Empowered Couples

Do you feel like life is piling things onto you and your partner right now? There are defintely seasons where a lot of hard things can hit you all at once which really makes it difficult to stay positive and stay connected as a team. In this solo episode you will hear from Jocelyn to get two things to do in seasons like these. Everything, even challenges, are temporary. But use these two things so you can stay connected until the ride is over!    Resources For Your Relationship: Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here.   Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training) You can also sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here

Here you are having a slightly tension filled conversation with your partner, then out of nowhere they bring up something from the past! “You did the same thing last week” or “this is exactly what you do, you don’t respect me”.  One of the most common things we hear that escalates things quickly is the past being brought up. This is not just random however, this is an indication of a few things. In this episode we’re going to share FOUR of the most common things this indicates and all 4 could really strike a chord, so be sure to listen all the way to the end!   Resources For Your Relationship: There are 3 SPOTS for Couples to take the #1 Relationship Assessment in the world and do a Results Analysis Call privately with us. Couples say, “that was the most clarifying 1 hour we’ve spent in a long time.” To snag one of these 3 spots for only $147 (a MAJOR discount), either text or email us before they’re gone. Text: 602-321-5652 or email connect@newpowercouples.com   If that date is already past then you can sign

Men, there is something you don’t understand about your female partners… Being completely honest here, this is something that women might forget in the moment as well. When women don’t understand this about themselves then they don’t communicate in the best way or request what it is they need so that it can be received by their male partners. Men, without understanding this need that women have, you will easily invalidate them and easily escalate the conversation into a triggering conflict. In this episode you will (both) understand this need that women have and be able to communicate about it in a healthy way that brings you into more harmony individually and as a couple.    Resources For Your Relationship: Sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here For those that live in and around Arizona, this is your last opportunity for the in person Couples Workshop event on Sunday Oct 9th. Seats for this live event are limited so check the details and register here!

Women, there is something you don’t understand about your male partners… Being completely honest here, this is something most men don’t even understand about themselves! When men don’t understand this about themselves then they cannot even communicate or request what it is they need and default to shutting down, being silent, or even leaving the physical space without so much as a word about what is happening.  Women, without understanding this need that men have, you will take it personally and do the opposite actions that are needed to help; pushing your male partner further away or shutting down even more. In this episode you will (both) understand this need that men have and be able to communicate about it in a healthy way that brings you into more harmony individually and as a couple.   Resources For Your Relationship: Sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here For those that live in and around Arizona, this is your last opportunity for the in person Couples Workshop event on Sunday O

If you have ever felt that you needed to make a difficult decision or that you have been in the same place in your marriage longer than you’ve wanted, you likely need to identify your values and adjust your priorities! Now this can be a very seasonal thing, even core values can adjust based on the season you are coming out of or wanting to enter into! Sometimes it even involves rearranging your core values to one’s that are more important to you right now. But this can be a hard conversation because it takes getting clarity as well as being willing to ask hard conversions, be honest with yourself, and change some habits.  In this episode you will hear the exercise we use to redefine our values in each season and align our priorities with those values. We are going through that season in our marriage right now and we will share our current values, our new priorities and this exercise that we put up on our frig!   Resources For Your Relationship: Get the Values and Priorities Exercise as a BONUS in The Communi

After going through the most challenging month of my life, which of course had a major impact on Jocelyn as we went through it together, this is one of the major lessons I learned. Though you experience different challenges and varying degrees of emotional stress around them, the fact remains that challenges themselves are temporary. This realization was a major turning point during this time.  In this solo episode you will hear about two distinct aspects of circumstantial challenges, you will feel some relief and optimism for any challenge you are currently facing, but also you will understand the decision point that you can make to turn it all around in your favor.   Resources For Your Relationship: Battle For Fairness Marriage WebClass September 15th —> OnlineCouplesWorkshops.com Let’s end “The Battle for Fairness” in relationship roles, overcoming resentment, and reducing overwhelm in your partnership. If that date is passed then you can sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here

Do you remember your wedding vows, could you tell us what they are and more importantly if you have been keeping them? Sorry if that feels like a bold and challenging question, but the point is that many of us have forgotten what we promised our spouse at the start of the marriage!  There are a few reasons this happens, tune into the episode to hear what those are. But the more important thing is to ongoingly remake your promises to each other to be a match to the next season of life together and for the individual people you are becoming.  It was our anniversary this past weekend, and the practice of recreating our promises with each other is something we do each year. In this episode we will share with you the exercise we do and share with you the promises we just made with each other. Then you can do the same with your partner and create the future you truly desire for your marriage!   Resources For Your Relationship: Battle For Fairness Marriage WebClass September 15th —> OnlineCouplesWorkshops.com Let’s

