Hannah And Matt Know It All

We hosted Jennifer Peepas of "Captain Awkward" for the Monday episode and had so much to talk about that we couldn't fit it all into one episode. Thus: Opinion Overflow #8! This Overflow contains two questions from the previous week plus a new Listener Question and a special announcement:  BONUS 1: A writer who goes by Miri penned an EXCELLENT "Polyamory 201" post on the-orbit with in-depth musings about the "monogamous for the right person" question from our Poly 101 episode; BONUS 2: We'll be guests on the next episode of the PodcastPodcastt! Like our show, it's a fancast of a sort, but all about discovering and gushing about podcasts. It's so good and we're thrilled to have been invited!; Dear Prudence: "Dinner Time Etiquette"; Ask APW: "The Garter Toss Reminds Me of My Sexual Assault, but My Fiancé Wants to Do It"; Listener Weary and Wary: "How Lenient Should I Be of My Friends With Depression and Anxiety Who Are Repeatedly Undependable With Plans?"; Submit your favorite questions or questions you may

Hannah and Matt interviewed Jennifer Peepas of "Captain Awkward" for the Monday episode and delved super extra deep into two questions from her columns that have stuck with her as well as taking on an exclusive sneak peak of a soon-to-be-published question:  Captain Awkward (July 20th, 2017): "“My Very First Dick Pic:” A horrible coming-of-age story"; Captain Awkward (May 11th, 2017): "Our Friend Hits Women."; Captain Awkward: "Scared of Spending"; Part 2 of our time with Captain Awkward is posting this Wednesday, in which we discuss questions from Dear Prudence, Ask APW, and a new Listener Question! Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com, anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt, or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com. Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!

We have too many opinions to keep to ourselves! That is, we have too many questions and we'd like to answer more of them, so that's why you're getting Opinion Overflow. Whether you want it or not. Bonus 1: Listener Sara recommends "Here's the Plan" by Allyson Downey for new or expecting working mothers (in response to Listener Laura in this Monday's episode). Bonus 2: Listener Paige (from Overflow #5) has an update for us! And finally, Listener Lacey asks: I’m sort of at the point in my life where I’ve been questioning if there’s more out there for me or not. I have lived in North Dakota my whole life and all of my close family is here. I’m going to school online and working full time at a job I don’t love. However, I love all of my coworkers and that’s kind of a big deal. I’ve never been married nor do I have kids but I do have a dog. Would it be irresponsible of me to pack up and move a few states away without a job or place to live? I’m finding it hard to get a job and apartment where I don’t currently l

Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of August 20th, 2017, and beyond, including: Dear Prudence: "Do I Have to Be a Patron to Be a Friend?"; Dear Jane: "How Do I Talk to My Husband About Our Erratic Sex Life?"; Ask a Manager: "I Ghosted My Ex, and She’s About to Be My New Boss"; Dear Sugars: "Uneducated and Confused"; Listener Laura: "Will My Being Pregnant at a New Job Be Considered Too Soon?"; Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com, anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt, or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com. Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!

Hannah and Matt take a vacation from the usual format to bring you the hotly-anticipated Poly 101 episode featuring Matt's girlfriend Laurel Lathrop! We're covering more questions than ever before, so strap yourselves in for the long journey to Ethicalnonmonogamyville: Listener V: "How Do I Navigate Exploring My Bisexuality While In an Ostensibly Heterosexual Primary Relationship?"; Listener Sarah Manning: "I'm In My First Poly Relationship. Now What?"; Listener Open Imbalance: "I'm a Bisexual Woman in an Open Relationship and Getting Way More Dates than My Straight Male Partner"; Listener Laura: "How Do I Tell My Poly Friends to Stop Judging Monogamous Relationships and Erasing My Asexuality?"; Raven Goldblood: "How Do You Go From an 'Open Relationship' to a Poly One?"; Listener Magpie: "At What Point Should I Come Out to My Friends and Family as Poly?"; BONUS: r/relationships: "My (24f) 5 year boyfriend (27m) opened up our relationship a year ago and now I'm confused about my feelings for him and just in g

Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of August 6th, 2017, and beyond, including: Dear Prudence: "Twin Q-and-A"; Let Us Sex-plain: "How Do I Get My Boyfriend to Stop Playing a Certain Podcast During Foreplay?"; horizontal with lila; The Ethicist: "Is It O.K. to Protest Trump by Withholding Taxes?"; Ask Dr. NerdLove: "I'm Nonmonogamous and Having Trouble Finding Dates, So How Long Can I Withhold This Info?"; Listener Ann: "How Can I Nudge My Friend Towards Being More Vulnerable With Me?"; Listener Mary: "Is It Okay to Ask for Only Money Instead of Wedding Gifts?"; A Practical Wedding; Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com, anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt, or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com. Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all k

We have too many opinions to keep to ourselves! That is, we have too many questions and we'd like to answer more of them, so that's why you're getting Opinion Overflow. Whether you want it or not. Listener Zelda asks: I am being urged by a couple of physicians to have a mastectomy/reconstruction even though I do not have cancer because my mother had breast cancer very young and is no longer with us. I carry the BRCA2 mutation so my odds are pretty good for getting it. Also, my younger sister just got the news that her most recent mammogram is showing something that is "most likely cancer" and is going to have a biopsy. I have looked into the surgery and found a doctor that a friend went to and I feel comfortable with him. I've seen his before/after photos and that set my mind so at ease. I'm thinking of doing this within the calendar year, but my question is how to address this at work. I will need to take about four weeks off. I work in a school and I will have the sick time that I need for recovery. I'm tal

Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of July 30th, 2017, and beyond, including: Ask A Manager: "Is the Work Environment I’ve Created on My Team Too Exclusive?" (Part 1 of 2); Dear Jane: "How Do I Get My Grandpa to Realize He’s Acting Like a Creep?"; Dear Prudence: "Introvert Boyfriend Ignores Friends"; Ask a Manager: "Is the Work Environment I’ve Created on My Team Too Exclusive?" (Part 2 of 2); Listener Kate: "Can I Intervene On My Good Friend's Bad Relationship?"; Talkspace: "How to Recognize Emotional Abuse in Intimate Relationships"; BONUS: We're going to do a Poly 101 episode in a few weeks, so please send us your polyamory and nonmonogamy questions!; Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com, anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt, or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com. Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-eg

We have too many opinions to keep to ourselves! That is, we have too many questions and we'd like to answer more of them, so that's why you're getting Opinion Overflow. Whether you want it or not. Listener Paige asks: A few years ago I was diagnosed with a serious heart condition. Part of treating this condition means spending ample amounts of time in the hospital. In the last year I've spent over two hundred days there, and that is not likely to change for the foreseeable future, at least until I get a new heart. The hospital near me is small, and the rooms are usually shared. Because I have a cardiac problem, most of my roommates with similar issues are significantly older than me. I am only 23, and often the youngest person on the unit. I would like some advice on how to deal with hospital roommates who want to get too involved in my life. I am pretty introverted, and while I don't mind the occasional small talk, it is frustrating to have a person I don't know not only sharing my space when I feel horrible

Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of July 23rd, 2017, and beyond, including: BONUS SEGMENT: "Mostly Positive"; Positive 1: The Toast Updated on July 26th!!; Not So Positive 1: Andrew W.K. is extremely tone deaf (and needs to take a look at this political cartoon about centrists); Positive 2: Captain Awkward has answered 1000 questions!!; r/relationships: "My (33F) self-absorbed sister (22F) is holding an "auction" for all her potential bridesmaids to compete in for a place in her wedding"; Ask APW: "Am I a Bad Friend If I Can’t Afford a $15,000 Bridesmaid Dress?"; Dear Prudence: "Uneven Salaries"; Captain Awkward: "Let’s open up our marriage so I can sleep with this really untrustworthy person!"; Miss Conduct: "My Friend Is Dating a Nazi"; Captain Awkward: "Don't Date Nazis!"; Listener Patrick: "How Do I Handle My Partner Referring to Herself as a Lesbian Even Though I'm a Trans Man?"; Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have

Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of July 16th, 2017, and beyond, including: Captain Awkward: "The Palette Wife"; Ask A Manager: "My Employee Set up a False Fraud Investigation … Because She Was Being Abused and Wanted the Police"; Dear Prudence: "No Embryos for You"; Dear Jane: "How Do I Break Up With My Long-Term Partner, Logistically Speaking?"; Listener BerthaBessie: "How Do I Get Used to My Newly Open Relationship that My Partner Wants to Keep a Secret?"; Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com, anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt, or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com. Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!

Having hosted Heather Havrilesky of "Ask Polly" for the Monday episode, we ran out of time and had some additional opinions we couldn't keep to ourselves. Thus: you're getting another Overflow, yaaay! This Overflow contains two questions from the previous week:  Dear Businesslady: "How Do I Respect My Coworker’s Gender (and My Own)?"; New York Times: "Real Men Might Get Made Fun Of"; Captain Awkward: "My Husband is Dating My Mom"; r/relationship_advice: "My mother (54/f) and my husband (39/m)"; Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com, anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt, or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com. Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!

Hannah and Matt interviewed Heather Havrilesky of "Ask Polly" for the Monday episode and—in true Polly fashion—delved super extra deep into questions from her columns that have stuck with her as well as taking on her most recent question:  Ask Polly (June 28, 2017): "Do People Ever Really Escape Their Dysfunctional Families?"; Invisibilia: "The Problem With the Solution"; Ask Polly (July 5th, 2017): "I Moved for My Job, and It Was a Huge Mistake!"; Ask Polly: "I’m Terrified of Having Kids!"; Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com, anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt, or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com. Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!

Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of July 2nd, 2017, and beyond, including:  Auntie SparkNotes: "My Friend Doesn't Like '13 Reasons Why"; Today: "Netflix should remove '13 Reasons Why' immediately"; Thought Catalog: "Other People Aren’t Responsible For Your Mental Health: Why ’13 Reasons Why’ Is Pretty Much Bullshit"; r/relationships "Renting summer house with friends (20s m/f). Couples get bedrooms; singles have to sleep on air mattresses in living room. Splitting costs?"; Carolyn Hax: "Between a Male Rock and White Hard Place"; Complex: "Casual Reminder: There's No Such Thing As Reverse Racism"; "Resources for White People and Non-Black People of Color"; Dear Abby: "Party's Surprise Comes When Guests Are Asked to Pay"; Listener Rihanna: "Should I Warn Away Employees Who Are Interviewing at My Problematic Workplace?"; Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com, anonymously at bit.ly/

Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of June 25th, 2017, and beyond, including:  Ask APW: "Can I Keep Closed-Minded Family from Judging Our Drag Extravaganza?" Ask Polly: "He Wanted an Open Relationship. Why Wasn’t I Enough?"; Captain Awkward: "I think my friend told me he loved me a few years ago, and I’m just figuring it out now."; r/relationships: "Me [30F] with my fiancé [31 M] 11 years, he doesn't take no for an answer when it comes to family obligations."; Listener Thomas: "How Do I Confront My Friend Whose Liberalism Is Outdated?"; Bonus: We now have merchandise!!; Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com, anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt, or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com. Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet per

Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of June 18th, 2017, and beyond, including:  Ask A Manager: "Employee Drew Genitalia on an Intern’s Cast"; The Cut: "Sexual-Harassment Claims Against a ‘She-E.O.’"; Ask E. Jean: "How Do I Get My Fiancé to Stop Catcalling Me?"; After Hannah reached out to Elle to point out how problematic E. Jean’s answer was, Elle silently took down the page. It nevertheless did not escape Archive.org preserving the question forever; Swipe This!: "My Friend’s Faux #Feminist Persona Makes Me Bonkers"; Dear Mariella: "My Ex-Best Friend Is Threatening to Expose My Private Messages"; Listener Redacted for Privacy: "How Can I Tell a Non-Profit Blog To Respect My Need for Anonymity?""; Caroline Sinders: Homepage; Boing Boing: "That Time the Internet Sent a Swat Team to My Mom's House"; New York Times: "Anonymity Online Serves Us All"; The Coral Project: "The Real Name Fallacy"; Submit your favorite questions or questions you may hav

Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of June 11th, 2017, and beyond—and are joined this week by special guests Gigi Engle and Mike Fishbein of the relationship advice podcast 'Dirty Sexy Monogamy'—including:  Dirty Sexy Monogamy (March 1, 2017): "Would You Ask Your Mom for Sex Advice?"; Dirty Sexy Monogamy (March 15, 2017): "How Do You Know If a Guy Is Actually into You?"; Dirty Sexy Monogamy (February 22, 2017): "Can I Be Sexually Empowered Without Having Sex?"; Saturday Night Live: "Girl at a Bar"; Huffington Post: "12 Moms Share Gross Stories Of Getting Catcalled While With Their Kids"; Ask Dr. NerdLove: "What Does My Boyfriend’s Porn Say About Us?"; r/relationships: "Me (25F), the inadvertant cause of dramas at the wedding of my boyfriend’s sister (23F) tearing his family apart."; Listener Procrastinator: "Is It Too Late to Thank My Friends for Their Wedding Gifts?"; Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanand

We have too many opinions to keep to ourselves! That is, we have too many questions and we'd like to answer more of them, so that's why you're getting Opinion Overflow. Whether you want it or not.  Listener J asks: "This feels like kind of a silly question to ask, but as I saw the following events unfold today, I knew I had to submit this question. Today I was at Whole Foods having lunch with my daughter. I was standing at the (large, communal) salad bar looking at the "Build Your Own Thai Noodle Salad" section they had and was about to build my own salad when a man walked up with his plate, stuck his finger in the container of salad dressing, tasted it, and walked to another section of the salad bar. Maybe I'm just a germophobe, but I was really grossed out (at this point I opted out of getting anything from the salad bar) and honestly pretty surprised that he did this. This is a communal salad bar. Who knows what he had touched before he put his finger in the salad dressing? I stood there for a minute tryin

Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of June 4th, 2017 and beyond—with an HaMKIA exclusive recorded response to a Reddit question from Ask A Manager's Alison Green!!—including:  Captain Awkward: "Messy Housemate Blues with a Side of Bugs."; Dear Mariella: "I Love My Partner but He Says He Doesn’t Love Me Back"; Rose Buddies: "Horse Poop Censorship"; Ask A Manager: "My Coworker Jokes About Suicide"; r/relationships: "My [29F] former coworker [50F] left a position that I just got promoted to. She is now asking that I step down so she can have it back when she comes back in October."; Ask A Manager's Recorded Response; Listener Rachel: "Should I Tell My Monogamous Friend That We Saw Her Boyfriend Trying to Cheat on Her?"; Ask Polly: "My Married Friends Are Driving Me Crazy!"; Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com, anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt, or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com f

Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of May 28th, 2017 and beyond, including:  Dear Prudence: "My Husband’s Best Friend Proposed to His Girlfriend During Our Wedding Ceremony"; Buzzfeed: "This Couple Got Upstaged At Their Wedding And People Have Their Back"; Auntie Sparknotes: "I'm Interested in Dead Things"; Social Q's: "When Is It O.K. to Date a Friend’s Ex?"; Ask Amy: "Husband Needs to Step up at Home"; Emma: "You Should Have Asked"; Listener Rebecca: "How Do I Get Others to Stop Mis-Gendering My Partner?"; Dirty Sexy Monogamy: "Would You Date Someone in an Open Marriage?"; Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com, anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt, or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com. Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds o