Savage Lovecast

A woman has been with her fiancé for 4 years. All of a sudden, out of nowhere, he's started moaning and groaning in bed like a porn starlet. Why the sudden vocalizations? IS HE CHEATING ON HER? An asexual, non-binary person feels like an invader when they show up at BDSM parties. Is it alright to join that community when you are uninterested in sex? On the Magnum, we are delighted to welcome back author, sex educator and bitter podcasting rival Tristan Taormino. She and Dan discuss strap-ons, and how to peg your partner real good. Two HIV negative gay men have been together for 5 years. They started acting out role-play scenes where one infects the other. It's been super-hot, but the caller is uncomfortable even pretending such a thing. He is old enough to remember the worst days of AIDs. Is this role play ok? Or a thought crime? Do whatchoo wanna. 206-302-2064 This episode of the Savage love cast is brought to you by Everlane: Luxury basic clothing and accessories, made at ethical factories without those ret

A sugar baby has fallen in love with her sugar daddy. He loves her too! Except, he kind of doesn't want her to meet his actual daughter. Does she have the right to demand it? A coach at a college has been asked to drive one of her students to get an abortion. Because of where they live, it will take 4 hours. Should she do it? Welcome to America. On the Magnum, things get a little gnarly with our urologist pal, Dr. Stephen King. How many times you can handle hearing the words "dorsal slit" being said without squirming just a little? And, a dad is concerned that his 10 year-old daughter wants to compete for the center position on her co-ed football team. With those boys reaching down there to do whatever it is they do in football...poor dad. 206-302-2064 Thanks to Audible for supporting the Savage Lovecast. For a free audiobook with a 30-day free trial, go to or text savage to 500-500. This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at and if you wa

In the intro, Dan and blogger/trans rights activist Parker Molloy fume over 45's latest anti-trans bluster. A straight man who is apparently just learning some basic facts about our world, wants to know: Do gays ever get divorced? On the Magnum, things get a bit more complicated. Dan interviews Dr. Justin Lehmiller, author of ".” They discuss the origins of kinks, and if you can shut them off if they bum you out. Finally, a woman is majorly skeezed whenever she thinks about the existence of incest porn. She just can't go there. Dan's suggestion? ***SPOILER*** Don't go there.   Come here. 206-302-2064 This episode is brought toy by Tushy- the modern bidet attachment that washes your ass completely. Go to and get 10% off your order with promo code SAVAGE. Stop wiping and start washing with TUSHY. This episode of Savage Lovecast is brought to you by Away. Away makes first-class luggage at coach prices that allow you to charge your phone on the go.  For $20 off a suitcase, go to and use the promo code savage. T

A couple adopted a disturbed dog, hell-bent on destroying their sex life! It jumps on the bed, and barks when they try to get busy, and whimpers, barks and whines when left outside the door. Dan "Dog Whisperer" Savage leaps to the rescue. Speaking of mental illness, Ellen Forney, the brilliant cartoonist behind "" is back to discuss dating with bipolar disorder, and her new book "." If you are or love someone with bipolar, this is the show for you. Also, you should buy her books immediately. On the Magnum, Dan chats with a man whose girlfriend suddenly left him with no warning. He came home to discover her packed and gone. Now she wants him back. Should he take her? And, hear the nasty, nasty tale of the pervvy building contractor with a terrible sense of humor and boundary issues! 206-302-2064 This episode of the Savage Lovecast is brought to you by Boll and Branch: luxury, affordable fair trade certified sheets. Get $50 off a set of sheets plus free shipping by going to and enter Savage. This episode of th

If you found out that your gal pal in her 20s had a hook up with a 17 year-old lad, would you call the cops on her? Should you? Ok, seriously. What is up with adult babies? Dan interviews Lo, of the Dream a Little podcast exploring the relationships between folks who get off on this kind of role play. We suspect you will emerge enlightened. A woman uses the tried and true "pillow humping" technique when she masturbates. Her boyfriend wants her to film it so he can watch. But will he be turned off? Disgusted? Alarmed? And, a woman learned that her monogamous boyfriend has been spending his precious time and money at legal brothels. This broke all the rules. How should she deal with this? 206-302-2064 This podcast is brought to you by . Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for postage and a digital scale. This episode is brought toy by Tushy- the modern bidet attachment that washes your ass completely. Go to and get 10% off your order with promo code SAVAGE. Stop wiping and start washing with TUSHY. This

