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This week let’s dive into one of my favorite topics.   I always aimed to create an environment where my daughter could trust herself. But that became challenging when I wanted her to trust my experience, too. Like many of you, I have a lot of life experience, but making it the only truth made it hard for her to have her own experiences.   Growing up with a bit of a disturbing childhood made it hard for me to trust my instincts in parenting. I wanted to do things differently and give my daughter what I didn’t get. Yet, following all the advice didn’t always feel right for us.   I've learned that trusting myself isn’t about rejecting expert advice but questioning does it work for me and my daughter. I know my daughter better than anyone, and so do you with your children.   This week, I encourage you to play with trusting yourself. See what happens when you listen to your instincts and create an environment for your kids to trust themselves.

As summer approaches, I can't help but feel nostalgic for the free, open summers of my childhood in Mississippi.

In this week's episode of Parenting Paused, I found myself reflecting on the different approaches to parenting I've seen and experienced. I noticed a backlash against gentle and conscious parenting, as if kindness to children prevents them from behaving appropriately. I believe these perceptions stem from the ways we were parented ourselves. I chose a different path, one that felt kinder and more respectful of my daughter's individuality. I believe it's our job to guide our children in understanding the cultural expectations around them, not through shame or punishment, but through empathy and understanding. Let's make kindness our way this week and remember, we love our kiddos and are doing the best we can. #ParentingPaused #ConsciousParenting

This week on Parenting Paused I dive deep into the topic of overprotection. It's a parenting trait that's close to my heart and one I see many struggling with. Of course, you want your children to be safe, but are you shielding them too much? Are you preventing them from experiencing their feelings and thoughts, both good and bad, to avoid discomfort? I share my journey of learning to sit with my discomfort and supporting my child to navigate their own experiences. Remember, it's not about rescuing them from every situation, but supporting them through it, as they learn that feelings come and go, and they are okay. See you next week on Parenting Paused! #ParentingPaused #OverprotectiveParents #EmbraceDiscomfort

Reflecting on our role as parents, we often express our needs to our children without realizing the pressure we put on them. This week, try flipping the script: instead of projecting your needs onto them. Ask your kids what they need. Understanding their needs can shift your relationships with them, reduce stress, and promote their own love and care for themselves. #Parenting #UnderstandingNeeds #HealthyRelationships

On this episode of our Parenting Pause podcast, I share my experiences and wisdom about losing my mojo! I dig deep into the challenges of parenting, the unrealistic expectations we often have, and the importance of treating ourselves with kindness. Remember, you are not expected to be a supernatural parent, but a human one who sometimes loses your mojo. Listen in for insights on maintaining your self-love and care as a parent. #ParentingPausePodcast #SelfCare #ParentingRealities

Join me on my latest episode of Parenting Paused where I dive deep into understanding your children's behavior.  I encourage you to question common advice and seek to understand the root causes of behaviors such as hitting. The goal? To parent from your internal wisdom, not just expert advice. Don't miss out on this insightful episode! #ParentingPaused #UnderstandingBehavior #ParentingWisdom

Discover the ever-changing nature of your children in this week's ParentingPause podcast. I delve into the challenges of getting 'stuck' in one perspective and how to broaden your vision to embrace all sides of your children's behavior. Just as spring brings constant change, so do your children. Tune in to explore how to navigate these changes and avoid black and white thinking. 

Discover the profound preciousness in every moment of your parenting journey. Even when reality differs from our expectations or when challenges arise, remember that each experience has a unique, inherent value. It's not always about getting it 'right' or making things 'better'. Sometimes, it's about sitting in the present, acknowledging the full spectrum of human experience, and opening our hearts to find the beauty in the complex dance of parenting.

This week on Parenting Paused I'm delving deeper into the function of my judgments and how they serve me. What I discovered is that judgments often occur in the blink of an eye. After observing myself, I noticed that my judgments are like questioners, leading me back to myself. They can cover over the deeper wisdom I carry, especially as a parent. Instead of creating a whole story around a judgment, I suggest taking it inside, offering it kindness, and asking it a question. Then see if them as a reminder to turn back in and open your curiosity to what's happening in the present moment.

Let's talk about honesty in parenting. We often strive to teach our children to be honest, but how do we react when their honesty conflicts with our comfort? This week in the Parenting Paused Podcast I explore how your reactions might inadvertently teach your children to tell white lies to keep you comfortable. Tune in as we reflect on the importance of truly hearing your children's honest expressions and consider where you might be slipping into little white lies of your own. Join us for this enlightening discussion! Listen here.

