Marriage Radio: Helping Your Marriage

Military marriages have the highest rate of divorce in America. Couple that with lots of anger, addiction, and separation...and there's plenty of reasons to divorce.Kimberly Holmes, CEO of Marriage Helper, and her husband Rob married while Rob was in the military. In the first year of marriage, they moved halfway around the world. In their second year of marriage, they separated for a year. In their third year of marriage, anger and addiction split them even further apart and their marriage was headed for divorce. Not the "newlywed years" that others had told them about. However, Rob and Kimberly overcame the odds and fought for their marriage. But not at the same time. Hear their story in this podcast and learn how they learned how to deal with anger, addiction, and being separated.Learn more about Marriage Helper at www.marriagehelper.comOr call 615.472.1161 or 866.903.0990

Is your spouse emotionally disengaged? Physically gone? Have you relentlessly tried searching, trying to figure out what you can do to bring your spouse back or make your spouse want to be in the marriage at all, only to find yourself completely overwhelmed?I understand.If you go to Google and type in "what to do to save a marriage" or "what to do to bring a spouse back", the information is insane. A lot of it contradicts the other, and if you try to implement some from here and some from there, then you'll find yourself frustrated and back at square one.We want to help make this easy for you. We have laid it out, and figured out the FIRST thing that you should do when trying to bring your spouse back.We teach you how in this episode.Be sure to listen, subscribe, and review to help us help more couples!Contact us to learn how we can help you save your marriage:www.marriagehelper.com 615.472.1161 or 866.903.0990

She's married to one but in love with another. She said she was Christian and spoke of her great love for God and amazing relationship with Jesus. She mentioned that she had prayed about what she was to do and in response God "told" her to divorce her husband and be with her lover...that He had sent her this lover and wanted her to be with him.She talked about how she had quit interacting with Christian people because they were mean and judgmental about her leaving her husband for another. She feels complete confidence that God answered her prayer for a wonderful marriage by providing the right man for a new marriage.Yes, she had slept with her lover, but God was fine with that also. "God is love. I feel love for him. Therefore, this is of God."Is it?In this program Dr. Joe Beam discusses whether God sends people lovers to replace their spouses. Dr. Beam usually approaches relationship questions from his educational and social science background. When he speaks, he refers to solid res

Has your spouse cheated?Are your friends and family urging you to kick your mate out? Punish him or her? Get on with your life?But you find yourself wondering if that is what you should do. If your spouse wants to come back, should you allow it? If you do, can you have a good marriage again or will you always have problems with trust...hurt...maybe even self doubt?If your spouse is "in love" with someone else and doesn't want to come back, is your marriage over? Is there a way to put it back together? Even if there is, do you have the desire or the strength to go through your pain and make your marriage good again?In this program, Dr. Joe Beam provides the pros and cons of saving a marriage after infidelity. He explains the three types of extramarital affairs. He gives you the primary points to consider in deciding whether to take back a spouse who strayed...or to win back the spouse who is still straying.Find more information about why people stray, why they sometimes feel that they are "

Having trouble getting your spouse to talk? Maybe you are separated. Maybe you are living in the same house but your spouse doesn't want to talk to you and has completely shut down. This podcast will teach you the 3 things to get to encourage your spouse to talk.

You've prayed. Others have prayed with you...for you. Your children pour out their hearts. Yet, your marriage continues to spiral downward.Someone on TV tells you that if only you have enough faith, God will do whatever you ask. (Then s/he asks you for a check to prove your faith...)Well-meaning friends tell you that God is faithful if only you will continue to be...that He will bring about healing for your marriage...and that you should not doubt.However, time passes, your prayers change from petition to aggravation. Why isn't God listening? Why isn't He doing what you ask? As one lady recently said, "I'm done with God. I've given Him plenty of opportunity to change my husband and He's done nothing."Can God answer prayers about marriage? Does He? Does He care about your pain? Will He intervene in the messy situations of life in which we find ourselves? Will He change your husband or wife so that they stop doing the things hurting you, your children, your marriage...and

You've prayed. Others have prayed with you...for you. Your children pour out their hearts. Yet, your marriage continues to spiral downward.Someone on TV said that if only you have enough faith, God will do whatever you ask. (Then s/he asks you for a check to prove your faith...)Well-meaning friends tell you God is faithful if only you will continue to be...that He will bring about healing for your marriage...and that you should not doubt.However, time passes, your prayers change from petition to aggravation. Why isn't God listening? Why isn't He doing what you ask? As one lady recently said, "I'm done with God. I've given Him plenty of opportunity to change my husband and He's done nothing."Can God answer prayers about marriage? Does He? Does He care? Will He intervene in the situations of life in which we find ourselves? Will He change your spouse so that they stop doing the things hurting you, your children, your marriage...and even to themselves?To answer those quest

