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Welcome to Season 16 of the Savage Lovecast! This Magnum season has 26 episodes, from October 22 through April 22. Go to www.SavageLovecast.com to get yours.  On this week's Magnum, Dan interviews Jesse Bering, author of "Perv: The Sexual Deviant in All of Us." They discuss finding the right porn, spanking, "everysexuals," exhibitionism, and amputee fetishists, all while undergoing an experiment in auto-unerotic asphyxiation. Diapers not included.  Also on the Magnum, a woman suspects she was filmed during sex. What legal recourse does she have?  On the Micro version: An out gay man is accused of being "straight acting,"  even though he's comfortable with his homosexuality. But, he's attracted to straight guys. How can he meet other guys just like him, and does he have some internalized homophobia to work through?  Also, Dan reveals his tried and true tips for overcoming fear of flying.  206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at   This episode i

Next week is your chance to get in on the full Magnum season from the very beginning. www.SavageLovecast.com A gay man wonders if he should bring mace to his first date.  Dan consoles a woman who feels horribly guilty for blowing a selfish, but scorchingly hot dude. When a lover threatens suicide as a means to prevent a break-up, is this pure manipulation, or a credible threat? Dan speaks with an expert on suicide prevention.  On the Magnums, Dan speaks with Dr. Meredith Chivers for a What You Got on masochism, and how the different genders and orientations relate to sexy, sexy stimuli in a freaky, freaky lab. (Confidential to musicians everywhere: Please send us a clever and short little jingle to play before "What You Got?" Like really short. Under 10 seconds. Send an MP3 to nancy@thestranger.com, won't you?)  When secret Santas go off the rails. A woman who organizes her family's secret santa exchange wonders if she should have included her lesbian cousin's wife, when they got married in SECRET. Now the wh

Season 15 approaches! The new season will start on October 22. Be sure to go to www.savagelovecast.com then, to renew or or subscribe for the first time.  A maligned man is stigmatized among his social circle for having herpes.  A closeted bi woman wonders if she should stop slapping the asses of the rest of the ladies on her team in the showers. Rowwwrrrrr. A 20 year old lesbian has a great relationship…when they see each other. When they communicate online, they rip each other apart.  On the Magnums, a happily childless woman is tormented by her relatives who ask her over and over, "WHEN ARE YOU GOING TO HAVE KIDS?"  Is there a delicate way to suggest your boyfriend wear a smaller sized condom?  Finally, hear the amazing dramatic reenactment of a man going pee. Because he really, really likes to go pee.  206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at   This podcast is also brought to you by ExtremeRestraints.com. Go buy something, and be sure to en

There's a lot of bisexuality sloshing around this show. Dan speaks with Ellyn Ruthstrom of the Bisexual Resource Center on coming out, and seeking acceptance from both straight and gay folks.  A bi woman who is married to a man wonders how to let the world know she's bi, when the topic doesn't come up all that often. On the Magnum show, strap on your bonnets people, it's Simon Doonan, fashion correspondent, window dresser, and generally hilarious human. (We suspect he might be a homosexual.) He and Dan dish about panties, rimming and what the tech-savvy at-risk youth are wearing this season.  Also, 28 miles per hour? Really?    206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage10 for a 10% discount and free web domain registration. This podcast is also brought to you by ExtremeRestraints.com. Go buy something, and be sure to enter GGG2013 at checkout.

Are young ladies allowed to call or "text"  unattached, young men to ask for a date? Or would this tarnish a girl's valued reputation?  A sex worker wonders if it's ethical for her to fake orgasms with her clients. On the Magnum version, Dan speaks with the saintly Carl Siciliano, from NYC's Ali Forney Center, the nation's largest organization dedicated to homeless LGBT youths. (Confidential to homophobic parents everywhere: You don't really want your kid to live on the streets do you? Do you?) A bewildered straight couple wonders: In which bathroom should our nation's drag queens dwell?  Fragrance. Do you have to wear it if your partner wants you to? This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at   Today's episode is also brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout.

A gay man's truly evil step-mother falsely accused him of sexually assaulting his younger siblings. His father never rose to his defense. Should he forgive his father or cut off ties?  Penises, penises, penises. That's all her ex-girlfriend could ever think about! Is Penis Envy a real thing? And now that she's free of this lunatic, does it matter?  On the Magnum side, is there such a thing as "legitimate slut-shaming?"  Did you know that the United States prison system has recently enacted progressive policies regarding transgendered inmates? No, you did not. Terry Schuster, an attorney who specializes in the treatment of prisoners, speaks with Dan about how Chelsea Manning can expect to be treated in prison. And a lot more.  206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage9 for a 20% discount and free web domain registration. Today's episode is also brought to you by . Get 50 percent o

Dan speaks with pro-gay rights Christian John Shore about the NALT Project. Non-douchey Christians: here's your chance to speak up. www.NotAllLikeThat.org  A woman discovers (through snooping, how else?) that her boyfriend is into cross-dressing. How can she let him know she approves without letting on that she snooped?  A man in a sugar mama relationship feels awkward about accepting his lady's largess. You should have such problems.  On the Magnum version, Dan interviews Dr. Jeffrey Parsons about his study looking at monogamish relationships among gay men.    Also, a woman's boyfriend really, really, really wants to do anal sex. The hitch? He's got the world's most ginormous penis.  And more.  Yes, we know that "ginormous" is not a word. 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at   This podcast is also brought to you by ExtremeRestraints.com. Go buy something, and be sure to enter GGG2013 at checkout.

A man (with a British accent that had the tech-savvy, at-risk youth  panting like hound dogs at noon,) likes to cat around town, despite his ostensibly monogamous relationship. (Even the way he says "monogamous" is swoon-worthy.) Can or should he change for his girlfriend?  Dan speaks with the venerable Dr. Chu about the rare phenomenon of HIV positive men who have undetectable viral loads.  A woman knows a man who is being tossed out of his college for sexual assault. Is she obliged to testify against him?  On the big, ole Magnum version, Dan and porn actress, director and producer Joanna Angel, talk about the porn industry, and what they do to keep their actors safe from STIs.  An unfortunate man is married to a woman who a) won't let him watch porn, b) won't let him masturbate and c) won't fuck him. Guess what Dan's advice is.  Do you get boners from the strangest things? We want to hear about it.  206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by ExtremeRestraints.com. Go buy something, and be sure to enter

Dan helps a woman determine the fine line between over-permissiveness and slut-shaming for her 14 year-old step-daughter.  In more hand-wringing, a young man wants to be sure he obtains consent from his lucky ladies, but how much asking is too much asking? On the Magnum show, a woman's boyfriend enjoys a nosefull of cocaine every month or so. She hates it. Does she have the right to ask him to choose between her or his precious blow? Dan explains the finer points of slut etiquette to a lass who prefers to dash off rather than spend the night.  And finally, hear the tale of the woman who's snooping revealed that her boyfriend was having an affair with his mother's secretary.  Stop that snooping ya'll, lest you learn something you wish you hadn't.  This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at   Today's episode is also brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout.

"Cum Dumpster." Is this a sweet, sexy term, or just plain nasty?  A straight woman in Texas feels like a nelly gay man trapped in a woman's body. How can she find her people?  A woman has been using OK Cupid for 2 years and still hasn't gotten any action. So Dan chats with OK Cupid co-founder Christian Rudder on what she might be doing wrong.  On the Magnum version, Dan interviews sex researcher Dr. Joye Swan on risk-taking and using the idea of monogamy as a magical shield. And more.  Today's episode is brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. This episode is also brought to you by Shoplube.com. Save 10% on Boy Butter, when you enter promo code: Stainless.

After over a year of dating a woman online that the caller had never met, he is horrified to learn that she isn't at all who she said she was. What now?  Bloody lovin': Dan brings on a pointy-headed professor to discuss the taboo against sex with a menstruating woman.  On the Magnum version, Dan chats with an expert on when and how to call Child Protective Services.  A lesbian who is getting married can't help but notice that her mother was WAY more engaged in her two straight daughters' weddings than the caller's. How can she get mom to show some support?  And, is there etiquette when presenting your hairy ass to a waxer, if you are a gentleman?  And a lot more.  This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at   This podcast is also brought to you by . Go buy something, and be sure to enter GGG2013 at checkout.

A straight man has been the recipient of some rather shoddy pegging. Dan sets him on a better course.  A woman's older boyfriend insists her gay friends are out to sleep with her. Dan senses dark machinations at work.  Are you, a straight woman, obliged to inform your hook-up that his dick stinks to high heaven? On the Magnum version, Dan interviews feminist blogger Amanda Marcotte on the hysteria surrounding female sexuality and hook-up culture on college campuses. A woman is so darned pretty that she can't have any male friends because they ALL want to sleep with her.  Dan speaks with male burlesque sensation Waxy Moon on the differences between burlesque and stripping, and what to do if your boyfriend doesn't want to see you in pasties.  Today's episode is brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. This podcast is also brought to you by . Go buy something, and be sure to enter GGG2013 at checkout

A woman has become a regular third (unicorn) for a couple's three-ways. They buy her dinner and drinks. Should she get get over feeling like a mooch and just gracefully accept their largess?  When he was in first grade, a man recalls a friend who used to roll around with him and kiss him. How normal is this, and when does it tip into molestation?  And more.  On the Magnum show, the long-suffering Doc Barak weighs in on the ethics of some clumsy doctoring in a Southern small town.  A woman tries to salvage some kind of relationship with her ex, after he helped her through a bi-polar meltdown.  And, hear the lasting effects of a really bad party.  206-201-2720 This Episode is brought to you by IFC Midnight, presenting "Breaking the Girls." Out now, on video on demand as well as at the itunes store and all digital outlets.   This episode is also brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at

  Listen in as Dan Savage and Ari Shapiro (fancy-pants White House correspondent for NPR) drink, talk about monogamy and Dan's book, drink, talk about covering the Mitt Romney campaign, something about Dan's son "coming out" as straight, drink, talk and then drink.  This all went down on Father's Day at Town Hall in Seattle. It's super fun.  Be sure to listen for the ill-timed champagne cork.  Today's episode is brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout.