A married couple's teen daughter gets super-irritated when her parents have noisy sex. She sends them snarky texts imploring them to stop. Maybe she includes an eye-rolling emoji or a throwing-up kitten or some such teenaged thing. The dad in this couple doesn't want to "break her." What does Dan Savage have to say? Our guest this week, (on the Micro! You're welcome!) is Brook Urick of Seeking.com- a site where sugar babies can meet their ideal sugar daddy. Hooray! But is this relationship by nature commodified? Is it sex work? Dan and Brook don't see eye to eye on this one. On the Magnum, an out bi guy keeps getting rejected by women once they learn he's bi. Are there any women out there who can handle it? And, a ridiculous sitcom comes to life, when a woman AND HER FRIEND have both set up dates WITH THE SAME GUY.  206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Blinds.com- the #1 online retailer of custom window coverings. For a limited time - get up to 20% off EVERYTHING at when you use the promo code:

Parents, hear this cautionary tale: A man has been in his loving, kinky, poly marriage for 21 years. His wife accidentally clicked the wrong button and synched up her super gnarly BDSM pics onto her 9 year-old daughter's phone. So now there's some 'splaining to do. A woman lives in an apartment building in NYC. At first, her neighbor appeared to be really nice! Then he started sending her dick pics with his infant in the background. On the Magnum: "Honey? What would you like for your birthday?" This innocent question, asked by a 70 year old woman of her 80 year-old husband was answered thusly: "Why, I would like 2 Asian ladies to bath me, please." (We added the "please" in this reenactment.) Godsmacked, Dan enlists the help of comedian, writer and creator of The Daily Show Lizz Winstead to help answer. And, Dan counsels a miserable man, who is still heartbroken 6 months after being vaguely, but gently dumped by a woman he had enjoyed three dates with. (We considered playing a sad violin underneath his call, b

A woman enjoys anonymous webcamming with older men. But do they cross a line when they both pretend that she's... very young? A poly father doesn't know how to explain his healthy, happy relationships to his 5 year old daughter. On the Magnum, Dan enlists JP Brammer, author of the "Hola Papi" advice column to talk about interracial dating and to take down a personal trainer/tease. And, a guy with a girlfriend is sick of everyone asking when they're going to have kids. They don't want kids. What is wrong with people? 206-302-2064 This episode of the Savage Lovecast is brought to you by Boll and Branch: luxury, affordable fair trade certified sheets. Get $50 off a set of sheets plus free shipping by going to and enter Savage. Thanks to Aaptiv for supporting our podcast. Get 30% off annual membership plan featuring unlimited workouts at . Today’s episode is brought to you by Blue Apron- the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out

A young woman's boyfriend regularly gets her sexually aroused and then rolls over and goes to sleep without finishing the job. And then they fight. Why would he do this? A young gay man doesn't understand why his fuckbuddy only texts him when he wants to...well, fuck. On the Magnum: If you are a gay man, and want to give blood, you're out of luck. Blood centers do not accept blood donations from gay men. Is this based on science or stigma? It's a little of both, as it turns out in this discussion with Dr. Nick Cuneo, a physician at Harvard who has written about the subject. And, remember that scene in Purple Rain where a woman gets thrown into a dumpster? We are very sad to report that it happens in real life too. 206-302-2064 Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 15% off your first order when you go to . Thanks to Audible for supporting the Savage Lovecast. For a free audiobook with a 30-day free trial, go to or text savage to 500-500.

