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PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, I sit down with Nick Stumbo, director of Pure Desire Ministries, for an honest conversation about sexual brokenness and the impact of pornography, especially within the Christian community. We dive into new research from Pure Desire and the Barna Group, titled Beyond the Porn Phenomenon, revealing surprising trends and the ongoing struggle many face in silence. Nick shares insights from the research on breaking shame, creating safe spaces in churches, and practical ways parents and leaders can support healthy conversations about sexuality. Together, we explore how compassion and openness can lead to real healing and hope.To learn more and get a copy of the research mentioned in this episode, visit PureDesire.org/barna. Topics Covered in this Episode: Discussion of sexual brokenness, particularly related to pornography use.Personal ex

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, I sit down again with Phil and Priscilla Fretwell to explore what true intimacy in marriage really means. Together, we unpack how family backgrounds, vulnerability, and faith shape our ability to be fully known and fully loved. Phil and Priscilla share their honest journey through their marriage struggles, healing, and the importance of spiritual and emotional connection—not just physical closeness. We also touch on how intimacy matters for everyone, married or single. Join us for an honest, heartfelt conversation about growing closer, supporting each other, and finding wholeness in our relationships.To learn more about Phil and Priscilla and their resources for couples, visit SavageMarriageMinistries.com. Topics Covered in this Episode: The significance of intimacy in marriage and relationships.The evolution of understanding intimac

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!----------In today’s episode, I welcome back Garry Ingraham from Love and Truth Network to discuss the challenges of parenting in a hypersexualized culture. We dive into the importance of modeling healthy, godly behaviors and values, and how parents can create a nurturing environment for their children. Garry shares insights from his ministry, emphasizing the need for open communication and proactive measures in addressing identity and sexuality issues. We also explore the biblical perspective on parenting, encouraging parents to embrace their role with faith and hope, fostering a supportive environment for their children's growth and identity development.To learn about the resources Garry offers, visit LoveAndTruthNetwork.com.Topics Covered in this Episode: Challenges parents face in a hypersexualized cultureImportance of parental roles in shaping childre

In this episode, I sit down with Sathiya Sam, founder of Deep Clean, to discuss his journey from porn addiction to freedom and personal growth. Sathiya shares how he struggled with ineffective solutions and the shame tied to his addiction. Over time, he realized true recovery meant focusing on personal and spiritual development rather than just quitting porn. We explore the connection between physical well-being and mental health, emphasizing how activities like exercise and journaling can aid recovery. Sathiya also highlights the importance of understanding one's identity and purpose, offering practical steps for overcoming shame and fostering a healthier lifestyle. Join us for a powerful and inspiring conversation on whole-man healing.For more information on Sathiya and his resources, visit DeepCleanCoaching.com. Topics Covered in this Episode:Personal journey of recovery from pornography addictionIneffective solutions encountered during the recovery processShift in focus from eliminating pornography to

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, Stephen Cervantes and I dive into the crucial topic of expectations in marriage, focusing on the difference between assumed and discussed expectations. We share lots of personal stories and insights, highlighting how unspoken assumptions can lead to misunderstandings and conflicts. Our conversation focuses on the importance of open communication and dialogue to foster a healthier relationship. I reflect on my own marriage, illustrating how discussing expectations can transform a relationship from merely coexisting to truly sharing life. We encourage you, if you’re married, to engage in meaningful discussions about expectations to avoid the pitfalls of unspoken assumptions.For daily insights from Stephen, visit DoctorMarriage.org.Topics Covered in this Episode: The distinction between assumed expectations and discussed expectations in

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, we invite back one of our favorite counselors, Jessica McDaniel, who runs a private practice in Austin, TX with her husband, Ryan. We dive into the crucial collaboration between therapists and pastors, especially when helping couples deal with infidelity and betrayal trauma. Jessica shares how both therapeutic and pastoral support are essential for comprehensive healing. We discuss the importance of creating safe environments, clear communication, and breaking down the stigma around mental health in church settings. Jessica also offers practical advice for building strong, collaborative relationships between therapists and church leaders to better support couples in crisis.To learn more about Jessica and Ryan’s counseling practice, visit McDanielCounseling.com. Topics Covered in this Episode:Collaboration between therapists and pasto

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, Dr. Stephen Cervantes and I discuss the emotional and spiritual awakening journey for men. We explore the challenges of emotional disconnect and the impact of societal expectations on men's emotional health. Stephen shares insights on moving from hiddenness and brokenness to a fuller life in Christ. We emphasize the importance of expressing needs and feelings, and the courage it takes to wake up emotionally. We share our own personal stories and practical advice in hopes to inspire men to connect more deeply with their emotions and relationships. Men, we invite you to join us on the journey of emotional and spiritual growth. For daily insights from Stephen, visit DoctorMarriage.org. Topics Covered in this Episode:Emotional and spiritual awakening for menThe journey from emotional disconnect to deeper engagementCoping mechanisms a

