Over It And On With It

Today we're diving into one of the most transformative conversations happening in mental health right now. My guest is Keith Kurlander, a psychotherapist, co-founder of the Integrative Psychiatry Institute, and an expert in trauma and psychedelic-assisted therapy. With over 25 years of clinical experience, Keith has helped thousands of people access real, lasting healing. We're talking about the potential benefits of psychedelic therapy and microdosing, what trauma actually is and how it gets locked in the body, and most importantly—how psychedelics can unlock doors that conventional therapy often misses. Keith's new book, Psychedelic Therapy: A Revolutionary Approach to Restoring Your Mental Health and Reclaiming Your Life, is a New York Times and USA Today bestseller that breaks down how psychedelics uniquely target the root causes of anxiety, depression, and PTSD. Also if you are interested in learning more about microdosing, check out Golden Rule at christinehassler.com/mirco

What happens when you stay quiet in a relationship for too long? In this deeply relatable coaching session, Christine works with Mel, who has been in a long-term partnership of over 16 years. While there is still love between them, ongoing conflict, emotional disconnection, and unspoken needs have created a relationship dynamic where Mel feels like she's doing all the emotional work—while her partner withdraws, avoids, or shuts down. As they unpack the situation, a powerful pattern emerges: the cost of silence. Mel realizes that in trying to keep the peace, she has slowly disconnected from her own needs—over-functioning, people-pleasing, and tolerating behaviors that deeply impact her sense of safety and well-being. Christine introduces the concept of the "merging pattern"—where one partner over-functions and the other under-functions—and shows how true healing requires not just internal work, but external expression: speaking up, setting boundaries, and advocating for what you need. If you've ever felt like

In this episode, I'm joined by tapping expert Jessica Ortner for a powerful, experiential session using EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques). If you've been feeling overwhelmed, stressed, or stuck in patterns you can't seem to think your way out of, this episode gives you a tool you can actually use in the moment. Jessica walks us through a guided tapping sequence designed to calm the nervous system, reduce stress, and help rewire the emotional patterns that keep you looping in anxiety or overwhelm. This isn't just a conversation—you'll have the opportunity to follow along and feel the shift in real time. We also talk about why tapping works, how it helps regulate your body (not just your mind), and how you can start using it in your daily life to create more ease, resilience, and emotional freedom. You can go deeper with Jessica's work by downloading The Tapping Solution App and checking out her new book Rewired(available on Amazon). Whether you're new to tapping or already familiar with EFT, this episode will

Is your stress about money really about money—or something deeper? In this insightful and empowering coaching session, Christine works with Jody, who is navigating a major life transition after a 20-year marriage. As she steps into financial independence for the first time, she's facing intense fear, overwhelm, and a deep sense of scarcity. But as the conversation unfolds, a powerful truth emerges: Jody's struggle isn't actually about money—it's about years of conditioning around worth, safety, and control. Christine helps Jody uncover how childhood patterns, people-pleasing, and a history of shrinking herself have shaped her relationship with money—and how this moment of change is actually an opportunity to reclaim her power. If you've ever felt overwhelmed by finances, doubted your ability to support yourself, or tied your worth to your financial situation, this episode will help you see what's really going on beneath the surface. Press play to learn how stepping into your worth—not just your wallet—is the

In You Could Be Having Better S-x  Dr. Nicole McNichols—dubbed "America's #1 S*x Professor" and one of the most popular lecturers at the University of Washington—translates cutting-edge research and data into a modern guide to pleasure, intimacy, and connection.   Her relatable, science-backed approach has turned her into a true sensation, both in the lecture hall and online, where her highly-engaged following of over half a million (Instagram and TikTok) looks to her for real talk about what stokes desire and builds confidence.   McNichols argues that pleasure is foundational to overall well-being. Her McNichols Hierarchy of Sexual Needs offers a roadmap for exploring s-x as self-knowledge And remember, you could be having a better experience with money too! Don't miss this FREE workshop: www.christinehassler.com/goodwithmoney

What if the belief holding you back today was formed in a single moment from your past? In Part 2 of this powerful coaching series, Christine takes Tiffany deeper—into the exact core memory that shaped one of her most limiting beliefs: "I'll get it wrong." After a year of immense loss (explored in Part 1), Tiffany begins to uncover how a painful childhood experience—being publicly embarrassed by a close friend—created patterns of self-protection, hypervigilance, and emotional shutdown that have followed her into adulthood. Rather than simply reframing the belief, Christine guides Tiffany through a real-time rewiring process—helping her reconnect with her younger self, express unspoken emotions, and shift from collapse into self-advocacy. This episode is a masterclass in what true healing looks like: not bypassing pain, but meeting it with presence, compassion, and a new response. If you've ever struggled with fear of rejection, self-expression, or "getting it wrong," this episode will show you how those patte

