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A woman's boss did something so nasty that she successfully prosecuted him and got him on the sex offender registry. But how can she get a new job with such an uncomfortable story to tell about her last one? Dan brings on Rob Walker, a.k.a. The Workologist from the New York Times to strategize. A skinny, insecure gay dude likes big muscle men. But he can't understand why they like him. On the Magnum, Dan interviews sociologist Eran Shor about his work analyzing pornography and whether it is getting more and more violent. And, a caller asks Dan to write his wedding speech. Dan has a better idea.  Today’s episode is brought to you by Blue Apron- the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get your first 3 meals for free (a $30 value) with free shipping by going to . This episode is brought to you by #Open- a NEW, inclusive approach to social networking and MODERN dating. #Open needs Savage Lovecast listeners

A woman had offered an Amazon delivery guy a drink of water in her house, and gave him her phone number. One year later he started sending her nasty messages and dick pics. Should she report him to his employer? Call the cops? A divorced man's 13 year-old daughter came out to him as a "homo-romantic asexual." Should he tell her conservative Christian mother? Also, is this just a phase? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Phd student Sam Hughes about his work exploring why some people are kinky. And, hear the tale of the lice-ridden, bed bugs-carryin', panty-free hippy chick. 206-302-2064   Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to .       This episode of the Savage love cast is brought to you by Everlane: Luxury basic clothing and accessories, made at ethical factories without those retail markups. For free shipping, and to support the Lovecast, go to       This episode is brought to

A kinky woman is sick and tired of men assuming she's a horny slut ready for anything at any time. How can she explain in her dating profiles that she's kinky AND discerning? A woman was hanging out fishing with her old high school buddy when the buddy asked, "So is it true you like to get peed on?" Don't you hate it when that happens? How should she spread the word among her old friend circle that in fact, this isn't to her taste? On the Magnum, look out! It's a lesbian take-over! The delightful ladies from the Lez Hang Out podcast are here to take on some lezbo questions. And, a woman wonders how to come out to her family as a stripper.   206-302-2064   This episode of the Savage Lovecast is brought to you by Boll and Branch: luxury, affordable fair trade certified sheets. Get $50 off a set of sheets plus free shipping by going to and enter Savage.       This podcast is brought to you by . Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for postage and a digital scale.       Thanks to Aa

Mom discovered a portable pussy sex toy in her teenaged son's backpack. Are you a mother? Do you plan to be one someday? What will you do when you discover a portable pussy in your teenaged son's backpack? A man and his girlfriend see each other every few months. And when they do, hoo boy! They have sex every few hours. By the end of their time together she feels sore. Right? She wants to try pegging him so he can understand what it's like to be penetrated so frequently. He wonders if this is even analogous. Dan brings a bit of clarity to this fraught situation. And, oh my god speaking of fraught! A father asked his daughter to lie to mom about the earring in the hot tub and say it was hers, when it WASN'T. At first the daughter agreed to lie for her dad, but then wisely changed her mind. Now what? And, on the Magnum, Dan chats with Slate writer Evan Urquhart- a trans guy who covers LGBTQ issues about dating trans folk. 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Hims, the one-stop shop for hair loss, skin

A woman was chilling with her male friend, you know, the way friends do, and sure, he wishes they were a couple, but she's not into him that way, so anyway, she invited him over after some drinking and masturbated in front of him, you know, the way friends do, except now things are weird? A lesbian was told by a transwoman who still has a penis that it's transphobic to not want to have sex with her. Discuss. On the Magnum,  it's time for a Second Opinion! Dan chats with the newest sex advice columnist to hit the scene: Brandy Jensen from The Outline's "Ask a Fuck-Up."  And, another mysterious ghosting. Where do the men go when they disappear? 206-302-2064 Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to Today’s episode is also brought to you by Blue Apron- the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get you