A woman's mother died last year. Her dad is dating someone new. The caller and her siblings just aren't ready to welcome their dad's girlfriend into their lives, let alone include her at Christmas. The caller feels she has to choose between her siblings and her father. Tough times, these. A straight man felt slighted when a woman wouldn't give him her phone number, and in public! He feels sad and humiliated and wonders if the male ego should be given just a little more weight and protection. On the Magnum, Dan chats with Guy Branum, comedian and author of "My Life as a Goddess," about cosmetic ass surgery among other things. A woman can come easily through masturbation but can't get therewith her boyfriend. Dan takes her through the steps of his hallowed technique, guaranteed to get her moaning alongside her man. 206-302-2064 This episode of the Savage love cast is brought to you by Everlane: Luxury basic clothing and accessories, made at ethical factories without those retail markups. For free shipping, and

We start this week's adventure with a couple who have a secret unicorn at their beck and call. The wife in the couple doesn't want anyone to know. But the unicorn lass has already told some friends and wants to be more open about the relationship. Who will win this one? A 27 year-old woman has a distant relationship with her father. He is 64. Guess how old his new girlfriend is. You're right! Same age as the caller! Now, whenever they chat, he puts her on speaker-phone if the new girlfriend is there. Why? What is going on here? On the Magnum, have you heard the expression "fucking like bunnies?" You have? Well naturally, Dan brings on rabbit experts Thea & Nadine from the "Rabbit Droppings" advice column to thoroughly explore the connections between human sexuality, and that of our cuddly, lagomorph cousins. Finally, a visiting father is freaked out and pissed because he looked in his daughter's closet and found...a spanking bench.   Dad! I told you not to go into my closet! 206-302-2064 This episode is b

A woman got together with what seemed to be the perfect man for her. Kinky. Into spanking. And social justice! But after they got together she discovered that he is really the married pastor of a conservative mega-church. Dan counsels her on whether to unmask this lying creep. A gay man came out late in life. When he tells his dates this, they balk. How can he reveal his truth to the men in his life and still earn their respect? On the Magnum, Dan chats with the estimable Dr. Lori Brotto about her new book: "Better Sex through Mindfulness: How Women Can Cultivate Desire." Sounds good, right? And, what on earth is "tribbing?" Spell-check sure doesn't like it. 206-302-2064 Today’s episode is brought to you by Blue Apron- the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get your first 3 meals for free with free shipping by going to . Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortabl

Come hear the sordid tale of the couple who invited a woman over, only to have her wet the bed so thoroughly that she soaked right through to the mattress. Bad unicorn! Erika Moen of "Oh Joy Sex Toy?" is on to review her husband's fave new toy. What could it be? On the Magnum, a woman dislikes her parters the instant she has sex with them. How can she yank out that bad wiring? And, pineapples. They are laden with meaning. 206-302-2064 This episode of the Savage Lovecast is brought to you by Boll and Branch: luxury, affordable fair trade certified sheets. Get $50 off a set of sheets plus free shipping by going to and enter Savage. Thanks to Aaptiv for supporting our podcast. Get 30% off annual membership plan featuring unlimited workouts at . This episode of the Savage love cast is brought to you by Everlane: Luxury basic clothing and accessories, made at ethical factories without those retail markups. For free shipping, and to support the Lovecast, go to

A woman keeps dating men who hide her and won't acknowledge that she exists on social media. What on earth is going on here? A woman knows that her personal trainer is a Christian. But is he the good kind or the bad kind? Should she find out before she continues her patronage? On the Magnum version, Amp from "Watt's the Safeword" is on to explain and discuss the phenomenon of "sub drop" in pornography and in the wild. And, what it really means when you're attracted to Wonder Woman. 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by . Get 50% off just about any item, plus free shipping when you enter the offer code "Savage". This podcast is brought to you by . Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for postage and a digital scale. Thanks to Roman for supporting Savage Lovecast.  Roman is a men’s health company that offers remote online diagnosis for ED and convenient monthly delivery of medication. For $50 off your first month, visit

"Dan? If someone sticks a lollypop in my vagina, will I get a yeast infection?" Sincerely, the very first caller. A married woman was horrified to discover raunchy pics of her husband's first cousin on his phone. Would this horrify you? On the Magnum, did you know that you can find instructions for a home abortion...in the Bible?! Well you can, and Dan's guest, the blogger Jesse Cramer tells us all about it. Also, a VERY WOKE man, who ALWAYS OBTAINS CONSENT, because he VERY MUCH CARES ABOUT WOMEN, doesn't understand why his latest girl is giving him the cold shoulder. 206-302-2064 Thanks to RXBAR for supporting Savage LoveCast. RXBAR is a whole food protein bar with no B.S. Get 25% off your first order at and use the promo code SAVAGE. This episode is brought to you by #Open- a NEW, inclusive approach to social networking and MODERN dating. #Open needs Savage Lovecast listeners to test their app before they “come out” to the rest of the world. Test now at and earn “Community Founder” status for life. This e

