New Life Live With Steve Arterburn

Caller Questions & Discussion: Dr. Jacqui explains how to pray and why your relationship with God matters. My daughter has asked me not to interact with my grandsons when they are with their father. Do I need to comply with her wishes? I recently discovered that my daughter was sexually abused by my son, beginning when she was 5 years old. Where do I even start? What does ‘one flesh’ in marriage really mean? Does it mean two individuals working together as a team, or does it mean the husband makes all the decisions? My accountant wants to borrow $1,000 from me and keep it a secret. What should I do?

Caller Questions & Discussion: JJ discusses how healthy relationships require personal responsibility and what each person must bring to the table in order to “live at peace with everyone” (Romans 12:18). My husband believes our 28-year-old son who lives at home is not managing his spending well and needs to take responsibility, but I don’t agree. My 70-year-old husband is on his phone from morning until 2 a.m. and won’t help around the house; what advice do you have? I struggle to maintain boundaries with women, and it may have contributed to my wife divorcing me; have you seen this before? I quit drinking alcohol last year because of my wife, but over time what I’ve been viewing online has repeatedly damaged my marriage.

Caller Questions & Discussion: Dr. Sheri discusses why we should offer words of affirmation to those around us. It’s really important to me to stand up for what I believe is right, but I received backlash after attending an event and speaking up. Should I help my daughter and son-in-law’s marriage? My son-in-law says she is showing symptoms of borderline personality disorder, similar to my ex-wife. I can’t let go of the feeling that it was my fault my 22-year-old son died by suicide in 2011. I live daily with the belief that I passed on my depression, anxiety, schizophrenia, and bipolar disorder.

Caller Questions & Discussion: Becky discusses Jehoshaphat and how God gives you the strength to fulfill your calling, but not God’s work. What are your thoughts on a boy under age 6 years old who wants to wear a princess dress at his cousin’s house and asks to put on makeup for play? How can I help my 27-year-old son find a stable job? He is living at home and has a felony record. I joined a church and told the pastor I wanted to get involved in outreach, but I haven’t heard back. Can a therapist help discern the truth in a marriage? I’m navigating a difficult marriage and recently lost my mom.

Caller Questions & Discussion: Marc discusses how to stop reacting and learn to start responding. How do you get your adult voice, like Marc talks about in Understanding Your Attachment Style? My parents never modeled it. How do I find connection after my sister was murdered? I’ve thought about suicide and think I should’ve been shot instead of her. I’m almost 60 years old and have such severe anxiety that I think I’m going to be put away; can you give me some direction?

Caller Questions & Discussion: Dr. Jacqui reminds us that the divisions in our churches are not as God intended. My adult son believes whatever his narcissistic father tells him—should I tell my son the truth? This is my third marriage, and my husband threatens to leave whenever we get into an explosive argument—how do I handle it? Both of my parents tried to kill me; how does this childhood trauma affect me today as an adult?

Caller Questions & Discussion: Dr. Jill discusses a few words to use instead of “resolutions” and notes that it’s healthy to pause at this time of year to reflect. My daughter was a victim of sex trafficking at 14 years old and ten years later said she was pregnant, but we never saw proof. How can I stop caring so much about my adult daughter? She got involved with a man, ended up in jail, and now she and her son live with us. I am the mother of eight adult children who had a narcissistic father; what can I do to heal and renew my relationship with them? I’m in my 20s and struggling with a pornography addiction; what kind of help do I need?

Caller Questions & Discussion: Becky explains why she considers today “Mat Day” and why we must stop making excuses and pick up our mats and walk if we want to be well (John 5). How do I handle not being able to share community bread during communion at my new church? I sent my niece’s husband to Every Man’s Battle a year ago, and he came back a changed man! My wife hasn’t been intimate with me for 5 years; how do I deal with my anger and bitterness in a sexless marriage? Can someone who is a narcissist be truly saved?

Caller Questions & Discussion: Becky challenges us in the New Year to reduce the amount of time to get out of a bad state of mind with help from Ephesians 4. Should I separate from my husband to overcome my unforgiveness? My husband left a month ago; what can I do if he blames me and doesn’t like confrontation? How can I help my daughter-in-law? My son is a narcissist and verbally abusive to her.

Caller Questions & Discussion: Marc discusses what it looks like for a parent to let go by offering their children freedom, and he gives the example of Jesus going missing when he was a child in Jerusalem. A few months ago, I realized I’m a covert narcissist, my family had me admitted to a mental health facility, and I threatened suicide; what do I do now? If I receive a blessing from God, but then turn around and don’t accept the blessing; do you have any insight into that? I’m a single mom in love with a man in meth recovery, and I struggle with anxious attachment; what can I do? My bipolar nephew and his pregnant wife moved in with my stepmother and me; since it’s her house, am I supposed to stand up for her?

