New Life Live With Steve Arterburn

Caller Questions & Discussion: Dr. Jill discusses a simple exercise: list your fears, reflect on how they affect you, and determine if there’s an action you can take. The stronger my relationship with God gets, the more I feel attacked by anxiety, depression, and fear. As a believer, how can I combat this? My friend’s husband continues to be unfaithful, but she wants to wait until her 6-year-old graduates high school before leaving him. How can I help her?

Caller Questions & Discussion: Laura Mangin-McDonald shares how God designed us for connection and outlines three key steps we must take to heal in community. What should I do in my marriage if my husband of five years is hard to get along with? He is a veteran, complains constantly, and is very sarcastic. I called the police when my 12-year-old son with ADHD hit me in the face, and now he is sending alarming text messages about sex—what should I do? Laura previews the upcoming Betrayal Webinar and the many types of betrayal that will be addressed for the men and women who attend.

Caller Questions & Discussion: Becky Brown discusses the launch of New Life’s 9941 program, inspired by Luke 15, offering a new way to bring hope to the lost. How do I determine if—or when—to introduce my seven children (ages 13 to 6 months) to my estranged mom? My 42-year-old sister struggles with alcohol, is in a homeless shelter, and now has a brain tumor. Do I tell my mom she has a brain tumor?

Caller Questions & Discussion: JJ discusses the story in Exodus 18 where Moses’ father-in-law, Jethro, advises Moses to delegate his responsibilities instead of handling everything alone. My 11-year-old daughter is terrified of vomiting. Should I seek professional help? Sometimes she refuses to eat because she feels nauseous. During the Superbowl, what advice do you have for people who have a tendency to overindulge with food, alcohol, or betting? How much help should I provide my 34-year-old son, who has struggled with bipolar disorder and psychosis? I’m considering renting an apartment for him. I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder, but I think it caused my diabetes. Can I stop taking my medication?

Caller Questions & Discussion: Marc shares the phases of a romantic relationship and the tipping point where the relationship deepens or fades. My husband is a former opioid addict and currently uses pornography, but I don’t want to divorce. What should I do? I want to share about the New Life Recovery Group we’re starting at our church and the benefits of being part of a recovery group. What should I do if my pastor is telling me I have to stay in my marriage even though we’re unhappy and don’t like each other?

Caller Questions & More: Dr. Sheri discusses betrayal blindness and how pornography can be like a gateway drug that can lead to even worse things. Do I get out of my marriage? My husband and I have lived like roommates for the last 20 years, even after we’ve seen three counselors. I want to be a life-giver, but I’m blind and live in a nursing home. How can I help people here? How can I stop being affected by profanity? I struggle when I hear curse words because I feel cursing is sinful.

Caller Questions & Discussion: Dr. Jill shares that, like the Titanic, which received multiple warnings to turn back, we can miss the warning signs people in our lives send. How can we help our 14-year-old granddaughter who has an autoimmune disease? She struggles with suicidal thoughts and is already seeing a counselor. My 12-year-old granddaughter disclosed that she was sexually abused by her brother and is engaging in self-harm. What steps should we take? How do I connect with my 18-year-old son who does well at school but isolates himself at home and emotionally shuts me out? I saw handwriting on the ceiling of my hotel room that said, “I love you,” but when I looked again, it was gone. Could that have been God?

Caller Questions & Discussion: Dr. Alice discusses how to overcome unhealthy habits, attitudes or behaviors; confession is the key. Is my friend doing the right thing by divorcing her husband of nearly 14 years? He has been in a long-term relationship with another woman and doesn’t contribute to the household finances. After enduring several narcissistic, abusive relationships, I’m now enjoying being alone since my children are grown. Is this normal, or is it just a season of life? What can we do for our 6-year-old grandson who has lost family members? He talks about death several times a day and has even said he wants to die. 1

Caller Questions & Discussion: Chris discusses how our attempts to control situations can come across as judgmental, and he reminds us that Romans 2:1 serves as a warning. What does healing from spiritual and sexual abuse look like? I struggled with same-sex attraction and confided in a man I dated, who ultimately abused me. I was sexually abused by my father, and it’s like my mom blamed me. How can I navigate this difficult relationship with her? How can I help my 46-year-old daughter who feels hopeless and struggles with suicidal thoughts? My granddaughter isn’t inviting certain family members to her wedding, which is hurting my cousin’s feelings. How can I address this family conflict?

Caller Questions & Discussion: Becky discusses how our culture has become obsessed with certainty, but we must ensure that the need for certainty doesn’t replace our dependence on God. My husband and I have been separated for six years due to his abuse, and he is now seeing someone else. What should I do? My firstborn daughter died from fentanyl five years ago, and I’m still in complete shock. How can I cope? My mom says she won’t attend my daughter’s Quinceañera if we play secular dance music. What’s the best way to handle this? What should I do if my 35-year-old daughter struggles with serious mental health challenges and even threw a plate at me? How can I motivate my aging father? He doesn’t shower, drinks alcohol, and rarely changes his clothes after my mother died 3 years ago.

