Mantalks Podcast: Purpose | Legacy | Relationships | Self Mastery | Business

Zachary Stockill is an award-winning Canadian researcher, writer, podcaster, and educator. Zachary is the author of Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy and discusses with Roger a lot of the shame men experience when trying to find resources or help to overcome their irrational jealousy. Zachary knows the subject all too well because he too was once a man who obsessed over his then-girlfriend's past. Discover more about the unhealthy and obsessive habits jealous men often fall into.   Key Takeaways: [2:20] What was one of Zachary's defining moments? [5:05] What does Zachary do? [4:50] Zachary unpacks what 'retroactive jealousy' means. [7:00] Out of nowhere, Zachary came up with ridiculous scenarios about his then-girlfriend and became jealous.  [8:00] Despite realizing his jealousy, Zachary couldn't find the right resources that would address this issue for him. [8:20] Both men and woman experience this equally. [9:35] Men tend to have extreme double standards towards women who have done the same sort of sexual ac

Julian Treasure is a sought-after and top-rated international speaker. Collectively his five TED talks on various aspects of sound and communication have been viewed an estimated 30 million times. His latest talk, How to speak so that people want to listen, is in the rare group that has over 10 million views on TED alone, putting it in the top 20 TED talks of all time. Julian discusses how to become a better listener and the bad habits people have when they try to listen.   Key Takeaways: [2:15] What was Julian's defining moment? [6:35] If we all start listening a bit better, then we start to understand each other better. [7:25] What can men do to enhance their listening skills? [9:40] Silence is important when trying to improve your listening skills. [13:40] Julian breaks down what the RASA acronym means. [17:40] Women often feel like men aren't listening to them. There are different types of listening modes you can switch to. Julian explains further. [21:45] What are some bad habits people do when trying to

Connor Beaton does a solo show to answer some of his listeners’ common questions. He discusses how he prepared for his TED talk, the elements of what makes a good talk, and then dives further into how he and his team built such a strong community at ManTalks. Towards the tail end of the show, Connor reminds the audience on the importance of staying focused and limiting your distractions as you try to achieve great things.   Key Takeaways: [4:04] How did Connor prepare for his TED talk? [6:10] If there's a way to invite the organizers of an event (TED talks) to hear you speak, then do it. [6:35] Have a sticky idea? Share your idea with close mentors and friends, and get feedback. [8:15] Connor breaks down how you format a Ted talk and make it memorable. [9:40] TED talks are ideas worth spreading because they're based in facts. You need concrete evidence to back it up. [11:35] Practice your public speaking skills. [12:05] Let your message do your work and allow the slides in the background to back up and re-enf

Dr. Arthur P. Ciaramicoli is a licensed clinical psychologist who has been treating his clients for more than 35 years. He is the Chief medical Officer of Soundmindz.org and has lectured at Harvard Health Services. Arthur is the author of several books including The Stress Solution and The Power of Empathy, which both Arthur and Connor discuss on today's show. Discover the need for empathy in your daily life and learn how to apply it in today's episode.   Key Takeaways: [3:45] What was a defining moment for Arthur? [7:15] Empathy slows down the process during intense moments or conversations. [10:15] 50% of people wake up during the middle of the night due to stress. [10:40] Stress is produced often by misconceptions. You can use empathy to calm the emotional brain. [13:15] What are some of the causes of stress? [16:15] How can we combat stress? [17:00] The most successful people in life have a wide emphatic range. [18:55] Remember, empathy is different than sympathy. [21:40] Take the time to see beyond the s

Neil Pasricha is a New York Times bestselling author of The Book of Awesome and The Happiness Equation. Neil has spent the last decade of his life as the Director of Leadership Development at Walmart, which he left this year to pursue his writing projects. He is also the writer and creator of the 1000 Awesome Things blog, which has won Best Blog in the World two years in a row. Connor sits down with Neil to discuss some of the secrets to happiness and why it is so hard to find.   Key Takeaways: [2:25] Grab a pen and paper for this episode! [3:10] What was Neil’s defining moment? [6:00] What was it like giving a TED Talk? [8:35] Beautiful things come out of darkness. [9:15] Are you building a business on the side? Neil says don’t quit your day job. [10:05] Neil was not a confident person, but when he started his side business, he gained more confidence. This lead him to being promoted at his full-time job. [11:25] Despite Neil’s success, he didn’t leave his full-time job at Walmart until this year. [11:55] Con

Srinivas Rao, founder of The Unmistakeable Creative website and podcast, and author of Unmistakable, has interviewed over 600 thought leaders and people from all walks of life on his show. Today, he joins Connor on the show to discuss creativity, a bit of his background, where he found his drive, and why we should always learn from others, but not mimic them. Srinivas says that we do not need more copies - we need originals, willing to travel the road that's never been traveled before, because true success is work that no one else can replicate.   Key Takeaways: [1:40] Let's talk creativity on today's show. [3:15] Famous on the internet? This concept is amusing to Srinivas. [4:45] What does Srinivas's name mean? [7:10] Who is Srinivas? [8:55] Srinivas downloaded Snapchat for the first time yesterday. [10:15] Everyone should get on Snapchat? Everyone should start a podcast? No! [11:00] Srinivas loves the platform 'Medium'. [11:35] Find one platform/thing and then get really, really good at it. [12:40] What was

Phil T Mistlberger is an expert on masculinity and brotherhood and has worked in this space for over 30 years. He is the author of four critically acclaimed books on the subject of men's work and is the founder of The Samurai Brotherhood. Phil discusses the differences between men today vs. back 20-30 years ago and what the men of today's generation are seeking the most.   Key Takeaways: [2:40] Who is Phil and how did he get started? [7:00] Phil discusses Robert Bly's book, Iron John and the deep connection men need to have. [7:20] Men have not been around to raise their sons. They've been raised by mothers. [8:45] What do men currently struggle with the most? Has this trend changed over the last 30 years? [10:10] The way men communicate has been disrupted by technology. [12:15] Do Millennial men lack grit? [13:15] There's a weird mix of resentment and entitlement in the average Millennial man. [16:40] Millennial men are seeking more of their masculine side when they come to Phil. [21:30] The ideal is to have

Michael Bungay Stanier was banned from his high school graduation for "the balloon incident", was sued by one of his Law School lecturers for defamation, and has held a number of jobs where he had little or no impact. Through his experiences, he founded Box of Crayons, a company that helps organizations do more great work. On today's show, he discusses his latest book with Roger, The Coaching Habit and how you can say less, ask more, and change the way you lead others.   Key Takeaways: [1:45] What was Michael's defining moment? [6:45] What is Michael up to these days? [8:20] Michael talks about his latest book, The Coaching Habit. [13:30] Slow down on giving advice, but stay curious for longer. [17:00] If Michael could pick one type of person to read his book, it would be the busy manager. [20:30] Did you know that boys are much more emotionally expressive than girls are in early childhood? [22:00] There are seven essential questions you need to ask yourself. Michael explains further. [25:40] Believe it or no

Jason Connell is a speaker, former magician, and a writer on personal development. Jason discusses with Roger and Connor on today's show about successfully moving through life transitions and accepting the new challenges that come from taking action. Jason also talks on the subject of manhood and some of the key things our everyday modern man struggles with in a society littered with social media.   Key Takeaways: [1:35] What was Jason's defining moment as a man? [4:00] It's hard to follow/discover a path you were meant to follow. Many people wake up to a 9-5 job they hate. [5:40] Millennials are feeling much more disconnected with others. [7:40] Jason talks about his career as a magician. [9:25] You don't have to follow the same path for the rest of your life. [10:40] Men suffer from the 'lack of money' barrier. [12:15] Jason is slowly winding down on his 8-year company, Ignited Leadership. [15:20] We're prone to stick with what we know – even if it makes us unhappy. [17:20] Your own brain is often not enoug

Frank Warren is the founder of PostSecret.com, where he publishes some of the secrets strangers have mailed to him on postcards. Frank has received over 500,000 postcards since November 2004. Some of these postcards are funny, shocking, littered with confessions, sexual desires, and more. Frank discusses why such a novel idea has turned viral and why people need a confessional outlet on today's show.   Key Takeaways: [2:25] What was Frank's defining moment as a man? [4:15] How did PostSecret get started? [7:45] Frank has given his real home address for people to send postcards to. [8:10] What is the magic that happens when someone reveals a secret to Frank? [10:50] What men decide to reveal and conceal defines them every day. [11:45] Frank reads some anonymous secrets. [15:45] Despite so much technology that helps us to connect, there's still a lot of loneliness and isolation. [16:05] Are we posting too much on social media? [19:00] Frank used to work on a suicide prevention hotline. How does he deal with all

