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Talking points: collaboration, friendship, masculinityMen, few things are more powerful, fulfilling, and expansive than this, so guard it with your life. It took me way too long to learn and understand, and many people diminish or degrade its importance. Listen in.(00:00:00) - Intro(00:01:53) - Men are isolated and less collaborative than ever before, and we miss out on important things(00:05:06) - Without male collaboration, our society would cease to exist(00:06:40) - What I’ve learned over the last decade about male friendships—and male isolation(00:10:02) - Maybe you yourself are one of those men who could use more friendships(00:11:34) - We’ve got to protect this(00:13:16) - Things you can do to foster male collaborationPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of li

Talking points: evolution, psychology, relationships, sexualityThe field of evolutionary psychology has been on my mind a lot lately, but it can be hard to separate the real science from the stuff with an agenda. To that end, I sat down with David C. Geary to dig into the basics, and how even a little knowledge about things like sexual dimorphism and intrasexual aggression can bring a better understanding to modern relationships.Listen to this one if you want a solid intro to the existence and effects evolution might have on selecting a partner, friendships, overall culture, and more.(00:00:00) - Intro, defining evolutionary psychology, and what it has to offer in the context of modern relationships(00:04:59) - The main pillars of sexual selection(00:09:01) - Describing human sexual dimorphism, brain differences, and possible evolutionary benefits (00:21:07) - Why boys tend to be more interested in how objects work in space(00:28:22) - Why would men have evolved a larger lung capacity? (00:30:38) - We don’t c

Talking points: mindset, relationshipsThe biggest video I launched in 2023 is called "De-Sexualizing My Brain Changed My Life". Naturally, I've gotten a lot of followup comments and questions about what my life has looked like since I started that process. TL;DR: it's a good thing. Here's why.(00:00:00) - Intro and noting some of the comments that have been made(00:01:26) - This isn’t about becoming a monk, it’s about having better control and influence(00:04:58) - Remember, social media is there to grab your attention. It’ll use sex for that(00:06:52) - I am WAY less stressed—and for one significant reason(00:08:59) - I have much, much cleaner conversations with women AND it reinforces the relationship I’m in(00:11:07) - It’s led to the woman that I’m with feeling saferPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationshi

Talking points: porn, masculinity, culture, redpill, relationships, dating, anxiety, mental health, lonelinessEvery January, we get a spike of newcomers to the podcast, and this year I decided to give them a warm welcome by compiling some of the hardest-hitting and most popular episodes of the year.If you're new to the show, dig in and see what convos mattered most to the community. If you're a longtime listener, now may be the chance to catch something you missed!(00:00:00) - Stirling Cooper on how porn impacts a man in the bedroom(00:04:46) - Advice for talking to your son about porn(00:10:43) - Scott Galloway on how the conversation around men is shifting, and why(00:13:21) - The knock-on effects of what men are struggling with(00:10:26) - Again, NOT saying this is wrong, but what are we creating further down the line?(00:11:40) - You can already see some consequences in the data(00:19:13) - A new definition of masculinity(00:26:42) - Scott on why guys like Andrew Tate are so popular(00:31:21) - Jillian Tu

Talking points: relationships, culture Let me start off by making one thing clear: this isn't problematic. But some other things are happening in tandem that I haven't heard any major outlet talk about. That itself is an issue. Listen in. (00:00:00) - Intro and stats(00:01:55) - What I find fascinating(00:03:39) - This is something we ALL should be having dialogue about(00:07:28) - Why authentic equality is really important(00:10:26) - Again, NOT saying this is wrong, but what are we creating further down the line?(00:11:40) - You can already see some consequences in the data Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.  Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchas

Talking points: hormones, testosterone, fertility, health, men's health Note: we had some audio troubles with this one! Welcome to 2024, team. We're kicking it off a bit intense with the podcast. This week, a look at what the **** is going on with hormones. The science behind it all is complicated, but fertility markers across the board are dropping. Why? I sat down with Layne Kilpatrick to get some info. This is a solid ep to check out if you're wondering what hormones (especially testosterone) are all about, and want some solid ways to clear away endocrine disruptors out of your home. (00:00:00) - Intro and Layne’s defining moment(00:02:24) - What the hell is happening with men’s testosterone rates?(00:08:02) - The role testosterone plays in child development(00:16:36) - How microplastics, phthalates, and other chemicals affect development(00:21:00) - What can newly pregnant couples do besides stop drinking from plastic water bottles?(00:24:32) - More on hormone disruptors and testosterone (00:28:35) - On s

At a men's weekend, one of the guests asked me to give a simple breakdown of what I did to climb out of the wreckage of my life. While life is always more complicated than some 5-step solution, these are the biggest, most impactful steps I took—just in time for the new year! (00:00:00) - Intro(00:00:40) - Stop lying(00:03:03) - Do what you need (but don’t want) to do(00:04:30) - Replaced coping mechanisms with generative habits—one at a time(00:06:06) - Do some more of what you love(00:07:13) - Learn to regulate your nervous system, aka get better impulse control Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.  Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps

Talking points: discipline, mindset, attraction, relationships Title says it all, team. A lot of men simply aren't that disciplined when it comes to their sexual energy, despite the fact that being disciplined has some pretty immense benefits. Here's a look at why that is. (00:00:00) - Intro(00:01:12) - A potential major cause of insecurity in a partner(00:02:41) - Why women are attracted to sexual discipline(00:04:33) - It creates security and safety(00:06:12) - Do this for YOU because a) it’s hard, and b) most men aren’t disciplined—at all(00:08:13) - Your sexual body can be THE training ground for discipline Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.  Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on

Talking points: grief, trauma, needs, resentment, relationships Dr. Nicole is one of the rare three-peats on my podcast, and she always delivers! Fresh off the tour for her new book, we dove straight into the heavy stuff. This is a great episode to listen to if you're wanting to take a closer look at relationship issues, modern dating troubles, and navigating all the emotions those bring. (00:00:00) - Intro, the book tour, and navigating grief and joy at the same time(00:08:10) - Why we isolate ourselves when we actually need community(00:15:47) - What do you feel has shifted in modern-day relationships?(00:23:12) - What does it mean to “be the love that you seek”?(00:28:05) - So how do our early relationships inform our present-day ones?(00:32:18) - Our earliest attachments did more than condition our behavior(00:38:17) - How early unmet emotional needs impact our present relationships, and how we identify them(00:44:32) - What do you say to men who claim they shouldn’t have emotional needs?(00:50:28) - What

Talking points: middle age, mindset, death, nice guys I've worked with legions of middle-aged men. As of 2023, I'm one of them. It got me wondering why so many of us radically change (or catastrophically implode) our lives in our 40s and 50s. Here's what I've seen, where I think it comes from, and where to begin ensuring it doesn't happen to you. (00:00:00) - Intro and why I call it the “middle passage”(00:02:52) - The biggest reason men go through a midlife “crisis”(00:06:59) - Pleasing Syndrome, and how to fix it(00:10:26) - Fear of our own depths(00:13:29) - The collapse of the illusion that right action leads to right outcome(00:17:34) - What do you actually do with this info? Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check

Talking points: redpill, dating, relationships, mindset, culture, attachment Adam's been making waves recently with his no-nonsense yet deeply considerate approach to the insanity that is modern relationships. This convo was centered around Adam's expertise in attachment theory—aka the way you as a child learn to get safety and love. You can probably guess that it's kind of a big deal. Dig in, team. (00:00:00) - Intro and Adam’s defining moment(00:03:07) - What drew Adam to attachment theory(00:06:16) - Adam’s definition of attachment, and why it’s important for individuals(00:10:10) - The signs of secure attachment in men and women (00:16:34) - More insight on anxious and avoidant attachment styles(00:19:42) - Where do Nice Guys fit on the attachment spectrum, and how do they move towards secure attachment?(00:29:47) - The sad and dysfunctional truth about how some men get out of anxious attachment(00:36:33) - The mess that is modern dating, seen through the attachment lens(00:44:19) - MGTOW and avoidant att

Talking points: mindset, life hacks, culture The list of things I've tried to get over procrastination is so long you could wrap a town's worth of Christmas presents in it. But there is ONE thing that's actually helped. It's pretty counterintuitive, but it seriously has worked every time I've used it. Listen in. (00:00:00) - Intro and how I’ve battled with procrastination for a long, long time(00:04:20) - Procrastination: what it’s actually trying to do (00:08:22) - The one counterintuitive thing that worked for me(00:11:44) - A side effect you’ll need to look out for(00:14:46) - We have a very anti-boredom culture Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.  Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review

Talking points: anxiety, bipolar disorder, culture, tribalism, climate, society There aren't many out there with as wide-ranging knowledge and experience as Sarah Wilson, so I was thrilled to sit with her and dig into some of the heavier stuff. From practical tips for managing anxiety to collapsing neoliberal systems to the Dutch practice of "dropping", this interview has a bit of everything. Strongly encourage you to check this one and share, especially if you're interested in mental health or where our culture's headed. (00:00:00) - Intro and Sarah’s defining moment(00:03:54) - What are “diseases of despair”?(00:07:29) - What’s causing the rise of these kinds of deaths?(00:11:32) - The loss of “discerning moral discussions” in the education system(00:16:56) - Sarah’s take on collapse theory and its impact on mental health(00:26:36) - How do we deal with the fracturing of dialogue and society?(00:34:54) - It’s not an anxiety epidemic, it’s a lack of resilience epidemic(00:44:44) - What are some practical way

Talking points: mindset, relationships Title says everything, friends. Here are a handful straightforward things you can start doing to attract higher quality women. Caveat: these aren't Jedi mind tricks, they'll benefit you even if you're already in a relationship, and probably will help the dating scene be a little less chaotic for everyone. Listen in. (00:00:00) - Intro(00:02:18) - Face your fears and be honest about the red flags you’ve ignored(00:05:42) - Confront your fears relationally, emotionally, and sexually(00:07:37) - Work towards your idealized self(00:10:33) - Get in shape; the benefits are enormous (00:17:02) - Be able to regulate your nervous system(00:18:42) - Know what you will tolerate in relationship and adhere to that(00:20:45) - Get offline This episode is brought to you by Cured Nutrition! Cured offers everything from CBD to functional mushroom products to adaptogens designed to help the body thrive in all aspects of the daily human experience. Personal favorite? The Zen sleep bundle.

Talking points (and content warning): masculinity, suicide, domestic violence, patriarchy, politics, culture Whew. This was quite the conversation. I've been following TheTinMen for a while now and am continually inspired by his passionate yet levelheaded approach to what is (unfortunately all too often) wildly charged conversations. This is a heavy one, team—and deeply important. (00:00:00) - Intro and why "TheTinMen"? (00:04:17) - George’s defining moment(00:08:40) - How do you approach the topic of domestic violence, and it's biggest causal factor(00:12:00) - What factors into domestic violence outside power and control?(00:21:38) - George’s take on the patriarchy(00:28:04) - How do you engage people who think all men are evil?(00:33:22) - In the UK, fathers are legally second-class parents(00:38:41) - The misconceptions around male suicide(00:46:34) - What are men saying to George directly about suicide?(00:46:34) - How does the epidemic of male vacancy play into the challenges young boys are facing?(00:5