In this episode, I chat with Hadley Baker, who courageously shares his journey through sexual addiction and its impact on his life as a pastor. Hadley opens up about his childhood trauma as the result of an unwanted pregnancy, believing he was unlovable. Then came the early onset of his addiction to pornography and the eventual internal conflict of living a double life while in ministry. He recounts pivotal moments, such as his spiritual awakening, the challenges in his marriage, and his path to healing through counseling and truly understanding God's love. We also highlight the importance of authenticity and open discussions within the church to support anyone struggling with unwanted sexual behaviors. Hadley’s story is a powerful reminder of the need for grace, hope, and compassion.To learn more about Hadley and get his book, No Longer a Slave, visit HadleyBaker.com. Topics Covered in this Episode: Personal journey of sexual addiction and its impact on life as a pastor.Importance of discussing sensitive

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, we have back on the program our friend and colleague Andrew Arthur, a mediator specializing in faith-based mediation, to talk about the delicate topic of separation in relationships and how to navigate them with hope. We delve specifically into therapeutic separation, which is a process aimed at healing and potentially reuniting couples facing serious challenges like infidelity and sexual brokenness. Andrew highlights the importance of having a support team, including counselors, mediators, and spiritual advisors, to collectively guide this tough journey for couples. We also discuss the emotional and operational aspects of separation, the need for individual care, and the crucial role of safety and trust in working towards reconciliation. It's a hopeful and insightful conversation for anyone facing relational struggles.For more i

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving. Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, Stephen and I explore the profound concept of "oneness," touching on its dimensions of belonging, connection, unity, and intimacy. We discuss how oneness is essential in relationships with family, spouses, and God, emphasizing the importance of vulnerability and mutual understanding. We highlight the very real challenges and rewards of pursuing true oneness; it isn’t like flipping a switch and you will automatically achieve oneness. Oneness is a journey of growth and self-discovery. We invite you to reflect on your own relationships and seek deeper connections in your life. It’s a mission worth the journey.To get daily insights from Stephen, visit DoctorMarriage.org. Topics Covered in this Episode:Exploration of the concept of "oneness" and its complexities.Discussion of belonging, connection, unity, and intimacy.The significance of persona

In this episode, our guests are Johnny and Emily Spigelmire and they share their profound journey through Johnny's sex addiction and its impact on their marriage. Johnny opens up about his early exposure to pornography, his secret struggles, and the eventual escalation to extramarital affairs. Emily shares her perspective, detailing the confusion and pain she experienced, as well as her unwavering faith in their marriage’s potential for healing. Together, they discuss their path to recovery, the importance of honesty, and their mission to help others through their podcast, "Beyond Broken Vows." Their story is a powerful testament to redemption and hope.If you are in a marriage that has experienced infidelity or other kinds of sexual betrayal, this episode will help you discover hope and insights for healing and restoration.For more information about Johnny and Emily and their ministry, visit BeyondBrokenVows.com.Topics Covered in this Episode: The impact of early exposure to pornography on persona

In this episode, I chat with Bret Marshall about his incredible journey of faith and personal transformation. Bret opens up about his struggles with emotional expression and sexual sin, and how these challenges impacted his relationships, especially with his wife, Tena. He shares the pivotal moments that led to his healing, including a transformative intensive experience through a past partnership between Be Broken and the Navigators ministry organization. Bret highlights the ABC’s of emotional health: Acceptance, Belonging, and Connection.Bret also emphasizes the need for personal vulnerability, authentic connections, and creating safe spaces for men to share their full stories. His own story is an incredible reminder of the transformative power of God’s presence in our lives.Learn more about Bret on his YouTube channel: @whylivetoday. Topics Covered in this Episode:Bret Marshall's journey of faith and personal transformation.The significance of being known and sharing personal stories.Challenges faced i

In this episode, I am thrilled to welcome Dr. Steve Call, a clinical psychologist and co-author with Dr. Dan Allender of The Deep Rooted Marriage: Cultivating Intimacy, Healing, and Delight*. We dive into the book's themes, focusing on how past traumas influence present marital conflicts and how to grow in emotional understanding and intimacy. Dr. Call shares his personal marriage journey, emphasizing the importance of awareness and curiosity in relationships. We discuss practical steps for couples to cultivate awareness, the role of play in healing, and strategies for managing triggers. Dr. Call offers hope and resources for couples to nourish their relationships.To learn more about Dr. Call’s resources and to get the book, visit TheReconnectInstitute.com. Topics Covered in this Episode: Discussion of the book "The Deep Rooted Marriage: Cultivating Intimacy, Healing, and Delight.*"Exploration of how past experiences and traumas influence current marital conflicts.Importance of cultivating awarene

In this episode, Dr. Stephen Cervantes and I dive into the emotional impact of failure. We both express how deeply we hate failing, describing how it triggers feelings of rejection, isolation, and shame. We explore the importance of reframing failure, emphasizing that God's love still remains constant despite our setbacks. His grace abounds! We suggest that solitude can be a sanctuary for self-reflection and growth, encouraging you to create a “holy space” for healing. We ultimately want to offer you a compassionate perspective on failure, encouraging gentleness toward yourself and confidence in the transformative power of God's unwavering love. We start the episode by saying, “I hate failing.” We end it with, “But God likes me and so do I.” For daily thoughts from Stephen, visit DoctorMarriage.org.Topics Covered in this Episode:The emotional impact of failure on individuals.Feelings of rejection, isolation, and shame associated with failure.The cycle of shame and loneliness stemming from failure.The