Discover the intricate dynamics of parenting with my latest Parenting Paused podcast episode. I take you on a deep dive into how your reactions often say more about you than your children. Uncover the truth about how your responses to your children's behavior can be a mirror reflecting your own unresolved issues. This episode is all about learning to draw a line between what emotions belong to you and what belongs to your children. By doing this, you not only create healthier boundaries but also foster an environment that encourages cooperation rather than conflict. Join me as I unravel these insights and more, equipping you with the understanding to transform your parenting approach. Don't miss out on this opportunity to learn, grow, and reflect. Tune in now!

Excited to share our latest episode of 'Parenting Pause' where I dive deep into the topic of moving from worry to wonder. I don't know about you but when my daughter was young I found myself consumed with worry about her future. Over time what I discovered was that I wasn't worried about her, I was feeling discomfort with where she was in her journey. It was a big aha moment when I discovered that I could shift my mindset to one of "wonder" instead of "worry". Tune in to discover how you can transform your worries into empowering moments of wonder. Don't miss out on the upcoming 'Raising A Resilient Child' free summit on March 1st through 4th where I'll be discussing this topic even further. My talk is on the 4th so sign up: http://tinyurl.com/delightparenting  

Imagine yourself supporting your children in building their internal house, and just like any house, it's crucial to have a stable foundation. But here's the thing - to support them in building a stable house your internal foundation is equally important. This week on Parenting Paused I share my personal journey of discovering that my own foundation was shaky, and how that affected my parenting. I learned that instead of focusing solely on supporting my daughter in creating a strong foundation, I needed to turn inward and examine my own cracks. Only when my own foundation was strong could I provide the stability and support she needed. So, if you find yourself constantly triggered by your children's behavior, it may be a sign that there might be cracks in your own foundation. Take the time to reflect, inquire, and strengthen your self-awareness, self-compassion, and regulation. You'll be amazed at the impact it can have on your parenting journey. Listen, now.

Let's dive into some thought-provoking ways to view our children. In this episode, you'll be challenged to explore the power of interpretations and conclusions in your parenting journey. Your experiences shapes your perspectives, and it's crucial to recognize how your conditioning and beliefs influence the way you interpret your child's behavior. I found it challenging to be present without jumping to conclusions and to truly listen to my daughter's feelings and expressions. Remember, every child is unique, and their actions are not always a reflection of disrespect or defiance. By embracing curiosity and open-mindedness, you can build stronger connections with your children and foster an environment of understanding and love. Listen now for more insights and join the conversation!

In this week's podcast episode, we explore the concept of believing something is missing in the present moment. As parents, it's easy to get caught up in wanting things to be different, constantly seeking what we believe is missing. But what if we took a step back and realized that everything we need is already here, in this very moment? Join me as we dive into the practice of letting go of expectations and finding joy in the now.

Are you feeling discomfort in your parenting journey? It's natural to want things to go well and to feel comfortable, but I found avoiding discomfort as a method for parenting led to a disconnect between my aspirations as a mom and my actual methods. Parenting involves both challenge and support, and it's important to embrace all experiences, not just the comfortable ones. In this week's episode of Parenting Paused, I guide you in exploring the topic of discomfort and how your own programming and conditioning can influence your reactions to your children's behavior. I offer you valuable insights on questioning your beliefs, letting go of blame, and finding kindness in challenging moments. Listen to gain a fresh perspective on being with you while discovering the hidden wisdom within yourself and your relationship with your children.

This week, I dive into a topic that you might relate to: NEEDINESS! I share my personal experience and insights on how to navigate this rather challenging aspect of parenting. My emphasis is on understanding and honoring your needs and how they are perceived by your child. Tune in to discover my unique approach and learn practical strategies for embracing and loving your needs.  

Are you struggling with limiting your children's computer use? Here's a Purejoy take on the matter. Rather than being the enforcer of limits, how about empowering your child to discover their own boundaries? As a parent, I realized that my own experience of being constantly limited as a child led to resistance and a lack of self-awareness. Deciding to break that cycle with my own child, instead of imposing restrictions, I focused on supporting her self-regulation and helping her understand her own limits. It wasn't easy, especially with concerns about the impact of excessive screen time. But I learned to work through my triggers and approach it differently. By shifting my perspective, I recognized that her computer use wasn't about me. It was an opportunity for her to learn and grow. As an adult, I could guide her in self-regulation, rather than imposing my own fears and limits. Listen, now.  

Happy New Year, lovies! Does the New Year prompt personal reflections and inquiry? Today, put aside your resolutions and look to what is true now. Pause with me to wonder: Who are you in this beautiful moment? What magic is unfolding in your child's journey? What changes have you noticed in your parenting journey? How is it to honor the present moment and step into the future from a place of awareness? Join the conversation on this week's episode of Parenting Paused. Listen here.