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This week we delight in welcoming the incomparable poet, writer and filmmaker Sherman Alexie. He and Dan discuss white chicks who embrace “Native American spirituality,”  how to pretend to be abstinent to placate your psychopathic preacher, and whether it’s creepy to ask your younger girlfriend to call you “daddy.” Sherman is a treasure and this is not to be missed.  This episode is brought to you by NatureBox: the subscription service dedicated to smarter snacking. Get a free sample, by visiting Naturebox.com/savage The Savage Lovecast is also sponsored by SmartMouth Activated Mouthwash. SmartMouth blocks bad breath for 12 hours. Get SmartMouth at your local drugstore and keep your breath fresh. This episode is also brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 10 free gifts, plus free shipping when you enter offer code "Savage"

Conservatives smile with their mouths. But liberals smile with their eyes. So says social psychologist Andreas Wojcik in a "What You Got" proving once and for all that lefties are happier than right-wingers.  A young man suffers from CUNNILINGUS LOCKJAW. Although Dan has never experienced this particular ailment, he nonetheless  has some advice to give. On the Magnum, Dan chats with trans rights activist Chelsea Poe about straight cis men who are attracted to transwomen.  A woman used to cut herself when she was depressed. She's better now, but has many scars to show from her dark times. How can she warn her new lovers and get over the shame and embarrassment she feels? 206-201-2720   The Savage Lovecast is sponsored by SmartMouth Activated Mouthwash. SmartMouth blocks bad breath for 12 hours. Get SmartMouth at your local drugstore and keep your breath fresh. This episode is also brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at   This episode is also brought to you by Squarespace.

A priest and a rabbi come onto a podcast… This week Dan welcomes the retired gay Episcopal Bishop of New Hampshire, Gene Robinson, as well as a Rabbi Jeremy Gerber to tackle some thorny religion/sex issues.  How should straight men act at gay pride parades?  Are facials inherently misogynist? A woman has just discovered that her husband had an affair. But when they finished fighting about it, the sex was hotter than ever! A married man notices that when he and his wife fight, she tends to withhold sex. Is this a strategy, and how can he make it stop? And a ton more.   206-201-2720 The Savage Lovecast is sponsored by SmartMouth Activated Mouthwash. SmartMouth blocks bad breath for 12 hours. Get SmartMouth at your local drugstore and keep your breath fresh. This episode is also brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at   This episode is also brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 10 free gifts, plus free shipping when you enter offer code "Savage".

After a long dry spell, a woman's husband is finally going down on her. But his stubble is causing considerable discomfort! Dare she use her words and suggest he take a razor blade to his pretty face?  A teen girl in Utah has just discovered feminism. She realizes she has only seen images of passive women on the tee-vee, and worries that she won't know what to do in bed. How can she learn to take an active role?  On the Magnum, are you ready to rumble? From our live show in Portland this year, witness Dan vs. the mighty Cheryl Strayed from the Dear Sugar podcast in an ADVICE SLINGING CLASH OF THE TITANS.  Send us your one minute or less calls!  206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale. The Savage Lovecast is also sponsored by SmartMouth Activated Mouthwash. SmartMouth blocks bad breath for 12 hours. Get SmartMouth at your local drugstore and keep your breath fresh. This episode is brought to you byHarrys.com.

Can Dan convince a young woman to accept and forgive her father for having a 9-year-long affair with a married woman?  Listen in as Dan deftly navigates through the kind of  theoretical quandary that only a conservative silly person could present.  Dan interviews Laura Anderson about her Slate article covering the history of condoms and why they could be so much better.  On the Magnum, fall down the poly rabbit hole with us, won't you? Dan chats with poly activist and lawyer Diana Adams about the rise of polyamory in our cultural awareness, and how to live the poly lifestyle, while maintaining your precious sanity. Also, don't you want to learn about "Poly Cocktails"? 206-201-2720 Today's Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to MeUndies.com/Savage This episode is also brought to you by NatureBox: the subscription service dedicated to smarter snacking. Get a free sample, by visiting Naturebox.com/savage The Sa

This week, we are delighted to welcome Dr. Kara Cadwallader from Planned Parenthood to answer a backlog of medical questions about herpes, meningitis, IUDs and the good ole flu.  When you cheat and cheat and cheat, is it time to call yourself poly?  On the Magnum, Dan chats with writer, journalist, and transgender woman Parker Molloy, about seeking the understanding and acceptance of family members when dating a trans person.  And, a gay man wants to try a threeway with a woman included. Does he have to turn in his gay card?  And MORE.  206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% discount and free web domain registration. The Savage Lovecast is also sponsored by SmartMouth Activated Mouthwash. SmartMouth blocks bad breath for 12 hours. Get SmartMouth at your local drugstore and keep your breath fresh. This episode is also brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobo

Her fiancé would rather enjoy congress with an unwashed blow-up doll than his betrothed. Does this spell ruin, or just a happy companionate marriage?  Hear the steamy tale of the nude model, the super-hot art teacher and the things he does with his laser pointer.  On the Magnum we've been saving up parenting questions for the indomitable Amy Lang, sex educator and creator of Birds + Bees + Kids, to help parents talk to their kids about s-e-x.  And, Dan interviews Alison Stevenson about her article in Vice Magazine, about not giving blow jobs 206-201-2720   This podcast is brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale. The Savage Lovecast is also sponsored by SmartMouth Activated Mouthwash. SmartMouth blocks bad breath for 12 hours. Get SmartMouth at your local drugstore and keep your breath fresh.

