Mind Love: Modern Mindfulness For Happiness, Health And Success

We will learn:  What we can learn from different cultures around managing emotions.  Why we cry.  Healthier strategies to cope with sadness. How often do you get sad? What does being sad feel like to you? How long does it usually last? Are you sad right now? Do you even know? Do you know the answer to any of these questions?   We all have feelings, so we should know these things right? But I don’t think most of us do know the answers to these questions… well, some of them at least.   Our words create our realities. I don’t know about you, but I don’t want to be “fine”. I want to feel good, like really good. So why am I reinforcing a mediocre reality with words that keep me in the in-between… that space of just coasting. Not feeling bad, but not feeling good… so really just not feeling anything. What kind of life is that?   Maybe actually admitting and really feeling our sadness is the only way to feel the true depths of our joy.    Well that’s what we’re talking about today. Our guest is Helen Russell, best

We will learn: How to move through our emotions with the FEEL framework.  How to get your body in balance after physical trauma.  The power of primal breakdowns.  Do you make a conscious effort to feel your feelings?  Really think about that question and be honest with yourself, because it’s not as obvious as you might think it is.  If we’re feeling our feelings by sinking into our victimhood, we’re likely building up more emotions than we’re releasing. And if we don’t consciously release those emotions, they will find a way out, only in ways we have even less control over. They might come out by random breakdowns, or by lashing out at people we love. It could manifest as depression or anxiety. So today we’re going to learn a better way to feel. Our guest is Ashley Bernardi, author, media relations strategist, and certified Life Designer®. Links from the episode: Show Notes: https://mindlove.com/204 Sign up for The Morning Mind Love for short daily notes from your highest self.  Get Mind Love Premium for

We will learn: How all of life’s activity occurs because cells communicate.  How very different cells—bacteria and brain cells, blood cells and viruses—all speak the same language.  New discoveries on intelligence in nature.  I believe that over time, science will begin to prove spirituality.    The cool thing about science is that each new discovery is a possible foundation for a thousand other discoveries.   And these discoveries begin with a thought. A question. A desire to explore what this information could mean.   I think too often we wait for other people to tell us what’s real instead of engaging our imagination enough to ponder it ourselves.    So we end up building walls around our own mindsets with skepticism or blind obedience rather than seeking expansion and greater understanding. Today we are opening our minds to new discoveries in science, and I’m going to challenge you to ponder what these things might mean... even if only for your own practice in contemplation. Our guest today is Dr. Jon L

We will learn: The real reasons we are all so busy.  How to identify the right goals and go after them strategically.   How to map out implementation by thinking in waves.  It’s not really a secret, we live in a short term world. Back in 2000 a study came out that we had about a 12 second attention span. By 2015 it had dropped to 8 seconds on average… shorter than that of a goldfish. A shorter attention span causes shallow information processing. Longer attention leads to better memory and sustained attention is always linked to deeper information processing. So much of the relentless pressure in our culture pushes us toward doing what’s easy, what’s guaranteed, or what looks glamorous in the moment. So how do we shift to doing small things over time to achieve our goals—and being willing to keep at them, even when they seem pointless, boring, or hard? And that’s what we’re talking about today.  Our guest is Dorie Clark, adjunct professor at Duke University’s Fuqua School of Business and author of multiple be

We will learn: How smartphones are designed to work against our happiness.  How to stay connected while disconnected.  The brain benefits of boredom.  Have you noticed your phone time taking away from other important moments in your life?   I’ve always been a tech person so I have a tendency to overuse my smartphone.    Recently I made some customizations to my smartphone and my phone use immediately dropped 80% which is awesome.    I shared my customizations on social -mindfully using my computer- and I got a bunch of DMs about it so I know a lot of you are suffering from a little tech addiction yourselves.   So today we’re going to learn how to live our lives a little less plugged in. Because maybe disconnecting from the online world is what we actually need to connect with the offline world.   Our guest is Joe Hollier, multi-disciplinary artist, entrepreneur and co-founder of the Light Phone, a phone designed to be used as little as possible. Links from the episode: Show Notes: https://mindlove.com/x58