Are you controlling? Really?Or is your spouse trying to manipulate you? S/he claims you're controlling because you're an obstacle to him or her doing whatever they wish.Maybe there's a combination. You have been controlling and now your spouse is using that to manipulate you into inaction by accusing you of being controlling now.If you are controlling, eventually that behavior will destroy your marriage.If you're being manipulated, backing off on a matter could make a clear path for your spouse to hurt you.If you have been controlling, but now you feel you must take a stand to stop your spouse from doing things detrimental to your marriage, stopping your stand might be the worst thing you can do.So...how do you know? What do you do?When do you back off and when do you take your stand?In this program, Dr. Joe Beam explains what control in a relationship is. He discusses why people control and how they can stop controlling. He also points out that sometimes there needs to be control...even i

Are you controlling? Really?Or is your spouse trying to manipulate you? S/he claims you're controlling because you're an obstacle to him or her doing whatever they wish.Maybe there's a combination. You have been controlling and now your spouse is using that to manipulate you into inaction by accusing you of being controlling now.If you are controlling, eventually that behavior will destroy your marriage.If you're being manipulated, backing off on a matter could make a clear path for your spouse to hurt you.If you have been controlling, but now you feel you must take a stand to stop your spouse from doing things detrimental to your marriage, stopping your stand might be the worst thing you can do.So...how do you know? What do you do?When do you back off and when do you take your stand?In this program, Dr. Joe Beam explains what control in a relationship is. He discusses why people control and how they can stop controlling. He also points out that sometimes there needs to be control...even i

Are you controlling? Really?Or is your spouse trying to manipulate you? S/he claims you're controlling because you're an obstacle to him or her doing whatever they wish.Maybe there's a combination. You have been controlling and now your spouse is using that to manipulate you into inaction by accusing you of being controlling now.If you are controlling, eventually that behavior will destroy your marriage.If you're being manipulated, backing off on a matter could make a clear path for your spouse to hurt you.If you have been controlling, but now you feel you must take a stand to stop your spouse from doing things detrimental to your marriage, stopping your stand might be the worst thing you can do.So...how do you know? What do you do?When do you back off and when do you take your stand?In this program, Dr. Joe Beam explains what control in a relationship is. He discusses why people control and how they can stop controlling. He also points out that sometimes there needs to be control...even i

No one wants to be treated as a child...especially by the person that is supposed to be our partner...our equal...our mate.We don't appreciate being told what to think, how to act, what to feel, or what to believe. Each of us craves being accepted and appreciated for who we are...as we are. When we were children, we understood the need for an authority figure to guide us, teach us, and, sometimes, to command us. But we aren't children and we don't want our husbands or wives telling us what we must do, think, say, or feel to keep from being chastised or punished...or abandoned.I want...and deserve...a partner with whom I can have union based on love, NOT a relationship based on making him or her happy by yielding to nearly every way s/he thinks things should be done.In our work with marriages, we found that one of the most common reasons for major marital discord is a spouse who feels controlled, disrespected, or dominated by the other. Interestingly, often the dominating spouse doesn't bel

No one wants to be treated as a child...especially by the person that is supposed to be our partner...our equal...our mate.We don't appreciate being told what to think, how to act, what to feel, or what to believe. Each of us craves being accepted and appreciated for who we are...as we are. When we were children, we understood the need for an authority figure to guide us, teach us, and, sometimes, to command us. But we aren't children and we don't want our husbands or wives telling us what we must do, think, say, or feel to keep from being chastised or punished...or abandoned.I want...and deserve...a partner with whom I can have union based on love, NOT a relationship based on making him or her happy by yielding to nearly every way s/he thinks things should be done.In our work with marriages, we found that one of the most common reasons for major marital discord is a spouse who feels controlled, disrespected, or dominated by the other. Interestingly, often the dominating spouse doesn't bel

No one wants to be treated as a child...especially by the person that is supposed to be our partner...our equal...our mate.We don't appreciate being told what to think, how to act, what to feel, or what to believe. Each of us craves being accepted and appreciated for who we are...as we are. When we were children, we understood the need for an authority figure to guide us, teach us, and, sometimes, to command us. But we aren't children and we don't want our husbands or wives telling us what we must do, think, say, or feel to keep from being chastised or punished...or abandoned.I want...and deserve...a partner with whom I can have union based on love, NOT a relationship based on making him or her happy by yielding to nearly every way s/he thinks things should be done.In our work with marriages, we found that one of the most common reasons for major marital discord is a spouse who feels controlled, disrespected, or dominated by the other. Interestingly, often the dominating spouse doesn't bel