Caller Questions & Discussion: Dr. Henry Cloud shares the biggest lesson he’s learned from decades as an acclaimed psychologist, author, and leadership expert. Am I making the right decision to leave my husband of six years? He is a pastor but refuses to share his finances or provide financial support. My husband of 36 years is a high-functioning alcoholic. I tried to leave, but it caused constant conflict—how do I stop letting him push my buttons? I’m in a friendship with a Christian man who kisses me on the lips, and we give each other massages, but I want a committed relationship. Should I go no contact and move on?

Caller Questions & Discussion: Dr. Jim discusses why parents need to allow their adult children to learn through natural consequences and be careful not to enable them. My husband asked for a divorce the day before Thanksgiving, and it scares me that his family might turn my kids against me. What should my next step be to connect with a woman in my Bible study who has anxiety? I asked her to go out to eat, but she canceled. My daughter is divorced from an abusive marriage, and she has recently been swept off her feet by a man who is here on a work visa. As a dad, what is my role? What is the next step after I had an affair 25 years ago that my husband keeps bringing up?

Caller Questions & Discussion: Dr. Alice discusses common reasons marriages decay, with a focus on physical intimacy. How do I enjoy being close to my husband again when his anger and yelling make me withdraw from physical intimacy? I was married for 20 years, and my ex-husband said he was never physically attracted to me. Why would someone marry a spouse they aren’t attracted to? I believe my family may be involved with a harmful organization, and someone broke into my storage unit. I contacted the FBI, but nothing happened; what should I do next?

Caller Questions & Discussion: Dr. Henry Cloud discusses his personal journey of faith and how the science of psychology affirms the truth of the Bible. My 26-year-old son with Asperger’s lives with me after leaving the Army and often reacts strongly to what others say. His siblings want me to create a contract with him; how should I respond? My adult son struggles with alcohol and possibly Adderall. He becomes angry when I confront him. Is this my responsibility, or is it something he and his wife need to address? How do I help my 13-year-old son? His father is trying to coerce him into living with him, and my son has colitis and has said he doesn’t deserve to live.

Caller Questions & Discussion: Dr. Jacqui explains why it’s important to read Scripture for yourself; don’t let your Bible understanding come from the pulpit only. My husband and I have been living in separate rooms for 20 years, and I’m in recovery. How should I handle him being constantly angry at me? My brother has become a hoarder and has been scammed out of $400,000. What can I do to help him? I’m providing financially for my wife and want to make her happy, but she has served me divorce papers. Should I stop providing?

Caller Questions & Discussion: Laura discusses why love is free, but trust must be earned. What are the three key steps to rebuild trust after someone has hurt us? What are some practical tips for navigating parenting in a blended family? Our young adult daughters are struggling to begin launching into adulthood.

Caller Questions & Discussion: Dr. Jill explains why John Ortberg’s book Steps: A Guide to Transforming Your Life When Willpower Isn’t Enough is a helpful reminder that the 12 Steps originated from the Bible and within a church community. I see how my mom was, and I don’t want to be like her. What do you recommend I do to reconnect with my husband if he thinks I’m a vacillator? I’m in my 60s, engaged, and want to do thorough premarital counseling, but my fiancé wants to move through it quickly.” My 7-year-old grandson has been touching his cousin inappropriately. My daughter is very defensive and lets him do what he wants—what should I do? What is wrong with me that I can’t stand up for myself with my boss and my boyfriend? My twin sister says she would never put up with what I put up with. The foster son I raised has moved to Texas, and it’s been an adjustment for me.

Caller Questions & Discussion: Dr. Alice explains responses like “You’re so sensitive” can be like poison ivy for a relationship because it comes across as defensive. I’m from a country where arranged marriages are common, and I married a man and moved to America. Am I wrong if I started seeing someone else while we were separated and want a divorce? Is it wrong to send money each month to my ungrateful brother? He was codependent with my mom and then deported to another country. After my mom revealed she was sexually abused and became pregnant with me, I lost all respect for my dad. As a Christian, how should I navigate this? My 8-year-old granddaughter with severe anxiety believes she’s going to hell because she hit her mom. What can I do? I used drugs since I was 8 years old, but I found Christ and walked away from drugs last August!

Caller Questions & Discussion: Becky shares that there’s power in the story you tell yourself, but it can keep you stuck. I got married despite my mentors telling me not to, and my husband has anger issues and a hard time staying employed; how do I do this day in and day out? I walked in on my wife of 10yrs talking to a man on the phone, and I believe she’s cheating. Is this grounds for divorce? How do I learn to trust my current husband if my first husband was addicted to porn? I don’t know how to trust again.

Caller Questions & Discussion: Marc discusses how we all have emotional blind spots and why becoming defensive can block personal growth. My husband of 10yrs has struggled with a porn addiction that has escalated to massage parlors and voyeuristic behavior. We have young children—should I leave my marriage? I believe my wife shows narcissistic traits, and it feels like everything I do is wrong. How do I deal with a controlling spouse? I’ve been diagnosed with brain delirium and have intense anxiety. Could my anxiety be related to PTSD?