Trapped in LA, Dan chitty-chats with comedian Jeffery Self about self lubricating, bossy slaves, "little brother" role playing and three-ways with celebrities among other things. The Gay is strong with this one.  Also, on the Magnum Dan talks with Sex and Family Educator Stephanie Mitelman about the struggles people on the autism spectrum have with sexuality and dating.  206-201-2720 Today's Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to MeUndies.com/Savage This episode is also brought to you by NatureBox: the subscription service dedicated to smarter snacking. Get a free sample, by visiting Naturebox.com/savage The Savage Lovecast is also sponsored by SmartMouth Activated Mouthwash. SmartMouth blocks bad breath for 12 hours. Get SmartMouth at your local drugstore and keep your breath fresh.

The Lovecast is delighted to welcome Mistress Matisse. Dan and our favorite dominatrix/sex-worker rights activist talk about getting started with domination, the perils of being a sex worker and (what else?) 60 Shades of Grey.  When planning a three-way with your wife and a friend of yours, how do you choose the lucky friend? And how can you minimize the awkwardness when you make the ask?  On the Magnum, hear the spooky tale of a mother-in-law's mysterious vibrating couch.   206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% discount and free web domain registration. This episode is also brought to you by AdamandEve.com. From now until Valentine's Day 2015, get 50% off almost any item, plus a romance kit, plus free shipping when you enter offer code "Savage". The Savage Lovecast is also sponsored by SmartMouth Activated Mouthwash. SmartMouth blocks bad breath for 12 hours. Get S

A self-professed "pervert" is married to a self-professed "Christian." He wants to keep watching his porn in peace, she forbids it. Should he sneak to see Hump, or fess up and invite her along?  A hand-wringing lesbian feels guilty whenever she gets the foot massages that turn her on so.  Dan chats withJonathan Capehart (of the Washington Post and MSNBC)  about homophobia in black culture, and the CONSPIRACY to destroy black families by making black men gay.  On the Magnum, Dan welcomes Historian of Sexuality Alice Dreger to talk about her brave new book, "Galileo's Middle Finger: Heretics, Activists, and the Search for Justice in Science." Today's Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to MeUndies.com/Savage This episode is also brought to you by NatureBox: the subscription service dedicated to smarter snacking. Get a free sample, by visiting Naturebox.com/savage This podcast is also brought to you by Stamps.c

The Lovecast welcomes Anna Sale from WNYC's "Death, Sex & Money" podcast to pick over the nuances of Dan's thinking on non-monogamy.  We check in on a caller from last year who has recurring cancer, and a boyfriend who wasn't quite ready to marry her. Learn how she is doing, and whether they tied the knot.  Hear the tale of yet another deflowered, "abstinence-only" Christian. (It's kind of hot…)  So much. Always so much.  206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale. This episode is also brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% discount and free web domain registration. This episode is also brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at

An amputee is offended when her new boyfriend warns his brother about her disabilities. Is she being too sensitive?  A man is being ask to lie about his sister-in-law's abortion. How should he handle the complicated family dynamics?  How do gay people happen? Do mommies cause them?  On the Magnum version of the show, a very smug Dan Savage interviews Dr. Amy Muise about her recent paper which proved, (PROVED!) that being GGG is beneficial to relationships. Science says so.  A woman is horrified to discover that her boyfriend has been sending off dick pics to anyone who will look on Craigslist. Dan gently talks her off the break-up ledge.   206-201-2720 The Savage Lovecast is sponsored by Casper, an online retailer of premium mattresses for a fraction of the price -- because everyone deserves a great night’s sleep.  Get $50 off any mattress purchase by visiting casper.com/savage and enter the promo code savage.  This episode is also brought to you by NatureBox: the subscription service dedicated to smarter sna

A married woman has lost all sex drive. Her husband is willing to let her be with other men. But the thought of her husband with another woman makes her so jealous that her mouth goes dry. Is this gonna work out ok? A straight man with a newly issued hall pass is having a hard time meeting ladies who will sleep with him because they know he's in a relationship. Why must it be this way? Why?!  On the Magnum, Dan chats with author Johann Hari, on our silly little drug war, and how drug abuse results from boredom and isolation, not drug availability.  And more!  206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale. This episode is also brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% discount and free web domain registration. This episode is also brought to you by Babeland. Get 10% off plus free shipping when you enter

