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When my daughter started behaving in ways I didn’t think she should I was flummoxed. I thought inside “I’m treating her well and meeting all her needs on-demand so what am I doing wrong?” She was acting defiant and expressing a lot of rage and this wasn’t part of my parenting plan which I was sure was going to work.  Tune in to hear more!

How do we support healthy self-esteem in our children? The first place to start is looking inside to your self-esteem.    When I took a deep dive inside I realized how insecure I felt in my parenting. I looked “good” on the outside because I was sitting in the seat of “power” and yet this was to cover my insecurity inside.    Tune into this week's episode for more! www.purejoyparenting.com

I found when looking outside for advice or methods to control my daughter’s behavior I wasn’t trusting my internal wisdom. Comparing myself with other parents was brutal. It seemed at the time that other parents didn’t struggle as much as I did. Tune into this episode to hear more about how I turned towards my own knowing, and how Purejoy supports you to do the same.  www.purejoyparenting.com

The reason we find it challenging not to take things personally is that when our children lash out it feels personal because of the story we’ve told ourselves - about ourselves.    We tell ourselves stories about what it means when our children say things about us, or when they won’t listen to us.   Tune into this week's episode to hear more about not taking things your children say or do personally! www.purejoyparenting.com

Feelings are a part of everyday life for children. They have a wide range of feelings and emotions that they experience, from big feelings to small ones. Have you practiced not taking them personally?  Tune into this episode to hear more about how to be with all the big feelings! www.purejoyparenting.com

We came into the world helpless and totally dependent on our caregivers to attend to our young needs. Each time we reached out our precious young arms we were met with either a tender loving smile and our vulnerable needs were met or our caregiver turned away claiming we were too demanding and taught us to take care of ourselves before we were ready. Tune into this week's episode to hear more about how to be with needs and desires. www.purejoyparenting.com

The holiday season is now in full swing. The decorations, the shopping, the family gatherings, and celebrations. It’s a wonderful time of year! But it can also be stressful, especially visiting family.    Choosing to parent your children differently than how you were parented can be a stress point when going home for the holiday. Tune in to this episode for some Purejoy support all about it! www.purejoyparenting.com

If reading this I KNOW you are seeking to create an environment for your children to feel loved and supported in living into their brilliance.   We have a strong desire to offer them unconditional love and an environment different than what we grew up in and yet at the same time question our parenting since it looks so different than how we were raised. Where does our humanness come into play?    www.purejoyparenting.com

Do you ever hear yourself saying to your kids, “You need to…..”   Maybe, it's cleaning their room, or eating their vegetables….homework anyone?    Of course, you need your child to do what they are supposed to do, right? And yet, when you refuse to take responsibility for it being your need, not your child's you are giving them a mixed message.   Tune into this episode for more support in owning your own needs. www.purejoyparenting.com

Do you believe you know what is best for your child? I know, I sure did. The parenting paradigm most of us were exposed to carries this view. The limitation of this view is that we find ourselves projecting onto our children the experiences we had which parallel theirs. Tune into this episode to hear more about healthy separation. www.purejoyparenting.com

In conscious parenting, the message we often hear is - connect, connect, connect. And yet, rarely do we hear about the importance of healthy separation in our relationships with our children. Tune into this episode to get some support with healthy separation in your parenting.  www.purejoyparenting.com

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Do you experience happiness emanating from inside and spreading out or coming from the outside and spreading in? Most of us were trained to attach happiness to an external event.  Tune into this week's episode to hear more about happiness as an internal experience. www.purejoyparenting.com

Have you noticed how transitions can be both exciting and scary? Settling into a rhythm, a pattern, or a way of being feels safe and secure, and yet in the river of life, there is always a flow.   Children are constantly shifting and changing as they grow and develop. And yet, it is easy as parents to crystallize our view coming to a conclusion about who our children are or are not. Tune into this week's episode as we talk about transitions!   www.purejoyparenting.com

Ever feel misunderstood and judged by the way you parent? Do others think you are permissive and question your style?   If others are not interested in hearing how you parent and, out of their discomfort, keep telling you how “wrong” you are for messing up your child, do you listen?    Tune into this week's episode to hear more about coming together in a new culture of parenting.  www.purejoyparenting.com

In my parenting, the number 1 challenge I experience is holding onto unrealistic expectations. Right? Do you remember before you had your first child? What were your fantasies? Your expectations on yourself? Tune into this week's episode to hear more about what to do with expectations! www.purejoyparenting.com

Seeing what your child is actually doing instead of focusing and believing they are ONLY doing the negative sends a message to your child that they are a whole human being experiencing positive and negative. If you focus only on the negative your child is hearing over and over they have a deficit which becomes their internal self-talk. The more balanced you see a situation the less emotionally charged you’ll be when supporting your child in learning skill sets that will support their growth.  Tune into this week's episode to hear more! www.purejoyparenting.com

As a parent, it is easy, to think what you believe is “right” casting your child as in the “wrong”. When this happens righteousness pops up defending and justifying your actions of pushing, pulling, or forcing your child to live into your high values.    I’m here to offer you another way of seeing. What if thinking you are right is just your first STOP on the elevator down to connecting with reality? Tune into this episode to find out what might be possible!   www.purejoyparenting.com

Synchronicity in parenting is the occurrence of meaningful coincidences that seem to have no cause. Tapping into this field offers a different lens to view certain situations and to enter a realm out of the ordinary. Have you ever thought of someone and you end up running into them at the store? Hmmmmm! What is that?    Tune into this week's episode to hear all about it!

When I adopted my daughter I was SURE I had it all together. I was going to be the best parent in the world and I was READY for my mission. So, when I found myself in the weeds struggling to get my 4-year-old to listen, I noticed that I was withdrawing love and protecting my heart. This led to a deep inquiry about what was going on inside my heart and why did I feel the need to protect it from this beautiful being that I so longed to give my heart to? Tune into this week's episode to hear more about open-hearted relating. www.purejoyparenting.com