In this episode, we dive into the dynamics of "loners" and "connectors" in relationships. Everyone falls into one of these categories. As we explore this topic, my friend and co-host Stephen Cervantes discusses how loners tend to be independent and process internally, while connectors thrive on dialogue and emotional exchange. We examine how these differences impact communication and emotional connection, particularly in marriages. We share insights on personal growth, emphasizing the importance of understanding and appreciating each other's communication styles; we aren’t out to change a loner into a connector or vice versa. We give lots of personal anecdotes and practical advice, aiming to help you navigate these differences to foster deeper connections and build stronger, more fulfilling relationships.For daily thoughts from Stephen, visit DoctorMarriage.org. To read the Thought on Loners and Connectors, go to DoctorMarriage.org/loners-and-connectors.Topics Covered in this Episode:Disti

In this episode, we invite back our friends and counselors, Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith, to talk about the crucial role of boundaries in restoring marriages after betrayal, particularly sexual infidelity. Matthew shares insights from the perspective of the betraying spouse, emphasizing self-reflection and accountability, while Joanna offers guidance for the betrayed spouse on navigating emotions and setting personal boundaries. We delve into defining boundaries as supportive frameworks rather than punishing limitations, avoiding misuse of boundaries for control, and harmonizing them to foster safety and mutual respect. The Raabsmiths highlight the importance of individual responsibility and how boundaries can create a safe space for healing and rebuilding trust.To download the Raabsmith’s free Honest Connection Guide, visit RenewingUs.com/puresexradio. Click here for the Raabsmith's full biosTopics Covered in this Episode:Importance of boundaries in marriage restoration after betrayalDefinition and posit

In this episode, I chat with author and blogger Sarah Matzke, who bravely shares her journey through struggles with body image, an eating disorder, and marital challenges, including infidelity. Sarah opens up about her upbringing, the pressures she faced, and the lies she believed about her worth. She recounts the painful yet transformative process of rebuilding trust with her husband, JP, and how her faith in Christ played a crucial role in their healing. Sarah's story is a powerful testament to the importance of vulnerability, honesty, and the grace of God in overcoming life's toughest obstacles. To learn more about Sarah and get a copy of her book, visit SarahJeanMatzke.com.Topics Covered in the Episode:Personal struggles with body image and eating disordersImpact of societal pressures and familial expectations on self-worthChallenges faced in marriage, including infidelityThe process of rebuilding trust after betrayalImportance of open communication and transparency in relationshipsRole of faith a

In this episode, I have back on the program Carl Thomas to dig into the recovery journey from pornography and sexual addiction. Carl shares his personal story and emphasizes the importance of community and addressing mental and emotional health. We discuss how recovery goes beyond just stopping harmful behaviors or behavioral sobriety and involves understanding and healing deeper emotional wounds. Carl highlights the stigma around mental health and the need for a holistic approach to recovery. He also provides resources for those seeking support. This episode aims to offer hope and guidance to anyone navigating similar challenges or interested in the recovery process.To learn more about Carl and the Live Free Ministries resources, visit LiveFreeCommunity.org.Topics Covered in this Episode:Recovery from pornography and sexual addictionImportance of community in the recovery processPersonal journey and background of the speakerHolistic approach to mental and emotional health in recoveryAddressing underlying emo

In this episode, I sit down with Melissa Macomber to explore the emotional and psychological impact of parental infidelity on adult children. Melissa shares her personal story of discovering her mother's affair at 13 and the ensuing family dynamics. Now, as a therapist, she highlights the lack of resources for adult children dealing with such betrayal and emphasizes the importance of addressing trust issues and healing – no matter how long it has been since the parental infidelity took place. We discuss the broader implications of infidelity on family relationships and the unique challenges faced by children at all stages of growing up. Melissa offers valuable insights and resources for those navigating this difficult journey.To learn more about Melissa and her research, visit MelissaMacomber.com.Topics Covered in this Episode:Emotional and psychological impact of parental infidelity on adult childrenPersonal experiences of discovering a parent's affairFamily dynamics and their evolution post-infideli

Today we have back with us Dr. Jennifer Degler, a renowned specialist in sexual health, and we delve into the often-overlooked issue of painful sex. Dr. Degler brings her wealth of expertise to the table, shedding light on the prevalence and emotional impact of sexual pain, especially among women.We explore various conditions that explain certain kinds pain during sex and how to address them. She also highlights the emotional toll painful sex can take, noting that "many women suffer in silence, feeling isolated and ashamed, which only exacerbates the problem."Throughout our discussion, Dr. Degler underscores the significance of still pursuing intimacy in relationships despite these challenges. She explains, "Intimacy is not just about physical connection; it's about emotional closeness and understanding.” She offers hope and practical advice, encouraging couples to seek professional help and create safe spaces for expressing emotions. To learn more about Dr. Degler and her resources, visit Jen