Simply Abundant Intuitive

Are you physically avoiding someone in your own home? Running to another room when you hear their footsteps? Your body knows what your mind tries to rationalize away. Sometimes we find ourselves in situations where our nervous system screams "danger" even when logically we know we're safe. Tracy gets brutally honest about living with her narcissistic mother and the physiological response that has her literally hiding in her own house. In this episode, Tracy explores: * Why your body reacts before your mind catches up * How childhood patterns show up in adult responses * Living with toxic family members who gaslight * The difference between intellectual awareness and emotional healing "We don't really change unless it's going to benefit us in some way." ~ Tracy Crossley

Are you exhausting yourself chasing dreams that aren't even yours? Twisting yourself into a pretzel trying to become someone you're not? Every year on this planet, you have a choice: become more bitter or grow. But here's the deal—all that trying is actually making you emptier. Stop trying to prove yourself. Start being yourself. In this episode, Tracy explores: * What are you trying to prove and who are you trying to prove it to? * Why "I'll try" is weak energy that keeps you stuck * How to live from your real motivation, not your ego "When you stop trying, you pay attention to the real motivation from your real self—not from your ego, not from your insecurities, not from your state of lack." ~ Tracy Crossley

Caught in a cycle of blaming others for how you feel? You might think self-acceptance comes from others accepting you first. Wrong. That approach builds walls, creates resentment, and slowly kills your relationships. Codependency, anyone? Giving the remote control to your emotions to someone else NEVER leads to self acceptance. In this episode, Tracy explores: * Why you feel resentment rather than acceptance * What is a trigger that leads you to a world of hurt? * How to actually accept yourself. "Where there is judgment, love is not happening in those moments ~ Love of yourself or the other person." ~ Tracy Crossley

You keep ignoring your gut to please everyone else. Reacting to what others want instead of tuning into what YOU need. Sound familiar? When was the last time you actually checked in with yourself before jumping through hoops to meet someone else's expectations? We're taught to react to others, to do "the right thing" according to everyone but ourselves. Your worth becomes tied to how well you anticipate and please the people around you. Meanwhile, your true feelings get buried deeper with each fake smile, each time you say "yes" when you mean "no." In this episode, Tracy explores: * Why we abandon our feelings to meet others' expectations * How "doing the right thing" disconnects you from yourself * The myth of mind-reading in relationships * Three ways you dismiss your feelings daily * Recognizing when you're reacting vs. honoring yourself "As long as you don't give a f*** about your feelings, nobody else will. You teach people how to treat you." ~ Tracy Crossley

Ever notice how you contort yourself to fit what someone else wants? When you play small, hide parts of yourself, or pretend to be something you're not just to have a relationship? You can't have happiness when you're living a half-life. Subservience to an ideal—whether it's a relationship, a lifestyle, or some fantasy version of yourself—is just another prison you've built. Ready to stop contorting yourself into someone else's idea of perfect? This episode will help you recognize where you're sacrificing your authenticity and how to reclaim the real you. In this episode, Tracy explores: * Why suppressing your authentic self guarantees relationship failure * How avoidants develop "imposter syndrome" in relationships * The exhausting pattern of hiding who you are to please others "No one who wants to suppress you and you wanting to suppress you makes nobody happy. Remember that. Happy people don't need another person to make them happy."

Do you carry a burden of guilt and responsibility that doesn't belong to you? Feel like something's wrong with you even when everything in your life is going right? That's the lasting impact of growing up with a narcissistic parent—where their stories become your emotional prison. In this raw and revealing episode, Tracy explores her own journey with her narcissistic mother and the breakthrough moment that finally released her from decades of guilt. Ready to drop the weight you've been carrying? In this episode, Tracy explores: * The guilt that follows you everywhere * Why communication attempts always fail * When you realize it was never your fault * Moving from knowledge to emotional freedom * Taking emotionally risky action "There is not one damn thing I could have ever done as a child or as an adult that she could have been a different person or would react differently. I just saw her in her own little bubble." ~ Tracy Crossley

Something's missing in your life. You feel it. You know it. But you keep telling yourself everything's fine. That gnawing emptiness? The one you try to fill with advice from friends about your dating life or career choices? It's not going away until you face what's really happening. You're trapped in patterns YOU created. In this raw conversation, Tracy digs into why you keep hitting the same walls in relationships and life. It's not about getting more advice—it's about finally seeing the truth about yourself. In this episode, Tracy explores: * Why your emotions keep you stuck in destructive patterns * How self-deception blocks authentic connections * The uncomfortable work of real self-awareness * Breaking through fear to build genuine relationships * Using soul plan readings to uncover your true purpose "Your patterns aren't happening TO you. They're happening THROUGH you." ~ Tracy Crossley