A kinkster is worried that her feminist mother will see some bruises and assume the worst about her boyfriend. How can she explain that they are in a loving, mutually satisfying Dom/sub situation?  A woman doesn't like to swallow her boyfriend's come. Is this a rare condition?  On the Magnum, Dan chats with Zoë Tersche from the website ThisWink.com about how to comport yourself at kinky play parties.  And, a man with a heart condition is sick of his lovers going easy on him in bed. Can he ethically withhold the information that the exciting sex they are about to enjoy might make him keel over?  What a way to go.  206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you byHarrys.com. Get $5 off your first purchase by entering the code "Dan"when you check out. This episode is also brought to you by NatureBox: the subscription service dedicated to smarter snacking. Get a free sample, by visiting Naturebox.com/savage This podcast is brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage

Gather round, heathens: It's Bible study time! Dan and gay Evangelical Christian Matthew Vines talk about how gay Christians can help the less "affirming" churches to come around to tolerance. They also geek out about the Bible like you wouldn't believe.  206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale. This episode is also brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% discount and free web domain registration. This episode is also brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at

On this, the week of Dan and Terry's 20th anniversary, Dan grapples with some tricky, tricky questions: At exactly what point in the dating process would it be polite to disclose that you are already in an open relationship?  A woman likes to be thin. Her man prefers a more hefty physique. How can she deal with his compliments if they only come when she feels bad about herself?  And, a woman's boyfriend is losing his hair, and plans to get a buzz cut. But she really likes a head of long, luxurious hair! If he won't wear a hat or a wig, is it...over?  On the Magnum, Dan speaks with Chicago Sun-Times columnist Neil Steinberg about tolerance in the wake of Charlie Hebdo.  And, a woman's boyfriend wants to spend a wild weekend in Vegas with his buddies. Fine! But does she really have to do the three hour drive each way to take him to the goddamn airport?  Both ways?  206-201-2720   This episode is also brought to you by NatureBox: the subscription service dedicated to smarter snacking. Get a free sample, by visit

It's the Getting Women to Come Show! Sometimes ladies can't come and want to. Sometimes ladies can't come and they don't want to. Dan sure talks a lot about female orgasms on this show, considering he's never been near one.  Bad Science Alert! Female Ejaculate: Is it pee? Dan speaks with fearless blogger Amy Luna Manderino about some annoying hyperventilation in response to a recent study on squirting.  On the Magnum, Dan chats with Cooper Beckett from the Life on the Swingset podcast about the joys and perils of swinging. And finally, a new image will come to mind when you hear "She's smokin' hot!!" 206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale. This episode is also brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% discount and free web domain registration. The Savage Lovecast is also sponsored by SmartMouth A

How can you tell when a slap to the face is welcome or unwelcome in a BDSM situation? A weepy slapper wants to know.  How much trouble can naughty photos on Tumblr cause your new boyfriend?  Chest tattoos: hot or not? Dan welcomes Heather Havrilesky of "Ask Polly" to tackle this one in a Second Opinion. And on the Magnum, does a woman have a right to ask about her new boyfriend's prescription for Cialis? Nancy weighs in!  206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale. This episode is also brought to you by NatureBox: the subscription service dedicated to smarter snacking. Get a free sample, by visiting Naturebox.com/savage This episode is also brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 10 free gifts, plus free shipping when you enter offer code "Savage".

A husband can't be bothered to bring his wife to orgasm. Why? It's too much work! His hand gets tired! A man is pretty sure his nephew is gay. The rest of the family is homophobic. How can he soften the ground with the family, and let him know he has support without outing or embarrassing him?  On the Magnum, Dan welcomes comedian Mike Birbiglia to tackle a question about REM sleep disorder. Also Annie.  A woman is willing to be a sub in the bedroom, but when her new boyfriend barks out orders in the kitchen, well, that's not cool!  206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale. This episode is also brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% discount and free web domain registration. This episode is also brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at

A drunken lass has intellectual crushes on her professors. How can she express her "love for their intellect?"  A man is totes bummed when a date ditches him after discovering that he smokes cigarettes. Is this just what online dating is like?  One condom. Three people. Does this math add up?  On the Magnum, Dan chats with uber-lesbian author and sex educator Allison Moon about female ejaculation and the geyser that sometimes results.  And, listen to a cavalcade of remedies for PMS! This podcast is brought to you by ExtremeRestraints.com. Go buy something, and be sure to enter SAVAGE2014 at checkout. This episode is also brought to you by NatureBox: the subscription service dedicated to smarter snacking. Get a free sample, by visiting Naturebox.com/savage This episode is also brought to you byHarrys.com. Get $5 off your first purchase by entering the code "Dan"when you check out.