A 60 year-old man has been dating a woman for 4 months. He wishes she would lose some weight. Oh, and also? She lost her breasts to cancer. Does he have the right to ask her to get a boob job too? Sidle up, dear listener, and hear the tale of the woman, her much older boyfriend, and...and her boyfriend's...son?  After hearing this, one of the tech-savvy at-risk youth had to take a walk around the block.  But fearlessly, we continue! On the Magnum, Dan interviews Inka, the creator of : Erotica made by women, for women. And somehow Dan convinced Nancy to talk about sex during the woman's "moon time." This show is a banger. 206-302-2064. This episode of the Savage love cast is brought to you by Everlane: Luxury basic clothing and accessories, made at ethical factories without those retail markups. For free shipping, and to support the Lovecast, go to . This episode is brought to you by Hims, the one-stop shop for hair loss, skincare, and sexual wellness, for men. Get a trial month of everything you need to keep

A woman's husband installed a hidden camera in their house. We aren't saying WHERE he installed it, but you should know that this call made us take off our headphones for a second. As a young man navigates through his dating life, he finds that the girls he's really attracted to ghost him, and the gals he's lukewarm about chase him with conviction. Why?! Dan chats with the lad and gives him a clue. On the Magnum Dan speaks with Dr. Lori Brotto about having a fulfilling relationship with an asexual. Check out Dr. Brotto's book . And, THE INTERNET IS NOT SAFE FOR YOU. Our guest, Anthony Hecht is a little less alarmist than that, but not much. 206-302-2064 Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to Thanks to Aaptiv for supporting our podcast. Get 30% off annual membership plan featuring unlimited workouts at . The Savage Lovecast is also sponsored by Casper, an online retailer of premium mattresses for a f

A married man and his wife are planning some swinging fun times. But one of the people who responded to his anonymous post is his high school pal! Should he tell her who he is? That he knows who she is? Oh my god, this could be SO EMBARRASSING. A woman and her boyfriend used to have frequent, fantastic sex..when he was drunk. Now that he's sober, their love-life is bland and scant. How can they have hot, booze-free sex? On the Magnum, Dan interviews Dr. John Scott, a sociology Professor from Brisbane, Australia about his work studying male escorts. And, a married woman bemoans the fact that her husband won't throw her around and take his pleasure. He won't consent to an open marriage. What's this libidinous lass to do? 206-302-2064 Today’s episode is also brought to you by Blue Apron- the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get your first 3 meals for free (a $30 value) with free shipping by going to . T

You guys? We've been making this podcast for 600 episodes. How do we celebrate? By talking about pee pee! A woman who is about to get married is having a total freak-out affair! She's been seeing her lover for only 3 months, but she thinks it's true love. Should she call off the wedding? A woman spontaneously comes whenever she sits in a sauna. Why Dan, why??!! Dan chats with the charming and super-freaky Sunny Megatron & Ken Melvoin-Berg-- sexuality educators, hosts of American Sex Podcast, and creators of the Sex with Sunny Megatron TV series on Showtime. Clown orgies? Check. Piss Play? Most definitely. Beet juice? Yes, beet juice. And, is it damaging to tell a newlywed couple to "have sex every day?" 206-302-2064 Thanks to Zola for supporting Savage LoveCast. Zola is reinventing the wedding registry and planning process to make the happiest moment in couples’ lives even happier. To sign up with Zola and receive a $50 credit towards your registry at Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High

"Dear Dan. What is up with cock rings?" Dan is all too delighted to answer. A married woman is in an open relationship, and hooks up with a friend of theirs. This "lover" doesn't make her come. Rather, after her insufficient sessions with him, she returns home to her husband who gets the job done. Should she tell the lover that he is inadequate when it feeds such a hot dynamic with her husband? On the Magnum, welcome to Poly Town! The wonderful Cunning Minx, host of the Poly Weekly podcast, is on to answer a couple head scratchers. How do you merge families? Get one giant house? What about kids? Also, how to do poly real, real wrong. Finally, a woman newly broken up with her boyfriend discovers that he's been looking at YouTube videos with titles like "How to win back your stubborn girlfriend." Should she cut cut him out of her life a little bit, or a lot? What do you think? 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Hims, the one-stop shop for hair loss, skincare, and sexual wellness, for men. Get a tria

