Parenting Paused

On last week’s episode, we talked about how what you love in your child you love in yourself, and what you don’t like in your child, you don’t like in yourself. Everyone is pretty familiar with the negative side of this- calling your child lazy, rude, and entitled- is what you hate in yourself. In this week’s episode, Leslie dives into the positive traits, and how you might be taking over the traits you love in your child. See what it might be like to own the qualities you love in yourself, rather than projecting them onto your child. Sign up for the Happily Family Conference at www.purejoyparenting.com/blog

In this week's episode, Leslie breaks down how you most likely abandoned certain traits that are a part of your human experience. What happens when you see those abandoned traits in your child? Do you judge them? Act out on them?  Tune in to hear more about how to work with that and hear how Leslie learned about being an efficiency expert from her daughter. 

Are you truly connecting with your child? Or are you engulfing them, projecting your need for connection onto them, during your attempts to connect?   In conscious parenting, oftentimes importance is placed on connection with your child. This can feel very enticing for a parent with a void, or an unmet need to feel loved.  Then what happens is an “over connection” – basically connecting using your need to connect and feel loved as a guide, without considering the child and their needs or preferences.  Tune into this week's episode to hear more about how too much connection leads to unhealthy separation and signs your child might be exhibiting to tell you they feel engulfed.    www.purejoyparenting.com

This week on Parenting Paused, Leslie shares a saying in the Purejoy view that goes- talk to the feelings, not the story.  We live in a culture that values concepts.  We have tons of stories about many different things that have happened in our lives, our memories, and what we think is gonna happen in the future. And yet, often those stories are driven by feelings. Tune into this week's episode to hear more about how to talk to the feelings and not the story.

"Be Kind!" has become a very common phrase. But what does it really mean? The message being sent is really "be NICE" - which is often applied as abandoning yourself to take care of someone else's thoughts and feelings. Tune into this week's podcast to hear Leslie offer an alternative view of kindness that will transform your parenting.

As a child, when you expressed big desires, you might have been criticized by your caregivers. You likely internalized that critical voice and use it whenever you meet the intensity of your own big desire inside. Tune into this week's Parenting Paused Podcast to deep dive into the origins of your self-aggression and how it shows up in your parenting today.

You want your child to be FREE to be fully themselves.That’s what conscious parents are supposed to want, right?! It sounds great… but how does that really look?  How can you love your child fully, for who they are, when they are doing things that drive you crazy?  …and what about that nagging fear that if you let them fully be free, they might not want a connection with you?  That thought can really sting! In this week’s Parenting Paused Podcast episode Leslie Potter breaks down the idea that we should love our children for who they are - how to do it and what it TRULY means.

Have you ever had a day that just DID NOT go the way you wished for?   Tune into this episode to hear all about Leslie's recent 'Freaky Friday' and how she supported herself to stay in the present moment and choose how she wanted to be with it rather than positioning herself as a victim to some pretty freaky circumstances!

Does your child always listen to you? Does your child thank you for the meals you prepare? Does your child gladly put their clothes away? Does your child finish all their homework on time and independently?   HA! Most parents can't say yes to all those questions and in this week's episode Leslie breaks down how and why kiddos resist and what is going on in the relationship dynamics of parent and child in those moments.   Tune in to hear more about how becoming aware of this supports that you don't have to take their resistance or outbursts personally.

Last week we were taking a look at how young conclusions might be showing up in your parenting.  Emotional blackmailing is about what happens when you unconsciously, in an attempt to stay safe, use emotionally manipulative tactics to get what you want!  Tune into this episode to hear alternatives and what it looks like to set healthy personal boundaries instead.  www.purejoyparenting.com/safeseat

Last week on Parenting Paused we talked about how the way you were parented has a profound impact on how you now parent, and it may not be obvious the ways.   So this week Leslie shares more about why that is- how you came to conclusions when you were young and those conclusions may be at work below the surface of your parenting.   Part of becoming the parent you wish to be is to check out those early conclusions and in this episode, you will get support on how to do just that!   www.purejoyparenting.com

In your parenting journey have you ever said something like... I never want to be like my mom... Or I'm going to be just like my dad... One is about doing things differently, the other trying to be the same. And yet both are focused on how YOU were parented, rather than being in a relationship with your child.  This happens because how you were parented has a profound impact on how you parent.  Tune into this week's podcast with Leslie Potter to hear more about how and why this happens, how to take steps toward focusing on your own personal brilliance, and creating a parenting presence that shares that with your child.

Have you reached a point of no return in your parenting?   You're working so hard, you've tried everything, you can't seem to make any changes and be the parent you want to be and STILL, you find yourself blowing up, acting out, and doing exactly the opposite of what you intend to be.   Tune into this week's episode and listen to Leslie break the point of no return for you.   www.purejoyparenting.com/safeseat

In the Purejoy view, all feelings are welcome!   But what about the ones that you HATE? How you organize feelings, ones you like or don't like, is learned.   Tune into this week's episode to hear more about this and how feelings drive behavior. www.purejoyparenting.com

Hey Mama!   Do you ever feel stuck in your parenting? Does your child have behavior that drives you crazy- you want to get rid of it! You've probably tried so many things to get it to stop!   Of course, Mama- it can be so intense to stay with the feelings that come up in you- you might find yourself throwing that hot potato right back as we talked about last week.   But in this week's episode, Leslie breaks down how to work with that sense of being stuck inside you- so you can bring awareness to your patterns and get out!

Attunement- a word often used in attachment parenting, or conscious parenting, about tuning into your child's feelings.   What is not often talked about is how attuning can often bring up uncomfortable or unresolved feelings inside of you, feelings you have organized your life not to feel.   Tune into this week's podcast to hear more about the energy of those feelings and what happens when you catch the emotional hot potato from your child. Get your free five-day SafeSeat Course delivered to your inbox at www.purejoyparenting.com/safeseat

This week’s podcast wraps up a 4 part series we’ve been working through over the last few weeks- about The Origins of Mom-guilt! We talked about true cooperation versus demanding compliance, how to be with the heat of rage, and the heaviness of disappointment, and this week we are turning to another feeling that you most likely don’t like! But any time you don’t want to feel a feeling- you have to leave yourself or self-aggress. In the Purejoy view- we see guilt as a refusal to truly intimate with whatever is coming up in the moment. Tune into this week's episode to hear more about how that works, and what might be more true of you and your desire to be in open-hearted relationship with your child.

We've been working through some of the energetic dynamics that show up in your parenting. Cooperations vs Compliance, the Energetics of Rage, and this week we are going to take a closer look at what happens when you get disappointed in your parenting.  You know this, yeah? How you promise you will do better, be better- not yell, or force, that you will get the kids to listen.  And then it doesn't happen. Over and over again.  Tune into this episode to hear more about how you may be setting yourself up for disappointment, and how to be with it. 

Red hot rage! Do you know about this?   When you ask your child to do something and they say 'NO'!   Whew! It can be so intense to feel anger and rage in the face of your child.   And yet that fire is there. You might yell, scream, raise your voice or lash out.   Tune into this week's episode to hear more about how to work with the energetics of rage in your parenting.   www.purejoyparenting.com

More than likely you want your child to cooperate, yeah? And what happens when they don't? If they say no? Do you get frustrated? Demand? Seek for their compliance? It can be a lot! In this week's episode, Leslie talks about what supports a cooperative spirit in children, and what doesn't. Hear about ways to recognize where you might be holding a hidden agenda, and how to work with what arises in you so that you can find connection and cooperation in the present moment with your kiddo.  www.purejoyparenting.com