastors are not immune to sexual temptations and sexual strongholds. But many pastors feel isolated and “trapped” from reaching out for help with their private sexual struggles. On today’s episode, we have Mark Denison join us to share with us some key principles from his new book, Broken Vessels, on how pastors can get help to break free from sexual strongholds and even still be used by God for kingdom work. To learn more about Mark and his ministry, visit TheresStillHope.org.More Resources: Broken Vessels: Restoring Broken Pastors for Kingdom UseGateway to Freedom 3-Day IntensiveRecovery MinuteRelated Podcasts:A Hopeful Response to Church Leaders Struggling with Sexual SinPastors on PornReframing How the Church Views Sexual Purity----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donations

Today’s guests are Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith. They are the directors of The Raabsmith Team, coaches and therapists that love to help individuals, couples, and families create life-giving change in themselves and in their relationships.In today’s episode, Matthew and Joanna will help couples understand the ins and outs of rebuilding a healthy marriage after betrayal. There is hope and thriving intimacy is possible even after betrayal. This conversation will be especially beneficial for couples who are wanting restoration. For more information about Matthew and Joanna and their resources, visit RaabsmithTeam.com.More Resources:Intimacy Pyramid Training (virtual workshop)Online Care Groups for WivesFirst 7 Days programs (for men and wives)Related Podcasts:Affair Recovery Through a Trauma LensRebuilding Your Marriage After Sexual BetrayalHope After Betrayal----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/

For nearly two decades we have been inviting men to embark on an emotional growth mission, not merely a sexual purity mission (as good as that is). But what is an emotional growth mission and what are the challenges and possible stumbling blocks to emotional growth? In this episode, Stephen and I define the emotional growth mission and share over 10 thoughts and ideas that could stunt this mission. To get started, or keep going, on your emotional growth mission, watch the 7-part Emotional Training for Men webinar series at Bebroken.org/etm-webinar. More Resources:40 Days of Training for Your SoulUntangling Emotions by Groves and SmithFree Integrity Webinar for MenRelated Podcasts:How to Experience Excellent Emotional ConnectionsEssential Truths to Heal and Mature Your Broken Emotional SystemDo Your Emotional Beliefs Lead You to Connection or Disconnection?----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/

Porn is not victimless. In other words, porn use has consequences that negatively impact the viewer. This may seem obvious, especially to those who have developed an addiction to porn. But it’s important to state the impact of porn bluntly and clearly in order to help you see it for what it really is: dangerous and harmful.In today’s episode, Stephen and I will help you see multiple ways in which pornography impacts your life – things like escaping, avoiding relationships, unhealthy fantasy, the pain and difficulty of repairing what you have broken, and more.For help in overcoming unwanted porn use, visit Bebroken.org.More Resources:Gateway to Freedom 3-Day Intensive40 Days of Purity Online CoursePersonal Ministry ConsultationRelated Podcasts:Breaking Free with Russell WillinghamOutgrowing the Porn PacifierHelping Men Overcome Porn and Get Emotionally Fit----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/d

Thousands of men over the past 20 years have reached out to our ministry to get help in overcoming unwanted sexual behaviors. Our desire is to help them experience long-term freedom, not merely short-term abstinence. So, what are the keys to long-term freedom from unwanted behaviors?Our guest is Jason Martinkus. He is the founder and president of Redemptive Living, a coaching and speaking ministry helping men find freedom from sexual integrity issues and marriages find redemption beyond betrayal. Jason has 19 years of personal sexual sobriety; he has walked the walk.In this episode we talk about key principles of freedom from unwanted sexual behaviors, such as humility, confession, authentic community, and more – principles that are vital for both short-term and long-term freedom. To learn more about Jason and his ministry, visit RedemptiveLiving.com.More Resources:Gateway to Freedom 3-Day IntensiveIntegrity Webinar for MenGrace-Based Recovery Online Study GroupsRelated Podcasts:The Freedom Fight with Ted Shi

The father-son relationship is vital to boys learning how to grow up into manhood. And part of maturing into manhood is understanding sex and sexuality. But how can fathers and sons talk about sex and sexuality? Our guests today are John and Lucas Fort, the father-son duo who wrote the book Father-Son Accountability: Integrity Through Relationship. They share their story of how they learned to talk about sex and other difficult topics – and offer tips and pitfalls they discovered along the way.If you are a dad (or son) who wants to gain insights and helpful tools for talking about sex, this podcast will give you confidence to engage such conversations.To get the Father-Son Accountability book, visit Bebroken.org/store.More Resources:Bebroken.org/familyFather-Son WebinarHonest Talk by John FortRelated Podcasts:The Identity of My FatherA Son Talks to His DadWhat to Tell Your Son about Sex----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.Support this podcast at — https:

