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Sometimes we don’t have a “topic” for the podcast, but instead simply have a conversation with someone with loads of experience and wisdom in sexual struggles and recovery. This is what today’s episode is all about.Our guest is author and speaker, Nate Larkin. He founded the Samson Society, a fellowship of Christian men who are serious about authenticity, community, humility, and recovery. In our conversation, Nate shares his own story of addiction and recovery. Then we dive into lots of questions that draw on his decades of personal and ministerial wisdom that will prove helpful to any man listening who wants to break free from unwanted sexual behaviors. To learn more about Nate and his ministry, visit SamsonSociety.com. More Resources:Gateway to Freedom 3-day intensiveSamson and the Pirate Monks*Find a Samson MeetingRelated Podcasts:Men Helping Men Grow and MatureThe Importance of "Whole Man" Recovery3 Levels of Sobriety*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purcha

How important is trust to emotional health and building strong, mature relationships? It is vital! Yet, many men we have served in our ministry struggle terribly with trust. In today’s episode, Stephen and I are going to dig into this important topic of trust through the lens of one man’s story that begins with him not being able to trust his parents with his thoughts and feelings and ends with him finally living a “love plus trust” story. We will share the distinction between love and trust and how love plus trust takes us even deeper than love alone. We need to learn how to understand trust in its multilayered dimensions if we want to enjoy strong, healthy relationships.For resources from Stephen to help you grow and mature emotionally, visit DoctorMarriage.org.More Resources:40 Days to OnenessGrowth Map: The Pathway to Peace, Rest, and Joy*Untangling Emotions by Groves & Smith*Related Podcasts:Men Helping Men Grow and MatureHealing Steps to Rebuild TrustWhy Men Struggle to Love*This is an affiliate lin

Albert Bandura was a psychologist who is credited with developing the term “human agency,” which refers to how you act, think, and interact with life.In this episode, Stephen and I will unpack the four functions of agency and how they might help us develop better self-awareness and deeper faith and relationships. The 4 functions of agency are: Intentions (or intentionality)Outcomes (or expectations)Self-regulationSelf-reflectionAgency asks, “Are you paying attention to your own intentions and are you getting better at self-regulating and self-reflecting?’ We hope this conversation will help you understand yourself and others better – and use your agency for good, godly purposes.To learn more about Albert Bandura and his research, visit AlbertBandura.com.More Resources:Untangling Emotions by Groves & Smith*Growth Map: The Pathway to Peace, Rest & Joy by Stephen Cervantes*APEST Spiritual Gifts TestRelated Podcasts:Why Must I Learn Me?Understanding 4 Key Roles in Your StoryAbout Your Emotional Connecting

Every Christian knows that forgiveness is central to salvation and restoration to God. But what does forgiveness look like between us and those who have hurt us?Our guests today are Bruce and Toni Hebel, founders of Forgiving Forward, a ministry that helps people experience the freedom of the gospel through the power of forgiveness. They share their own journey of learning the hard way how vital forgiveness is to personal character and health, as well as effective ministry to others. In our conversation, Bruce and Toni define forgiveness, explain why Christ is the only one who can pay the full debt of sin and wounds, expose the roots of unforgiveness, the common obstacles to forgiveness, and ultimately how to forgive in real-life situations of betrayal and pain through 5 key protocols:GRATITUDE for God’s forgiveness of me.REPENT of my sin of unforgiveness. WHO do I forgive and for WHAT?FORGIVE each offense from my HEART.Ask God to BLESS them and look for ways to bless them when possible.To learn more about Br

Did you know that 58% of women who struggle with porn were exposed to porn before age 12? Or that 93% of women who struggle with porn never attend a support group? And that 48% of women viewing porn were a victim of sexual abuse?Our guest today is Crystal Renaud Day, a coach, author, and speaker – and the founder and executive director of SheRecovery.com. She has been a leading voice for women in this space of sexual integrity ministry since 2009. Recently, Crystal and her ministry conducted research to answer the question “What Drives Women to Porn?” There were over 1300 anonymous female participants, ages 18 to 65+ from 58 countries, who had used or been addicted to pornography in the past or present. This episode discusses the findings of this research and why this is important to women struggling and those who love them. To see the research and results, visit SheRecovery.com. More Resources:LivingOnPurposeKC.comBeggarsDaughter.comSexual Shame in Women and How to Experience Freedom*Related Podcasts:Total F

Lots of men over the years have shared the sentiment of the following statement: “I’m good as long as I can stay out of my own head.” As we have unpacked this idea with the men who have shared this, there have been four key thoughts that typically keep guys from feeling safe within their own minds.In today’s episode, Stephen and I are going to share these four thoughts. They are: ShameOld StoriesCore FearUnhealthy FantasiesWhen you can understand how these thoughts operate and how to combat them, you can reclaim that territory in your mind for hope, peace, and joy.For helpful "daily thoughts" on emotional health and growth, visit DoctorMarriage.org. More Resources: Growth Map by Stephen Cervantes*Identity: What Foundation Are You Building On?*Gateway to Freedom 3-Day Intensive for MenRelated Podcasts:How to Be at Peace in AlonenessOvercoming Shame and Embracing Your True Identity50 Things To Do When Your Core Fear Gets Triggered*These are affiliate links. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying

Originally Aired on March 7, 2023View this episode on Youtube----------Today’s episode is getting back to the basics of living a life of sexual integrity. Stephen Cervantes and I have been working with men desiring greater integrity for over 20 years, and we know that a life of integrity is not static. You must be on a daily growth mission to mature. In our conversation, we share some of our personal growth tips and many other insights we have seen that help men get on a growth mission and discover their God-sized purpose in life.A great next step in your pursuit of greater integrity is our Gateway to Freedom 3-day intensive workshop. This Friday-Sunday event will help you get down to the roots of your unwanted sexual behaviors and provide practical, powerful direction for living each day with integrity and purpose. Learn more about Gateway to Freedom and how to register at Bebroken.org/gtf.More Resources:FREE Integrity Webinar for Men40 Days of Purity for MenThe 4 Pillars of PurityRelated Podcasts:Keys to Lo

Originally Aired on February 28, 2023View this episode on Youtube----------HELP REACH THE YEAR-END GOAL TO IMPACT MORE LIVES!We have a goal of $103,000 to reach even more individuals and families in 2024 through this podcast and all our other ministries.To partner with us, give at Bebroken.org/donate or call 210-822-8201.----------Sexual betrayal in marriage is more common than most of us would like to admit. But this terrible fracture is not incurable for couples who choose to go on a journey of healing and restoration.Our guest today is Dr. Michael Sytsma, a licensed professional counselor, ordained minister, professor, and founder of Building Intimate Marriages. In our conversation, Michael answers questions about the “why” of affairs, the impact of past trauma, the myth of affairs only occurring in “bad” marriages, how to know if restoration is possible, what is required for restoration, and more. To learn more about Michael and Building Intimate Marriages, visit IntimateMarriage.org.More Resources:Secret

HELP REACH THE YEAR-END GOAL TO IMPACT MORE LIVES!We have a goal of $103,000 to reach even more individuals and families in 2024 through this podcast and all our other ministries.To partner with us, give at Bebroken.org/donate or call 210-822-8201.----------Just about every man who has ever entered recovery from unwanted sexual behaviors has wanted a “quick fix” to his addiction. But there are no quick fixes. In fact, true recovery is a years-long process that ultimately leads to deeper emotional growth over a lifetime.In today’s episode, Stephen and I share a 3-year roadmap of recovery and emotional growth that every man who enters recovery needs to understand and embrace if he wants lasting freedom and lifelong joy. The road of recovery may be long, but it is worth walking it. To get Stephen’s emotional growth resources for men, visit DoctorMarriage.org. More Resources:Gateway to Freedom 3-Day IntensiveGrace-Based Recovery Online Study Groups40 Days of Purity Online CourseRelated Podcasts:Keys to Long-Term

HELP REACH THE YEAR-END GOAL TO IMPACT MORE LIVES!We have a goal of $103,000 to reach even more individuals and families in 2024 through this podcast and all our other ministries.To partner with us, give at Bebroken.org/donate or call 210-822-8201.----------Recovery from any addiction is difficult and there are many stages and layers to the process. It is easy to become overwhelmed and wonder if there is any hope and what the ultimate goal is in recovery.My guest today is Zach Ellis. He is the Director of New Programs at The Nathan Project, a ministry whose mission is to engage, equip, and encourage Christian families struggling with pornography, sexual brokenness, and addiction.Zach shares how he got into this space of ministry and some key elements of recovery that are vital for true transformation: freedom, identity, and creativity. He talks of freedom as both a “breaking” and a “building” and how this two-sided aspect of freedom leads to deeper meaning and purpose. He shares of the importance of identity

HELP REACH THE YEAR-END GOAL TO IMPACT MORE LIVES!We have a goal of $103,000 to reach even more individuals and families in 2024 through this podcast and all our other ministries.To partner with us, give at Bebroken.org/donate or call 210-822-8201.----------Parenting can feel overwhelming in the best of circumstances. But in today’s world which is awash in all forms of sexual brokenness, it can seem impossible, especially when it comes to the issue of identity. In today’s episode, our guest is Jordan Young. He is a student ministry pastor at Table Community Church in Hillsboro, Oregon near Portland. He has decades of experience in working with students and the various challenges they face in the culture. Our conversation focuses on identity and the confusion many students are experiencing and how the gospel of Jesus addresses this with grace and truth. Jordan and their students read through our Identity book over 6 weeks and it made a huge impact on helping the students better understand what identity means a

HELP REACH THE YEAR-END GOAL TO IMPACT MORE LIVES!We have a goal of $103,000 to reach even more individuals and families in 2024 through this podcast and all our other ministries.To partner with us, give at Bebroken.org/donate or call 210-822-8201.----------Infidelity is devastating. For couples who have experienced this deep betrayal of trust, it can be hard to imagine that restoration is possible – and even more difficult to think that they could rebuild their marriage into something better than they ever had before. But this is the story of Steve and Lisa Goldberg’s marriage and ministry.Steve and Lisa are the founders of Side by Side, a ministry to help couples navigate the “unexpected crash” of betrayal and how to restore and rebuild their marriage. In today’s episode, Steve and Lisa share their own story of brokenness and healing and the key elements of restoration in their new book entitled The Journey to Stay. They offer a practical message of hope to couples facing the overwhelming difficulty of unfa

HELP REACH THE YEAR-END GOAL TO IMPACT MORE LIVES!We have a goal of $103,000 to reach even more individuals and families in 2024 through this podcast and all our other ministries.To partner with us, give at Bebroken.org/donate or call 210-822-8201.----------Everyone listening to this podcast right now was once a child. Childhood is unavoidable on the journey to adulthood. But none of us got through our childhoods unscathed. And some of the residue of that continues to affect us now as adults.Today we have back with us Dr. Eddie Capparucci to talk about his inner child therapy model and a new resource he has co-authored for women who struggle with love and sex addiction. Eddie’s model is based on the premise that we all have core emotional triggers that impact our inner child based on past wounds, and in order for us to heal and mature we must address these triggers by understanding our inner child and not simply ignoring our past.In our conversation, Eddie defines the inner child model and highlights the 10 s

Screens are everywhere and, while they are not bad or wrong as a tool, the way we engage them and what we allow on them can be negative. So, how can we build better screen time for ourselves and our families? Our guest today is Andrea Davis, the founder and CEO of Better Screen Time, which provides strategies and resources for families to think through how to engage technology and screens for better health and balance in life and relationships. Andrea shares her own story as a parent of 5 kids and some of the challenges and victories they have experienced in working out these strategies in their family. She also shares why cell phone contracts rarely work and better strategies for creating a family tech plan to learn personal responsibility with technology. To learn more about Andrea and the resources she provides, visit BetterScreenTime.com. More Resources:Better Screen Time ResourcesOnline Courses for FamiliesHonest Talk -- The GameRelated Podcasts:Brain Defense Digital Safety for KidsHelping Parents Teach

Men, I’m really excited to bring you today’s program because Stephen and I are going to provide you with some VERY practical help for understanding how to navigate between logic and emotions – and why engaging emotions is essential for maturity. Generally, the majority of men we work with in our ministry are very comfortable when communicating logic and solving problems, but very uncomfortable and unfamiliar with communicating emotion. This often results in them becoming stunted or stuck in their relational skills, especially in marriage. Today, Stephen and I will share with you a story of one man’s journey to get unstuck when it comes to sharing his emotions and the 2-channel system he developed to help with that process. We are hopeful that this conversation will enlighten you and give you the confidence to work on becoming more skilled in emotional sharing and listening.More Resources:49 Days of Growth* by Stephen Cervantes40 Days of Training for Your SoulThe 40 Day Relationship Builder* by Stephen Cervant

