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In this episode, Weeze and Trudi explore how to screen your coaches for their stance on diversity, equity, and inclusion in their work. If diversity, equity, inclusion, and anti-racism is something you're taking on in your life, you should be making sure that the folks you hire to support you are also on this journey. You can see the LIVE Expanded version of the episode in the Facebook group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/ThatsNotHowThatWorks/

Our first LIVE episode, y'all! On this episode, we process a FB live that Weeze and Trudi were tagged into online to provide insight and feedback. What we found was a hot mess of performative allyship, racism, and recklessness. In this LIVE episode we process the core parts of the video, how the two co-hosts of the original video were NOT providing a safe space for their community.

Happy New Year Everyone! In this episode, Trudi & Weeze dive into the topic of White Centering. We explore mainstream and marginalized identities, give examples of how much of the world we live in is basically a world that centers whiteness. If you're a fan of the show join us in the Facebook Group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/ThatsNotHowThatWorks/

In the FINAL episode of the year, Trudi & Weeze thank the listeners for being a part of the That's Not How That Works community. We also share our favorite episodes and give you a sneak peek about what's up ahead! Here's a link to the Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1077973785700853/about/ Join us and let us know what episodes you like, and what you'd like to see and hear more of.

In this episode Weeze recounts the story of what happened when she met W. Kamau Bell in The Bay recently. Now, if you're a fan of the show, you know that this is HUGE. We've talked about wanting to "manifest" him... and although our ultimate dream is for him to come on our show, we'll settle for bumping into him on the street (for now anyway :) We also share our manifestation list with you in case you happen to be one of our well connected listeners. We love and appreciate you! Here's the link to the Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1077973785700853/about/

In this episode Trudi & Weeze share the story about what happened on Trudi's recent trip to Oakland. Let me give you a hint... #racistbrunch! Alas... this episode ends with a surprising twist so stay tuned in to hear exactly what should happen when these unfortunate, yet all too common, events take place. Here's the link to our Facebook group so you can join the conversation: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1077973785700853/about/

In this episode Weeze & Trudi answer questions from the TNHTW's Facebook Groups including How can I be more confident when discussing equity and diversity issues? Are the roles of Ally and Accomplice only for White folks or can PoC be Accomplices? How can I have more diversity in my coaching practice? Let us know what you think AND keep your questions coming. You can email us at hello@nothowthatworks or you can post questions in the Facebook group. Join the group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1077973785700853/about/

In this episode, Weeze and Trudi discuss their confusion and frustration with the call out culture by white folks at other white folks (can someone explain it to us?). It all looks like a competition to be the "woke-est"... hence, The Woke Olympics. Weeze and Trudi also pose an alternative approach that we think would be more effective in moving folks toward being an accomplice. As noted in the show, here is the link to register for the From Ally to Accomplice webinar: https://nothowthatworks.com/allytoaccomplice And as always join us in the Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1077973785700853

In this episode, Weeze and Trudi get SUPER REAL about decisions regarding how they felt about a statement made during episode 30. It is a PERFECT example of how this work (Diversity, Equity, Anti-Racism, Liberation Work) requires that we be humble, open, transparent and willing to make mistakes. We also believe that this shows our commitment to our listeners. We want you to know that we aren't perfect and that we want to hold ourselves accountable and that Wokeness isn't a fixed state of being, rather a process, an action, and a commitment that we take very seriously. To join our FREE Webinar, From Ally to Accomplice, Dec. 5th 2018, register here: nothowthatworks.com/allytoaccomplice And as always, join the facebook group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1077973785700853

In this episode Weeze and Trudi talk with Joey Chandler who admits to being the epitome of privilege... he's a White, Straight, Cis, Male that came to the realization that men have a role in dismantling white supremacy. We talk to him about his own journey, his mistakes, and where he his today so that we can learn how to bring more men into this process. We also take a moment to celebrate the AMAZING mid-term election results and recognize so many "firsts" in office. Join the community online: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1077973785700853

In this episode, Trudi & Weeze break down a real-life example of what happens when a White Ally tries to do something to raise awareness about racial justice but instead just centers whiteness. Hear a breakdown of what happened online that caused many racial justice educators to step in and call out problematic behaviors and understand why Glennon Doyle rightfully decided to cancel her webinar about Race in America. Remember to check us out in the Facebook group to join the conversation: https://www.facebook.com/groups/ThatsNotHowThatWorks/

In this episode, Weeze shares an experience that she had recently in a coaching program. Although you'll hear the details of what happened we ask you to zoom out and think about the broader lessons here. Consider: How should we respond when someone tells us we have hurt or offended them? If we are on a journey to "do better", how can we engage in uncomfortable discourse when the impact of our words is different from your intent? How do we further the erasure of dismissal of marginalized communities? If you want to create a diverse community in your business, this episode is a must. We invite you to engage with us more on Facebook at: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1077973785700853/about/

In this episode, we share the tale of what happened when Weeze came to Hartford, CT! What started out as a regular work trip, turned into an amazing story of accomplice-ship. Special Shout out to Bryce, and the crew at Wood & Tap in Hartford! Good job doing better! Remember to join us on FB to keep the conversation going: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1077973785700853/about/

In this episode, Trudi and Weeze discuss one of THE MOST POPULAR questions they get. Should I offer scholarships for my coaching program? We will get into the What, Why and How of scholarships and we'll also talk about the WRONG reasons to be offering scholarships. As always, we'd love to know what you think. Join us over in the Facebook group for more conversations. https://www.facebook.com/groups/1077973785700853/about/

In this episode, Weeze and Trudi provide their definitive, unequivocal answer to the questions: Can people of color be racist? Can white folks experience racism? Is reverse racism real? To continue the discussion join us in our Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1077973785700853/

In this episode, Weeze and Trudi take some time to break down Nike's 2018 Just Do It Campaign starring Colin Kaepernick. Is Nike now trying to be an ally? Are they taking a stand with Colin? Or is it just a very smart marketing campaign targeting the changing demographics of our country? We'll address all that at more. Remember to join the FaceBook Group to continue the conversation: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1077973785700853/

In this episode, Weeze and Trudi are joined by guest Geraldine DeRuiter, a writer, and speaker who Trudi met at World Domination Summit in June 2018. Geraldine joins the show to explain her awakening to all things race, privilege, and power, and tried to help Trudi and Weeze figure out what to say to get more white folks on board. Remember to join us in the FB Group to continue the discussion: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1077973785700853/ PS: Shout out to Geraldine's mom and husband for helping her Step the all the way up! Thank y'all for doing better!

Did y'all watch the VMA's? Well, our dear friend Madonna showed up and showed out and we have to discuss this. Madonna's outfit leads us to a more important conversation about the difference between cultural appropriation and cultural appreciation. We provide definitions, insights, and, as always, ideas for how to do better. Don't forget to join us in the That's Not How That Works Facebook group for more information, links, and our weekly FB lives: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1077973785700853

In episode 20 we welcome our first ever guest co-host to join us in a discussion about spiritual coaching, and how it can all go wrong when people use race to divide us. Je Tuan opens up about a recent experience with a coach was took advantage of many people and used race to silence people, divide people, and profit. This is a very important episode. Please join us for the discussion in the That's Not How That Works Facebook Group at: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1077973785700853/about/

In this episode, we talk about the journey from Ally to Accomplice. We define performative allyship, and why its a problem, and explore the pathway that someone must travel in order to be in full partnership and support of people of color. Also... our TNHTW's Facebook group is live and open to the public. Here's the link... join us! https://www.facebook.com/groups/1077973785700853/