Talking points: mindset, goals, direction If there's anything you should be prepared to talk about with a partner, this is it. I think men underestimate how potent it is, how attractive it is, and how beneficial it is for themselves and for everyone else... What's your vision? (00:00:00) - Intro and the Question(00:02:43) - Your vision helps women understand you better—and it’s attractive(00:03:29) - Purpose comes FROM vision(00:05:47) - There’s aliveness when working on your vision, but it’s easy to get stuck on what’s not going well(00:09:35) - Why depth is my direction Want to go deeper? I encourage you to check out ManTalks' Black Friday sale. Get 20% off all our courses (or 30% if you grab all three)! The Shadow Course, Relationship Mastery, and the Porn Detox Program are all available: https://mantalks.com/blackfriday/ This episode is brought to you by Cured Nutrition! Cured offers everything from CBD to functional mushroom products to adaptogens designed to help the body thrive in all aspects of the d

Talking points: fatherhood, attachment, communication Back in August, I had this gentleman on, and we covered some deep ground. In part two, we end up looking at a present struggle, fatherhood, and how it both connects and is separate from old patterns.  This is an excellent episode to check out if you’ve been curious about what shape repeat sessions can take, and how we can use what we’ve learned about ourselves not just to overcome our own obstacles, but help others too. (00:00:00) - Intro, recap, and an update(00:05:49) - We tend to overlook the healing and focus on what’s still going wrong(00:09:56) - The challenges helping and managing an adopted son, and the fear of being unable to help(00:18:21) - Similarities between what’s being experienced now and what was experienced as a child(00:20:29) - What it’s like trying to connect with a son and not feeling like it’s happening(00:28:24) - “What feels familiar between the relationship you have with your son and the relationship that you as a boy had with you

Talking points: culture, relationships, systemic issues 66% of young men are single, fewer and fewer men are graduating college, boys are disproportionately punished in school, there are fewer male teachers and therapists than ever, and millions of men aren't even listed as unemployed because they're simply not seeking work. Something's going on. (00:00:00) - Intro and some stats(00:04:17) - I’m not going to sit here and blame men OR women(00:06:30) - Social reasons men check out(00:09:45) - The definition of a good man is almost entirely up to women (00:12:06) - Structurally, men aren’t being incentivized to go into higher education(00:14:59) - I think that support networks for men and boys are collapsing or are not male friendly(00:16:57) - Men generally aren't finding resonance in the therapeutic industry, nor can they find male therapists(00:19:41) - There’s been a significant decline in the number and diversity of male relationships(00:22:30) - Where do we go from here? This episode is brought to you by

Talking points: breathwork, neurophysiology, fear I know many, many people whose lives have been profoundly changed by getting into Wim's style of breathwork, myself included. This was one of my absolute favorite interviews, and Wim's fierceness and passion for helping people is absolutely mind-blowing. If you're looking to understand a little more about what breathwork can do, this is THE episode for you. (00:00:00) - Intro and what happens when men gather(00:03:56) - One of Wim’s defining moments: trapped under the ice(00:06:14) - Wim’s journey with fear (00:11:13) - How do we begin using our breath to confront fear, and some of the science behind breath work. (00:20:38) - On how breath helps regulate the nervous system(00:28:07) - Why breath work and cold therapy? (00:31:57) - Are there any similarities between deep breath work and psychedelics? (00:36:48) - Does breathwork behave similarly to DMT?(00:42:23) - Why do some people get tingly or see shapes during breath work?(00:49:00) - Are inflammation and

Talking points: potential, growth, mindset We all have images of who and what we're capable of. Flashes of motivation and inspiration based on what we know deep, deep down to be true of us. Getting from images to reality, from dreams to concrete fact, is the battle. The best one you'll ever fight. The following are simple (but not easy) steps based on years of work with men, endless hours of study, and mentorship with some amazing people. (00:00:00) - Intro and where the challenge lies(00:03:37) - Develop skills that matter to you, will improve your life, and improve others’ lives(00:05:32) - Know (and take) the risk(00:08:04) - Connect to your direct, felt experience(00:12:40) - Express and transmit what you’re experiencing(00:14:17) - Realize what it is you want, but pay attention to what life is saying you need(00:15:27 ) - Pursue your fears and discomfort(00:16:48 ) - Pay attention to your own darkness AND learn what it’s trying to teach you  This episode is brought to you by Cured Nutrition! Cured offer