We will learn: Why your best ideas often get rejected.  How to disarm the forces of resistance that act against change.  How to transform the very frictions that hold us back into catalysts for change.  Collectively, we have access to more resources than we’ve ever had, but we’re also less happy, more stressed, and fatter than we’ve ever been. So something, or some things, are just not working.The problem is, we might be sad, fat and stressed out, but we think we’re comfortable. The funny thing about the comfort zone is that it’s really just familiarity that creates the illusion of comfort.And when someone comes around with a new idea, we tense up and resist it because we just don’t want to pop our own comfort bubbles. So how do we break through the resistance?How do we get people to say yes to ideas that are fresh and new and awesome, but just not yet familiar? That’s what we’re talking about today. Our guest is Loran Nordgren, teacher and researcher of the psychological forces that propel and prevent the ad

We will learn:  The causes and consequences of bullshit.  How to spot the signs of bullshit.  How to make better decisions for yourself.  Nowadays, it’s so difficult to decipher what’s truth, and what’s just a load of crap spewed to make a profit.   Unfortunately most people don’t have time to research and wade through the mountains of available information and so they trust what they’re told and hope for the best.   However, there are benefits to a healthy bit of skepticism.    It’s important to know what the stakes are on either side so you can make an informed decision.   It’s hard to question our own beliefs, but it always helps me see the bigger picture, or at least understand people better, even if my beliefs stay the same at the end of it all.   So today we’re going to learn to detect bullshit so you can more effectively make informed decisions.    Our guest is Dr. John V. Petrocelli, author and experimental social psychologist who researches, writes, and speaks about the science of communication and

We will learn: How to direct your own inner movie to create new self beliefs.  Why relationships are a key to dealing with change.  How to build a new self-image by thinking of yourself as a brand.  If you are resisting the uncertainty, you’re not mastering it.The funny thing is, for the most part, certainty is an illusion. If it wasn’t, then “shit happens” wouldn’t be one of the most famous semi-motivational phrases of all time.No matter how much we plan for the future, something unexpected can always derail those plans. So if uncertainty is always looming, then why is it still so hard?Well, turns out, we’re actually hardwired to hate it. Studies show that uncertainty is even more stressful than knowing something bad is definitely going to happen. The good news is we can learn to live with uncertainty. And this is probably one of the most valuable skills we can learn because life is full of uncertainty. And prolonged stress is really damaging to our health, both physically and mentally.So that’s what we’re t

We will learn: How to tap into different parts of yourself to find strength.  The power of taking massive, aligned action.  How to take control of your inner experience to influence your outer experience.    Do you ever think that maybe we’re over complicating things. Maybe creating a life that we love waking up for is simply the choice to take action and do it.   If it’s that simple, then why isn’t it easier?   The problem is, most of us have created habits of thought that aren’t serving us. And yes, I said habits of thought. Our thoughts are actually just habits.   But because they’re in our minds using our voice, we think that they are us.    We think that that little voice telling us we may fail, or it’s too scary, or we don’t have what it takes to make that big thing happen… we think that voice is our inner guidance, trying to save us from pain.   But guess what… that thought isn’t you at all. It’s loud and repetitive because you’ve let it go unchecked for so long.    So how do we start to dictate our

We will learn: How we created a world and separation if we are all of God.  How to release the fear of what the collective chooses and stop damning your neighbor.  How to put trust in divine will with the knowledge that all true needs are met in perfect ways.  Do you ever have moments where you get a wave of panic because the world is burning, evil is winning and it seems like it’s getting worse by the day?Yeah me too. I’m human. You’re not alone.It’s difficult to not let little sprouts of doubt creep in. What if this is all there really is? What if evil really is winning?These are the times that I lean into my spirituality the most. It’s helpful to me to feel that there is a higher power that’s making sure humanity doesn’t accidentally implode.Today’s guest Paul Selig, gives voice to that higher power by channeling text in front of a live audience, which is then transcribed with zero editing. He has dictated 10 books so far. His guides say we’ve already chosen to ascend. We are claiming the kingdom.What does

