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Talking points: grief, loss, anxiety, helplessness Every so often, I'll have an anonymous guest on the show to give listeners a glimpse into what men's work at ManTalks is really like. This is going to be a three-parter, so stay tuned for more. This man is someone I've known for a while through his participation in ManTalks, and he's come to me looking wanting to feel more in charge of his life, and more able to handle when life, business, or relationships take a hit. Behind much of it is ungrieved childhood loss. This is a great episode to dig into if you feel like you manage fine when life is good, but fall apart when it doesn't. There's insight on some of the consequences of not having the chance to properly grieve. (00:00:00) - Intro and what our guest would like to work on(00:10:07) - A pervasive feeling of inadequacy, and how it relates to making money(00:14:02) - How the loss of a mother led to feeling helpless and inattentive (00:21:40) - Feeling sorry for dad, and feeling like it’s “too late”(00:31:0

Fair warning, a focal point of this episode is suicide. Talking points: therapy, self-help, masculinity More men than ever are actively seeking help. They're going to therapy, they're working on themselves, they're doing "the work". I know because they come to me and people I know—either in the coaching or the therapeutic industry—by the thousands. And yet a significant percentage of them don't come out it "helped". Many don't come out at all. To be clear, I am NOT saying therapy as an industry is totally broken or something to ignore. But there ARE some things I think it could do better. (00:00:00) - Intro and some statistics(00:04:47) - What I’ve seen and heard from men who come to ManTalks live events(00:05:40) - I’m not saying the therapeutic industry is broken(00:07:06) - We have to acknowledge that there are differences in men’s and women’s experiences(00:09:25) - The three things the industry underestimates or misses with men(00:11:43) - I’ve known a lot of men who looked great on the surface(00:13:27)

Talking points: success, achievement, addiction, cycling, athleticism, personal development Kevin Miller is a powerhouse. More than that, he's deeply humble and intentional in what he does after a lifetime of hard work and the pursuit of excellence. I sat down with him last week to dig deeper: what makes drive "drive"? What's the meaning of really going beyond your limits? What really, truly drives you, and where are you going with that? You know, just light conversation. (00:00:00) - Intro and Kevin’s defining moment(00:06:04) - What it takes to be a professional cyclist, and what drove Kevin to pursue it(00:11:10) - What might be underneath a valiant can’t-quit-won’t-quit attitude, and what’s the difference between pursuit of excellence and addiction?(00:19:11) - When it comes to the pursuit of excellence, what’s actually rewarding about it?(00:26:26) - How did the pursuit of excellence filter its way into your parenting?(00:31:49) - Intentionality versus pursuit, and where the addiction to pursuit might co

Talking points: masculinity, culture, misandry Look, this is a charged topic. It’s also deeply complex, and it deserves serious attention MINUS the immediate rush towards dismissals, name calling, and blame games. I’d love to get your take on this topic too. Feel free to message me on Instagram or comment below. (01:16) - Intro and how society tends to react to men’s issues (05:37) - What systems could use changing, and their current impact on men(10:59) - When you bring this up, it’s easy to get labelled anti-woman (16:08) - This discussion should be a bipartisan issue, and in many ways it would benefit women Men, join me for an intense, depth-oriented training regimen called the Men's Self-Leadership Program. Customized curriculum, direct work with me, and limited to just 8 men: https://mantalks.com/mslp/ Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Medit

Talking points: addiction, culture, history, enlightenment, Zen, purpose, non-duality The ManTalks Podcast has grown exponentially over the last couple years, so for all you newcomers, I like to release a sort of cross-section or "best of" episode to showcase what the podcast is all about—after all, I have talked to some brilliant and varied experts over the years! This time, the themes are the widest ever: addiction and enlightenment. I chose this to demonstrate my love of the scientific and the spiritual—and my constant goal to balance the two. As Albert Einstein said, science without religion is lame, and religion without science is blind. I hope you enjoy. (00:00:00) - Dr. Anne Lembke on defining addiction and the addictive aspects of our modern world(00:17:19) - Dr. Carl Erik Fisher on addiction through history and across cultures, and how society divides addicted people(00:36:53) - Zen Henry Shukman on enlightenment as defined by Zen, his childhood, and his own story of kenshō(00:58:45) - The acclaimed

Talking points: boundaries, independence, relationships, nice guys Yeah, it's a somewhat controversial title. It's also a challenge. Many, many men bend over backwards to prevent a partner from ever feeling disappointed, and when they inevitably do feel disappointed (because that's life sometimes), they spiral. Listen in. (01:15) - Intro and why I'm talking about this(03:05) - Caveats(04:42) - Why this is important(07:09) - I'm not saying don't have wiggle room! Men, join me for an intense, depth-oriented training regimen called the Men's Self-Leadership Program. Customized curriculum, direct work with me, and limited to just 8 men: https://mantalks.com/mslp/ Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and

