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Online dating sucks. Doesn't matter if it's Tinder, Bumble, OKCupid or Christian Mingle. Men get next to no matches, women get flooded with awful messages, bots, trolls and zombie profiles run rampant on most apps... it's like trying to find a diamond in a pit of sewage. Most dating apps seem designed to be frustrating to ANYONE who wants to date someone of the opposite sex. But it doesn't have to bet that bad. Here's why online dating is so awful... and 5 ways you can make it better. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: What science has discovered about how men and women use Tinder Why men match with women less than .6% of the time How to use dating app algorithms to your advantage Why you're using the WRONG dating app How The Cat Theory of Online Dating can improve your matches The biggest sin of online dating ... and so much more. RELATED LINKS: Private Coaching With Dr. NerdLove How To Master Tinder Tune Up Your Tinder Profile How To Get Laid (Without Being a F*ckboy) Texting Mistakes Men Make How To Write The Perfect Onli

Toxic relationships can be hard to recognize. Are you being stubborn and selfish? Or is something actually wrong? Toxic people don't look like cartoon abusers, gloating about how great it is to manipulate folks. Learning how to recognize the signs of a toxic relationship — and how to avoid them in the first place — will strengthen your relationships, improve your confidence and make you 100% happier. Learn to recognize these signs and how to drive toxic people out of your life. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: Why toxic relationships are so hard to recognize How toxic people trade on myths about love and relationships What red flags you should be watching Why "no" is your shield against toxic people How to enforce your boundaries — even when people think you're wrong ...and so much more. RELATED LINKS: Is Your Relationship Toxic? What Will You Put Up With? Boundaries, Self-Esteem and Dating Why It's So Hard To Break Up (Even When You Need To) Dump Your Toxic Friends Enforcing Your Boundaries Transcript available at patreo

Why do women say they want to find a nice guy, but never seem to want to date them? The answer is that what women are not saying is actually more important. Whenever a woman says “I wish I could find a nice guy”, there’s the unspoken modifier: “I wish i could find a nice guy… who actually excites me." Here's how men can stop being so "nice", and start being amazing. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: What women REALLY mean when they talk about finding a nice guy Why women aren't attracted to "nice" guys Why being "nice" by itself isn't enough Why nice guys lose respect... and how to get it back How to develop the qualities women are REALLY looking for in men ...and so much more. RELATED LINKS: Why Being A "Nice Guy" Isn't Good Enough Eliminating Neediness What Bad Boys Know (That Nice Guys Don't) Enforcing Your Boundaries Do Women Prefer Dominant Men? Dominance, Prosocial Orientation and Female Preferences Transcript available at patreon.com/DrNerdLove Don’t forget to subscribe and review us on iTunes , Stitcher and on YouT

Are you ruining your chances of meeting incredible women before you even start? Women HATE it when the guys they meet do these 5 things. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: How guys turn women off before they even say a word Why trying to impress women you're attracted to is the wrong move How to demonstrate REAL value and status when you're flirting Why you don't want to have TOO much in common How men manage to turn a win into a loss with this ONE mistake ...and so much more. RELATED LINKS: 5 Signs Women Want You To Approach Them How To Get Women To Approach You 5 Secrets To Make People Like You How To Be Charming Make The Right First Impression How To Tell Amazing Stories Transcript available at patreon.com/DrNerdLove Don’t forget to subscribe and review us on iTunes , Stitcher and on YouTube. Like the podcast? Become a Dr. NerdLove patron at Patreon.com/DrNerdLove Want more dating advice? Check out my books at www.www.doctornerdlove.com/books

Confidence isn’t about being 100% sure of your inevitable success, it’s simply feeling that you know how to handle the situation.
 Taking away the fear of social awkwardness helps build bullet-proof social confidence. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:  Why your attitude is the key to your social success How you accidently cripple your in-person social skills Why MeetUps, mixers and networking is better for developing your social skills than cold approaches at bars How to block out social anxiety by avoiding the Spotlight Effect How to make it easier for other people to approach YOU ... and so much more. RELATED LINKS: Stop Being Socially Awkward Pt. 1  Stop Being Socially Awkward Pt. 2 Developing an Abundance Mentality Face Your Dating Fears How To Get Women To Approach YOU Transcript available at patreon.com/DrNerdLove Don’t forget to subscribe and review us on iTunes , Stitcher and on YouTube. Like the podcast? Become a Dr. NerdLove patron at Patreon.com/DrNerdLove Want more dating advice? Check out my books at www.www.

