New Life Live With Steve Arterburn

Caller Questions: How do I help my friend whose life imploded after she lost her marriage and job? I think she might struggle with shame and learned helplessness.  My wife thinks it’s OK our 12yo son skips church every Sunday for travel softball; how do I get her to support me in saying no?  Do […]

Caller Questions: How do I desire to look and think sexually about no one except my wife?  What does forgiveness look like? My parents divorced and my dad recently married a woman who is 25yrs younger than him.  Is it normal for me to have a lot of anxiety about marrying my boyfriend if everything […]

Caller Questions: Am I doing the right thing in filing for legal separation if my husband gambles and there’s no change happening?  How can I encourage my husband, without nagging, to keep more in touch with his family?  My sister has Lyme disease; it seems like she may be in psychosis because she claims I […]

Caller Questions: I have trouble dealing with people who are habitual complainers and only call me with problems.  What should my next step be if I’m thinking of asking my husband to move out? He went to Every Man’s Battle, and we went to Intimacy in Marriage, but he never made any changes.  I coach […]

Caller Questions: I’ve been married 38yrs and have eight children; where do I go from here after forgiving my husband for over 25 affairs?  What do you think about cognitive behavioral therapy? I have tinnitus and now insomnia, and my doctor encouraged me to do this therapy.  What does the Lord want me to do? […]

Caller Questions: Do I need to ask for more forgiveness from my stepmom? There was a disagreement around planning my bridal shower 5yrs ago. How do I get my 75yo dad into treatment for alcohol addiction?  I feel stuck in life because the man I’ve been dating for 8yrs is an alcoholic, and I’m disabled; […]

Caller Questions: What’s your opinion on God doing a bad job creating humans? Adam, Eve, and Noah all failed.  After physically attacking me twice 20yrs ago, my daughter says she would do it again.  How do I communicate the issues I have with my senior pastor without him feeling disrespected? 

Caller Questions: A young couple has come to live with us; can you give me help on how to set boundaries?  How do I deal with my aging father who wants to move out of the independent living facility we just moved him to last week? Should I share my concerns with my husband of […]

Caller Questions: Do I get a divorce if my husband takes his whole paycheck and gives it to the drug dealers? I am concerned with my grandkids whose house is cluttered and their hygiene is bad; how do I talk to my son and daughter-in-law about this? What should I do if my second husband […]

Caller Questions: My son-in-law struggles with sex addiction, and my daughter had an emotional affair; how much do my husband and I get involved?  How do I back off from acting like a life coach to my 32yo son who has bipolar disorder and has been to psychiatric hospitals six times?”  I’m depressed, have lost […]

Caller Questions: My 19yo son lost his grandmother and then his dad, and now he is verbally abusive to me. How do I love him and put up boundaries?  How do I keep going if my adult kids don’t want to be a family and my grandkids aren’t allowed to be together?  What’s the difference […]

Caller Questions: I went to Restore and when my husband gave me a full disclosure, I realized I wasn’t crazy!  After my husband of 30yrs betrayed me, I am struggling to love him; how do I get that love back?  I’m 64yo and have always lived in fear; how can I do what God wants […]

Caller Questions: How do I control my anger and communicate better with my girlfriend of 4yrs? She never learned to communicate growing up.  Two adult children are living on our property and paying rent, and my daughter is upset that she and her fiancé pay more than her brother.  My 16yo son is unmotivated and […]

Caller Questions: What’s the best way for me to show my 14yo gay grandson that I support him? I’m 2yrs sober and don’t want to take medication for my anxiety.  I called you last year about a woman that I was involved with emotionally whose husband had Alzheimer’s and wanted to give you an update.  […]

Caller Questions: I attended Every Man’s Battle last weekend and couldn’t be happier that I went!  Is it wrong to not want to stay in a marriage where my husband of 28yrs refuses to get help?  I became a Club New Life member years ago and am so thankful for the lives that have been […]

Caller Questions: My 13yo son is homeschooled and wants to go to public school; should I let him?  Do I confront my 24yo drug-addicted daughter about her pregnancy? I took her to the doctor, but he never gave her a pregnancy test.  I have an unhealthy attachment to my ex-husband even after we’ve been divorced […]

Caller Questions: I’ve been estranged from my adult son for 3yrs and found out he is transitioning to a woman; how can I have a relationship if he won’t respond?  How do I support my daughter after finding out her husband had an affair when she was pregnant? I want to be Jesus to him […]

Caller Questions: How can I be free from the unforgiveness that causes me to overeat and be bitter, angry, and anxious?  Is it possible that my husband can’t show affection? He rejects my advances.  Do I leave my alcoholic husband if I just can’t do it anymore? He is ruining our family.  How do we […]

Caller Questions: If you had a 21yo granddaughter who has bipolar disorder and ADD, what would you do? She was living in the woods in a tent.  My wife told me she didn’t want our marriage, so I packed up my bags and left.  My daughter is getting married to a woman and wants me […]

Caller Questions: I was a single mom and I think it’s so powerful for parents to tell their kids when they are wrong and feel sorry.  I’ve been married over 35yrs, but there’s no communication or intimacy, and I feel like I’m all alone.  After absence due to military deployment, divorce and remarriage, how do […]