Talking points: anxiety, suicide, mental illness, neurology, culture, psychology This was SUCH a thorough and enjoyable interview. Always a pleasure to get the practical yet caring advice from Dr. Kennedy, someone I’ve known for a long time. If you or someone you know has been diagnosed or deals with anxiety, this is THE episode for you. We cover all the ways anxiety, the body, and the mind are connected, where to begin helping yourself (or others) with those anxious feelings, what the therapy and personal development industries often miss out, and way way more. (00:00:00) - Intro and Russell’s defining moment(00:04:03) - How Russell dealt with the complexities of a schizophrenic father(00:11:33) - How anxiety is a manifestation of something much deeper(00:15:38) - What are some of the most common anxiety myths?(00:18:35) - What is the actual purpose of anxiety?(00:21:54) - How do you talk to people who dismiss anxiety and trauma?(00:33:37) - Do you think kids are more anxious than ever before?(00:40:10) - Wh

Talking points: dating, relationships This one is quick and to the point, friends. Is there REALLY a decline in great partners, mates, dating prospects, whatever you want to call them? Or...is the issue more complex than we think? Listen in. (00:00) Introduction and perceived decline of viable mates (02:12) The choice paradox and expanded dating pool (04:34) The consequences of the choice paradox (05:53) Is there still a decline? Other ways the dating world is impacted Men, join me in an intense, depth-oriented training regimen called the Men's Self Leadership Program. Customized curriculum, direct work with me, and limited to just 8 men: https://mantalks.com/mslp/ Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Allian

Talking points: anxiety, 12-step, addiction, personal growth, energetics, belief, money It’s been over six years, but I finally got my friend David back on the show! We cover a ton of ground here, but the core of this episode is limiting beliefs. This is an excellent episode to dive into if you’re searching for a unique look at what they are and how they’re overcome.  (00:00:00) Intro and Dave’s defining moment(00:07:51) Do you believe people need to hit rock bottom in order to grow?(00:12:50) What is the intersection between personal growth and communal development?(00:25:23) What role have 12-step programs played in your life and work?(00:31:07) The intersection of relational repair and addiction(00:40:19) Limiting beliefs: what are they and how do we unwind them?(00:59:34) How do we start tackling limiting beliefs around money? David Bayer is an author, speaker, entrepreneur and CEO of David Bayer Transformational Programs, an Inc #171 global coaching and training company focused on helping entrepreneurs,

A solid chunk of my job is helping men get free from porn addiction. It was also something I struggled with for years. Lately, there's been a slew of questions coming at me surrounding porn usage and addiction, so here are seven reasons why it's so damn hard to quit. If this resonates and you're looking for some free extra resources, DM me on Instagram with the word "QUIT" for a free guide. (00:00:00) Intro and reason #1: dopamine(00:02:51) Reason #2: nervous system conditioning (00:05:00) Reason #3: porn’s accessibility and availability(00:05:49) Reason #4: not fully understanding your triggers (00:07:46) Reason #5: no replacement ritual or routine(00:09:21) Reason #6: last time-its(00:11:06) Reason #7: lack of external support Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful grou

Talking points: masculinity, dating, relationships, patriarchy, balance This is a hefty one, folks. The legendary Dr. Glover and acclaimed coach and writer Tony Endelman sat down with me to analyze the shifting roles, needs, expectations, and environments that men find themselves in. This is a great episode to listen to if you'd like a frank but broad-minded lens to look at the male experience with. A lot of what Dr. Glover, Tony, and I talk about are things we've seen again and again in clients, friends, and our own research. (0:00:00) - Intro(0:03:19) - What's happening to boys and men and why?(0:16:33) - Tony's perspective, and masculinity in the digital age(0:24:23) - Male relationships in dating and in general life(0:37:22) - Is modern dating a s***show?(0:49:13) - Conscious dating, emotional tension, and the friend zone Dr. Robert Glover, therapist, coach, speaker, and educator is a relationship expert with over 40 years of professional experience. The author of the groundbreaking, No More Mr. Nice Guy,

Talking points: isolation, masculinity, rationality, validation A woman on Instagram DM'd me a great question a while ago: what do I need to know about men that I might not understand? Well, I came up with five ways to understand the average guy's lived experience. Enjoy! (00:55) - Imagine having few or no close friends(03:27) - Imagine overindexing rationality and logic(05:37) - Link your sense of self-worth to productivity(07:36) - Imagine getting 1/10th the validation you normally do(11:59) - Imagine getting condemned and praised for dominance Pick up my brand-new book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today.  Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser

Talking points: motivation, resiliency, transformation, Mt Kilimanjaro, Kona marathon, family secrets, doubt, shameI'm proud to have known Bonner for some time now, thanks to him being a member of the Alliance, my private men's group. But the reason I wanted him on the show is to share his powerful story and how he's alchemized his life and his troubles into something that serves others. Many others, as you'll find out when you hit play.I strongly recommend checking this one out if you or someone you know has any form of disability. It's important not just to help each other along, but to gather perspective on the extra hurdles many of us face, how they're managed or overcome, and the radical change that can stem from all of the above.(00:00:00) - Intro and Bonner's defining moment(00:10:21) - Growing up with cerebral palsy(00:14:31) - The different kinds of family rules, and how came to hide his CP(00:20:44) - How Bonner used athleticism to both get attention and distract himself(00:32:00) - The story of Jak

Talking points: maturity, parenthood I get asked this question a lot, so here's an honest, off-the-cuff response. I get why a lot of people choose not to, but I think there are also some powerful reasons in the other direction. Listen in. 02:17 - Bringing children into a troubled world07:09 - The importance of the human spirit14:15 - How parenting matures you20:11 - There are beautiful moments in parenting Pick up my brand-new book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today.  Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking fo

Talking points: addiction, sex, porn, narcissism, relationships, therapy I've yet to meet a man who hasn't struggled at some point in his life with porn addiction. I was one of them. But is sex addiction any different, and is it more or less complex? I sat down with Dr. Doug Weiss, himself a recovered sex addict (37 years and counting!) to get some insight. This is an ep to listen to if you're looking for more insight on a pervasive problem for many, many people. One that can heavily impact relationships, work ethic, and even overall success. [00:01:11] - Dougs defining moment[00:03:27] - Defining sexual addiction[00:19:41] - What is intimacy anorexia, and what’s contributing to it?[00:30:37] - Reinforcing yours AND your partner’s experiences, and matching types of expression in sex[00:39:28] - Partner betrayal trauma[00:44:08] - What makes intimate relationships unique[00:46:19] - More on sex and porn addiction[00:50:45] - Sex addiction and ADHD[00:54:11] - Can you be addicted to validation? [00:57:58] - Can

It's not easy. It's not simple. It's not comfortable. It's definitely not fun. But it's good for you, and in times like these may be one of the most important skills to cultivate. Pick up my brand-new book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today.  Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | TwitterSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your

Talking points: anger, relationships, finances, birth, mental health, masculine/feminine dynamics Delighted to have the frank yet eloquent honesty of Christine Hassler on the show. This episode is a top choice to listen to with your partner if you're looking for some relationship advice that combines practicality, spirituality, and much more. [01:02] - Christine's defining moment. [07:59] - Christine on women and anger [12:23] - How Connor and Christine define ego. [15:25] - Women and anger. [28:14] - How can men effectively address a woman's anger? [36:57] - How modern relationships have changed for men and women. [48:59] - What conversations should people be having about money? Christine Hassler is a master coach, spiritual psychologist, facilitator, and speaker with 20 years of experience. She is the best-selling author of three books, most recently Expectation Hangover: Free Yourself From Your Past, Change Your Present and Get What you Really Want and is the host of top-rated podcast “Over it and On With

There are a LOT of relationship tips and tricks on social media. Lots of traps too, and this one is possibly the worst. Dig in, dear listener. What's your take? Would love to hear your thoughts on Instagram (or check the YouTube video)! Pick up my brand-new book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today.  Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | TwitterSee omnystudio.co

Talking points: relationships, IMAGO therapy, emotional intelligence, social media, attachment theory, conflict, sex, intimacy, artificial intelligence Deeply grateful to have sat down with Nick last week to chat about all things relationships. Nick is, frankly, one of the best in the biz, and his compassionate yet no-nonsense approach has helped a great many people. If you’re interested AT ALL in levelling up your intimate relationships, this is an episode to listen to. Strongly recommend you listen alongside your partner—or at least share it with them later. [00:01:04] - Nick’s defining moment[00:09:48] - What made you choose IMAGO certification?[00:12:15] - Where do you see modern relationships breaking down most often?[00:15:57] - How would you say social media has affect modern relationships?[00:21:08] - What does it mean when your partner says “I’m not feeling seen”?[00:25:50] - What other ways can we support our partner in being heard?[00:28:52] - So what is IMAGO therapy based on? What tools does it d

I didn't always have it figured out. There are times even now when I still feel lost. But after relentless work and coaching thousands of men over the years, there are a few ideas that have risen to the top and truly helped me and others overcome that feeling of being rudderless. Pick up my brand-new book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today.  Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Fac