Love. Lots of people think they know what it is...until they realize that they don't.Think of the hit songs from your lifetime. How many were about wanting to be loved, enjoying amazing love, or longing for lost love? Why those topics? Because most adults fit into one of those three categories. Some wonder where their lover may come from...if at all. Others hope the one they secretly love will finally come to realize it and respond with passion. Many bask in the deep emotions of shared love...and think it will be like this forever. And way too many still love the person who once loved them but now is gone...So what is love really?Is it the ecstatic emotion of new romance? Is it the security of trusting the person you love to always love you in return? Is it something that really does last a lifetime or is it fleeting...lasting a few years at best?In this program, Dr. Joe Beam responds to your questions about love. What it is. How to know if you really are in love. How long it lasts. When it ends. Why it

Love. Lots of people think they know what it is...until they realize that they don't.Think of the hit songs from your lifetime. How many were about wanting to be loved, enjoying amazing love, or longing for lost love? Why those topics? Because most adults fit into one of those three categories. Some wonder where their lover may come from...if at all. Others hope the one they secretly love will finally come to realize it and respond with passion. Many bask in the deep emotions of shared love...and think it will be like this forever. And way too many still love the person who once loved them but now is gone...So what is love really?Is it the ecstatic emotion of new romance? Is it the security of trusting the person you love to always love you in return? Is it something that really does last a lifetime or is it fleeting...lasting a few years at best?In this program, Dr. Joe Beam responds to your questions about love. What it is. How to know if you really are in love. How long it lasts. When it ends. Why it

Love. Lots of people think they know what it is...until they realize that they don't.Think of the hit songs from your lifetime. How many were about wanting to be loved, enjoying amazing love, or longing for lost love? Why those topics? Because most adults fit into one of those three categories. Some wonder where their lover may come from...if at all. Others hope the one they secretly love will finally come to realize it and respond with passion. Many bask in the deep emotions of shared love...and think it will be like this forever. And way too many still love the person who once loved them but now is gone...So what is love really?Is it the ecstatic emotion of new romance? Is it the security of trusting the person you love to always love you in return? Is it something that really does last a lifetime or is it fleeting...lasting a few years at best?In this program, Dr. Joe Beam responds to your questions about love. What it is. How to know if you really are in love. How long it lasts. When it ends. Why it

[Episode brought to you by WhatAboutMe.Org - a division of Marriage Helper that helps children navigate through how to deal with their parents' divorce. Donate to the mission at whataboutme.org/donate]We hear it all the time, "Kids are resilient!"But is it true? If I fall down the stairs and break my leg, will my leg heal?Actually, no it won't heal. If I don't do anything to help my leg heal, then it will only get worse.If I go to the doctor, get a cast, go to physical therapy, and do all the things necessary for my leg to heal, then yes, it will heal. Otherwise...you get the picture.We understand this for every other area of health and wellness in life. But when it comes to thinking about how children are affected during divorce or separation, all of a sudden we expect the children to know exactly what to do to help themselves heal.And that's not how it happens.Can children be resilient? YES. Absolutely.Will they be resilient on their own? Highly unlikely.It is up to parents, fr

[Episode brought to you by WhatAboutMe.Org - a division of Marriage Helper that helps children navigate through how to deal with their parents' divorce. Donate to the mission at whataboutme.org/donate]We hear it all the time, "Kids are resilient!"But is it true? If I fall down the stairs and break my leg, will my leg heal?Actually, no it won't heal. If I don't do anything to help my leg heal, then it will only get worse.If I go to the doctor, get a cast, go to physical therapy, and do all the things necessary for my leg to heal, then yes, it will heal. Otherwise...you get the picture.We understand this for every other area of health and wellness in life. But when it comes to thinking about how children are affected during divorce or separation, all of a sudden we expect the children to know exactly what to do to help themselves heal.And that's not how it happens.Can children be resilient? YES. Absolutely.Will they be resilient on their own? Highly unlikely.It is up to parents, fr

It was a slow decline. 7 years ago is when Brandon and Carrie’s marriage started experiencing troubles, but they didn’t realize it yet. Over the years, they grew apart. Even though they were living in the same house. Work, kids, and the daily occurrences of life started tearing them apart from each other until one day, it seemed like everything came crashing down all at once. What did they do next and where are they now?That’s what we are going to explore in this week’s episode of Marriage Radio.At Marriage Helper, we believe in saving marriages and strengthening families. The main ways we do that are through our live workshops and online courses. Visit marriagehelper.com for more information, or call us at 615.472.1161 or 866.903.0990. 

It was a slow decline. 7 years ago is when Brandon and Carrie’s marriage started experiencing troubles, but they didn’t realize it yet. Over the years, they grew apart. Even though they were living in the same house. Work, kids, and the daily occurrences of life started tearing them apart from each other until one day, it seemed like everything came crashing down all at once. What did they do next and where are they now?That’s what we are going to explore in this week’s episode of Marriage Radio.At Marriage Helper, we believe in saving marriages and strengthening families. The main ways we do that are through our live workshops and online courses. Visit marriagehelper.com for more information, or call us at 615.472.1161 or 866.903.0990.