You are familiar with those times where you go to ask for help or share a need you have with your partner. All of a sudden you find yourself keeping score of all the things you do, comparing how much you do, and making sure then see that it’s more than they do. Now you are in a battle for what is fair and where you feel things are out of balance.  In this episdoe you will hear about where this dynamic comes from and the main tips to get our of the cycle. This is a complex dynamic as well so be sure to join the FREE webclass to overcome this battle for good: Battle For Fairness Marriage WebClass September 15th —> OnlineCouplesWorkshops.com Let’s end “The Battle for Fairness” in relationship roles, overcoming resentment, and reducing overwhelm in your partnership.

The fall season has historically been a time of growing stronger or more strained as a couple. As a followup from last week, we want to cover 3 of the challenges that men are expressing in marriage right now. Does it address “everything” that every single couple is saying to us right now? Of course not. But these are 3 big ones that many are experiencing, so we thought it’d be helpful for you to know. As mentioned in the episdoe, this all leads to a battle for fairness and balnace in a marriage and leads to additonal tension or conflict. So to better resolve this challenge in your marriage, join the FREE Webclass "End the Battle for Fairness" that is live on Sept 15th.    If the date has already passed, you can book a Relationship Breakthrough Session with us. This is a private 2-on-2 session to overcome any challenge you’re facing as a couple. Read more and pick your slot here.

This episode is a dose of motivation and perspective change for your marriage and life. Book a Relationship Breakthrough Session with us. This is a private 2-on-2 session to overcome any challenge you’re facing as a couple. Read more and pick your slot here.

The fall season has historically been a time of growing stronger or more strained as a couple. That’s why we want to cover 3 of the challenges that women are expressing in marriage right now. Does it address “everything” that every single couple is saying to us right now? Of course not. But these are 3 big ones that many are experiencing, so we thought it’d be helpful for you to know.  Book a Relationship Breakthrough Session with us. This is a private 2-on-2 session to overcome any challenge you’re facing as a couple. Read more and pick your slot here.

Are we the only ones facing some “challenges” in life right now? Let’s talk about the real stuff going on. When you face challenges – whether in your marriage or life circumstances you’re facing – do you become smaller or bigger? “Smaller” meaning: you shrink down, become paralyzed, maybe even a victim mentality. “Bigger” meaning: you rise to the occasion, you get resourceful, you call on support/help, you shift your perspective and get into action.  Today’s episode will cover some personal challenges and how we operate when being big or small people, and how we shift our perspectives day to day.  Also, there are 3 SPOTS for Couples to take the #1 Relationship Assessment in the world and do a Results Analysis Call privately with us. Couples say, “that was the most clarifying 1 hour we’ve spent in a long time.” To snag one of these 3 spots for only $147 (a MAJOR discount), either text or email us before they’re gone. Text: 602-321-5652 or Email connect@newpowercouples.com

Have you had the experience of being inspired for a short amount of time, then realize something was missing to actually create the actual change you wanted in your life and marriage? Or how about with your partner... have you been frustrated because they say they are doing to make a change, only to fall back into the same patterns in just a few weeks?  This can be frustrating for both you and your partner, especially when they have said real change was going to happen and it doesn't. You lose a little bit of hope and trust in them. So in this episode you are going to hear about 3 things that your marriage requires to create that real and lasting change that you really want.    Resources For Your Relationship: Join the brand new Couples Experience program starting Sept 1st, 2022. Read the details that you heard in the episode and register within the next 2 weeks. Then you can start your relationship assessment, book the ‘results call’ with us, begin the program, and block your calendar for the first community

Having hard conversations is a part of being in a marriage. These conversations come up when you feel disconnected, when a past conflict is unresolved, or when you are feeling disconnected and want to get back to connection. Depending on each of your styles of communicating, when you go to have these conversations, you might end up in the “Pursue-Withdraw” pattern.  In this episode you will hear the dynamics of this pattern, where one of you is trying to engage but the other pulls away, as well as the steps to take to get out of this pattern. Once you can navigate this pattern, you will feel confident that you can better handle these hard conversations while being on the same side with each other.   Resources For Your Relationship: Register FREE for the LIVE Webclass August 17th, 2022 on: Handling Hard Conversations in Marriage and Creating a Safe Space For All Emotions.  After that date, you can also sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here

‘Emotional Agility’ is your ability to be with and accept your strong emotions while letting them better inform you of the next actions to take in your life. As you can already tell this is not an easy thing or a natural thing when you feel big emotions like fear, worry, anxiety, regret, or resentment.  Typically what would happen when these strong emotions come up, we either: avoid or suppress the emotion and try to just move on, just react and make another bad decision in these stressed states, for others they obsess over the thoughts and the emotions overtake and dibilate them into not doing anything.  Yet in this episode you will hear about “emotional agility” and how you can develop yourself to better handle high emotions to stay connected as a couple and acting toward your best interests.   Resources For Your Relationship: Book mentioned in podcast, Emotional Agility HERE  Register for the upcoming FREE webclass on "How to Have the Hard Conversations".

Before you click away from seeing the overused word “goals”, remember goals are the things you want to achieve in your life and marriage. So they are important, even though this conversation has been talked about so much. But there is a MISSING PIECE to all of this which is identifying your standards!  This is a conversion that we are even going through ourselves as we redefine what we want our next season of life and marriage to be. Goals don’t always get achieved BUT they never will if you don’t realize this key piece about your acceptable standards. This is all a part of being able to live your dream life as well. So make sure you tune into this one. The key terms here also come from the book we have been reading, The Power of One More, by Ed Mylett. That link is below again as well!   Resources For Your Relationship: You can sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here Then learn more about The Communication Mastery Bundle course for you and your partner to grow closer together, communicat

A funny thing in a relationship is that in the beginning your differences attracted you to your partner. Some time later those differences become points of tension and butting heads. All of a sudden you want them to be less assertive and opinionated, more organized and to remember to put household things in the places you want, you want them to change their tone and sound less accusatory, or you differ on decisions to either go on a trip or to save money.  In this episode you will understand more about where your personality differences come from, but also that you don’t have to seek to change them. You will hear about how our discovery of our differences in personality actually led us to being able to create more understanding, ease, and flow in our relationship. We use a type of personality test called Human Design to give us amazing insights into our natural characteristics, where we are different, but then how to use them to be a better team.   Resources For Your Relationship: You can sign-up for a 2-on-2

Trips to see your in-laws… these are supposed to be times of fun, connection, and relaxation. Yet many times they can be quite the opposite. You might feel drained, depleted, constrained from being yourself and what you really want to do, and end up ending the trip without it being what you really wanted and would have fulfilled you. The core reason for this is blurred or crossed boundaries. In this episode you will hear, after we just went on a trip to see our families, the categories of boundaries, why they get crossed, the reasons you do not bring them up, and some tips to create more harmony on your trips to see family.   Resources For Your Relationship: Get $50 OFF The Live Couples Workshop which now you can attend from anywhere in the world, to enhance your communication skills together. Use code: podcast50   Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training) You can also sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session her

The most important thing in relationships is repairing and resolving conflicts. Because conflicts WILL happen, it’s not about the amount or even having them. Now true repair is not necessarily an easy thing, because of the emotion you both have, the different perspectives you have, and the complex dynamics that happen from making a few mistakes.  These mistakes leave you feeling unresolved, that it’s your fault, blamed, or forced to move on and get past it. In all cases you don’t feel understood or confident that anything will change or keep this from happening again. In this episode you will hear the mistakes that keep you from truly repairing after having arguments, so that you can effectively do the most important thing for your relationship... actually repair from conflicts!   Resources For Your Relationship: Get $50 OFF The Live Couples Workshop which now you can attend from anywhere in the world, to enhance your communication skills together. Use code: podcast50 Order our book, The Argument Hangover, a

Having frustrations and feelings of resentment over your roles and responsibilities is a common thing we hear. One parter is frustrated about not getting help, then the response they get is: “just tell me what you need me to do” OR “I’m happy to help, just tell me what” OR sometimes “it’s your job, you stay at home, I work, so just get it done". This is frustrating for both partners, and triggers defensivness and often a conflict. This is because:  For the partner having to remind: it feels like it’s one person’s responsibility to “own” the housework. It can feel like parenting your partner.  For the partner feeling blindsided: I just don’t see those things, I wish you’d tell me before you get so frustrated, they feel like a lot of emotion comes at them suddenly. In this episode you will hear the main sources of this dynamic and what you can do differently to get back on the same page and feeling supported and loved in the roles and responsibilities you choose.   Resources For Your Relationship: Get $50 OFF