Marriage Radio: Helping Your Marriage

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Are you living with your spouse but feel like you're just living with a roommate? Do conversations revolve only around finances, kids, and chores, rather than the fun and passion you once shared? Many couples experience what's called a "companionate relationship," where intimacy and commitment are present, but the crucial elements of passion and eroticism have faded, often leaving one spouse yearning for more oneness and excitement. This often happens when deep security and intimacy lead to a level of predictability that can, over time, "de-eroticize" the relationship.But there's a powerful secret to reigniting that spark: Planned Surprise.While intimacy thrives on trust and predictability, allowing you to not worry about what's coming next, eroticism and passion flourish on "something new, something different, something unexpected". Predictability, in fact, kills eroticism.In this video, we reveal how to bridge this gap and s

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!You want to save your marriage, but your spouse doesn’t seem interested. What now?In this powerful episode, Kimberly Beam Holmes and Dr. Joe Beam walk you step-by-step through how to approach your spouse about working on the marriage—even if they’ve checked out, are asking for a divorce, or are involved with someone else.You’ll learn how to:Overcome the fear of asking your spouse for helpAvoid common mistakes that push your spouse further awayUse a proven, non-manipulative framework to invite your spouse to a Marriage Helper workshopUnderstand and validate your spouse’s objections—while staying calm, confident, and respectfulIdentify your spouse’s true motivations (even ones you don’t agree with) and speak to what matters most to themPlus, discover how to navigate tricky objections like:“I don’t believe in counseling”“This won’t fix anything”“It’s too expensive”“I just want the divorce”Whether your spouse is emotionally distant, hostile, or seemingly indifferent, this video g

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!What happens to a marriage when life doesn’t just get hard—it breaks you?In this deeply honest and emotional conversation, Cassia shares her and Cory’s journey of staying married while raising a medically fragile child, navigating grief after miscarriages, and confronting the realities of long-term caregiving. From ambulance rides every three weeks to learning how to love when there’s no guarantee of being loved back, their story is one of resilience, raw faith, and choosing to show up—day after day.If you're parenting in hard circumstances, walking through suffering, or just wondering how couples stay connected in crisis, this episode is for you.

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!This is one of the wildest marriage stories we’ve ever seen.When Elisa walked into our couples workshop, she said, “I would rather die than stay married to this man.” She had already had four affairs. Marcos, her husband, had just retaliated with one of his own. They had already divorced once, remarried, and were still stuck in a cycle of resentment, control, and disconnection.By all accounts, their marriage was over.But what happened next turned everything around—and what they learned during that process could change your marriage too.This case study isn’t just about betrayal. It’s about transformation—how love, humility, and the right tools helped two people rewrite their story against all odds.If your marriage feels hopeless, their journey may be the spark of hope you need.If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!In today’s episode, we tackle one of the most emotionally charged topics in relationships: narcissism. Whether your spouse has called you a narcissist, or you're wondering if they might be one, this conversation cuts through the confusion and cultural noise.Kimberly Beam Holmes is joined by Meredith Ball, a Marriage Helper certified coach, to unpack the real meaning of narcissism—what it is, what it isn’t, and why it's become the go-to label in so many hurting relationships.

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!When your marriage feels like it's falling apart, it's tempting to search for answers—especially ones that explain your spouse’s behavior. Maybe you’ve wondered, "Could they be a narcissist?" or "Do they have bipolar disorder?"In this episode, Kimberly Beam Holmes is joined by Marriage Helper coach and counselor Meredith Ball to unpack the dangers of diagnosing your spouse. You’ll learn why it’s natural to want clarity, but how labeling your spouse can backfire—leading to more disconnection instead of healing.We’ll discuss:Why people self-diagnose their spouseThe risks of assigning mental health labels without professional helpHow to focus on what’s actually within your controlThe surprising way real healing startsIf you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!He did everything “right”—worked hard, stayed loyal, provided for his family.But when his wife left him for his own brother… he didn’t fight.He tried to understand. He felt bad for them.And somehow, he believed that was love.In this real-life conversation from Marriage Helper, we unpack the painful truth behind passive behavior in marriage—and how it often pushes a spouse away more than anything else.This isn't just a story of betrayal. It’s a wake-up call for anyone who’s given up their identity in the name of sacrifice… and lost their marriage in the process.You'll discover:Why empathy without boundaries can become self-sabotageHow passivity kills attractionThe real difference between panic and passionAnd why ownership is the turning point between wishing and winningWhether you're in a marriage crisis or stuck in survival mode, this episode is your invitation to stop letting life happen to you—and start choosing who you want to become.If you're strugglin

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!What do you say when a friend confesses they’re struggling with pornography? Whether they admitted it directly or you discovered it by accident, knowing how to respond can feel overwhelming. In this honest and compassionate episode, Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Beam Holmes guide you through how to handle these conversations with empathy, truth, and clarity.They discuss the spiritual, relational, and physiological effects of pornography and how to walk with someone you care about toward hope and healing. Whether you're supporting a friend or facing this struggle yourself, there is a way forward.

