Empowered Couples

How good are you at managing your emotions as an argument begins? Do you recognize the emotion that you’re feeling, but still choose your words and actions consciously? Or do you find that your emotions (anger, sadness, etc) drive your words and actions that lead to disagreements escalating to the point of hurting your partner and the relationship? The thing is, it’s absolutely OKAY whatever emotion you’re feeling. The goal isn’t to get to a place where NO emotion comes up for you in argument (that’s not realistic, nor is that life)! Instead, the goal is to become so self-aware that you notice the emotion arising AND you still choose your next words and actions that allow the other to understand you even more. In this podcast episode you will hear: How emotional awareness can help shorten the argument hangover period The 3 personal aspects to better manage your emotions Specific constructive actions you can take in those moments of anger, sadness, frustration, etc   This is such a critical topic that we hav

Life is on your side, even if you don’t always feel that way! We wanted to take 10 minutes to share the crazy, unexpected, miraculous story about how we got this book deal. Why? Because it provided a life lesson that we think will inspire you in any season.  P.S. Did you order your copy of The Argument Hangover yet? It’s shipping in just a few days, and you can claim $200 of bonus resources HERE   About Us: We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

You got into your relationship for one big reason… LOVE. More specifically to have the experience of being loved unconditionally by your partner. Yet this doesn’t always happen right? Especially for men to show up as, and express, unconditional love.  Now does this mean something is wrong? No not at all. BUT it is a sign that one of 3 major needs of men are not being met. This is not to put pressure on you, the partner of a man, because often men do not even realize, let alone vocalize, any of these needs to you as their partner. So what to do? Well, listen to this podcast episode! In this episode you will hear what the 3 needs are that are critical for men, that often are not even expressed. Then once you know and can have these conversations, men (either you or your partner) will be able to feel that you can give all the love to your partner that they need, even unconditionally!   Resources For Your Relationship: Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, that hits shelves March 16th, and get over $2

When your partner seems off somehow, do you ask them, “what’s wrong?” I know your desire is that they express themselves, but asking this question can only make them shut down more. Odd, right? So in today’s quick episode, I’ll chat with you about: Why asking “what’s wrong” has the opposite effect on your partner What to ask them instead if they seem “off” And what to do if they keep saying “I’m fine,”  but you feel like they’re really not Also, make sure to CLAIM YOUR BONUSES for pre-ordering The Argument Hangover. It’s coming March 16th 2021 and you don’t want to miss out on $200 worth of bonus courses and the Debrief After an Argument Workbook.

Being able to fully express yourself is one of the most important aspects of being in a relationship. This is what allows you to be known by and connected with your partner! This is what leads to a healthy and loving relationship. However there is one thing to this, that could have you be dependent on them for. It will also lead to diminishing your own ability to self-sooth and self-regulate your emotions.  On the other hand, by not relying on your partner for this one thing, you will feel more freedom, emotionally steady, and safe for your partner to more vulnerably express themselves to you!   Resources For Your Relationship: Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, that hits shelves Feb 2nd, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)   About Us: We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story

The Couples Workshop is coming up on February 21st, 2021. Save your seats before it passes. To get a bonus copy of The Argument Hangover with it, enter this code when you check out: podcast2021 Your relationship is meant to be about experiencing love and connection. As time passes, there is a subtle and sneaky thing that arises that blocks you from feeling connected to your partner.  This is a short "check yo' self" motivational episode so that you can be aware of this one thing that is sure to create disconnection in your relationship (and it's all on you!)   About Us: We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved. Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, that hits shelves March 2021, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

Healthy relationships consist of both time together and time apart. Which of course can feel much harder (and even more necessary) right now. Perhaps you’ve been needing some “alone time,” but haven’t expressed it to your partner. Or, you’ve mentioned it before, but no action was put in place so it’s a point of tension between you two now.  In today’s episode, we’ll discuss: Signs that alone time would be helpful for your relationship How much alone time is healthy How to bring it up to your partner so it doesn't hurt their feelings Examples of what alone time can look like, even during quarantine times, or if you have kids   Resources For Your Relationship: Also, make sure you read about The LIVE Couples Workshop on Sunday February 21st. You will communicate better and resolve conflicts faster...in just 5 hours, instead of 5 months.  Those that register will get a FREE copy of the new book        The Argument Hangover! Use the code: podcast 2021   About Us: We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authe

Don’t get discouraged if your partner isn’t taking as much initiative. Or if you’re still running into challenges, even though you’re really trying to 'work on things'. This episode will give you the dose of perspective and the encouragement you need to keep staying on track in your relationship. Real quick, did you check out the 5 Day Couples Challenge that’s starting February 15th? We don’t want you to miss out on this time to be more intentional in your partnership, overcome communication pitfalls, and connect deeper. Read all about it and save your spots before you miss the opportunity!