Everyone in life has struggled with something. Struggle is part of being human. Here we see it in all forms of sexual brokenness. We have staff and ministry partners who are trained in helping such strugglers.But what if you wanted to help someone who is struggling? Do you know what to do or what to say? Have you ever given bad advice? Does it scare you when someone shares their pain? In today’s episode, Stephen and I will share with you some practical things to do and say when someone shares their struggles with you. You don’t need to be an “expert” in order to truly help a struggling friend.More Resources:Bebroken.org/counselorsUntangling Emotions by Groves and SmithBetter Together (blog post)Related Podcasts:How Do I Help My Wife When She Falls into a "Pit"?The Immanuel Approach in Recovery50 Things to Do When Your Core Fear Gets Triggered----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donati

Failure is part of life. But how many people have a “Failure and Rejection Management Plan”? I would guess very few.In today’s episode, Stephen and I will help you examine failure from a new perspective and give you some practical principles for managing failure and rejection in hopeful ways.More Resources:First 7 Days programsBy Grace, Failure Turns to Opportunity (blog post)Sex & Anxiety online courseRelated Podcasts:Understanding Fear and SadnessRecovery Discover 28: Learning from FailureFailure Immunity----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donations

Today’s guest is Sheila Harkins. Sheila was on the podcast a couple years ago, May 19, 2020, to talk about how to help teens talk about difficult topics. If you’d like to listen to that conversation, it is Episode 749.But on today’s episode Sheila is here to talk about her own healing from betrayal trauma and divorce. She shares about the long journey of trying to restore a broken marriage and then the aftermath of divorce – and how painting was instrumental in her healing process. As healing slowly took root in Sheila’s life she was stirred to share her journey with other wives through her paintings. This resulted in the release of her book, Healing, One Brushstroke at a Time, which contains 42 of Sheila’s paintings along with short reflections to help women heal. To learn more about Sheila and get a copy of her book, visit SheilaHarkins.com.More Resources:Bebroken.org/WivesOnline Wives Care GroupsPersonal Ministry ConsultationRelated Podcasts:Is There Hope After Divorce Due to Sexual Betrayal?Liminal Space:

In today’s final episode in our 4-part series on Whole Man Recovery we will explore the Spiritual element.We will attempt to answer the following questions about this element:What is the element?What effect does it have: On addiction, On relationships, On identityHow does recovery address this element?What might health and wholeness look like for this element in one’s life?Matt Wenger is the clinical director of Boulder Recovery. To learn more about Matt and Boulder Recovery, visit BoulderRecovery.com.More Resources: Bebroken.org/Men40 Days of Purity Online CourseGrace-Based RecoveryRelated Podcasts:Breaking Free with Russell WillinghamGrowing in Christ10 Biblical Truths to Transform Your Emotional System----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donations

In today’s episode we will explore the Emotional element of Whole Man Recovery.We will attempt to answer the following questions about this element:What is the element?What effect does it have: On addiction, On relationships, On identityHow does recovery address this element?What might health and wholeness look like for this element in one’s life?Matt Wenger is the clinical director of Boulder Recovery. To learn more about Matt and Boulder Recovery, visit BoulderRecovery.com.More Resources: Bebroken.org/Men40 Days of Training for Your SoulFind a CounselorRelated Podcasts:15 Rules of Emotionally Detached MenWhy Men Need to Practice SadnessEssential Truths to Heal and Mature Your Broken Emotional System----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donations

In today’s episode with Matt Wenger we will explore the Physical element of Whole Man Recovery.We will attempt to answer the following questions about this element:What is the element?What effect does it have: On addiction, On relationships, On identityHow does recovery address this element?What might health and wholeness look like for this element in one’s life?Matt Wenger is the clinical director of Boulder Recovery. To learn more about Matt and Boulder Recovery, visit BoulderRecovery.com.More Resources:Bebroken.org/MenNot All Stress is BadFind a Support GroupRelated Podcasts:How Do You Handle Pain?Recovery Discover 018: Your BrainHealing Your Brain----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donations

