Live From Love

I think we have covered all the reasons we don’t want sex.  But have you ever wondered why people do have the desire for sex? It is more than for physical release, relief of stress or because we love someone.   According to one group of young adults, they noted up to 237 reasons for sex.. . .but there is actually just one main reason.  I will share that secret along with a few more that follow. I will also share some valuable information on the not-so-obvious differences between men and women when it comes to your sex life. If this is your first time here- welcome.  Get ready to learn and grow in your relationship like never before.

I am so excited to welcome Anjanette Ludwig to my podcast.  Anjanette is an amazing life coach helping moms and teens connect.  She is the life coach I hired to coach my own kids. . .and she is also my client.   I believe she has the secret many of us are missing in our relationships.   And if you are considering me as your coach, she will tell you more about how that has worked for her. This podcast will hit home to everyone, because it will benefit all relationships and connections.

Welcome to Sexual Communication Part 2.  Let's get back to where we left off last week.  Today I will share the very first communication skill you need in your marriage. It is a pre-requisite to the other 7 skills I am going to share with you.  It begins with figuring out what you need from your relationship and ends with having gratitude for what you already have.  Join me as we walk through each skill and how to obtain it.

Good sexual communication is an extension of good general communication, so let’s start there.  Often times the troubles we experience with our partners when it comes to sex, and just in general, stem from different communication styles. The ability to communicate clearly is an uncommon skill, and yet it’s the key to good relationships, including sexual ones. In this episode, find out the 4 most common faulty beliefs that keep us from having good sexual communication.

You asked for it - you got it.  To all of you women who are the higher desire partner - here you go. This podcast will go over emotional, physical and psychological reasons why your spouse may not have the same level of desire you do. We will discuss some underlying reasons that may be the culprit.  Some conditions may need to be addressed or you may just need to fill the gap between you with some conversation and understanding.  Whatever the reasons might be or whatever the distance of the gap between you, there are answers. There are solutions. 

Are you convinced your libido is shot? Do you feel like you have nothing left to give at the end of the day?  Stress, illness, medication, hormones or sheer exhaustion are all reasons you may feel like your sexual desire is not where you would like it.  This week on the podcast let’s discuss where your libido went and how to get it back. 

One topic I hear often from my clients is that their kids are ruining their sex life.  They are so exhuasted from being a mom, that sex is the last thing they want or have time for.  Today I have good news - it doesn’t have to be this way.  I am going to tell you why putting that relationship first is critical. I will teach you how to show your kids that you love them - but also show them that your spouse comes first. It is the best thing you can do for your kiddos.  If you are married with children - this podcast is not to be missed.

One of my favorite things I get to do is help women discover how they orgasm so they can experience greater pleasure in their sexual encounters and build a better sexual relationship with their spouse.  I will share two main reasons women don’t have orgasms and a few suggestions of ways to fix it.  This podcast is not only for those who can’t orgasm, but I also share ways to understand your body and some options to make a good sexual relationship even better.

Your brain probably tells you your husband just wants sex - and that it has very little to do with you.  What if you were wrong?  What if it actually does?  Today in the podcast, I am going to explain the difference between men and women in the way they express love and closeness.  Today is about cleaning up the thoughts around this. You might just feel a closer connection than ever before.

I am so excited to have Licensed Marriage  and Family Therapist and Author, Laura Brotherson join me on the podcast this week.  So much of what I have learned has been from Laura.  We will be answering the question of what exactly auditory arousal is and ways to access it.  Most importantly, we will discuss the benefits that take place with verbal communication during sex. Simple words or phrases during lovemaking can bring in an entirely different dimension to your experience with your spouse. Learn how this can keep your busy and distracted brain engaged. These small auditory sounds or words in the bedroom may take your sexual experience to a whole new level.  So let’s do this.   Laura M. Brotherson, LMFT, CST, CFLE Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and Certified Sex Therapist (CST), Laura M. Brotherson is the founder of The Marital Intimacy Institute with a mission to help couples create "sextraordinary" marriages. She counsels with individuals, couples and families in private practice (and onl

Most of us consider ourselves to be honest people, to have integrity. It may surprise you that this isn’t always the case. Can you speak truthfully to your partner when it comes to your sexual relationship. . .or do you let some things slide to save hurting your partner? It’s also possible the person you are deceiving the most, is yourself. But why? Today I will answer this question as well as share the top 4 reasons honesty will benefit your relationship and how to better achieve this.

We know we don’t. . . we aren’t sure why. . . but we just don’t. So many of us do not feel comfortable talking about sex - even to our spouse. Our parents didn’t talk to us much about intimacy and so we aren’t sure how to talk to our children. Today on the podcast I will bring a few ideas to the table. I will share some tips to help you open up and talk more openly with your spouse. I have some thoughts on what works and what doesn’t - so let me help you out. We’ve got this.

This week I had the privilege of interviewing Valerie Schwalbe from Well Being Physical Therapy in Murray Utah, specializing in the pelvic floor. If you have pain during sex, pelvic pain, leaking of any type, pelvic floor strain, feeling the effects of childbirth (episiotomy, scar tissue, prolapse, discomfort) or help with athletic performance - this podcast is for you. I think this covers just about everyone. You will learn what your pelvic floor supports and why it is just as critical to have therapy for the pelvic muscles as much as you would need therapy for a knee after surgery, She and I also tap into some of the reasons for sexual pain - the physical as well as emotional. Her treatment aligns heart and mind with the body. What you are experiencing may be common - all your friends may have the same problem - but that doesn’t mean it is normal. If you are in the Utah area, Valerie is seeing patients at Well Being Physical Therapy. https://www.wellbeingphysicaltherapy.com Or you can go to www.pelvicrehab.

Bonus Episode!!!! I recently did a LIVE event on Creating Desire and decided that I wanted to share it with my entire audience because it was just too good not to share! For more information on what I share go to http://amandalouder.com/groups

Let’s talk about fantasy. When it comes to sex, what is an appropriate fantasy and what is not? What benefits the marriage and what destroys it? Today I will teach you the difference - as well as how to incorporate sexual fantasies into your relationship to benefit both parties.

Every magazine seems to have different tips for a great sex life.  But Hollywood doesn’t have the corner market on YOUR sex life. It’s time to look inside ourselves and our spouse to see what creates a beautiful intimate relationship for us.  One that works for both of us. Today I will share the need for body, mind, and spirit connectivity in creating the pleasure you are seeking.  I will teach you about the importance of understanding your body and your spouse's body and then opening yourself up to communication, acceptance, and vulnerability. When body, mind, and spirit align, that is when great sex takes place.

Today’s podcast is packed with fun and valuable information. If you have children you already know there is a distinct difference in the way little boys and little girls perceive their bodies. Those differences tend to remain stuck in our brains into adulthood. I will share insight as to why that is and how you may be missing some of the greatest pleasures in your life - sexual arousal. You might be aroused and not even know it. Your brain just needs to catch up to what your body is already doing - because it knows how. Let’s work together to fix that!

Get ready. . .because the title of today’s podcast may already have you squirming. But understanding and getting help with anal sex is only one topic I will be discussing. You will learn about emotional pressure - what it is - and when it’s not OK. I have some awesome tips for communicating openly and honestly with your spouse concerning your desires. . .and theirs. How can you come to a clear agreement on what you both want or need? Listen up and I will walk you through the needed steps to resolve these issues and more.

Today I am tackling the topic of mindfulness during sex. Mindfulness is all about being present and aware of what is going on around you. If you are able to create a grocery list while you are having sex, this episode is for you. I will share tips on how to curb your racing brain and focus on what emotions are happening inside of you. I will also address slowing down or calming your anxieties before you even get to the bedroom. This is one area we can stop multitasking, so let’s go!

Today I am going to take you on a journey from one end of the spectrum to the other when it comes to our bodies. On one end we find shaming, repressing and abusing the gift of our body and on the other end we find sexual indulgence. I will teach you where the middle ground for sexuality is and how it can be achieved.   Review the Podcast!