Chris Guillebeau is the New York Times bestselling author of The $100 Startup, The Happiness of Pursuit, and other books. On today's show, Chris discuses how you can find your dream job and do work you were meant to do. You can learn more by listening to this podcast and by checking out Chris's book on the subject entitled, Born for This. At the end of the show, Roger mentions that if you're feeling alone in your journey, don't be! Chris has a huge community of people searching for their dream as well, so feel free to visit Chris's website to find out more.   Key Takeaways: [0:45] ManTalks has officially launched in Toronto and LA! [3:00] Please keep spreading the word about ManTalks. [5:10] What was Chris's defining moment as a man? [7:10] Why did Chris write The $100 Startup and Born for This? [8:45] Are you dissatisfied with the traditional path? Then Chris's book is for you. [9:55] How can you hack the job of your dreams? [10:25] If you're working for a company, you should think about yourself as leasing

Sam Fankuchen is the founder of Golden, a company that makes it easy to volunteer as well as helps non-profits manage their volunteers. Golden now has an app you can download directly to your phone where you can work for a non-profit that is aligned with your mission and purpose. Sam says that 25% of Americans volunteer every year, but the impact could be much greater if there was an easier way to manage the gap between non-profits and volunteers. Find out more about Sam's story in today's episode.    Key Takeaways: [0:30] Connor and Roger welcome Sam on to the show, the founder of Golden. [0:35] What is Golden? An app that helps to make volunteering effortless. [2:10] Why is Golden so important? We all want to give back. [2:50] What was a defining moment for Sam? [5:10] Sam explains what Golden is. [6:25] Why would a non-profit need this? [6:45] Staffing is the most costly expense for a non-profit. [8:05] There's only a few core things that help drive our happiness. Volunteering is in that list. [9:15] Why d

Greg McKeown is the author of Essentialism and the CEO of THIS Inc., a leadership and strategy design agency located in Silicon Valley. Greg tells the audience that if you want to break through to the next level and contribute more to your life, you must go big on fewer things. If you say yes to everything, you will simply stretch yourself too thin and exhaust yourself.    Key Takeaways: [2:55] Don't forget ManTalks is hosting another event! [4:25] What was Greg's defining moment? [7:00] Our failures lead to some of our biggest lessons. [8:10] The only time we really learn is when we have expectation failure. [9:05] True wealth is the ability to be present at any given moment. [9:20] Don't let a defining moment in your life pass you by. [10:00] Are you just too busy living to think about life? [10:30] Greg believes there's only two kinds of people in this world – the people who are lost and the people who know they're lost. [10:50] To be in the second category requires humility, self-awareness, and courage. [

Brad Lomenick is a strategic advisor and leadership consultant. He has written two books on the subject of leadership, The Catalyst Leader and, his latest book, H3 Leadership. Brad discusses the three big Hs that every leader needs in order to inspire and propel them to the next level. He also not only talks about why millennials are different but offers some compelling advice to anyone who is just beginning their career or journey.   Key Takeaways: [0:35] Thank you to our sponsor Vancity Buzz. [2:45] What was Brad's defining moment as a man? [6:30] So many aspects of Brad's story have been built on the shoulders of other people who have helped him. [6:40] What does Brad currently do? [8:00] Brad wants to impact the next generation. [9:10] Brad focuses on building strong leaders. [12:40] What is the secret sauce to creating a movement? [16:45] As soon as you're feeling big, you need to go back to the same thinking you had when you first started. [17:15] How do you influence a millennial? [18:55] Millennials b

Jonathan Becker founded Thrive Digital, a company dedicated in user acquisition, lead generation, and more. Jonathan is a serial entrepreneur and has a lot of advice to share for others who are looking to break out and thrive on their own. One piece of advice Jonathan gives to other aspiring entrepreneurs is to quit while you're ahead and use your newly learned skills to build something even better.   Key Takeaways: [2:50] What was Jonathan's defining moment? [4:45] What does Jonathan currently do? [6:45] Jonathan offers his best online marketing tip for someone who is trying to break into the marketing industry. [11:30] SEO is much more difficult today than it was a couple of years ago. [12:25] Don't invest massive amounts of money on an unproven idea just yet. [12:45] Good businesses are doing something exceptional. [13:45] Jonathan talks about the online porker company he tried to start. [16:25] Jonathan couldn't tell his parents about what he was doing. [19:10] Don't be afraid to quit while you're ahead.