Her boyfriend wants it every day. She can manage 4-6 times per week but he still berates her for not putting out enough. Who's side will Dan come down on?  Here's another gem of a boyfriend: He won't compliment her or show any signs of affection. He hasn't told his friends about her, and won't pay for anything or inconvenience himself in any way. Foreplay? Nope! And yet, our heroine is still smitten. Meanwhile, over at Seattle's gay pride parade, did an angry mob of lesbians brutally attack a kind and hapless preacher? JoeMyGod's Joe Jervis has the story.  On the Magnum version, we present a drinking game. Every time you hear the word "whatever" or "yadda, yadda, yadda," you take a shot.  In a sobering call, we learn of a bad case of Domestic Partnership Castration Syndrome, in which a man loses his erections after going through the commitment ceremony.  And, a fem dom woman prepares to go to a party where the women wear clothes and men remain naked. Will she and her cross-dressing boyfriend have a good time?

Hooray for happy rants! Dan tells you how he felt and what he did when he found out that DOMA was repealed.  A man's random ejaculation resulted in a child. Now the child is 12 and neither she, nor her mother's husband knows that he is her biological father. Should he tell?  Is there a way to warn the straight females of the world about your sociopathic sex addict ex-boyfriend?  On the Magnum version, an interview with the father of the modern marriage movement, Evan Wolfson, on the implications of DOMA's repeal. Remember this political moment, children. And, a long rant on the Republican war on women in general, and abortion specifically. And the usual tales of sordid depravity.  This podcast is brought to you by . Go buy something, and be sure to enter GGG2013 at checkout.

First off, prepare yourself for the most Depressing Rant Ever. (We recorded this show well before DOMA went DOWN.) A young gay man connected with another lad on Grindr. Then he met up with a different man, at the SAME HOUSE. What tomfoolery is this?  A lad and his boyfriend are planning to try out a bathhouse for the first time, and ask Dan for some basic tips. What he suggests…may shock you.  And, the inimitable Garfunkel & Oates come on the show to explain a shameful evasive strategy that many women have mastered.  On the Magnum side, Dan talks to a man who may have to adopt his own niece, because his brother (the baby's father) is in and out of jail.   Choking! Groovy fun, or not such a good idea?  Are all drag queens gay? Do they have to be? Because here's a straight woman who's attracted to them.  And a ton more... This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at Today's episode is also brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Sav

Kids today! A woman agrees to give her new lover her used panties. He then reports that his eleven-year old nephew got a hold of them and did unspeakable things with them. What kind of messed up family are we dealing with here? Another kid! Listen to this kid! She's 18, and her gay co-worker is setting up "dates" between her and his 30 year old friends to have sex with her while he watches. But lest you think he's a monster, don't worry- he's offered to provide the drugs and booze.  And over on the Magnum side, a cool interview with Mollena Williams, a.k.a. "The Perverted Negress" on getting started in the kink community.  And finally, Dan does what Dan does best: he talks a gay lad into demanding that his bigoted family either accept him as he is, or lose his presence at the Christmas dinner table.  Aso much more, really.    Today's episode is brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout.

How soon is too soon for anal?  A woman who had a brief foray into sex work long ago wonders how to tell her partners without shame, rejection or titillation.  And more.  On the Magnum version you'll hear everything in the Micro version plus… An interview with Daniel Bergner, author of What Women Want about ladies, their libidos, and whether monogamy suits them or not. (Spoiler alert! It does.) Hear the tale of the spooked unicorn. Note to couples who invite in a partner for a three-way: When your unicorn doesn't return your calls, you must let her run free.  And a ton more.  This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at   This podcast is also brought to you by . Go buy something, and be sure to enter GGG2013 at checkout.

On this week's Micro version, how should you comport yourself when you're the Dungeon Monitor, and you have to watch your ex-girlfriend be some other guy's slave?  A woman with high libido drifts from sex-negative guy to sex-negative guy. Why would she do this?  Dan speaks with Tom Plummer from ImmigrationEquality.org about the plight of international gay couples. And more.  On the Magnum podcast, you'll hear an interview with Dr. Marty Klein about shrinks. Are they good for your sex life?  A woman wonders where her new boyfriend's balls disappeared to.  A pregnant woman is dismayed that her boyfriend hasn't slowed down on his drinking and carousing even a little bit. Should he quit partying in solidarity?  206-201-2720   This podcast is brought to you by ExtremeRestraints.com. Go buy something, and be sure to enter GGG2013 at checkout.