We will learn: What it really means to live the good life.  How purpose changes from adulthood to elder hood.  How to move from self-absorbed soul searching to a life of meaning.  Getting old is weird. Collectively we treat it like a disease. And I get why, most people live lifestyles that inevitably lead to disease, so we assume correlation is causation.    It’s easy to fall into complacency, consumption, cynicism.   The harder route is the one we take responsibility for, with choice, curiosity, and courage.    But what’s really more difficult? The choice that takes more work now but leads to a fulfilling life? Or the one that takes no effort now but creates a life you’d rather not be living?   And how do we make a choice to experience aging with purpose?   That’s what we’re talking about today. Our guest is David Shapiro, philosopher, educator, and writer whose work consistently explores matters of meaning, purpose, and equity. Links from the episode: Show Notes: https://mindlove.com/x55 Sign up for T

We will learn: How essential oils can help with everything from minor ailments to chronic disease What to look for in essential oils and which labels are marketing scams How to get started with your own home apothecary It seems like the use for essential oils is never-ending, which can make a lot of people skeptical. But if you think about it, nature was our original pharmacy. Food is medicine. Plants are medicine. Even fresh air is medicine. Many people don’t realize that natural medicine is core to pharmacy.  Of all the botanical extracts, essential oils are the most concentrated and potent. Because of the extraction process, essential oils can be 70 to 100 times stronger than the actual plant. And there are thousands of types of oils and combinations for different ailments or needs, everything from headaches to alzheiumers… from concentration to keeping bugs away. So how do we choose safe and effective essential oils? How do we use them properly? Why are some so much more expensive than others?  That’s wha

We will learn: Common conditions caused by excess adrenaline.  Why creative people are most affected.  How to regain hormonal balance.  Adrenaline is a powerful hormone.  It’s a big part of the body’s fight or flight response… you know the primal brain that kicks in when we have strong emotions like fear or anger. But for a lot of people, this physiological reaction is overactive in response to modern-day stressors.  This can lead to excess adrenaline, otherwise known as adrenaline dominance, which may be a major underlying cause of a lot of conditions that are currently considered incurable. What if the stress of our daily lives, or even just a genetic inheritance keeps our body in an ongoing state of fight or flight, even when we’re not aware of it? We know that stress is one of the biggest contributors to chronic disease. So what’s at stake? And how do we get our bodies and minds back in balance? That’s what we’re talking about today. Our guest is Dr. Michael Platt, specialist in natural hormone replacem

We will learn: How to become more self aware of the past trauma or pain that is influencing your present How to identify the lies we tell ourselves so we can heal How to move through and release big emotions Have you ever found yourself asking, “Why did this happen to me?”When we listen to guests of this show, authors of bestselling books, or public speakers, one thing is clear: they have figured out that “why”.It seems so clear when they tell their stories. They usually seem to come full circle with the purpose or moral wrapped in a bow ready to be gifted to the world.Here’s what I’ve learned though: it’s very rare to find the meaning behind your own experiences if you don’t actively look for it.You have to do the work. So how do we navigate the emotions that we have over everything that’s happened to us, to find real meaning? How do we begin to release our pain to build strength?That’s what we’re talking about today. Our guests today are Dr. Dan Allender and Cathy Loerzel. Dr. Dan is a professor of counseli

We will learn: The taboo postpartum truths.  How to cope when you’re grieving your old life.  How to enjoy being a mom your way.  Deciding to have a baby is more than just deciding to bring a child into this world… it’s also about fundamentally changing your role in this lifetime.   Is it so crazy to think that some people may not like losing all their independence, waking up multiple times per night, having a tiny human basically attached to you most of your waking hours, or making sounds so loud you can’t hear yourself think during the rest of those hours?   Maybe for some of us, but for others, motherhood just isn’t what they expected it to be.   The bond, the bliss, the feeling that their life is complete… just isn’t there.   They love their child but they just don’t love momming, every minute of every day. They miss who they were before the baby (which… lets be real, kinda happens to every mom a little right?).    So how do you cope if being a parent just isn’t what you thought it would be?   Well that