Lee Eisenberg was the editor-in-chief of Esquire magazine for two decades. In 1995, he joined Time Inc. as a consulting editor and helped launch a series of new initiatives such as Time.com, Time for Kids, and The Time 100. In 2006, he published The Number, which became a national bestseller. Today, Lee talks to Connor and Roger about his latest book, The Point Is, and why having a personal narrative is so important for our life journey.    Key Takeaways: [0:30] As of today, we're in Toronto, L.A, and Vancouver. [0:35] If you're in any of those cities, come out to our event. [2:55] What was a defining moment for Lee as a man? [4:25] How do we really build a life story for ourselves? [5:00] Why did Lee write The Point Is? [7:15] Why do we endure certain memories and re-write others? [8:50] Personal narrative requires a lot of self-reflection. [9:00] Were there any commonalities in how people saw themselves? [10:35] Lee has only kept a diary once in his life. [12:20] When you record events in real time, you rea

Tim Urban is the creator and blogger of Wait but Why, a website that is anti-click bait and extremely informative. Tim originally started his website on a bet because he knew deep down that other people, too, craved for meaningful and substantial content on the web. The idea worked! Not only does his content go viral, but he was able to get the attention of people like Elon Musk, and more.    Key Takeaways: [2:35] What was Tim's defining moment? [5:40] Those who have a fall back plan, fall back but that didn't apply to Tim. [6:10] Even though Tim had a fall back plan, he was still very desperate to achieve his creative dream. [6:20] You need to have a runway, a game plan that you're able to carry out in a certain amount of time, but it also has to be realistic. [6:55] Some people work best when they burn their other options, others do not. [7:15] Why did Tim create Wait but Why? [11:20] Tim had an advantage where he could work 60 hours a week focusing on nothing but blogging. [11:45] Connor never read blogs u

Shea Emry is a former Canadian football player who played eight seasons in the CFL. When Shea experienced a serious concussion back in 2011, he struggled with depression and was left feeling unsure about who he was outside of being a pro-athlete. He has since taken the journey to rediscover who he is as a person and is a huge advocate on redefining masculinity. His mission is to break down social stereotypes on the definition of hyper-masculinity and to help support and guide young male youth.   Key Takeaways: [0:55] ManTalks is moving to Toronto! [4:15] What was Shea's defining moment? [5:50] Shea had an incredibly bad concussion in 2011 and has battled back and forth between retirement, ever since. [6:50] It was hard for Shea to walk away from sports because he identified so strongly as an athlete. [7:30] What was it like to be a pro-athlete? [10:25] How did Shea get into pro sports? [12:15] Shea talks about his concussion and how he recovered from it. [19:10] How can parents, spouse, or friends help suppor

Clint Emerson is a retired Navy SEAL and the author of 100 Deadly Skills. In his book, Clint shares how you can be an overall badass and detect threats from people who are armed. You will learn how to escape a locked trunk, evade a kidnapping, and so much more in Clint's book. Clint talks on what must-have items you should keep in your car at all times and how to detect someone trying to follow or stalk you, in today's show.   Key Takeaways: [2:55] Clint shares one of the more intense stories he has experienced while he was a navy SEAL.  [6:45] Why did Clint want to be a SEAL? [8:45] What kind of tests did Clint have to go through? [17:35] What is the 100 Deadly Skills book about? [20:35] You can put a razor in the sole of your shoes and use it to get out of some handcuffs. [21:55] Key things to look out for in a bad guy? [25:35] What are some of the key things for infiltration? [31:35] What should people carry in their vehicle? [33:15] How do you build your own compass? [39:20] What were some of the things C

Oren Klaff has raised over $400 million of investor capital from high net-worth individuals and financial institutions. He is also the author of Pitch Anything, and he teaches others on how they can get the competitive edge in any negotiation scenario. Oren talks about how you can frame a negotiation to your advantage and how to get a buyer's interest in 150 words or less.   Key Takeaways: [2:20] What was Oren's defining moment as a man? [3:30] How did Oren discover that monogamy was what he wanted? [5:05] What does Oren do? [6:20] What's Oren's book, Pitch Anything, about? [7:40] The strength of your status and quality of your presentation = the amount of attention you get. [8:30] Nobody is going to listen to you for 3 hours. People are busy. [8:50] Pitch Anything is about how to raise your status so people will pay attention to you. [11:00] The human mind is built to protect you in social situations. [11:35] It's natural to act nice in high-risk situations to lower tensions, but it hurts you in negotiations