Struggling with money stress even when you're being responsible? In this episode, I explore how your relationship with money is shaped by subconscious beliefs, nervous system regulation, and childhood conditioning—and how shifting these patterns can lead to more ease, alignment, and financial freedom.   Join Kate Northrup's free Good with Money workshop here: christinehassler.com/goodwithmoney

What happens when loss isn't just one event—but becomes your entire reality? In this deeply emotional and raw coaching session, Christine works with Tiffany, who has experienced an overwhelming series of losses in a short period of time—losing her father, her longtime partner, her beloved pet, her home, and a major part of her physical body through surgery. When grief stacks like this, it doesn't just feel heavy—it can begin to feel like your new normal. Tiffany shares how she feels untethered, disconnected, and unsure how to move forward. Even with a background in personal growth and healing work, she finds herself in survival mode—struggling to feel grounded, supported, or clear on her next step. Christine offers a compassionate reminder: grief isn't something we're meant to process alone. Before trying to "figure it out," we need to be held, supported, and allowed to feel what's real. This episode is a powerful invitation to slow down, honor your grief, and recognize that healing begins with being witnesse

In this episode, I'm joined by my friend Kate Northrup for a conversation about why more money doesn't always create the sense of security we think it will. We talk about the deeper patterns that drive how we earn, spend, and relate to money—and how our nervous system plays a much bigger role than most people realize. Because if you've been doing all the "right" things but still don't feel the way you expected to, you're not alone. Kate shares how real change comes from creating internal steadiness first, so that growth actually feels sustainable—not stressful. She's hosting a free workshop called Good with Money, where she teaches how to shift your relationship with money at the root. You can join here: https://christinehassler.com/goodwithmoney 

You've done the therapy. You've learned the tools. You've processed your past. So why does your nervous system still feel like it's on edge? In this relatable and validating coaching session, Christine works with Kate, who has spent over a decade deeply committed to her healing journey. Despite major progress—healthy relationships, career growth, and emotional awareness—she still experiences intense nervous system reactions like anxiety, overwhelm, and shutdown. If you've ever felt like "I've done so much work… so why am I still triggered?"—this episode is for you. Christine offers a powerful reframe that shifts everything: what if your sensitive nervous system isn't a problem to fix—but a gift to learn how to work with? Through their conversation, they explore how trauma, sensitivity, and subconscious patterns can coexist with real growth—and why healing isn't about becoming "perfectly regulated," but about learning how to support your unique wiring. This episode will help you move out of self-judgment and i

Have you ever done the work to leave situations that no longer serve you—only to find that life still feels strangely flat? In this deeply honest coaching session, Christine works with Amber, who has spent the past five years navigating major life changes including a divorce, a difficult relationship that activated childhood wounds, and the grief that followed. Even though she has maintained friendships, hobbies, and healthy routines, something still feels missing. The joy she once felt has faded, and life feels muted—almost like she's going through the motions. Through their conversation, Christine helps Amber uncover a powerful insight: when the inner child doesn't feel safe, parts of our vitality, creativity, and emotional color can go offline. What may feel like apathy or stagnation can actually be a protective response from the nervous system. Together they explore people-pleasing patterns, suppressed anger, childhood survival strategies, and how reconnecting with the inner child can bring vitality back

Today's episode is a little different from my usual format. I'm going to start by sharing why inner child work matters so much, why so many people struggle to change patterns even after years of insight and therapy, and what actually needs to shift at the subconscious level for real transformation to happen. And then after that, I'm going to play a recording from a live Q&A and alumni panel that I hosted about my program, Rewired. In this conversation you'll hear people who have actually gone through the work talk about their experience — what changed for them, what surprised them, and what the process of repatterning subconscious safety strategies really looks like in real life. To join me for my live inner child course, go here: www.christinehassler.com/rewired

Why do we keep repeating relationship patterns even when we know better? In this honest and insightful coaching session, Christine works with Amanda, who recognizes a long-standing pattern of choosing partners with narcissistic traits, emotional avoidance, or chaotic lifestyles. Despite strong intuition warning her early on, she finds herself staying in these relationships until they reach a painful breaking point. Christine helps Amanda uncover the deeper root of the pattern: the inner child seeking to recreate familiar dynamics from childhood in hopes of finally receiving the love, validation, and stability that were missing. Through the conversation, Amanda begins to see how self-worth, validation, and unconscious beliefs about love have been influencing her choices. If you've ever wondered why you continue to repeat the same relationship dynamics — even after years of personal development work — this episode will help you understand how real change happens through re-parenting yourself and building a secu