For over 10 years we have helped wives heal from sexual betrayal trauma. One aspect of this healing process that simply should not be overlooked is the need for self-care and simply rest. Today’s guest is Christy Jones Jackson. She is the founder and director of The Guest House Project, a non-profit ministry that helps women find hope after betrayal. Christy shares some of her own story and how vital it was that in the middle of her failing marriage due to betrayal a friend took her away for a weekend to pray with her, make her eat, give her gifts, read her Scripture, made her laugh, and reminded her who she was. It was a pivotal moment in her journey to healing and planted the seeds for what would eventually become The Guest House Project.To learn more about Christy and The Guest House Project, visit TheGuestHouseProject.com. More Resources:Winter Respite Retreat Feb 22-25Wives Care Online GroupsBlog: Loving Our Bodies After TraumaRelated Podcasts:Liminal Space: Helping Wives Transition from Betrayal to Hope

Proverbs 27:17 says “As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another.” This idea of helping each other get sharper is so common in our work with men, especially in our Gateway to Freedom 3-day workshops. Guys form a bond that is deep and meaningful.In this episode, Stephen and I talk about what can men hope to be saying 6-12 months after they have begun their honest journey toward greater integrity. These insights are coming directly from other men who have traveled this journey and what they discovered on the way. The hope is that these men can help other men to press on and finish well. More Resources:Gateway to Freedom 3-Day Workshop10 Lessons for Overcoming Addiction (free download)40 Days of Growth*Related Podcasts: Men Helping Men Grow and MatureInsights from a Brother in RecoveryFor Men Who Want to Finish Strong----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases. Support this

What is the difference between alone and lonely? Is there a healthy aspect to being alone and understanding who you are by yourself?In today’s episode, Stephen and I dialogue about the topic of aloneness and why we need to be okay with ourselves – by ourselves. We also talk about the difference between aloneness as a healthy thing and isolation as an unhealthy thing. We explore some questions that help us better understand how to embrace aloneness, such as: What scares you most about being alone? What does it feel like in your body when you are alone?What could you do that would be healthy when you are alone?It’s okay to be by yourself. We hope this episode helps you navigate this topic with confidence and hope.More Resources:Abba's Child by Brennan ManningIdentity by John FortGrace-Based TransformationRelated Podcasts:I Love God (Until it Gets Dark)Understanding AlonenessSilencing Your Inner Critic----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.Support this po

Childhood sexual abuse is not something that only happens to girls. Boys are victims, too. Most of these boys grow up to be men who find it terribly difficult to talk about these experiences. In today’s episode, our guest is Dr. James Reeves, founding pastor of City on a Hill Church in Fort Worth, Texas, and the creator of the Fearless Series for women and men. Dr. Reeves shares how he got involved in helping abuse victims and why the church needs to be a safe place for such victims to heal and belong.The Fearless Series for Men addresses childhood sexual, physical, and emotional abuse men have experienced and the hope possible for not just surviving trauma but finding true healing and fulfillment through the gospel of Jesus Christ.To learn more about Dr. Reeves and the Fearless series, visit FearlessResources.org. More Resources:Facilitator Training for Fearless SeriesRefuge: How Hospital Church Ministry Can Change Your Church ForeverGateway to Freedom 3-day intensive for menRelated Podcasts:Our Born Identit

Today’s episode may be the most unique program we’ve ever done on our podcast. We are diving into the space of politics and government, and how Christians can engage their local and state elected officials in gospel-centered ways.Our guest is Daniel Degner. He is the director of the Church Ambassador Network for the Wisconsin Family Council. He is going to help us understand the fallacy of “separation of Church and State” and how we can do amazing ministry at the intersection of our Christian faith and government. This conversation is critical as we look forward to elections in 2024, not to promote a specific political party, but instead to educate and inspire you on how to build relationships with elected officials for the sake of the gospel and the good of your community. It makes a difference that your local government officials know who you are and what you believe about God’s design for sex and life.If you would like more info about Daniel and how to get involved in the Church Ambassador Network, visit W