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In this episode, I welcome back Lyschel Burket, an expert in helping women heal from betrayal trauma, especially in marriages affected by infidelity. Lyschel shares her personal journey and emphasizes the importance of community, safety, and communication in the healing process. We discuss the unique emotional challenges women face after betrayal and the critical role of support and understanding from both partners and their community. Lyschel also highlights the spiritual aspect of healing, stressing how Christ provides hope and safety during suffering and grief. It’s a heartfelt conversation aimed at offering solace and guidance to those traveling this difficult path. To learn more about Lyschel and her resources for wives, visit HopeRedefined.org.Topics Covered in this Episode:Healing journey of women experiencing betrayal trauma, particularly in marriages.Importance of community support and connection during the healing process.Emotional challenges faced by women after discovering betrayal.Need for safety

In this episode, we invite back Dr. Jennifer Degler, a clinical psychologist and marriage expert, to talk about making sex pleasurable and fun again, especially for couples dealing with betrayal or brokenness. Dr. Degler shares her insights on the importance of pleasure within God's design for sex and offers practical steps for re-engaging with intimacy after betrayal. We discuss the necessity of communication, mindfulness, and sensory exploration to rebuild trust and enjoyment in sexual relationships. Jennifer’s tips and insightful anecdotes provide a refreshing perspective on rekindling passion and connection in marriage.To learn more about Dr. Degler and her resources, visit JenniferDegler.com.Topics Covered in this Episode:Importance of pleasure in sexual relationships within a Christian context.Challenges couples face in reconnecting after betrayal or brokenness.Practical steps for re-engaging with intimacy and pleasure.Role of communication in rebuilding trust and intimacy.Mindfulness techniques to

In this episode, I’m so excited to chat with Gigi Hopkins, our Wives Care Director, and Andrea Stunz, our Marketing Manager and Wives Care Aftercare Coordinator, about our new online resource, "40 Days of Healing for Wives." This course is crafted to support women dealing with the pain of betrayal in their marriages, especially sexual betrayal. We dive into the course's development, its structure, and the importance of pacing and journaling. Gigi and Andrea share heartfelt insights on fostering healing, the power of community support, and how faith plays a crucial role in the healing journey for wives. To learn more and enroll in the course, visit PureLifeAcademy.org.Topics Covered in this Episode:Development of the "40 Days of Healing for Wives" courseImportance of healing for wives dealing with betrayal, especially sexual betrayalStructure and key elements of the course, including pacing and journalingRole of community support in the healing processEmotional regulation and handling trigg

In this episode, we dive into the emotional struggles men face, especially those recovering from addiction. We explore the concept of "Mr. Unemotional," describing men who find it hard to express their feelings due to past experiences or societal pressures. Stephen Cervantes and I discuss the importance of emotional growth alongside behavioral recovery. We share insights on how men can better understand and articulate their emotions, emphasizing the need for openness and support from partners and friends. The episode highlights the journey toward emotional maturity, encouraging men to embrace change for deeper, more fulfilling relationships.For daily insights from Stephen, visit DoctorMarriage.org. Topics Covered in this Episode:Emotional health and its significance in addiction recovery for men.The concept of "Mr. Unemotional" and its implications for men's emotional development.The disconnect between behavioral recovery and emotional growth.The impact of childhood emotional training on a

In this episode, I have back on the program our delightful friend and colleague Dr. Joy Skarka to talk about her new book, "Her Freedom Journey: A Guide Out of Porn and Shame to Authentic Intimacy," co-authored with Dr. Juli Slattery. Joy shares her personal journey and the mission of Authentic Intimacy, a ministry dedicated to helping individuals reclaim God's design for sexuality. We discuss the unique challenges women face with pornography, the importance of understanding God's unconditional love, and the journey toward sexual integrity – which emphasizes the power of truth, engaging community, and sharing one's story to overcome shame and find lifelong healing.For more info about Joy, the book, and the ministry, visit AuthenticIntimacy.com. Topics Covered in this Episode: Discussion of the book "Her Freedom Journey: A Guide Out of Porn and Shame to Authentic Intimacy."Exploration of the challenges women face regarding pornography.The role of the Authentic Intimacy ministry in a