“You are being too sensitive, just get over it, that’s not what happened.”... Have you caught yourself or your partner saying things like that to each other? While you might say these from a seemingly innocent place, they do NOT lead to your partner feeling good, connected, or even validated.  In this episode you will get: 6 phrases to never say to your partner The negative impact they can have (especially if said repeatedly over time) 5 phrases to say instead, that respect & honor each other Also, make sure that you’ve signed up for The 5 Day Couples Challenge starting February 15th. We don’t want you to miss this guided experience to deepen your connection and overcome communication pitfalls. SIGN-UP here   About Us: We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

You have heard it said that your past is in the past, or some version of don't cry over spilled milk. So of course that means there is nothing you can do about it right?  What if we told you that your past is not fixed? What if you could actually change your past? In relationships, it is the things that happen in the past (what your partner said or did) that we find hard to let go of. These keep you  feeling disconnected, angry, or disappointed. This of course does not lead to more love, connection, and happiness within your relationship.  In this episode you will learn how to change your own past so that you do not stay stuck in a place of disconnection or even mediocrity in your life with your partner.  DISCLAIMER: this is an advanced skill!    Resources For Your Relationship: Join the 5 Day Couples Challenge, that starts February 15th, 2021. Connect with other couples as we go through daily trainings of the 5 C's for a strong relationship, get a FREE book, and win challenge giveaways!    About Us: We’re Th

Small things in your relationship can be what build up and cause you to feel disconnected or upset with your partner. Of course when this happens there isn’t room for the love, connection, and happiness that you desire to experience. It could be things you say to yourself like:  “Ugh, if they’d only pick up their socks, if only they’d stop being on their phone at night, if only they would eat healthier with me.” Though it might seem that these little things are the way they are and you wish your partner’s actions would change so that you could feel better. HOWEVER in this episode you will discover that you are not actually upset for the reason you think you are! We will invite you into a different way to look at these small upsets in your relationship so that you will be empowered by seeing the real reason! (What could that reason be?!)   Resources For Your Relationship: Join the 5 Day Couples Challenge, that starts February 15th, 2021. Connect with other couples as we go through daily trainings of the 5 C's

Our happiness and motivation can’t be reliant on outside circumstances. Yes, times are crazy. But we have the ability to shift our focus and mood by our daily and weekly habits. In this episode with Jocelyn, you’ll hear: A story she’s barely ever told about breaking her back and spiraling down to depression Our daily and weekly habits we’ve been doing for years How these will lead you to taking control of your mood and how you show up for yourself and your partner   Resources For Your Relationship: Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, that hits shelves Feb 23rd, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)   About Us: We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved. 

Communication is not “one size fits all” and your partner might never communicate EXACTLY like you do. So you can stop trying to get them too! You can either fight against it when you get frustrated or you learn to flow with it for even more effective and connecting ways of communicating (no matter what circumstances or emotions come up). But guess what...your communication can significantly improve as you understand the “4 Communication Personality Types” and by determining which type represents you and your partner.  In this episode, you’ll hear: What the 4 Communication Personality Types are and the traits that describe each of them How tension and miscommunication can be significantly reduced by understanding your partner’s type The 2 most important things to be aware of for yourself so you can be a better communicator How to get access to the self-assessment to determine which of the 4 types you fall into   Resources For Your Relationship: Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, that hits she