The kindly mother of a 12 year-old boy wonders if she should discreetly leave some lube by his bed as he learns to love him himself fully. A woman is horrified to discover that her hook-up doesn't have sheets on the bed. "The bed is no good," she laments. Should she see him again? Is there a fix here? Dan and the mighty Mistress Matisse revisit the horrifying SESTA/FOSTA bill snaking its way into law. This bill will be devastating to sex workers and the internet in general. Please follow #LetUsSurvive onTwitter and learn about this latest nasty piece of legislation. In much happier news, a caller who formerly suffered from Death Grip Syndrome, has made a full recovery, thanks to Dan's proven therapy program. 206-302-2064 This episode of the Savage love cast is brought to you by Everlane: Luxury basic clothing and accessories, made at ethical factories without those retail markups. For free shipping, and to support the Lovecast, go to This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a

A woman went on a date, and everything went so well. Until...he disappeared without a trace. Did this man truly turn into a ghost? Dan calls her back and gets the full story. On the Magnum, for a "What You Got?" Dan chats with Kristin Mark on how to maintain sexual desire in long term relationships. And, a woman's husband suffered an injury that he is slowly recovering from. But it has wreaked havoc on their sex life. How can they get back to the good times? This "In sickness and in health" stuff is hard! Call us at 206-302-2064 Thanks to Aaptiv for supporting our podcast. Get 20% off annual membership plan featuring unlimited workouts at www.Aaptiv.com/Savage. Today’s episode is also brought to you by Blue Apron- the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get your first 3 meals for free ( a $30 value) with free shipping by going to BlueApron.com/Savage. This episode is brought to you by MVMT Watches:

A straight man is having a hard time getting laid. His female friends tell him he has to be more aggressive and less respectful with the ladies. Dan weighs in. The "baby" in a baby/daddy relationship is jealous because her daddy is getting it on with a couple and not inviting her. No, crying is not a solution. Sometimes you gotta reach out to a dick doc. (The more dignified word is "urologist." ) On the Magnum, Dan does just that, chatting with the good Doctor Stephen King, to answer a couple questions about curved dicks, and a mysterious clit-like growth. Hot! And, the Madonna/Whore Complex: It's not just for breeders! The Savage Lovecast is also sponsored by Casper, an online retailer of premium mattresses for a fraction of the price -- because everyone deserves a great night’s sleep. Get $50 off any mattress purchase by visiting and enter the promo code: savage.   Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you

A trans man is losing his hair and worries that he won't be able to rock the hyper-masculine bald guy look. Can you be sweet, sexy and bald all at the same time? Dogs! Sex! These two topics come together not once, but three times on this very show. On the Magnum, Dan speaks with writer and cultural critic Alana Massey on the misguided Stop Enabling Sex Traffickers Act (SESTA.) A woman's best friend has a husband who calls her a "horrible wife" and "slut" under his breath. The caller isn't quite ready to dump this so-called friend and her nasty husband because their social circles are so intertwined. Still. Being called a slut, by your friend's husband? Under his breath??! 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by . They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode of the Savage Lovecast is brought to you by BollandBranch.com: luxury, affordable fair trade certified sheets. Get $50 off a set of shee

After 10 years of marriage, a man is dismayed to admit that he married a jizz-hater. His wife detests the stuff and doesn't want to be anywhere near it. What is the solution? The ever-delightful and intrepid Erika Moen of "Oh Joy Sex Toy" is on to discuss a sex toy that will send you packing. A woman's boyfriend wants to get a $2000 anatomically correct sex doll. The caller, and (as you will hear) Dan Savage are super-squicked. Finally, gather round dear listeners, and hear the story of the neighbor and the négligé. 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by #Open- a NEW, inclusive approach to social networking and MODERN dating. #Open needs Savage Lovecast listeners to test their app before they “come out” to the rest of the world. Test now at and earn “Community Founder” status for life. This episode of the Savage love cast is brought to you by Everlane: Luxury basic clothing and accessories, made at ethical factories without those retail markups. For free shipping, and to support the Lovecast, go to