We will learn:  The real dangers of alcohol, even when consuming moderately.  How to conquer FOMA - the fear of missing alcohol.  Actionable steps for setting a plan for your sober curious journey.   Have you ever asked yourself, would life be better without alcohol? Alcohol is one of those things… somehow we idealize it, like it’s the gateway to fun, but most often, especially as we age, it’s just the gateway to our own self-loathing. Many of us have a complicated relationship with alcohol.  I know for me, even when I’m moderating, I feel like alcohol takes up too much of my brain space. “Should I have a drink this weekend? If so, which night? Maybe I’ll have another glass. Eh I don’t need it. It’s been long enough, I’ll just have one more.” It’s just too much. Why is it that even when I’m not drinking much, it still takes that much energy from me? Just in thought alone? Well that’s what we’re diving into today. Our guest is Ruby Warrington, creator of the term “Sober Curious” and author of the 2018 book of

We will learn: How our dreams guide us.  The symbolic language of dreams.  Manifesting your waking life with the power of lucid dreams. We spend a lot of time sleeping. A third of our lives in fact.  Our dreams can be otherworldly, we can have superpowers like flying, sometimes they make zero sense, sometimes we replay pivotal moments and sometimes they are our worst fears realized. So what does it all mean? Or does it mean anything at all? There are a lot of theories about dreaming. One theory says that dreams don’t mean anything at all, they’re just electrical impulses and then we construct them together when we wake up. Sigmund Freud believed that dreams revealed repressed desires or conflicts from childhood. And others, like our guest today, believe that dreams are our innate inner guidance. So today we’re going to find the meaning in our dreams. Our guest is Athena Laz, depth psychologist, dream teacher, author, and 4th generation intuitive. Links from the episode: Show Notes: https://mindlove.com/x52

We will learn: The problem with our current mindset of 50/50 fairness in marriage.  The three mindset shifts necessary to reshape your marriage or partnership.  How to make radical generosity a habit.  Nothing in life is fair. Including marriage. Not only that, but if you expect it to be, or try to enforce fairness, you may be killing your marriage, one negotiation at a time. The thing about fairness in general is that it’s nearly impossible. No two people, situations, or things in general are exactly alike, so it’s extremely difficult to make sure that each person or thing is treated entirely equally. But then how are we supposed to have an equal marriage if there’s no way to make it fair? Is there a better way to do a partnership than keeping score? That’s what we’re talking about today. Our guests are Nate and Kaley Kemp, husband and wife co-authors of The 80/80 Marriage. Nate is also a founding partner at Mindful, one of the world's largest mindfulness media and training companies. And Kaley is also one o

We will learn: The dangers of burying our pain How to get clear on the stories that unconsciously drive our lives, and how psychedelics may help How to first align yourself so you can get to the root of your healing “When life gives you lemons, make lemonade.”I used to think this phrase meant, “No matter what life throws at me, I need to spin it to a positive.”But this approach caused me to bury my pain way back in my mind, which didn’t make it go away. It was still there. Festering. Growing. Attracting things that would feed off of it.When life gives you lemons, you don’t put them all in the back of the pantry so you don’t have to see the lemons… those lemons will make themselves known. They’ll rot, start to mold, and attract creatures that feed off the bacteria.Just like using the lemons to make lemonade, we can work with our pain instead of burying or hiding it. We can find balance by asking ourselves what we need in this moment, to make our lived experience have a deeper meaning.And there’s not just one w

We will learn:  How to use your intuition for aligned business decisions How goal setting differs in a spiritual business The root of procrastination and how to move through it Have you ever felt guilt over charging for a service you provide?   It tends to be a common theme in the realm of spiritual workers, that it’s difficult to earn enough money. This can be for a lot of reasons, but the biggest tends to be guilt around charging for their services.    It takes a lot of confidence to be a spiritual entrepreneur. But thankfully that confidence is something that spirituality itself can help with.   Even if your business or side hustle doesn’t have a spiritual focus, you can always infuse spirituality into it.   Getting connected with your intuition can help you make better business decisions. Finding alignment can lead you to the right clients, or lead them to you. Your spiritual practice can help make your business sustainable by making sure you don’t get burnt out.   So today we’re talking about spiritual