In this episode, I chat with three amazing leaders from Prodigals International: Steve Dulaney, president of Prodigals, Sam Louie, a licensed mental health counselor, and Fausto Estrada, one of their group leaders. Steve shares how Prodigals International began as a faith-based support group for men struggling with sexual addiction and intimacy disorders, emphasizing the importance of community and accountability. Sam opens up about his journey from addiction to recovery, influenced by his background as an Asian immigrant. He highlights how group therapy and supportive mentors transformed his life. Fausto shares his recovery story and how it has culminated in him now leading a Spanish language support group for Prodigals. Together, we explore the power of faith, personal stories, and cultural context in overcoming addiction and fostering recovery. I trust this conversation will inspire you in your own journey of pursuing greater integrity.To learn more about Prodigals International, please visit ProdigalsInte

In this episode, I chat with Mike Novotny, pastor, speaker, and author of "Taboo: Topics Christians Should Be Talking About But Don't." We dive into sensitive subjects like anxiety, depression, addiction, and especially sexuality within the Christian community. Mike shares his personal journey of overcoming pornography addiction and stresses the importance of open discussions in the church. We explore God's design for sex, emphasizing that understanding and obeying biblical truths can lead to healing and transformation. Mike encourages listeners to seek grace, find trustworthy confidants, and take steps toward wholeness in Christ.To learn more about Mike, his book, and other gospel resources, visit TimeofGrace.org.Topics Covered in this Episode: Discussion of taboo topics within the Christian communityPersonal experiences with anxiety, depression, and addictionThe importance of open conversations about sexualityOvercoming struggles with pornography and the role of confessionUnderstanding God&#

In this episode, I welcome Sarah Siegand to the program, co-founder of Parents Who Fight and an expert in helping parents navigate technology's impact on children. We dive into the importance of modeling healthy tech habits, delaying access to devices, and educating parents about online safety. Sarah shares her personal journey, emphasizing the need for intentionality in family tech use. We discuss the five phases of tech training: ModelingDelayingProtectingMonitoringReleasingSarah provides practical tips and insights, aiming to empower parents to create a safe and balanced digital environment for their kids. It's a thoughtful conversation filled with valuable advice for modern parenting.To learn more about Sarah and the resources she offers, visit ParentsWhoFight.com. Topics Covered in this Episode: Challenges parents face regarding technology's impact on childrenImportance of modeling healthy technology habitsDelaying access to devices and social media for childrenEducating parents about online

In this episode, Joel Warneking shares his profound journey through addiction and recovery. Joel is the director of 423 Communities, a ministry that is radically committed to helping others overcome all forms of unhealthy sexuality, restoring healthy sexuality and intimacy with others through, confessional, recovery communities. Joel opens up about his own history of pornography addiction and the isolating shame that came with it. He highlights how group work was crucial in his healing process, emphasizing the importance of community, grace, and accountability. We explore the essentials of a supportive group environment, the balance between grace and structure, and the need for action in recovery. Joel’s story and insights remind us that recovery thrives in the context of supportive relationships.To learn more about Joel and his ministry’s resources, visit 423Communities.org.Topics Covered in this Episode: Importance of group work in recovery from addictionPersonal experiences with addiction, particularly por

In this episode, our guest Brad Warren shares his incredible journey of overcoming a troubled past, including struggles with pornography and infidelity. Brad opens up about the profound impact these issues had on his marriage and how he and his wife, Kristen, found healing. We dive into the transformative power of the Hope Rising Conference, a virtual conference for couples dealing with similar challenges. Brad shares how their recovery led them both to pursue careers in counseling, aiming to help others navigate their paths to healing. This episode is a testament to hope, honesty, and the power of God’s grace.To learn about the Hope Rising Conference, visit AffairRecovery.com/hope-rising.To learn more about Brad and Kristen’s counseling practice, visit RestfulMindTherapy.com. Topics Covered in this Episode: Personal recovery and transformation from a troubled backgroundStruggles with pornography and infidelity in marriageThe impact of a dysfunctional family environment on personal developmentThe journey of h

In this episode, I chat with Dr. Carol Tanksley, a ministry friend and author of the book Sexpectations: Reframing Your Good and Not-So-Good Stories About God, Love, and Relationships.  We dive into the complexities of sexuality, intimacy, and how personal and cultural experiences shape these aspects of our lives. Dr. Tanksley shares her personal journey of learning about sexuality and intimacy, emphasizing the importance of addressing heart issues and healing from past wounds. We discuss the difference between intimacy and sexuality, the necessity of community support, and the concept of sexual wholeness. Finally, Dr. Carol offers practical advice on creating an escape plan for temptations and highlights the transformative power of faith and vulnerability.To learn more about Carol and her resources, visit YourSexpectations.com. Topics Covered in this Episode: Exploration of sexuality and intimacy in the context of faith and relationships.Personal experiences and motivations behind writing "Sexpectations.

My apologies for the poor audio quality of this episode. I hope it won’t distract too much from the content. In this episode, Stephen and I talk about the power of "co," meaning "together" or "jointly," in relationships and recovery. We dive into how collaboration and connection are essential for personal growth and healing, especially in marriage and overcoming addiction. Dr. Cervantes shares insights on co-parenting, co-planning, and co-nurturing, emphasizing that love and community are vital for a fulfilling life. We also discuss the church's role in fostering a sense of belonging and unity. Join us as we explore how embracing "co" can transform our lives and relationships.For daily insights from Stephen, visit DoctorMarriage.org. Topics Covered in this Episode:The significance of the prefix "co" in relationships and community.The role of collaboration and partnership in personal growth and healing.The impact of addiction on connection and the importance of overc

In this episode, I’m joined by Stacey Fitzgerald, who shares her profound journey through betrayal trauma and her path to healing. Stacey opens up about the resurfacing of her trauma in 2021, describing intense physical symptoms like panic attacks and a racing heart. She emphasizes the importance of feeling safe and regulating the nervous system. Stacey’s healing process involved spiritual, emotional, and physical approaches, including prayer, music, and understanding the mind-body connection. Now, she helps other women navigate similar experiences through her platform, "Becoming Safe." To learn more about Stacey and her resources, visit BecomingSafe.com.Topics Covered in this Episode: Healing and safety in the context of betrayal traumaPersonal experiences of betrayal trauma in relationshipsResurfacing of trauma and its physical symptomsThe role of spiritual, emotional, and physical approaches in healingImportance of feeling safe and regulating the nervous systemImpact of trauma on mental and physica

In this heartfelt episode, I chat with Kate and Will Conwell about their journey through betrayal trauma and healing in their marriage. Kate shares her work with "Journey Beyond Betrayal," a ministry supporting women facing similar struggles. Will opens up about his past issues with sexual brokenness and infidelity, and how these impacted their relationship. We explore the importance of sharing personal stories for healing and connection and the crucial role of faith in recovery. This episode is all about offering hope and encouragement to couples dealing with betrayal trauma. If this is you, you aren’t alone!To learn more about Kate and her resources for wives, visit JourneyBeyondBetrayal.com.To learn more about 423 Men’s groups, visit 423Communities.org. Topics Covered in this Episode: The Conwells' journey through betrayal trauma in their marriage.Will's struggles with sexual brokenness and infidelity.The significance of sharing personal stories for healing and connection.The role of faith

In this episode, Dr. Stephen Cervantes and I dive into the theme of emotional growth and the importance of relationships among men. We start by sharing some personal stories about our dads and male role models, highlighting how men often prioritize being providers over nurturing emotional connections. A key highlight of this episode features a movie character from our Gateway to Freedom workshop, who realizes his potential after being told, "You could have been great." This statement is loaded with powerful insights for men when they realize their lives are running on the wrong tracks. We want men to experience their full potential as image bearers of God; to know him fully and love others deeply.For daily insights from Stephen, visit DoctorMarriage.org. Topics Covered in this Episode: The significance of emotional growth in men's lives.The role of relationships and male connections in personal development.The impact of societal expectations on men's focus on productivity and financial success

In this episode, I welcome back Cat Etherington, the director of recovery at the Naked Truth Project. We explore the profound impact of betrayal trauma on wives and the journey towards healing and forgiveness. Cat explains the stages of healing: Safety and stabilization, Remembering and mourning, Reconnection She emphasizes the importance of forgiveness, not as a pressured obligation but as a personal outcome of healing. We also discuss how friends and family can provide tangible support during this difficult time. For more information on Cat and her resources, visit nakedtruthproject.com.Topics Covered in this Episode:Impact of betrayal on a wife and the process of healing and forgivenessEmotional aspects of navigating betrayal traumaKey stages of healing from betrayal traumaImportance of forgiveness in the healing processReadiness to forgive and precursors in the healing journeyDifferentiating between trauma triggers and griefReconnecting with the world after betrayal traumaSupport from friends and family f

ONLY 1 WEEK LEFT TO DOUBLE YOUR GIFT!Thanks to a generous donor, we can offer a $75,000 match for gifts given between May 1 through July 31. Every dollar you give, collectively up to $75,000, will be DOUBLED!Give Today and double your impact. Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, I welcome back Pastor Marty Machowski to discuss the pressing issue of identity, particularly sexual identity. Marty shares his experiences counseling families whose children are grappling with gender and sexual orientation issues. He highlights the rapid acceleration of these challenges and introduces his book, "God Made Boys and Girls," as a resource for parents. We delve into the impact of public education on children's understanding of identity, the importance of grounding identity in biblical truth, and the need for compassionate, open conversations between parents and children. Marty also shares insights from his support group, "Affirmed," offering hope and practical guidance for families.To

DOUBLE YOUR GIFT!Thanks to a generous donor, we can offer a $75,000 match for gifts given between May 1 through July 31. Every dollar you give, collectively up to $75,000, will be DOUBLED!Give Today and double your impact. Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, I welcome back Carol Juergensen Sheets, better known as Carol the Coach, a certified sex addiction therapist. We reminisce about her last appearance in March 2020, where we focused on empathy for husbands. Carol shares her journey since 2007, emphasizing the importance of empathy in all relationships. She introduces her Early Recovery Couples Empathy Model (ERCEM), which involves working with both partners from the start to foster post-traumatic growth. Carol explains the role of empathy in healing from infidelity, highlighting the long-term process and the need for genuine understanding. She also provides resources for couples seeking support and offers a hopeful message for those on their healing journey.To learn more about Carol and h

DOUBLE YOUR GIFT!Thanks to a generous donor, we can offer a $75,000 match for gifts given between May 1 through July 31. Every dollar you give, collectively up to $75,000, will be DOUBLED!Give Today and double your impact. Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, I chat with Crystal Renaud Day about the SHE Virtual Recovery Summit, a transformative event for women battling unwanted sexual behaviors like pornography addiction. Crystal shares her personal journey and insights from years of ministry, emphasizing the importance of surrender, accountability, and community in recovery. We discuss the summit's role in providing a safe, supportive space for women and even teens to find healing and resources. Crystal's passion for helping women shines through, and we invite listeners to join the summit and take steps toward wholeness in Christ.To learn more about the SHE Summit and register, visit SheRecovery.com. Topics Covered in this Episode:SHE Virtual Recovery SummitSupport and resources for

DOUBLE YOUR GIFT!Thanks to a generous donor, we can offer a $75,000 match for gifts given between May 1 through July 31. Every dollar you give, collectively up to $75,000, will be DOUBLED!Give Today and double your impact. Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, Stephen and I dive into the journey of emotional self-awareness, especially for men – and offer a simple test to measure self-awareness. We explore the different levels of self-awareness, from complete unawareness to deep emotional understanding. Stephen shares his inspiration for creating this self-awareness test, aiming to help men gauge their emotional awareness so they can continue toward greater awareness and maturity. We discuss how family history shapes emotional patterns and the importance of recognizing triggers. Our conversation emphasizes the significance of aligning with the Holy Spirit and striving for emotional maturity. For more insight from Stephen, visit DoctorMarriage.org.Topics Covered in this Episode:Emotional self-aw