A straight man knows he has the dreaded Madonna/Whore Complex. But how can he overcome it? A 47 year-old woman has just started working at a sex toy store, and loves her funky, kinky co-workers. But she's scared to invite them to her wedding for fear that mommy and daddy won't approve. On the Magnum, Dan chats with Emily Best, the force behind "F*ck Yes" -a new channel that offers up super-hot shorts showing how consent can be very sexy indeed. We love what they are doing, and you should check it out. And, did you know that Dan has some strong opinions about guns? The usually shy and retiring Dan Savage offers his take on the argument that "if you ban guns only criminals will have guns." This episode is brought to you by #Open- a NEW, inclusive approach to social networking and MODERN dating. #Open needs Savage Lovecast listeners to test their app before they “come out” to the rest of the world. Test now at and earn “Community Founder” status for life.   Thanks to Aaptiv for supporting our podcast. Get 50% o

A woman gave her husband permission to see an escort when he was out of town. But she didn't give him permission to spend a small fortune on her!! An open-minded straight man has had quite enough with the sexual cavorting that takes place in his gym's hot tub, thank you very much! Is he being homophobic? Should he rat them out? On the Magnum, kids are getting in big trouble for sexting, sending pics and other activities that most teens routinely engage in. Dan speaks with Robby Soave from Reason.com about the need to lawyer up if your kid faces such a threat. How can a woman explain to her newly divorced father that she suspects he's gay, and that it's a-ok with her? 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by MVMT Watches: Good looking watches, bracelets, sunglasses and gifts at great prices. Get 15% off today —WITH FREE SHIPPING and FREE RETURNS—by going to ThredUP is the world’s largest online thrift store with over 35,000 brands at up to 90% off retail price. Get an extra 30% off your first order at

A gay man's boyfriend insists on showering just before sex, every single time. But the caller likes a little funk! How can they reconcile this fundamental difference. Dan's answer is sneaky. Don't be alarmed, but one of this week's questions requires the expertise of a mortician. On the Magnum, Dan enlists New York Times rival columnist Roxane Gay for a Second Opinion on folks who get dumped, and can't deal. Also, hear the tale of the man and his very, very rich employer-  a petty woman who doesn't hesitate snub and insult his girlfriend. 206-201-2720 Thanks to Aaptiv for supporting our podcast. Get 50% off annual membership plan featuring unlimited workouts at www.aaptiv.com/SAVAGE. This episode of the Savage Lovecast is brought to you by BollandBranch.com: luxury, affordable fair trade certified sheets. Get $50 off a set of sheets plus free shipping by going to and enter Savage. This episode is brought to you by . They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy

A woman is worried that a couple she's friends with will ask her and her husband to swing. How can she politely tell them that she and her husband don't roll that way? A man's new boyfriend is so wonderful! Their relationship is beautiful and amazing.  Unfortunately, he is also a homeless, lying meth-head. How can the caller confront his boyfriend with compassion? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Dr. Justin Lehmiller about a study looking at cuckolding among gay men. And, a woman's mother's boyfriend invites her to his pool alone, texts her out of nowhere and gives her random gifts of cash. She is loathe to fear the worst about him, but...well, she fears the worst about him. And so does Dan Savage. And so will all of you. 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by . Get 50% off just about any item, plus free shipping when you enter the offer code "Savage". Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to . Th

A female college student is busy planning her orgy. She wants to make sure the night is comfortable, fun and safe, with minimal awkwardness. Dan Savage, (the Martha Stewart of orgy planning,)  is here to help. A man's good (female) friend is planning to go on a date with one of his acquaintances. What the man knows, and the friend doesn't is that this date is a transman. Should he tip off his friend ahead of time? Or let it unspool in it's own sweet time? Yikes! The robots are making the porn now! Erotic film director, screenwriter and producer Erika Lust is on to raise the alarm about our dystopian porny future. After a lot of seriously GGG effort, a woman has finally learned to enjoy anal sex. The problem is she comes too fast, and then wants that dick OUTTA THERE before her man can get his orgasm. Dan has some power bottom tips to share.   Got real just there didn't it? 206-302-2064 ThredUP is the world’s largest online thrift store with over 35,000 brands at up to 90% off retail price. Get an extra 30% of