What does it take to be someone that women want to date? It's not about looks, status or money. It's about understanding the secret behind why we fall in love and with whom.  Show Highlights: Why guys focus on surface issues... and miss the most important parts of attraction Why women will reject you BEFORE getting to know the real you How guys turn off women long before they ever start talking to her Why you keep meeting the WRONG women What makes a woman decide INSTANTLY whether she will EVER sleep with somebody ...and so much more. Related Links: Become Someone Worth Dating The Science of Nice Guys and Assholes Why Women Say Yes To Sex This Is Why Women Won't Date You Build An Amazing Lifestyle That Attracts Women Transcript available at patreon.com/DrNerdLove Don’t forget to subscribe and review us on iTunes , Stitcher and on YouTube. Like the podcast? Become a Dr. NerdLove patron at Patreon.com/DrNerdLove Want more dating advice? Check out my books at www.www.doctornerdlove.com/books

Does personality matter, or are looks the only thing that's important? Why do guys have a hard time understanding what makes a man attractive to women? SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: How much your physique ACTUALLY matters to women Why "attraction triggers" and evolutionary psychology give men all the wrong answers How we let self-limiting beliefs sabotage our dating success Why attraction is about more than biology How we confuse power fantasies for sexual ones ... and so much more. RELATED LINKS: The Myth of What Women Want  What Matters More, Looks Or Personality? The Subtle Things That Make Men Attractive Do Looks Matter? The Dr. NerdLove Facebook thread The Dr. NerdLove Twitter thread Transcript available at patreon.com/DrNerdLove Don’t forget to subscribe and review us on iTunes , Stitcher and on YouTube. Like the podcast? Become a Dr. NerdLove patron at Patreon.com/DrNerdLove Want more dating advice? Check out my books at www.www.doctornerdlove.com/books

Men feel immense pressure to look a particular way and they're breaking themselves, physically and psychically to try to get to reach those ideals.
 As bodies are marketed to us as products and men are sold self-loathing, we have to ask: what does a REAL man look like? SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: How male celebrities are getting the body-shaming treatment from the media Why the idea of what makes a "real" man is always in flux  How the "perfect" body has changed over time What men get wrong about trying to achieve the perfect body Why there's no body positivity movement for men ...and so much more. RELATED LINKS: The New (And Impossible) Standards of Male Beauty The Fear of Being Invisible The Myth of What Women Want  The Selling of Masculinity What Men REALLY Need Transcript available at patreon.com/DrNerdLove Don’t forget to subscribe and review us on iTunes , Stitcher and on YouTube. Like the podcast? Become a Dr. NerdLove patron at Patreon.com/DrNerdLove Want more dating advice? Check out my books at www.www.do

When Chris Morgan had a meltdown at the Bagel Boss in Long Island, he was tapping into real frustrations short men have in dating. Here's how short guys can learn to get the girl. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: How the body shaming of Jason Momoa and the Bagel Boss meltdown are symptoms of the same problem Why your height isn't the deal breaker you think it is What Tom Cruise, Robert Downey Jr., Donald Glover and Bruno Mars have in common Why women like tall men How to seem taller than you really are ...and so much more. RELATED LINKS: 5 Dating Tips for Short Men How To Get Women To Approach You Finding True Confidence Why You Should Fake It Til You Make It What is The "It" Factor? Transcript available at patreon.com/DrNerdLove Don’t forget to subscribe and review us on iTunes , Stitcher and on YouTube. Like the podcast? Become a Dr. NerdLove patron at Patreon.com/DrNerdLove Want more dating advice? Check out my books at www.www.doctornerdlove.com/books

Charisma and personal magnetism aren't about being the handsomest or most impressive person in the room. It's about knowing how to connect with people in ways that other folks can't. Understand how to build the right connections with people and amazing women won't be able to stop thinking about you... instead of someone else. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: What the story of one man's failure teaches us about personal magnetism and charisma Why your presentation matters more than your looks How your body language affects your connection with others Why intensity and authenticity is so important What most men get wrong about being cool, popular and desirable ...and so much more. RELATED LINKS: 5 Ways To Be More Charismatic... Instantly  Find Your Swagger  The Value of Authenticity 5 Secrets To Being Make People Like You How To Be Charming 5 Rules For Instantly Upgrading Your Style Transcript available at patreon.com/DrNerdLove Don’t forget to subscribe and review us on iTunes , Stitcher and on YouTube. Like the podcast?