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!You've probably heard people talk about "manifesting" their ideal relationship or saving their marriage just by thinking positive thoughts. But when your marriage is in crisis, hope alone isn’t a strategy. In this episode, Kimberly Beam Holmes—CEO of Marriage Helper and trained performance psychologist—breaks down why traditional manifestation falls short and what actually works when your relationship feels like it’s falling apart.You'll discover 3 research-backed mental techniques that high-performing individuals use to overcome adversity—adapted specifically to help you save your marriage:✔ Visualization (the right way)✔ Resilience-building breathing exercises✔ The power of intentional practiceIf your marriage is on the brink, but you're too scared to take the next step, this video will give you the tools to begin. It's not about perfection—it's about progress.If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: T

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!What happens when a well-meaning husband provides, protects, and leads—yet still finds himself blindsided by his wife's decision to walk away? In this powerful episode, Dr. Joe Beam and Nathan McIntyre unpack a real-life story of a man who thought he was doing everything “right” in his marriage… until it all fell apart.You'll hear:✔ Why many spouses feel emotionally abandoned even when their physical needs are met✔ How "doing the right thing" can still create emotional distance✔ What pushes and pulls are—and how they impact your relationship✔ The silent warning signs your spouse may be reaching their limitIf you’ve ever wondered “Why did my spouse leave when I was giving so much?” - this episode is for you. Nathan shares practical insights from hundreds of conversations with men and women in marriage crisis, and offers real hope for those ready to change, reconnect, and rebuild.If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource:

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Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!The silent treatment isn't always intentional. When your spouse emotionally checks out, it creates a painful void that can feel impossible to bridge. Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Holmes tackle this common marriage struggle with uncommon honesty, revealing the hidden causes behind emotional disconnection.If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Research shows that four specific communication behaviors during arguments can predict divorce with 80-90% accuracy, while eliminating these behaviors can dramatically improve marriage success.• The four horsemen of relationship conflict are defensiveness, criticism, contempt, and stonewalling• Defensiveness deflects blame and responsibility, creating a downward spiral in communication• Criticism attacks a partner's character rather than addressing specific behaviors• Contempt is the most dangerous pattern, involving feelings of superiority toward your partner• Stonewalling occurs when one partner mentally or physically shuts down during conflict• The antidote to stonewalling is taking a purposeful break with the intention to resume later• Taking time to cool down and process emotions leads to more productive conflict resolution• Sometimes sleeping on an issue provides needed perspective, contrary to "don't go to bed angry" advice• Breaking these harmful c

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Ever found yourself wondering why your spouse doesn't just "get it" without you having to say anything? You're not alone. Marriage communication breaks down in predictable patterns, but understanding these patterns is your first step toward meaningful change.If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!What happens in a marriage when one spouse says those three devastating words: "I hate you"? This powerful exploration takes us deep into the psychology of hatred in intimate relationships, revealing surprising truths about how love and hate function as parallels rather than opposites.If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!What happens in a marriage when one spouse says those three devastating words: "I hate you"? This powerful exploration takes us deep into the psychology of hatred in intimate relationships, revealing surprising truths about how love and hate function as parallels rather than opposites.If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!There's a lot of bad marriage advice out there. Control and manipulation tactics. Tracking, spying and hacking your spouses devices. Having an open marriage. Watching pornography together.We've heard counselors, therapists and other marriage "experts" tell people to do these things because it can lead to the reconciliation of the marriage. THIS IS HORRIBLE ADVICE.After decades of working with thousands of couples, we know what works and what does not. We also know the best empirically-based research that has been verified by the worlds leading researchers. So let's talk about all of these tips and advice that some people have said is a great idea. We want to go ahead and bust ALL of the myths out there that these things can lead to a better marriage.If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!What happens when a marriage suffers from both of the top relationship killers – affairs and controlling behavior? Marcos and Elisa take us through their raw, unfiltered journey of shattered trust and the painstaking process of rebuilding it from the ground up.If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!If you’ve ever felt your relationship is struggling due to miscommunication, this episode is for you. Join us as we explore the compelling concept of SMART Contact™—a vital communication strategy designed to bring couples closer, even during turbulent times. We delve into the intricate balance of pushes and pulls in conversations, revealing how understanding these dynamics can transform your communication and foster deeper connections.If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Is your marriage at risk because of limerence? In this episode of Relationship Radio, Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Beam Holmes break down the science behind limerence—what it is, how it differs from romantic love, and why it can be so destructive in marriage.You’ll learn:✔️ The key differences between limerence and true love✔️ How to tell if you or your spouse are experiencing limerence✔️ A powerful tool to assess if boundaries have been crossed✔️ What to do if limerence is threatening your marriageIf you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage