Empowered Couples

All relationships go through seasons of adjustments when "bigger" life events happen. The goal isn’t to avoid big life events or challenges, or even try to just make it through it. These seasons are the opportunities to grow the most in your relationship. To do that however you will have to be more flexible, proactive in your communication, and have more grace for each other so that you stay together and not have the event create separation.    Our big life event has been having our baby, who is now 3 months old! Many of you are of course interested in our specific parenting updates around what is working well for us, what challenges we have faced, and how we have gotten even closer together. In this episode you will hear just that, but also the tools that we use ourselves so that you too can maintain your connection no matter what life season you find yourself in.   Resources For Your Relationship: You can also sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here   Parenting Resources From Episode: D

We posted this question on IG and got a TON of interesting comments. A bit of a range in answers from “NOPE, definitely not” to “Shouldn’t we focus on sacrificial love and put others before ourselves”? So we’re going to address some of the nuances of the comments and some specific points to really answer this question. We admit that like a few comments, it’s not just a yes or no answer. So in this episode we will cover what needs to be in place and how can needs/wants get communicated to not run into having to sacrifice but find what is best for the relationship.   Resources For Your Relationship: Sign-up for the 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here   Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here. Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

Not too many people have the most ideal relationship that they would like. Even if your relationship is going well, you are on the same page about the direction of life, you have the jobs and life that you enjoy and you manage things well together... there is still a place you would like to be even a little better. It might seem like this has been a sticking place for a longer period of time and it seems like it is difficult to really make that change. The reason is that this is a subconscious pattern driving the same actions and reactions within you.  In this episode you will hear how to initially access this subconscious pattern and then identify where (in your past with your parents) this is coming from.    Resources For Your Relationship: The nature of this subconscious pattern makes it difficult to identify and change on your own. So if you would like support in this area you can also sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here   Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of

Intimacy is a huge part of a relationship and if you have been listening here for a little while, you know we are big on both emotional intimacy through communication as well as physical intimacy. For many partners too, if emotional intimacy is missing it’s hard to want to be physically intimate let alone be able to explore and expand this area. We are always learning and open to expand any of our own limits and boundaries in our own relationship From society you probably think of sex mostly as penetration, or from the purely sexual dynamic. But that’s often rushed without the consideration of the other styles of intimacy. When the energetics aren’t there often the sex isn’t that satisfying. There is a subtle and critical interplay with the energy between a couple that can quickly deflate an intimate interaction.  In this episdoe you will hear the profound lessons we learned as we went through the practice together during an intimacy/power dynamic sub/dom class on our trip to Hawaii.    Resources For Your Rel

FREE Course Giveaway - Order our book, The Argument Hangover, then write a review on Amazon to be entered into a drawing for a course of your choice!  Men and women can experience different types of challenges within the same relationship. The difficult thing about that is when it gets expressed to your partner, it can be easily dismissed as being irrational. This is only because the other partner doesn't see things the same way. But this doesn't make it any less impactful.  So the goal of this episode is to bring awareness to the specific challenges that women feel, so that it can be more easily expressed and understood by their partners. In this episode you will hear 3 challenges that women are experiencing in mariages right now!    Resources For Your Relationship: Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here.   About Us: We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable r

FREE Course Giveaway - Order our book, The Argument Hangover, then write a review on Amazon to be entered into a drawing for a course of your choice!  Men and women can experience different types of challenges within the same relationship. The difficult thing about that is when it gets expressed to your partner, it can be easily dismissed as being irrational. This is only because the other partner doesn't see things the same way. But this doesn't make it any less impactful.  So the goal of this episode is to bring awareness to the specific challenges that men feel, so that it can be more easily expressed and understood by their partners. In this episode you will hear 3 challenges that men are experiencing in mariages right now!    Resources For Your Relationship: Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here.   About Us: We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relat

Join the 5 Day Couples Challenge that starts Feb 7th, 2022. Connect with other couples as we go through daily training of the 5 C's for a strong relationship and even get a FREE book!   Ever wonder WHY your partner does things the way they do? Or maybe why they WON’T do something a certain way (like the way you asked them to)? The latter is more likely to happen which is then what leads to saying something like “I would like you to stop _____ “ or “why can’t you just _____”. In either case you are looking for a change in behavior. When it doesn’t happen, you just get more frustrated.  Todays’ episode will reveal the deeper way to understand their psychology and what drives their choices and actions. Plus, it’ll help you understand yourself more as well and why you even do the things you do (or don’t do)! Think of todays’ episode as the only way you can ever really change a pattern you feel stuck with.   Resources For Your Relationship: Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument

Being rejected by another person is a pretty defeating feeling to have. All of us have experienced that at one point in our lives whether it was dating someone, rejected for a job you wanted, or even by someone that used to be a friend.  You probably don’t think about it too much once you are married because well…you are married to that person and they are not going anywhere! Rejection usually comes with a forced physical separation, that’s why in your relationship, the feeling of being rejected can be even more painful. Underneath you can feel rejected in your ideas, how you communicate, even in your habits. This feeling can be why you don’t bring up certain topics to your partner or even why you feel tension lingering between you and them. In this episode you will hear the steps you can take if feeling rejected is a fear that has been creating emotional distance from your partner.    Resources For Your Relationship: Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect

It's a part of all relationships, at one point you have said (to yourself or aloud) "how do I get my partner to _____"? There is something that your partner does that makes you feel well... not the most stellar! Because you feel a certain way you want them to change something.  We are all about growth and change, that's what being in a relationship is all about. However there are better ways to "influence" your partner to make changes, that won't put them on the defensive or have them shut you out.  In this episode you will get 2 steps to take that will help you create influence with your partner so that you both see the change that you desire in the relationship.   Resources For Your Relationship: Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here. Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)   About Us: We’re The Fre

Watch our NEW FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). You can pick a time to watch it here.   The idea of having good habits is so simple and it probably feels like it’s overly talked about. Every person on social media that jumps in to be an influencer or coach is going to talk about your “habits”. We all have some good habits, and some bad ones… but we would say maybe there are not “bad” just habits that do not serve you any more. There will be many times in your relationship that you will find this to be true as well. There are some habits (whether in communication, roles, financial, or even task management) that do not serve your relationship any longer.  At the end of the day habits are very powerful because the majority of the actions you take in a day, even the thoughts that you think or the emotions that you feel… are just habits. We have found that there are many “habits” we have put in place that are vital to the he

Watch our NEW FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). You can pick a time to watch it here. So you’re having a seemingly simple conversation with your partner or a perfectly normal day, and then BAM things escalate into an unexpected conflict. It’s frustrating when that happens! Many times that happens because of the way one of you initiates the conversation, and then the way the other person listens. So today’s episode gives you 2 simple ways (that literally take you 5 seconds) to prevent these simple conversations from becoming an unnecessary conflict.   Episode Resources & Links: Tiny Habits by BJ Fogg HERE

The “forgetting curve” principle shows that your partner is likely to forget 50% within an hour, 70% within 24 hours, and 90% within a week. So if this is true, why on earth would we expect our partner to remember something we express ONE time: like a want/need?! Since human memory can’t be relied on and your partner likely has a lot on their mind/plate, then we need to partner with them by effectively providing gentle, loving reminders. But what about nagging?! Someone asked this on our Instagram post. In this episode we distinguish between “nagging” your partner and healthy “assertiveness.” Assertiveness is empowering, and a skill we all can get better at in a relationship. To better use this skill in your conflict repair: Watch the FREE WebClass on The 5 Step Process to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes, Instead of Hours, Days or Weeks. Register and watch here.

Baby Freeman is HERE! If you’re seeing this episode it means our baby girl was born :) But we recorded these episodes to make sure you have resources while we’re snuggling her. The opposite of “Permission Based Communication” is “Permission-Less Communication”....which is more likely to lead to defensiveness, backlash, or an unintended argument.  The thing is, it’s not respectful to just bring up a topic whenever YOU want to talk about it. Why? Because it’s not respecting and honoring your partner’s boundaries or taking into account if they’re really and open and prepared for it. And this applies to moments when you want to: ask them to do something, express feelings you have about a certain issue, give them feedback, etc.  Implementing “Permission-Based Communication” will help you two have more constructive conversations, so you’ll love this episode!    Also, make sure you watch the FREE WebClass we recorded for you all: The 5 Step Process to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes, Inste

End the year by having this meaningful conversation together as a couple about your life and relationship goals. Life goes by pretty quickly, so it’s important to pause each year and make sure you’re on track with what’s important to you both.  Plus, you will feel a new sense of partnership and inspiration when you have one or more goals that you’re pursuing together. Tune in to this episode to hear: How it benefits your partnership to have goals you pursue together Step-by-step how to have this conversation about your goals and priorities 3 meaningful questions to ask each other   Resources Mentioned: Watch our NEW FREE WebClass on--> The 5 Steps to Repair After An Argument So You Reconnect in Just Minutes, Instead of Hours, Days, or Weeks Book called Limitless by Jim Qwik   About Us: We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us