Now that Neon Genesis Evangelion is available on Netflix, what can we learn about love, life and loneliness from Shinji Ikari? SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: Why so many fans relate to Shinji Ikari How the End of Evangelion and "The Beast That Shouted AI at the Heart of the World" represent two paths for Shinji... and us Why our fear keeps us from making the relationships we most need How loneliness can turn to anger and violence Why we're (not) alone ... and so much more   RELATED LINKS: Pacific Rim and Lessons in Positive Masculinity Elliot Rodger and the Price of Toxic Masculinity  Where Do You Get Your Validation?  Captain America and Non-Toxic Masculinity  Why Your Life Won't Get Better (And How To Fix It) Transcript available here Don’t forget to subscribe and review us on iTunes , Stitcher and on YouTube. Like the podcast? Become a Dr. NerdLove patron at Patreon.com/DrNerdLove Want more dating advice? Check out my books at www.www.doctornerdlove.com/books

Incels are spending tens of thousands of dollars on plastic surgery to become Chads and they're still miserable. Here's why your life isn't getting better... and how to fix it. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: Why there are no external solutions to an internal problem How a micro-revolution can give you back control over your life Why you're stuck in your comfort zone... and how to escape it Why it's important to embrace The Pain Period How to change the world around you to fix YOUR future ... and so much more. RELATED LINKS: Unlearning Helplessness 5 Reasons Your Life Isn't Getting Better How To Take Your Dating To The Next Level Your Attitude Controls Your Dating Success  The McGurk Effect Transcript available at patreon.com/DrNerdLove Don’t forget to subscribe and review us on iTunes , Stitcher and on YouTube. Like the podcast? Become a Dr. NerdLove patron at Patreon.com/DrNerdLove Want more dating advice? Check out my books at www.www.doctornerdlove.com/books

Flirting with amazing women is far less complicated or difficult than people think it is. Here's the secret. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: Why we rarely recognize flirting when we see it The key to finding your flirting style What makes the difference between conversation and flirting How to make women become addicted to you An underused secret technique for successful flirting ...and so much more RELATED LINKS: How To Use Humor In Your Flirting The Subtle Things That Make Men More Attractive The Most Attractive Aspect of a Man (Isn't Looks or Money)  Fix Your Flirting How To Tell Amazing Stories  Transcript available at patreon.com/DrNerdLove Don’t forget to subscribe and review us on iTunes , Stitcher and on YouTube. Like the podcast? Become a Dr. NerdLove patron at Patreon.com/DrNerdLove Want more dating advice? Check out my books at www.www.doctornerdlove.com/books

This common belief is ruining your relationships and making it impossible to find the dating success you want. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: How one simple change in your mindset means the difference between romantic success and failure How guys sabotage their own chances with women What Doctor Horrible's Sing-Along Blog teach us about Nice Guys and Bad Boys Why being wrong can help you connect with women Why women REALLY choose the "Bad Boy" over the "Nice Guy" ...and so much more. RELATED LINKS: 5 Simple Ways To Jumpstart Your Life What Bad Boys Know That Nice Guys Don't 5 Secrets to Fix Your Love Life Why Nice Guys Lose and Bad Boys Win The Truth About "Nice Guys" The Politics of Dr. Horrible Transcript available at patreon.com/DrNerdLove Don’t forget to subscribe and review us on iTunes , Stitcher and on YouTube. Like the podcast? Become a Dr. NerdLove patron at Patreon.com/DrNerdLove Want more dating advice? Check out my books at www.www.doctornerdlove.com/books

Millennials in general and Millennial men are having less sex than ever. Why? And what does this have to do with #metoo and the recent #sexstrike? SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: What the Economist gets wrong about Millennials and sex Why #MeToo IS to blame for the "sex recession"... kind of Why a "sex strike" is bad activism How our attitudes towards sex affects our ability to please our partners The REAL reason why men are having less sex ...and so much more RELATED LINKS: F*ck Like A Gentleman The Unbelievable Secret to Getting More Sex Can Consent Be Sexy? Did #MeToo REALLY Ruin Flirting? Is Masturbation BAD For You? Transcript available at patreon.com/DrNerdLove Don’t forget to subscribe and review us on iTunes , Stitcher and on YouTube. Like the podcast? Become a Dr. NerdLove patron at Patreon.com/DrNerdLove Want more dating advice? Check out my books at www.www.doctornerdlove.com/books

You've been waiting patiently, and it's finally here! This week, the Doc - and special guest host Crystal Donovan - take your questions from the NerdLove Hotline and dispense wit, wisdom, dating advice and digressions into side topics. Loved this episode? Have a dating question you'd like to hear answered on here? Call your question in to 512-522-6513 and leave a voice mail! Show Highlights:  How do you talk about being an older virgin? What about when your friends want to talk about sex and you feel anxious? How do you approach women during the day on a college campus? What's the best way to flirt when you're worried about running out of things to day? How do you approach an introverted guy? How can you manage approach anxiety? The time the Doc screwed up so badly the club closed down ... and so much more. Related Links:  The "Problem" With Male Virginity  How To Approach Women During the Day  Overcome Your Fear of Rejection How To Have The Awkward Conversation  Finding Strength Through Vulnerability 

Almost every man who struggles with dating, is holding on to these self-limiting beliefs: beliefs and assumptions about yourself and the world that hold you back from achieving your true potential. It's time to break free from the lies we tell ourselves and discover what we're truly capable of. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: How to understand what self-limiting beliefs really are How to recognize our own self-limiting beliefs Why our beliefs are a self-fulfilling prophecy What it takes to break free from the cycle Why compassion is the most important trait for self-improvement RELATED LINKS:  These Self-Limiting Beliefs are Holding You Back Your Attitude Controls Your Dating Success You Are Your Own Worst Enemy  Starting From Zero The 5 Things You Need to Do To Fix Your Life  Transcripts available at Patreon.com/DrNerdLove Don’t forget to subscribe and review us on iTunes , Stitcher and on YouTube. Like the podcast? Become a Dr. NerdLove patron at Patreon.com/DrNerdLove Want more dating advice? Check out my books at

Young men are having less sex than ever. But what's more important is how you respond to that information. Here's what's ruining your chances with women. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: ▶︎ How "why are men having less sex" is the wrong question ▶︎ The #1 reason why men ruin their chances with women ▶︎ How your attitude affects your love life ▶︎ The problem with "women are too picky" ▶︎ What a toxic waste monster can teach you about attraction RELATED LINKS: ▶︎ This Is Why You Fail With Women ▶︎ The Trouble With Incels  ▶︎ Which Matters More, Looks Or Personality? ▶︎ A Man's Guide To Being Happy About Being Single ▶︎ Become Someone Worth Dating Transcript available at Patreon.com/DrNerdLove Don’t forget to subscribe and review us on iTunes , Stitcher and on YouTube. Like the podcast? Become a Dr. NerdLove patron at Patreon.com/DrNerdLove Want more dating advice? Check out my books at www.www.doctornerdlove.com/books

Why aren't more women interested in casual sex? What can guys do to find women who're interested in a no-strings hook-up? It's time to talk about the TRUTH about women, casual sex and how to find it... SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:  ▶︎ Why women prefer relationships to hook-ups and casual partners ▶︎ How the orgasm gap affects our relationships ▶︎ Why being The Cool Girl works against women AND men ▶︎ Why "casual" sex is BAD sex ▶︎ What men can do to find more casual, no strings hook-ups ...and so much more RELATED LINKS: ▶︎ The Truth About Casual Sex (And Where To Get It) ▶︎ 5 Rules For Better Hook-Ups  ▶︎ What Women Wish Men Knew About Good Sex ▶︎ Who REALLY Has The Power In Dating?  ▶︎ Stop Calling It 'Casual Sex' Transcripts available at Patreon.com/DrNerdLove Don’t forget to subscribe and review us on iTunes , Stitcher and on YouTube. Like the podcast? Become a Dr. NerdLove patron at Patreon.com/DrNerdLove Want more dating advice? Check out my books at www.www.doctornerdlove.com/books

"Just be yourself" is some of the worst advice that you can give someone who wants to get better at dating. It's also the most important. So here's how to quit being yourself and learn how to become your BEST self. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: ▶︎ Why "just be yourself" is useless advice ▶︎ What we REALLY mean when we say "just be yourself" ▶︎ How you can learn to change who you are ▶︎ Why most people fail at changing themselves ▶︎ Why you should fake it 'til you make it ...and so much more. RELATED LINKS: ▶︎ What's Wrong With "Just Be Yourself" ▶︎ The 5 Things You Need To Fix Your Life  | ▶︎ How To Reinvent Yourself  ▶︎ The Secret to Maintaining Positive Changes ▶︎ 5 Types of Dating Advice People Need To Stop Giving Transcripts available at Patreon.com/DrNerdLove Don’t forget to subscribe and review us on iTunes , Stitcher and on YouTube. Like the podcast? Become a Dr. NerdLove patron at Patreon.com/DrNerdLove Want more dating advice? Check out my books at www.www.doctornerdlove.com/books