Live From Love

Is sex a need? The answer is no...kind of. There are differing viewpoints on how important sex is to each of us, but what we really need to look at is how important it is to us and how we can share that with our partners. Men and women, higher and lower desire partners need to meet their own needs as much as possible. Then your partner is just there for you to love.  It makes for a great marriage and a great relationship.

The 3 keys to any healthy sexual relationship are safety, trust, and vulnerability. And they all build on each other. If we don’t feel safe, we can’t trust our partner, and in turn, we can’t be completely vulnerable with them if we can’t trust them. That’s why we’re talking about safety, trust, and vulnerability in this episode. Let’s find ways to help you be courageous and choose to trust, feel safe, and be completely vulnerable with your partner.

I get asked a lot about desire. My clients notice that throughout the month they are either really ready for sex or they don’t want it at all. And then I ask them if they’ve ever tracked their cycle to see if these days coincide with what’s going on in their bodies. Most haven’t. So today we’re going to talk about what is happening in your body during your menstrual cycle and what that means for your sex life!

In our conservative Christian culture, oral sex comes with a lot of hang ups. But it doesn’t need to. In this episode, let’s talk about how amazing oral sex can be between you and your spouse. Let’s look at the hang ups that either spouse might have and see what we can do to help them. After all, a high percentage of women say that oral sex is the most reliable way for them to orgasm. There is a lot of pleasure to be had there. Maybe it’s time to give it a try?

I have some serious concerns about an upcoming Come, Follow Me lesson on pornography.  Hear my concerns and what you can do about it.   https://amandalouder.com/cfm-june-13-pornography/

We have all read those scriptures that tell us that thinking about sex is bad. But, what if we’re interpreting those scriptures wrong? In this episode, we explore what those scriptures actually mean and what that means for us and our fantasies. We all have them and that’s ok. Don’t fight against your fantasies! It’s the intention that matters!

Someone shared with me recently that their friend says she has a great sex life, but she won’t let her husband watch her undress because she doesn’t like her body after having a baby. I want to talk more about that in this episode. Can you really have a great sex life while hating your body? No. As much as you can’t hate yourself thin, you can’t be fully present in your sex life while hating how you look. It’s time to be your own best friend. Are you ready? Let’s go!

How can you go from good sex to great sex? I get so many messages from all of you who have listened to the podcast saying how much it has helped you. This is definitely my calling in life so I love hearing that! But as I work with more and more clients in a group coaching setting, I am realizing that the personalized help you get through group coaching can help your sex life even more! In this episode, I want to share with you an experience one of my clients had in a coaching setting. Can you go from good sex to great sex? Yes! If the podcast has made things good, imagine how much better group coaching would make it!

I got asked a question that I didn’t know the answer to so I brought in an expert! The question was about sex and menopause. Is it all over once you hit 50? It doesn’t have to be! Cami Hurst, a counselor and sex therapist from Meridian, Idaho joins me to in this episode to share her expertise on what to expect with your sex life and menopause. I learned so much from her about what’s happening in women’s bodies and most importantly what we can do about it! 

What do you want out of your marriage? I think we all want our marriages to be healthy and full of passion, right? But, how do you do that? Today I’m talking about the 4 keys to a healthy and passionate marriage. Can you disagree and still be close? Yes! Can you love your spouse for who they are, not who you wish they would be? Absolutely!

When something is scarce, you want it more! (Remember the toilet paper shortage of 2020?) So what does this have to do with sex and marriage? When you’re not having sex, you begin to be preoccupied with sex. I see this scarcity mindset show up in my coaching practice in two ways. Either you don’t have enough to give or you feel like you need to do more to be fulfilled. In today’s episode, we talk more about this scarcity mindset and how to change your mindset to make sex something for you not something you have to do.

What exactly is transactional sex?  The idea that your relationship could include this type of sex is probably something you may not even be aware of - but there’s definitely a subconscious tracking of who is doing what for who, and when.  Today I am going to give you 7 key warning signs that your sexual relationship is transactional and then what you can do about it.

Have you ever felt a sneeze coming on . . and then it’s gone? That is how some of my clients have described their disappearing orgasm.  So today, I have some information on why this happens and 8 steps to help you avoid the disappearing orgasm.  So let's go!

Whether you are in a tropical location, exploring a new city, or tucked away somewhere remote, time out of your usual routine is so good for the mind, body, and for your relationship. Today I will share six main reasons I believe a vacation for you and your partner is an important part of your marriage. I will let you in on a few secrets and tell you all about my 2-2-2 rule.  Want to know more? Tune in!

I am so excited for the podcast today. I will be joined by Dan Purcell. He and his wife Emily are the founders of “Get Your Marriage On.”  Dan is going to share some of his favorite ways to add some creativity into your sex life in a positive, uplifting and Christian based way.  If you thought game night always included the kids and monopoly, then listen up. This podcast is a game changer. . .literally.

When it comes to sex, sometimes you want a feast, sometimes you want a snack, and sometimes you go through periods of famine.  And today I am going to jump into what each of these might look like. I will teach you how to work through these different phases and build better communication and a strong foundation to help you understand why and how it happens.

Last year I had the opportunity to hear Stephanie Sorensen speak at a sexual education event.  I found myself completely fascinated and furiously taking notes. Today she will share many physiological and metaphorical connections between the pelvic floor and your voice.  Stephanie will teach you how anything from your stress level to being silenced will spill over into every aspect in your life - especially your sexuality.  Join me for a power packed podcast this week.

Did you know that we all tell ourselves lies as a way to protect ourselves?  On the podcast I am talking about what those lies look like in different aspects of your life and how we can change that.  I am going to teach you how to speak your truth, how to be true to yourself and others in a very kind and loving way.  It can feel scary, but I promise you the outcome is worth the risk.

According to the Maltz Hierarchy of Sexual Interaction there are 3 positive. . .and 3 negative levels of sex in a partnership. Today I will go into each level with some detail.  These levels are just to help you get an idea of where you are now and where you might want to go as your relationship evolves.  You can enhance your relationship as you move up the hierarchy. I hope to help those who are in the negative range do what they need to do to move out of the degrading, shaming or even abusive levels and climb up to a safe and healthy place.

We have all heard the phrase or experienced in real life that marriage requires hard work. But do you understand the why? Today I will let you in on the secret. I am also discussing how to be more at peace with yourself and others. I will talk about how to truly love yourself more. Loving and accepting yourself will help you love others more and help you achieve your “happily ever after.”