New Life Live With Steve Arterburn

Caller Questions: We’ve been married 30yrs and we have hurt each other with my porn addiction and her affair. How do we stop thinking about the past?  I want to give thanks to Steve for your devotion to what you do! Alice is my therapist and she is a cut above the rest!  I just […]

Caller Questions: What do I do if my husband is a minister, tried to kill me, and is on websites for singles?  How do I help our granddaughter who lives with us? She is not interested in connecting with her mom, a recovering alcoholic.  As a coach, is there a way I can help a […]

Caller Questions: I really want to go to the Intimacy in Marriage Workshop; what should I do to get my wife to go?  My stepson has been living in a house I own without paying enough rent, and I told him I’m going to sell the house. Now none of the kids will let me […]

Caller Questions: What should I do if my narcissistic wife of 42yrs is emotionally and verbally abusive?  My husband is objectifying me by expecting me to do certain sexual things I don’t want to do.  At what point do we separate from adult children? Our adopted daughter smokes pot, has a child, and is going […]

Caller Questions: My adult daughter told me she is homosexual; how do I not let this consume my thoughts?  We need help in disciplining our 16yo son with his cell phone use, electronics, and responsibilities.  It has been 32yrs since my husband and I have been intimate. Every time I get serious about separating, he […]

Caller Questions: My alcoholic friend from church is angry at God and yells in restaurants. I dread meeting her for lunch today; what should I do?  How can I get my wife, who is a bully and shows signs of OCD, to follow through with seeing her counselor?  Is it normal for my husband to […]

Caller Questions: As a codependent, what is my next step with my husband who refuses to go to Every Man’s Battle and is addicted to porn and gambling?  What can my friend do to get into a recovery program for alcohol addiction?  Will attending Every Man’s Battle trigger feelings of self-hatred for me? Have any […]

Caller Questions: I feel like my life is out of control because I don’t have time for me. What can I do about a stressful job and gaining weight?  How do I handle the anxiety caused from my siblings being jealous of me? Is it time for me to detach from those relationships?  My brother’s […]

Caller Questions: I was raped by a friend in my church community and wanted to let others know what to do if that happens to them.  After being left out of my ex-husband’s obituary, is it proper to speak at his funeral?  My husband left for the second time and said he never loved me; […]

Caller Questions: Is there any non-traditional help out there for a delusional family member who is afraid?  What can I do to improve my anger and bipolar disorder?  How do I help my artistic 17yo who stopped going to high school, has PCOS, and was bullied in junior high?  I want to clean my house […]

Caller Questions: What can I do to help my 14yo granddaughter to stop cutting herself?  If I can’t trust my husband because he had an emotional affair and takes his wedding ring off, what is my next step?  My 58yo relative lives alone and started having anxiety before his heart surgery. How do I get […]

Caller Questions: My wife has a problem with clutter and it has been a cause for arguments. What should we do? I don’t want a divorce from my separated husband, but I need some things to change in order to move forward in our marriage.  I was molested as a child. I’m married and a […]

Caller Questions: How do you know when it’s time to leave a marriage? I talked to you before I got married 6yrs ago, and you told me not to. How do I find my adult voice? I’m the ninth of ten children.  I called you before about being emotionally involved with a woman whose husband […]

Caller Questions: What can bring my parents and my kids together during the holidays when everyone is on their phones?  How do I proceed in my relationship with my biological mother if she screamed at me that I needed to get over being adopted?  I went astray and entered the drug world; what should I […]

Caller Questions: How do I support my 15yo daughter who doesn’t want to spend Christmas with her dad and abusive stepmom?  Am I doing the right thing by leaving my wife because she keeps making accusations against me?  Can my 38yo daughter go forward in her marriage if she says her husband tried to strangle […]

Caller Questions: How can I be confident that God has given me direction versus me being the one to make things happen in a dating relationship?  My 30yo daughter lives with me but hasn’t spoken to me in over a year.  Why haven’t my homosexual desires changed if I used to live as a gay […]

Caller Questions: How do I tell our 30yo very depressed son that he needs to take medication or leave? He quit his job, plays video games, and doesn’t even take showers. Do I need to invite my narcissistic ex-husband to our house for Christmas? I feel obligated because he pays the bills for my son […]

Caller Questions: I got a voicemail from my biological father yesterday whom I’ve never spoken to; how am I supposed to feel?  A book Milan Yerkovich recommended has really helped me get through my divorce and the death of my mom.  My sister blew through a lot of money and hates everyone. How should I […]

Caller Questions: How do I write my will if my son has disowned me?  My 22yo son told me about sexual abuse he experienced at 14yo from one of the leaders in our church; what direction do I give him?  Did I do the right thing telling my son I saw him touching my autistic […]

Caller Questions: My husband’s 95yo aunt told us we have hurt her and that she doesn’t want to see us anymore. Should I let it go or write her a letter?  What resources do you recommend for my friend whose sister is transitioning to becoming a man?  We kept Christ in Christmas by telling the […]