Still blaming politics, society, or other people for your problems? Think a new job, relationship, or president will fix your life? Wrong. In this raw conversation with Matthew Krayton, founder of Publitics and political consultant, he and Tracy cut through the BS of externalization. You'll hear why looking outside yourself for answers is the biggest trap you're setting for yourself. Stop waiting. Start living. In this episode, Tracy explores: * Why blaming others locks you in frustrating cycles * How personal patterns mirror larger societal patterns * The uncomfortable but necessary work of facing yourself * Social media's dangerous role in fueling blame and isolation * Breaking patterns by questioning your beliefs "The only way that you break some of those cycles is being able to have a clear eye toward what those things are and not sugarcoating or not looking at our past through rose-colored glasses." ~ Matthew Krayton

Those past relationships that seem to have a special place in your heart, anyone come to mind? I know putting someone who’s no longer in your life into a special place can feel warm and fuzzy, but is it just an escape? When we aren’t finding meaning in the present, we often escape—imagining an ex was "the one who got away" or reminiscing about "better times" that weren't actually better. Who were you back then? In reality, yes reality. What was the meaning of the relationship that ended at the time? Believe me, you're not missing out on some magical connection—you're feeling a void in the present. Meaning can be found here in the present, real meaning not a fantasized version of the past. In this episode, Tracy explores: * Glorifying past relationships–why do we do it? * What is truth vs reality? * Why do you want to detach from idealized memories? The importance of fulfilling meaning for yourself. "It feels so much better to be yourself and to be here in the moment and creating the life that you actua

In this episode of Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life, Tracy sits down with Eitan Koter, co-founder and CEO of VIMMI, to unpack the real story behind building a successful company from the ground up—without outside funding and without a clear roadmap. Eitan shares how childhood confidence, a few powerful words from his mother, and a relentless commitment to listening shaped his path from corporate leadership to entrepreneurial freedom. This is not just about business—it's about grit, reinvention, and learning to lead with empathy and intention. In this episode, you’ll learn: * How confidence and clarity often come from small but defining moments * Why being lost can lead to the most aligned career shifts * The mindset shift from employee to entrepreneur * What it takes to grow something real—without chasing the noise "Authenticity is non-negotiable." ~ Tracy Crossley

Think you’re not playing games in love? Think again. The waiting, the silence, the unspoken rules—it’s all part of the game. And the worst part? You’re playing against yourself. When dating feels like a power struggle, it’s not about them—it’s about your own fears and insecurities running the show. In this episode, we’re breaking down why love isn’t about chasing, proving, or waiting. It’s about showing up as your real, honest self. No more strategy. No more guessing. Just real connection. What You’ll Learn: ✔️ How dating games keep you stuck in low self-worth ✔️ The hidden ways you sabotage relationships ✔️ Why emotional maturity is the key to real love ✔️ A mindset shift that changes everything "Love isn’t a game, but if you’re playing one, you’re the one who’s losing." ~ Tracy Crossleydating with confidence

Feeling trapped? Whether it’s your relationship, job, or just life in general, the real prison isn’t outside of you—it’s inside. Avoidance, fear, and old wounds keep you stuck, convincing you that escaping is the answer. But what if the only way out is to stop running? In this episode, we break down the hidden patterns that keep you feeling stuck and how to finally break free. No more avoiding. No more excuses. It’s time to reclaim your power. What You’ll Learn in This Episode: * Why feeling trapped is really a trauma response * How avoidance keeps you stuck in self-sabotage * The hidden fears blocking emotional risks * A simple exercise to stop running and start choosing "We try so hard not to get trapped, and yet we trap ourselves in the very act of avoiding it. The real prison isn’t out there—it’s inside of you." ~ Tracy Crossley

Think your happiness depends on someone else changing? Think again. In this episode, we’re tackling the hard truth: no one—not your partner, boss, friends, or family—can make you feel better. The only way to break free from frustration, attachment, and control is by looking inward. Because until you deal with yourself, the same patterns will keep repeating. If you’re tired of waiting for others to change, this episode is your wake-up call. Let’s shift the focus back where it belongs—on you. What You’ll Learn: * Why controlling others never leads to happiness * How to break free from attachment and insecurity * The real reason you feel stuck in toxic cycles * A mindset shift that will change all your relationships "No one is coming to save you. If you’re waiting for someone to change so you can finally be happy, you’re giving away the one thing that’s actually yours: your power." ~ Tracy Crossley