Masculine and Feminine energy exists within all of us, and is critical to feeling “in sync” with your partner (rather than resistant). The masculine energy is: action-oriented, discerning, directive, logical. And feminine energy is: feelings-oriented, receptive, intuitive If you experience resistance, tension, or even a lack of “attraction,” it could be because one or both of you is out of balance in your masculine/feminine energies. This episode is going to give you an interesting take on your communication and relationship. Get ready for a powerful reflection!   Resources in this episode: NEW FREE WebClass: The 5 Steps to Repair After an Argument in Just Minutes HERE Mars and Venus in the Bedroom by John Gray HERE Sacred Relationships book HERE

A NEW, SURPRISE (and FREE) Resource announced on this episode!  The way you two repair after a conflict will either lead to emotional baggage or emotional healing and bonding. The thing is, it can be hard to set aside the ego and focus on repair, especially when you also feel hurt about some things said and done during the argument. This episode focuses on the MOST critical step to repair (of the 5 total), which also tends to be the hardest.  But by focusing on this step we share, you WILL resolve things faster, and move towards emotional healing. Tune in for this critical step to take.   Relationship Resources: YOU GET EARLY ACCESS to our brand new (and free) WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (instead of hours, days, weeks). GO HERE TO SIGN-UP AND WATCH.

Every interaction is either a deposit or withdrawal from your partner’s “love account”. Meaning, every little remark you make or thing you say either deposits love and connection or it takes some away. The thing is, less “love deposits” are made for couples who are together a while or find themselves in busy seasons of life.  Most couples will go through seasons like these where they need to be making more deposits but they are actually making more withdrawals unconsciously. This isn’t just a relational “nice idea” because the level of your love accounts determines how on edge, reactive, and snappy you are to each other. The hardest thing about having a low account is that you are much less willing to do the thing you need, to fill it back up…   Resources For Your Relationship: Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)   *It would be an amazing baby gift if you would leave a review for the book. As content creators, that is a h

There has always been a focus on the future that we each want to create. As a couple this can be in the form of setting goals or establishing your vision statement. This is a great thing because you can’t get anywhere if you don’t know where you want to go. But sometimes this can leave you feeling disappointed that you are “not there yet” or be discouraged when you feel you are not making as much progress as you would like.  In this solo episode with Aaron you will hear how there is a gap that gets created from this thinking, which can cause you to feel more disappointed about the relationship, when really you just need to change a particular focus. You will hear how you can close the gap between where you want to be and where you are now, so that you are not left feeling discouraged about your current relationship or your partner. You will easily gain appreciation and gratitude by making this one small shift.   Episode Resources & Links: Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free b

The Danish people have ranked as the “happiest people on earth” for 40 years in a row starting in the 70’s, only to be rivaled by Norwegian and Finish people over the last several years. And their happiness isn’t dependent on things like: the weather or low taxes (it’s actually pretty cold and dark there, and they have relatively higher taxes)....so they must be doing something else right to be so happy. So in today’s episode we cover 3 of the traits that they focus on to be the happiest people. Many of the traits we KNOW are critical to having a happy marriage. Of course just being a happier individual will lead to a happier relationship, but you will be able to know exactly what traits to improve in your relationship, so that your own happiness is intentional and not just based on better life circumstances.   Episode Resources & Links: If you’re a parent, attend the WebClass taught by parenting expert, Amy McCready, on November 10th. Details and registration HERE. Read the book we referred to in the po

Episode Resources & Links: FREE Parenting WebClass with Amy McCready on November 10th HERE Hypnobabies Program for Natural Birth HERE Pelvic Floor Birth Program (One Strong Mama) HERE The Conscious Parent book by Dr Shefali HERE Video on baby communication sounds HERE Elimination Communication (Go Diaper Free) HERE   There are many ways to parent a child and even the way of "let's just figure it out as we go". We wanted to take this episode to share with you about our prep for becoming parents this coming December.  As we are so into communication and emotional intelligence between couples, you shouldn't be surprised that we are learning about how to do that with our own daughter.  Of course reading and listening is not the same as the "as lived experience", there are a number of philosophies and parenting guidelines that we are committed to implementing so that we can be truly conscious parents. Being conscious parents will allow us the best opportunity to raise a conscious child.  By no means are we