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A woman who identified as lesbian of 15 years (with a wife even,) has taken a younger, male lover. So, how is this gonna work? A man’s girlfriend insists that if and when they have kids, he will have to go through “labor simulation.”  He thinks this is batty. But what does Dan Savage think? On the Magnum, Dan chats with trans luminary Kate Bornstein about words vs slurs, the Caitlin Jenner effect and Kate’s deep, dark past with Scientology. 206-302-2064 Today’s episode is brought to you by Blue Apron, the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get your first 2 meals free by going to BlueApron.com/Savage. This episode is also brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 10 free gifts, plus free shipping when you enter offer code "Savage".

  It’s the dick show! Do you have one? (Or are you one?) Gather around for a “What You Got?” with Dr. Cynthia Graham about condoms and male sensitivity, the poor things. Then! On the Magnum, Mike Pearl, a writer for Vice Magazine discusses the science behind the need to rename Death Grip Syndrome. Also, how do you deal with it when a flasher lives in your neighborhood? And tons more. 206-302-2064 Today’s episode is brought to you by Blue Apron, the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get your first 2 meals free by going to BlueApron.com/Savage. Today's Lovecast is also brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to MeUndies.com/Savage This episode is also brought to you by NatureBox: the subscription service dedicated to smarter snacking. Check it out by visiting Naturebox.com/savage  

Have you ever loved someone so much, even though you’ve known them for only 6 weeks, that when they break up with you, you call a sex advice podcaster sobbing and sobbing?  Meanwhile, a married man with his wife for 11 years, is working on forgiving her for cheating on him, and on opening their relationship so she can be her full self. Also, he thinks it’s kind of hot.  On the Magnum, Dan chats with trans porn star/occultist Bailey Jay about the effects of hormone therapy on libido.  Also, what to do when your boyfriend is TOO NICE.  206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% discount and free web domain registration. This episode is also brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at   This podcast is also brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale.

It’s the “Let’s Decriminalize Sex Work” episode! Dan chats with Vox writer German Lopez on the evidence which shows the benefits of legalizing sex work. (Like duh…)  And on on the Magnum, Dan chats with adult film actor Dirk Caber about the real effects of the federal raid on Rentboy.com.  Also, you’ve heard what Dan thinks about the Republican field, but what does he think about the Dems?  And, how would you deal with a roommate who shows up in your room wearing nothing but a lecherous smile?  206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you byHarrys.com. Get $5 off your first purchase by entering the code "Dan"when you check out. This episode is also brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 10 free gifts, plus free shipping when you enter offer code "Savage". This episode is also brought to you by OxyBump- all natural oxygen-based relief from sore throats, colds and allergies. For 20% off, go to oxybump.com and enter code SL20. 

A man has entered into a committed poly triad… and mom’s not having it. How can the caller get his mother to accept his other girlfriend?  Dan’s take on the shenanigans of hilarious comedian, Bill Cosby.  A woman’s boyfriend REALLY wants to do anal. He wants this so badly that he’s willing to try it without warning, lube or consent. And it causes her tremendous pain. Can any of you guess what Dan’s advice is?  On the Magnum, Dan chats with New York Times religion writer Mark Oppenheimer about his new podcast “Unorthodox,” and the Jewish-Mormon connection.  Also, dating a chronic liar; super- fun or super-exhausting? 206-302-2064 The Savage Lovecast is sponsored by Casper, an online retailer of premium mattresses for a fraction of the price -- because everyone deserves a great night’s sleep.  Get $50 off any mattress purchase by visiting casper.com/savage and enter the promo code savage.  This episode is also brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and

Pee drinking in the UK: How common is it? Do mates drink each other’s urine routinely, or do they have to kind of know each other a little better? A tale for the vault, folks.  How should you handle a nasty blabbing co-worker who tells everyone that you have herpes?  On the Magnum, slaves, Mistress Matisse joins us in the studio (on the 23rd floor of the Washington Mutual Building overlooking the beautiful Puget Sound,) to discuss the sex workers’ rights movement and also how to overpower your willing sub. If, by some freak of life circumstances you haven’t yet heard Mistress Matisse, you simply must tune in, so hard does she rock.  Also, If you are the godmother to your best friend’s child, and you are also a swinger, are you honor-bound to disclose this to your friend?  And more.  206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by NatureBox: the subscription service dedicated to smarter snacking. Get a sample, by visiting Naturebox.com/savage This podcast is also brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the micro

Dan and Peter Sagal, host of NPR’s “Wait Wait… Don’t Tell Me” join forces to discuss baptism, Jewish vs Catholic guilt, clingy, needy human doormats, and the special torture that open relationships can bring on. Peter is hilarious and delightful- this show is not to be missed. Some of it is on the Micro, all of it is on the Magnum.  Also, how to approach a cute amputee without causing offense. 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you byHarrys.com. Get $5 off your first purchase by entering the code "Dan"when you check out. This episode is also brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% discount and free web domain registration.