Caller Questions & Discussion: Dr. Sheri explains cognitive dissonance and why it is essential to take steps to protect and ground yourself after a spouse has betrayed you. Many people wonder how men and women can survive in a world with OnlyFans and AI girlfriends, and New Life LIVE radio hosts discuss strategies for maintaining healthy relationships. January sees a rise in breakups as many couples postpone ending relationships until after the holidays, and the radio hosts explain why this trend occurs. What should I do after confessing my infidelity to my husband? How can I heal my marriage and make things right? How can you support someone who is struggling with depression and suicidal thoughts? And what can they do themselves?

Caller Questions & Discussion: Chris shares that he struggles to cry, but every Christmas Eve he gets the gift of tears. Let your tears teach you what is most important and most hopeful in life. Chris also shares that our emotions are a muscle; if his sad muscles get strengthened, then his resiliency for sadness increases. If you live your life to avoid loss, you will also avoid life. What are one or two ways to start trusting God when trusting anyone is difficult or feels impossible? I’m in a new church, and they’ve said you shouldn’t really be in the presence of the opposite sex; how do I not let that throw me off spiritually?

Caller Questions & Discussion: Dr. Alice invites us to turn off our screens to put time and attention into our family. How do I cope with going no contact with my elderly parents for the second time? Their words aren’t life-giving. I’ve been married for two years, and my wife is separated from me because my anxiety is stopping me from living life. Do I tell my teen kids that their mom is a narcissist so they can learn to cope? I struggled with marijuana addiction my whole life until I gave my life to Jesus!

Caller Questions & Discussion: Staying home and being isolated at Christmas? JJ shares what you can do to have joyful holidays. Should I reach out to the other grandmother of my grandson? Her son and my daughter used to date, and their young son is not living with my daughter. My son was raised by my mother as my brother, and he wants to stay with me at Christmas; should I let him? My young teen is being bullied for not using social media—how can I help? What should I do if I’ve been taking asthma medication that gives me suicidal thoughts?

Caller Questions & Discussion: Marc shares about family dynamics and why it is so hard to be an adult when we go home for the holidays. I have full guardianship of my wife with severe depression and she refuses treatment; how do I cope with feeling stuck after trying everything? What should I do when my marriage has no intimacy and my wife refuses counseling? How can I heal from being estranged from my son and grandchildren for over ten years, even after long-term therapy? What is the difference between Understanding Your Attachment Style by Marc Cameron and How We Love by Milan and Kay Yerkovich?

Caller Questions & Discussion: Dr. Jill shares that asking where God is in your circumstance may not be a question; it may be a protest because you want it to be different (from Dr. John Townsend’s book Where Is God?). After getting sober, my young adult son has ignored me, even after he had a baby. Should I pursue a relationship with my half-sisters? My stepfather sexually abused me, and they believe him instead of me. What’s the next step for moving forward with my life after my husband left to move to another state? What advice would you give your younger self just starting in counseling? I’m completing my Licensed Professional Counselor requirements this year.

Caller Questions & Discussion: Dr. Jill explains how to cope with road rage and retail rage using the Golden Rule from Matthew 7:12 and Luke 6:31. Why have I always had a problem with kissing on the mouth, even after 60yrs of marriage? What should I do if my gay son’s partner is pressuring him to get married, and he asked me if I’d go to their wedding? How can I deal with bitterness? Many of my friends are either dating or married and I’m almost 30yo and single. What can I do to fix myself to stop getting into relationships with women I need to fix?

Caller Questions & Discussion: Dr. Jim explains that other people’s choices do not define you, so instead of overthinking their actions, focus on loving them where they are. Why am I avoiding travel to see my children and grandchildren? Is it selfishness, or could fatigue, allergies, or other issues be holding me back? After nearly 40yrs of marriage, I’ve fallen out of love with my husband. He hasn’t worked for years and much of our savings is gone. I’m a pastor and was demoted after my church conference questioned the money my church brought in; how do I process this? After electroconvulsive therapy for depression and bipolar disorder, I feel disconnected from my adult sons.

Caller Questions & Discussion: Becky discusses how many of us struggle during the holidays and reminds us that even in a hard season, God is with us. Thank you for praying for my family member, who was struggling with addiction but is now experiencing the holidays sober for the first time! As a single grandmother, how can I talk to my adult children about feeling abandoned during Christmas, even when some of them live nearby? I’ve been friends with a man for a year, but our relationship has had many ups and downs; should I talk to him about my feelings? How can I set healthy boundaries with my 26-year-old son? He has oppositional disorder and only contacts me to ask for money.

Caller Questions & More: Marc explains that codependency is the belief, “I need you to be okay so that I can be okay.” My husband wants me to apologize for accusing him of having an affair because of a text I saw. Should I confront him or let it go? What’s the best way to balance being a pastor with attending all the sporting events my five sons and twelve grandkids want me to go to? I’m almost 84 and have struggled with long-term depression, especially after my husband of nearly 64 years passed away. I feel like my prayers are awkward by myself, and I’d like to pray with my husband; any thoughts on how we can change that?