What if the most honest answer right now is… I don't know? In this thoughtful and vulnerable coaching session, Christine works with Yasmine, who is navigating uncertainty in her relationship. She deeply values the emotional connection she shares with her partner, yet finds herself triggered by his financial instability and questioning whether this is a deal breaker. Christine helps Yasmine explore something deeper than "Should I stay or should I go?" Instead of rushing toward certainty, they unpack the childhood programming around independence, financial security, and self-reliance that may be shaping her attraction and her fear. The conversation opens a powerful invitation: sometimes clarity doesn't come from forcing a decision — it comes from doing the inner work and tolerating the discomfort of not knowing yet. If you're in a situation where there are many positives but one lingering concern, this episode will help you understand how uncertainty can actually be a doorway to growth rather than a sign to pan

In this episode, I'm on the other side of the mic. I was interviewed by coach and podcast host Andy Hoffer about inner child work — not as a theory, but as the deep patterning that continues to shape our relationships, decisions, and self-trust as adults. We talk about why so many people can be successful, self-aware, and still feel stuck… how childhood survival strategies quietly show up under stress… and what it actually takes to untangle these patterns in a way that creates real change. If you've done a lot of personal growth work but notice the same reactions, habits, or relationship dynamics repeating, this conversation will resonate. And if you want to go deeper, I invite you to my free masterclass, Untangled, where I teach how to break the childhood patterns that quietly run your adult life. Join at www.christinehassler.com/untangled (and you can learn more about Andy here: https://www.andyhoffercoaching.com/)

What if forgiveness isn't the next step? In this deeply honest coaching session, Christine works with Sylvie, who has been trying for years to reach forgiveness after a profound betrayal involving her ex-husband and a longtime friend. Despite therapy, spiritual work, and understanding that "forgiveness is for you," she finds herself stuck. Christine helps Sylvie uncover something powerful: sometimes forgiveness isn't blocked because we're not spiritual enough — it's blocked because we've skipped a step. When betrayal runs deep, especially when it touches childhood wounds of not being seen or valued, forgiveness may not be the first doorway. Confrontation, anger release, and self-advocacy might be. If you've ever tried to forgive but couldn't get there — or felt ashamed that you're still angry — this episode will help you understand why and what may actually need to happen first.  transcript   Consider / Ask Yourself: Is there someone you feel you "should" forgive but can't? Are you trying to spiritually bypa

We're moving from the introspective Year of the Snake into the bold, forward-moving Year of the Horse. Snake energy has been about shedding — old roles, patterns, identities that no longer fit. The Horse brings movement, courage, and momentum. But if you haven't fully released what surfaced this year, you may feel pushed instead of propelled. In this episode, I share what this energetic shift symbolizes and how to consciously move from reflection into aligned action — without burnout, without rushing, and without dragging the past forward.   And if you're ready to go deeper into untangling the patterns that keep repeating in your life, I'm teaching a free masterclass at christinehassler.com/untangled.

What happens when the life you imagined no longer fits—and letting go of a long-held dream feels both heartbreaking and necessary? In this deeply reflective coaching session, Christine works with Drew, who is standing at a powerful crossroads after years of personal growth, healing generational patterns, and navigating trauma. Drew feels a strong, love-based call toward motherhood, yet grapples with grief over releasing an old vision of how her life "should" look. Living near family provides the support she needs, but also triggers fears of failure, regression, and giving up on herself. Christine introduces the framework of the Hero's Journey, helping Drew reframe her experience not as loss—but as completion, integration, and embodied wisdom. If you've ever felt torn between who you were becoming and who you thought you were supposed to be, this episode will help you trust the path unfolding beneath your feet and honor the version of yourself that is emerging now.   Consider / Ask Yourself: Have you been gri

In this raw and deeply honest episode, I sit down with my husband to talk about his new book, Tuned In and Turned On — and we go where most couples don't. We explore what actually keeps desire alive in long-term relationships, why emotional truth matters more than technique, and how intimacy shifts when you stop performing and start tuning in. We share personal moments from our own relationship, the uncomfortable conversations that changed everything, and what happens when couples are willing to be radically honest with each other. Get your copy or copies of the book here: https://tunedinandturnedonbook.com/

In this episode, I sit down with bestselling author Mark Manson - bestselling author, best known for The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck, and co-founder of Purpose, the world's first AI mentor specifically built for personal growth.  We have a  wide-ranging, grounded conversation about why New Year's resolutions don't work, what "not giving a f*ck" actually means, and why meaning—not happiness—is the real foundation of a fulfilling life. We also explore the surprising pros and cons of using AI as a therapist, the limits of mindset-only self-help, and where personal responsibility can turn into self-punishment if we're not careful. This conversation is honest, nuanced, and refreshingly free of spiritual bypass—perfect for anyone who's tired of self-improvement clichés and ready for real growth.