Dan on the Republican empathy gap. Why does the Republican party care so much about Fox News’ Megyn Kelly, but not so much about you?  A woman doesn’t understand how bondage, S&M, humiliation and rape fantasies can take place in the context of a loving relationship.  On the Magnum, Dan and writer/blogger Amanda Marcotte dish about the Republican primaries, and how the “War Against Women” is still very much ON.  A man keeps his past open relationship secret. How can he be an ambassador for open relationships without broadcasting his personal business?  And more!  206- 302-2064 The Savage Lovecast is sponsored by Casper, an online retailer of premium mattresses for a fraction of the price -- because everyone deserves a great night’s sleep.  Get $50 off any mattress purchase by visiting casper.com/savage and enter the promo code savage.  This episode is also brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 10 free gifts, plus free shipping when you enter offer code "Savage".

Dan speaks to an actual lesbian about how to get started in the homosexual lifestyle.  Also hear the sordid tale of the evil rock star training an army of dick-biting groupies.  On the Magnum, Dan welcomes Dr. Vy Chu, to discuss a worst case ass scenario and how to care for your sweet, sweet bottom.  New Number! Use it. Live it.  206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% discount and free web domain registration. This episode is also brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at   This podcast is also brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale.

A woman feels so insecure about the way her vagina looks, she won’t let her boyfriend near it. How can he convince her that she is beautiful all over? A disabled gay man has a boyfriend who refuses to have sex with him. His psychiatrist thinks they should stay together. Dan thinks otherwise.  On the Magnum, Dan speaks with Matt Baume, author of “Defining Marriage” about the heroes of the marriage equality struggle.  Also, a pestering professor asks his former student to sleep with him, right after she asked him for a recommendation. How should she handle this bit of unpleasantness?  And more.  Call us at our new number! 206-302-2064 This episode of theSavage Lovecastis supported by SundanceNow Doc Club: The new streaming service for everyone who loves documentaries. To get a free 30-day trial go to Docclub.com/Savage. This episode is also brought you by JustWorks.com. Justworks helps businesses take care of their benefits, payroll and HR. Get 15% off your first year when you sign up with code LOVECAST.

After a wedding guest sat and endured some anti-gay loony talk from a bigoted pastor, a woman wonders what she could have done better. Walk out? Audibly boo? Hear a couple of calls from women who get off on lesbian porn, and the very different reactions their boyfriends have to this unspeakable perversity. Dan welcomes Joan Price, author of Naked at Our Age, to answer some calls concerning sex for the senior set. If you’re looking for sex toys for your parents or grandparents, this show is a must.  Also, hear the woeful tale of the woman whose father discovered her giving a blow job on the beach.  206-201-2720 This episode of the Savage Lovecast is brought to you by BollandBranch.com: luxury, affordable fair trade certified sheets. Get $50 off a set of sheets plus free shipping by going to Boll and Branch.com end enter Savage.  This episode is also brought to you by NatureBox: the subscription service dedicated to smarter snacking. Get a free sample, by visiting Naturebox.com/savage This episode is also broug

An opening rant on Zachery Anderson, who was unfairly imprisoned and put on the sex offenders registry, because an uptight judge wants you to know that hook-up apps are terribly naughty.   A man wonders if he should personally confront a guy he knows who creeps on women.  On the Magnum, Dan chats with author and rival advice columnist Tristan Taormino about reclaiming the pleasure of anal sex after an assault.  And, hear the tale of the strangest job a housecleaner has ever been offered.  206-201-2720 Please sign the Change.org petition to exonerate Zachery Anderson: http://chn.ge/1Jed8oG This episode of theSavage Lovecastis supported by SundanceNow Doc Club: The new streaming service for everyone who loves documentaries. To get a free 30-day trial go to Docclub.com/Savage. This podcast is also brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale. This episode is also brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 10 free gifts, plus free shipping when you e

While you and I danced in the streets, Dan was trapped in Australia, where marriage equality is NOT YET LEGAL. Hear his thoughts on the Supreme Court decision. A woman is attractive, accomplished and has big plans. But when potential dates start talking to her, they quickly shut down and move on. What is she doing wrong? Is her grandmother correct that she talks to much?  A woman was sexually abused by her mother. Is she obligated to explain this to her 16 year-old son?  On the Magnum, Dan speaks with PhD neuroscientist and data scientist  Matthew Baggott about the therapeutic uses of MDMA. A.k.a ecstacy,a.k.a. the LOVE DRUG. Does it have a place in your therapists office? This episode is brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% discount and free web domain registration. This episode is also brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at

This week we are delighted to welcome Hillary Frank, host and creator of The Longest Shortest Time podcast, to answer some questions about reclaiming your sex life after pregnancy. Also, a woman tends to date messed-up, and/or addicted guys, because she likes to try to heal them in their “time of darkness.” How can she keep doing all this groovy healing without constantly dating damaged men? A woman’s husband is bisexual. He came out to a friend at their subtly anti-gay church group and the man ran screaming. How can she help her husband to get over the loss of this friend?  And more, more, more.  206-201-2720 This episode of theSavage Lovecastis supported by SundanceNow Doc Club: The new streaming service for everyone who loves documentaries. To get a free 30-day trial go to Docclub.com/Savage. This episode of the Savage Lovecast is also brought to you by BollandBranch.com: luxury, affordable fair trade certified sheets. Get $50 off a set of sheets plus free shipping by going to Boll and Branch.com end enter

OMG it’s actual movie star famous guy celebrity JASON SCHWARTZMAN. And guess what? He’s clever, funny and super-nice. He and Dan talk about his new movie The Overnight, swinging, swastika tattoos (spoiler: he’s against them,) controlling mothers, and the famous people you want to sleep with. Don’t miss it. There’s some on the micro, and more on the Magnum.  Also, a man’s new boyfriend has the same name of a former abuser of his. How can he get over the horrible association?  And, how can an experimenting bisexual lass get “lesbian society” to take her seriously? 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by NatureBox: the subscription service dedicated to smarter snacking. Get a free sample, by visiting Naturebox.com/savage This podcast is also brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale.

A divorced single mother can’t seem to get it through her lovers’ heads that she just wants casual relationships. How can she convince them that there’s no ring required?  A woman’s mouth is dick Kryptonite! Her boyfriend’s penis always goes soft when she tries to go down. What on earth is she doing wrong?  On the Magnum, Dan talks to author and bioethics professor Alice Dreger as well as documentarian Liz Canner, who created Orgasm Inc, about the hype and general scumminess surrounding the new “Female viagra”- flibanserin. And tons more.  206-201-2720 This episode of theSavage Lovecastis supported by SundanceNow Doc Club: The new streaming service for everyone who loves documentaries. To get a free 30-day trial go to Docclub.com/Savage. Today's Lovecast is also brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to MeUndies.com/Savage This episode is also brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 10 free gifts, plus free shipping when you

An 18 year-old man and his girlfriend are learning how to get it on. She can make herself come, but he can’t get her there himself. Would a vibrator be such a bad idea?  Dan welcomes comedian, writer and actress Ophira Eisenberg (host of NPR’s “Ask Me Another”) to discuss the wisdom of face tattoos and the sexiness of mansplaining.  On the Magnum, a family tiptoes around their gay son’s atrocious behavior because they’re afraid he’ll call them homophobic.  Hey penis-havers! Do you ever have aftershock orgasms when you pee after sex?  Tell us all about it.  206-201-2720 The Savage Lovecast is sponsored by Casper, an online retailer of premium mattresses for a fraction of the price -- because everyone deserves a great night’s sleep.  Get $50 off any mattress purchase by visiting casper.com/savage and enter the promo code savage.  This episode is also brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at   Today's episode is also brought to you by Framebridge.com. Send them your art, choo

The complicated nature of abusive relationships: Dan speaks with Seattle author Jason Schmidt about his memoir A List of Things That Didn’t Kill Me, a raw, honest look at the mix of neglect, abuse and fierce love in his own upbringing. You should buy this book, and then read it.  Also, a gay man is about to go to drama school at a conservative Christian college. Should he stay in the closet just long enough to graduate and then begin the lifelong project of exacting his revenge? On the Magnum, a straight man is friends with a transwoman. Once she got her surgery, she’s suddenly super-hot to the caller. Is it time to make a move? And, breast milk: It’s not just for babies anymore! 206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale. This episode is also brought to you byHarrys.com. Get $5 off your first purchase by entering the code "Dan"when you check out. This episode is also brought to you by Squarespace.com. They mak

Mom has been having an affair for 17 years, and dad just found out about it. How can this beleaguered daughter support both of her parents?  A gold star lesbian fell into bed with a man, and discovered that…she liked it. A lot. Now what?  On the Magnum, what makes people rat out their friends or family for infidelity?  Dan speaks with Dr. Dan Kruger for a “What You Got?” about why people blow the whistle.   Also, a woman is dating a man who happily accepts blow jobs, but won’t go down on her because he only does that for “slender ladies.”  And tons more.  206-201-2720 The Savage Lovecast is sponsored by SmartMouth Activated Mouthwash. SmartMouth blocks bad breath for 12 hours. Get SmartMouth at your local drugstore and keep your breath fresh. Today's Lovecast is also brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to MeUndies.com/Savage Today's episode is also brought to you by Framebridge.com. Send them your art, choose a frame an

A woman finds herself in the middle of a poly free-for-all when she falls for a guy who is sleeping with every woman he can get his mitts on. Is this the poly lifestyle, or just a dude with a harem?  A woman is nursing a crush on a man she suspects to be gay. Is there any way she can divine the truth?  On the Magnum, Dan speaks with Dr. Andreas Baranowski for a “What You Got” on what happens to women when you take fear out of casual sex in a sexy, sexy laboratory. (Warning! The sound quality in this interview is pretty bad. But we can’t help it when science happens in Germany!)  And the show ends where it began- with poly heartbreak. A man is crushed to hear that his girlfriend wants him to take a step back, so her girlfriend can move into his primary slot. And he thought he was so cool with the whole poly thing… It’s not for everyone, kids.  206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale. The Savage Lovecast is al