Earlier this year I had today’s guest, Matt Wenger, Clinical Director of Boulder Recovery, on the program and we touched on the four elements of Whole Man Recovery: Intellectual, Physical, Emotional, and Spiritual. I thought it was so good that we should dedicate four separate podcasts to break down and dig deeper into these four elements.Today is Part 1 in the series and we will explore the Intellectual element of Whole Man Recovery.In each part of this series we will attempt to answer the following questions:What is the element?What effect does it have: On addiction, On relationships, On identityHow does recovery address this element?What might health and wholeness look like for this element in one’s life?To learn more about Matt and Boulder Recovery, visit BoulderRecovery.com.More Resources:Bebroken.org/MenGateway to Freedom 3-day workshopFalse Intimacy by Dr. Harry SchaumburgRelated Podcasts:Addict ThinkingAddicted Thinking vs. Healthy ThinkingOne Man's Growing Up Story----------Please rate and review

What is the connection between theology and sexuality? And why does this matter?My guest today is Jonathan McLatchie. He is a biologist by training, but also a Christian apologist and founder of TalkAboutDoubts.com, a website that allows anyone to ask questions about the Christian faith and receive answers from Christian experts in various fields of study. In our conversation, Jonathan defines theology and then helps us unpack the gospel metaphor that is portrayed in God’s design for sex. We also talk about how a biblical understanding of sex directly impacts our specific sexual sin struggles.To learn more about Jonathan and see his writings and debates, visit JonathanMcLatchie.com. To submit any question about Christian faith, visit TalkAboutDoubts.com.More Resources:Our Bodies Tell God's Story by Christopher WestRethinking Sexuality by Juli SlatteryBibleThinker.org with Mike WingerRelated Podcasts:Thinking Biblically Youtube ChannelRecovery by the Power of God's WordWhat is Sexual Discipleship------

When a wife discovers that her husband has been unfaithful, it is devastating and life-changing. No woman wants to experience betrayal trauma. Today’s guest is Debra Wallace, author of In His Grace: Embracing Your Worth After Sexual Betrayal. She shares her personal story of healing from betrayal and how that led to her writing this book for other wives facing a similar path. If you are a wife who needs hope in what feels like a hopeless situation, Debra has a powerful message for you. To learn more about Debra and get her book, visit DebraWallace.org.More Resources:Bebroken.org/WivesWives Care Online GroupsFirst 7 Days for WivesRelated Podcasts:The Journey of Healing from Betrayal TraumaIs there Hope After Divorce Due to Sexual Betrayal?Liminal Space: Helping Wives Transition from Betrayal to Hope----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donations

Every day we are inviting men to embark on a journey of personal growth, especially in the area of emotional growth. This is an essential part of breaking free from unhealthy, unwanted sexual behaviors and pursuing a life of integrity and joy.On today’s program, Stephen brings lots of statements from men who are stunted on their journey of emotional growth, such as, “I have a good life and I’m stable. Just leave everything alone. Why do I have to keep growing?” We then offer insights and practical ideas for getting “unstuck” and going deeper to grow in emotional maturity.For specific help on going deeper emotionally, we encourage you to download our free resource, 40 Days of Training for Your Soul, at Bebroken.org/store.More Resources:Untangling Emotions by Groves and SmithIntegrity Webinar for MenPersonal Ministry ConsultationRelated Podcasts:15 Rules of Emotionally Detached MenWhy Men Struggle to LoveEssential Truths to Heal and Mature Your Broken Emotional System----------Please rate and review our podcast

Kids today of all ages are influenced by sexual messages coming in every direction from screens all around. The most impressionable ages are 7-11. Many parents feel ill-equipped for preparing their children to navigate these topics well. My guest today is Kristen Jenson. She is the founder of Defend Young Minds and #1 best-selling author of the Good Pictures Bad Pictures series of books. She is also the executive producer of the Brain Defense Digital Safety curriculum, which is what we discuss in this episode. If you are a parent or grandparent who wants to learn how to arm your kids and grandkids with safe technology habits to protect their growing minds, this conversation will help.To learn more about Kristen and Defend Young Minds, visit DefendYoungMinds.com. To learn more about the Brain Defense online course, visit BrainDefense.org. More Resources:Bebroken.org/FamilyOnline Courses at Pure Life AcademyGood Pictures Bad PicturesRelated Podcasts:Helping Parents Teach Healthy Tech to KidsKeeping Kids Safe in