Can this be true, do you really feel discouragement or difficulty in life and within your relationship? Absolutely. If you have listened to this podcast before, you know that the point is not to avoid these types of feelings or even talking about them with your partner.  But it can feel difficult to shift out of this state even as an individual. Plus there are a lot of outside factors that contribute to life feeling hard. So is the goal to try and wait it out and hope that things get better? NO!  In this 10 minute motivational podcast you will get the one way to shift from this feeling of discouragement or difficulty. Once you start to feel positive momentum, it will be even easier to positively impact your partner and your relationship. But it does start with you, and that’s what this episode is for!    P.S. Our new book, The Argument Hangover is about to hit shelves on Feb 23rd, 2021. So did you claim your $200 of pre-order bonuses, including 2 communication and conflict trainings and a “debrief after an ar

When your partner gets triggered, what do you do?...  #1: Do you react back, get defensive, and it triggers an argument? #2: Or do you lovingly hold space and help them process what came up for them? Don’t feel guilty if you fell into the first category, as that is where most people fall into.  We weren’t taught how to recognize and SUPPORT someone while they’re triggered, especially in a romantic relationship. And instead of it bringing healing, they often create arguments and emotional distance.  In this episode, we cover: How triggers can be a “good” thing for the relationship The things you DON’T want to say or do when they are triggered The things that you DO want to say or do so that it is more constructive for your relationship Resources For Your Relationship: Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, that hits shelves Feb 23rd, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)   About Us: We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable r

I’m an assertive woman and Aaron tends to be more reserved. This used to lead to him feeling dominated or overpowered when communicating, even about seemingly simple matters. In this episode, I share simple but massively helpful shifts I made to still be myself (assertive), but to better work with his Communication Personality Type….a framework we breakdown in our new book, The Argument Hangover.   Did you claim your $200 of pre-order bonuses, including 2 communication and conflict trainings and a “debrief after an argument” workbook? You get them by entering your receipt # here: The Argument Hangover

When you bring up a challenging/hard conversation, does it tend to trigger defensiveness and lead to an unintended argument? You could have every intention of just trying to share how you feel and get to a positive solution, and STILL have it lead to a massive misunderstanding. You're not alone if this tends to happen in your relationship. In this episode, you’ll hear: Ways to initiate the challenging topic so that it doesn't spark into an argument How to handle times your partner gets defensive 5 simple things you can do so that challenging topics end up strengthening your relationship, instead of creating unnecessary tension   Resources For Your Relationship: Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, that hits shelves Feb 2nd, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)   About Us: We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to

Is there any place in your relationship that you shutdown and isolate from your partner by saying nothing or getting away from them? Are you even on the other side of things where you lash out at your partner to get them off your back? In either case this is probably because you are not "good with emotions". Which is not something to feel bad about because not many of us start out with the ability to even identify exactly what we are feeling to even be able to articulate it.  This episode is all about starting the process of building both of the skills to identify what emotion you are feeling and then be able to share it with your partner. This will allow you to know even more about yourself and about each other. Tune in for 4 steps to go from not knowing what to say at all, to having even more connected conversations with your partner.    Resources For Your Relationship: Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, that hits shelves Feb 2nd, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course an

Love is kind of the point of a relationship right? We know that you felt a lot of love for your partner early in your relationship and now that love probably feels different or maybe less. As you progress through your relationship your feeling of love will be different as you have more trust and comfort with each other. Maybe some of the challenges in your relationship have led you to a place of currently not feeling as much love. So how do you keep love not only alive but growing? You should notice that in either case above, love is often based on outside conditions and how happy you currently feel. Whether it's about financial security, how your partner has been talking to you, or feeling too routine in your day to day life all of these are conditional feelings of love. In this podcast you will learn the 4 elements of love that allow for a truly unconditional love to be alive in your relationship. Then knowing these 4 elements, when you do feel less love between you and your partner, you will know the exact

Let’s be honest, we all have said to our partners one of these statements: “that’s not what I said, that's not what actually happened, what you are saying doesn’t make sense”. Especially for those partners (like Aaron) that are logical left brained people. As soon as this happens the predictable next sequence will be an argument or conflict, or at least not feeling like your partner is on your side.  Though this can feel like one of those areas where you and your partner are just different (male vs female or masculine vs feminine differences), the real culprit here is not making the differentiation between what your partner is saying versus what they need.  In this episode we cover this big difference between the actual words that you or your partner use and what the missing need or deeper desire really is. You will get questions to ask your partner that lead to more connection and understanding than the typical difference of opinion, recurring conflict, or simple disconnections in your day to day life. This