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Today is not forever.  You will get through this.  Successfully. What to do when the world drops in on you? So far in our series we've talked about the need to "get away." Separate yourself from the problem even if only for a few minutes. Take enough time to clear your head and get your emotions out of the mix. Next, refocus on your goal, get your eyes off the problem long enough to remember why you started the journey in the first place. Next, we began fixing the problem by focusing on the solution not the problem and then we let our positive attitude become contagious and defeat the problem. Today, our final day, we're going to remember that today is not the end.  You will get through this successfully.  You've done it before, you'll do it today, and you'll do it again when it happens again.  Because it will.  But that's OK.

Make sure you've got a positive attitude and demeanor and spread it. What to do when the world drops in on you? So far in our series we've talked about the need to "get away." Separate yourself from the problem even if only for a few minutes. Take enough time to clear your head and get your emotions out of the mix. Next, refocus on your goal, get your eyes off the problem long enough to remember why you started the journey in the first place. Yesterday we began fixing the problem by focusing on the solution not the problem. Today, we let our positive attitude become contagious and defeat the problem.

Focus on Solutions Not Problems What to do when the world drops in on you?  So far in our series we've talked about the need to "get away."  Separate yourself from the problem even if only for a few minutes.  Take enough time to clear your head and get your emotions out of the mix.  Next, refocus on your goal, get your eyes off the problem long enough to remember why you started the journey in the first place. Today, we're going to start fixing the problem. Focus on the solution not the problem.  Focusing on the problem is important, eventually.  You need to understand why things got off track, but your first priority needs to be getting back on track and you do that by focusing on solutions.

When it feels like your life is crumbling around you it's easy to forget why you were doing what you were doing.  Yesterday we talked about getting away from the battle for at least a moment so you can separate your emotions and act rationally.   Today, we're going to make sure we use that time wisely by focusing on the reason we're under fire.  Focus on the goal.  Remember why you started the journey in the first place.

One of the most important things you can do when you're faced with a crisis is get away from the point of the attack.   Unless it's a life threatening situation, you don't need to react immediately.  What you need to do is separate yourself emotionally so you can address what's happening logically.  That will save you from an emotional - and almost always - very bad decision.

In this, the last episode of Building Your Confidence, it's time to begin to really define who the "new you" is.  This will take some time, but it will be the best time you've spent because it will set the path for the rest of your life. You can do it.  You CAN be the extraordinary "new you."  If you're struggling, drop us an email at mentors@wementoryou.org or use the contact form on the website, wementoryou.org. We're in this with you, and we know you can do it.

So far we've discussed how to build a strong foundation for your confidence.  Yesterday we looked at making a Confidence Contract with ourselves, setting an achievable goal, and following up on it. Today, we're going to build on the foundation some more by taking a hard look at the people we spend time with and by selecting a role model.

We're half way through today.  You should have your foundation for your new confident you being built, now it's time to take some action. A confidence contract will give you a target to shoot for and it's important to follow up on your progress.  That way you can begin to celebrate your successes.

We're putting down a foundation upon which you're going to build a new confident you.  Yesterday we looked at drinking water and being grateful.  Today, it's deep breathing and starting the day off with a win by doing something as simple as making your bed.

Really, tap water and gratitude will help you build the foundation of a whole new level of confidence that will change your life. This series looks at simple steps that will take about 10 minutes every day and will build a new, confident, you.  Please just give them a try.  If you don't think it works, there's a full misery back guarantee.

Family time should be prime time not spare time.  It's family time that you'll remember when you can't remember anything else and it's family time that you'll one day wish you could have had more of. Guess what?  You can.  Make sure you make it happen.

There's not much in life that is more important to you than reading.  It fights stress, helps you sleep, and makes you a well rounded person.  And all in just a few minutes a day.  Plus, it's enjoyable. Try it!  You'll like it.

There's more to life than work.  There's more to life than you.  Today we're talking about finding that "more."  You can begin to find it through devotion - spending some time each day focusing on great thoughts - and you'll also find you're recharged.  And then there's service.  To others.  Giving from your heart.  It's also called living a life of gratefulness.

In part two of our series on wise use of your spare time we're looking at making learning a lifetime process.  It keeps your mind active, and will make you significantly more productive at everything you do.

It's not just OK to have spare time, it's essential.  Today we're looking at exercise and having a hobby.  They'll clear the fog bank out of your head and help you to refocus.   Make the most of every minute of time, use it wisely.

When you have to face adversity, a smile will calm the waters and give you the opportunity to build relationships.  Being able to build stronger relationships in hard times is the sign of real leadership and will set you apart from the crowd.

Since most people shy away from confrontation, you can show real leadership by not only being willing to confront problems but do it in a way that builds relationships.   That is real leadership.

If you're going to successfully face adversity and make your confrontation a win-win, you'd better have a plan.  Even a bad plan is better than no plan, but here are the basic elements of a great plan.

Today we look at two more points that will show your leadership in handling confrontation.  Empathy and finding a neutral venue.  The goal of confrontation is not win at any cost, it's do the right thing and build relationships.

Today starts a five part series on dealing with confrontation.  If you want to set yourself apart, if you want to be a leader, you have to learn how to deal with confrontation effectively. Today we're looking at why you need to deal with confrontation sooner rather than later and why it is important to separate your emotions from the confrontation.