A woman who lives in a group house likes listening in when someone is having sex near her. Handwringing ensues. Is this unethical? Should she feel guilty? Should she stop? A woman who has gone from eating way too little to eating way too much, wrestles with how to talk about the diminishing sex with her boyfriend. On the Magnum, Dan convenes a high-powered lesbian panel to handle a few questions concerning processing, fighting, processing, how to define yourself, and processing. Lady-loving ladies rejoice! And, a gay man is annoyed that all the films he's seen show gay sex in one, predictable, tedious position. Why do filmmakers lack imagination? 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by . Get 50% off just about any item, plus free shipping when you enter the offer code "Savage". This episode of the Savage love cast is brought to you by Everlane: Luxury basic clothing and accessories, made at ethical factories without those retail markups. For free shipping, and to support the Lovecast, go to Today’s ep

A lesbian is a divorcée at age 20. How can she tell her future girlfriends that she had spectacularly bad judgement when she was of a tender age? Hey everyone! Meet Jason, the offended gay Christian! He wishes Dan wouldn't be so derisive of religion. Dan has an answer for him. On the Magnum, a caller is studying to become a sexuality professor. This makes her dates FREAK THE FUCK OUT. Dan brings on an actual sexuality professor -Dr. Debby Herbenick- to address how she dealt with her dating life. And, what should you do when you discover your best friend's new date is on the sex offender registry? (Besides call us.) 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, at , and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode of the Savage Lovecast is brought to you by Boll and Branch: luxury, affordable fair trade certified sheets. Get $50 off a set of sheets plus free shipping by going to and enter

A liberal, PC, feminist, woke man loves to humiliate, slap and call women sluts in the bedroom. (Always consensually.) How can he reconcile the two opposing sides of his personality? A woman and her husband have befriended another family in their new town. The couple revealed that the man is a transman, and that she should ask any questions she wants to. But the caller clammed up and didn't ask. Is it too late to ask about them? How can she learn about the trans experience without offending? In a heavy call, a man relays the tale of how he shoved his girlfriend in a jealous rage. Now that the relationship is over, he wants to make sure he never does anything like that again. How can he keep himself from being "that guy?" On the Magnum: Ready for a polyamory deep dive? Dan interviews Sophie Lucindo Johnson, author of Many Love: A Memoir of Polyamory and Finding Love(s).  206-302-2064 Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first

A woman has started up with a great new guy. The problem? He kisses "like a robot." And not a sexy robot! How can she train him to kiss properly? A man's daughter is non-binary, and dating another non-binary. When they have sleep-overs should the father worry about his daughter when her partner is in male mode? On the Magnum, Dr. Justin Lehmiller is on to talk about his research studying what people really fantasize about. Don't you want his job? A married woman's husband loves it when she talks about her slutty past. But she's running out of stories! Also, should she tell him about her current crush? Thanks to Audible for supporting the Savage Lovecast. For a free audiobook with a 30-day free trial, go to or text savage to 500-500. This episode of Savage Lovecast is brought to you by Casper, a sleep brand that continues to revolutionize its line of products to create an exceptionally comfortable sleep experience, one night at a time.  For a limited time, visit and save up to $225 off your order. This episo

A woman's boss did something so nasty that she successfully prosecuted him and got him on the sex offender registry. But how can she get a new job with such an uncomfortable story to tell about her last one? Dan brings on Rob Walker, a.k.a. The Workologist from the New York Times to strategize. A skinny, insecure gay dude likes big muscle men. But he can't understand why they like him. On the Magnum, Dan interviews sociologist Eran Shor about his work analyzing pornography and whether it is getting more and more violent. And, a caller asks Dan to write his wedding speech. Dan has a better idea.  Today’s episode is brought to you by Blue Apron- the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get your first 3 meals for free (a $30 value) with free shipping by going to . This episode is brought to you by #Open- a NEW, inclusive approach to social networking and MODERN dating. #Open needs Savage Lovecast listeners