What will make you feel good even when life is delivering thorny roses? Crisis is everywhere these days. Many of you might be stuck in survival mode, clinging to external situations that must change before you feel okay. The real solution? Learning to create your own sense of feeling good—no matter what is going on! These toxic cycles can keep you struggling to feel truly happy or free of anxiety. It’s time to stop outsourcing your well-being, especially to people who struggle with their own and start feeling less anxious, and trusting your choices—on your terms. What You’ll Learn: * Chasing relationships, success, or control is not the way to abundance * Toxic cycles control you, let’s stop it! * Misconceptions about happiness * The mindset that changes everything “You don’t ‘find’ happiness—you just need to know how to create it. Waiting for something to make you feel good,is giving away control of your emotional state. It makes you powerless.” how ~ Tracy Crossley

You know that person in your life who bugs the crap out of you? The one you keep a list of things they should do differently from your perspective. Well, do you know yourself to that degree too? Here’s the deal. How well you know yourself and your operating system can make a difference in the quality of your life. From relationships to work, you are the common denominator. So if you aren’t happy with the status quo, listen in. Let’s get to the core of identity. Not the labels, not the roles, but who you are. It is when everything shifts—your happiness, relationships, and confidence. Break the cycle of attachment to what doesn't serve you. It’s time to stop performing and start being. What You’ll Learn: * Why looking for emotional shelter keeps you stuck—let’s break free * Beliefs shaping your reality (let’s change them) * Feeling at home in your own skin *How to create more joy and meaning Ready to live your life? Hit play. "You’re not a label. You’re not your job, your relationship, or anyone’s expecta

Think a healthy relationship is all about effortless love and constant happiness? Think again. Real, fulfilling partnerships aren’t built on fairy tales—they require self-awareness, emotional clarity, and letting go of the idea that someone else will "fix" you. Most of us unknowingly carry baggage from childhood, shaping our expectations and reactions in relationships. When drama disappears, old wounds surface. Instead of looking to a partner for rescue, true connection begins when you take responsibility for your emotional world. Key Insights You'll Gain: * Why your partner can't fix you—and why that's freeing. * The unexpected discomfort that comes with emotional stability. * How to stop using blame as a shield and build real intimacy. * Why winning an argument often means losing in the long run. "Healthy grows you into a happier version of yourself." ~ Tracy Crossley

Attachment means you live in an itsy bitsy world, regardless of what it looks like on the outside. You are after a feeling that comes once in a while or never. The feeling of safety or security. This started in childhood. Unknowingly it has limited your relationships, self-worth, and personal growth. Let’s scrap these behaviors, pain and feeling like no matter what you are back at it again. You can do it! Key Insights: * Childhood experiences are in the middle of your adult relationships. * Avoidant attachment wants a hot fudge sundae, but leaves the hot fudge off. * Believing in yourself that it can be different is possible. * How to know if you are growing will be answered too. "Only if it affects the inside, and it's how it affects the inside, does it really change your perception of yourself and how you see the world." ~ Tracy Crossley

I bet you think you do most things “correctly; then something comes out of left field knocking you over. The creeping feeling of "not good enough" can be felt. You then look at how you should’ve been better, did it differently, etc. This whole conversation is self-sabotage. Tune in on stopping the sabotage, feeling good even when there’s drama or issues and grow your self-awareness. By observing how you get triggered, wouldn’t it be great to stop judging yourself and let go? Key Insights You'll Gain: * Perfectionism steals all the fun! * Don’t kick out the negative emotions, learn what to do with them. * Getting out of the armchair and getting to living beyond your inner judge!

Are you stuck in a tug-of-war between two versions of yourself? In this episode, Tracy explores the inner conflict between your "Dr. Jekyll" self—the love-driven, positive you—and your "Mr. Hyde" self—the fear-driven, avoidant you. These two sides shape how you approach relationships, responsibilities, and emotional growth, often without you even realizing it.

Are you your own worst enemy in relationships? Whether it’s anxious clinging or avoidant distancing, attachment issues often create cycles of fear and emotional avoidance that sabotage the love and intimacy you crave. In this episode, Tracy dives deep into the hidden forces driving these patterns and shares how stepping into self-responsibility can transform your connections from the inside out.