Shrink For The Shy Guy

In this empowering episode of Shrink for the Shy Guy, Dr. Aziz tackles one of the most challenging emotions—discouragement. Whether you're feeling stuck, hopeless, or weighed down by anxiety and pessimism, this episode is your guide to transforming those heavy emotions instantly. Dr. Aziz shares practical tools to shift your perspective and move from a place of helplessness to one of action and empowerment. Discover how to turn your discouragement into motivation, why taking action is the key to finding hope, and how you can start seeing the possibilities in your life right now. Plus, get a sneak peek into Dr. Aziz's upcoming virtual event, End Social Anxiety Now, where you'll dive deeper into these strategies and more. This episode is packed with actionable steps to help you break free from negative thinking and take control of your life. Tune in and start your journey towards a more confident, empowered you.  -----------------------------------------------------------------   Feeling stuck, o

In today’s episode of Shrink for the Shy Guy, Dr. Aziz invites his good friend and colleague, Ben Gibson, for a deep and insightful conversation about a different kind of confidence: spiritual confidence, or divine confidence. While we often discuss self-confidence and overcoming personal doubts, this episode dives into something deeper—trusting in life, the universe, or something bigger than ourselves. Together, Dr. Aziz and Ben explore what it means to have faith in the unknown, to trust that there’s a solution to every problem, even when the path is unclear. Whether you come from a religious background, consider yourself spiritual, or identify as an atheist, this episode is for you. It’s about embracing faith and trust, not in a prescribed way, but in a way that feels accessible to everyone. Join them as they share personal stories, practical insights, and real experiences to help you cultivate faith in yourself, others, and life itself. If you’re looking for a way to build both self-confidence and a deepe

In today’s episode, Dr. Aziz takes you on a deep dive into how to transform your identity to unlock greater confidence. He reveals that confidence isn’t something you’re born with—it's a skill you can develop. By understanding and reshaping your identity, you can break free from old patterns and create a new, empowered version of yourself. Dr. Aziz will guide you through what it really means to earn a new identity and why it's crucial for lasting change. You’ll learn how to push past the discomfort of growth and practice the actions that align with the confident, bold person you want to be. This episode is packed with practical insights and a clear action step to help you start building your new identity today. If you’ve ever felt stuck in who you think you are, this episode will show you how to break free. Tune in and take the first step toward earning a new, more confident version of yourself!   ------------------   What Is Your Identity, and Why Does It Matter? Your identity is how you see yourse

In today's episode, Dr. Aziz delves into a topic that many of us struggle with: feelings of inferiority. Have you ever felt less than others, whether in terms of intelligence, appearance, confidence, or any other area? These feelings are more than just thoughts; they come with a heavy emotional weight that can make you feel unworthy, unlovable, and disconnected. Dr. Aziz explores the roots of these feelings and, more importantly, provides actionable strategies to overcome them. Through a deep dive into the sources of these beliefs, you'll learn how to stop comparing yourself to others and start embracing your unique strengths. He offers practical advice on how to shift your mindset and build your self-esteem, helping you break free from the paralyzing grip of inferiority and step into your life with confidence. Tune in to discover how you can start believing in your own worth today. And if you find this episode valuable, please take a moment to leave a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify, helping others disco

In this episode, Dr. Aziz explores the concept of "social fitness" and how it can empower you to achieve greater social freedom and confidence. Just like physical fitness, social fitness is about building and strengthening your ability to connect with others and navigate social situations comfortably. Discover how social fitness can transform your life by changing your perspective on social anxiety and offering practical ways to develop your social skills. Dr. Aziz introduces you to a structured approach to improving your social fitness and shares techniques that will help you gradually increase your social confidence. Whether you struggle with social anxiety or simply want to enhance your ability to interact with others, this episode offers valuable insights and actionable steps to help you become socially fit and free. Ready to start your journey toward social freedom? Tune in now and take the first step toward building your social confidence. If you find this episode helpful, please take a moment to leave

In today’s episode, Dr. Aziz tackles the perplexing question: Why is it so challenging to be ourselves? While it might seem like being yourself should be the easiest and most natural thing in the world, many of us find it incredibly difficult. Dr. Aziz explores the reasons behind this struggle and provides insights into the invisible pressures and internal conflicts that keep us from being our true selves. Join Dr. Aziz as he helps you recognize these challenges and offers actionable steps to overcome them. Learn how to embrace authenticity and unapologetically be who you are, without succumbing to the pressure of societal expectations or internal criticism. Through this episode, you'll gain clarity on how to honor your true feelings, desires, and boundaries, leading to a more liberated and confident life. Ready to start your journey towards authentic living? Tune in now and take the first step towards being unapologetically you! If you find this episode helpful, please take a moment to leave a review on Appl

In this episode, Dr. Aziz dives into the heavy but crucial topic of self-esteem and how to stop the cycle of self-hatred that many people with social anxiety and niceness struggle with. Discover why self-criticism can be so destructive and learn practical steps to break free from this damaging pattern. Dr. Aziz will guide you through understanding the different parts of yourself, the role of the inner critic, and why we often buy into these harsh messages. More importantly, you'll learn how to make the decision of a lifetime—to be on your own side and step fully into your life. Tune in to uncover powerful insights and practical actions that can transform your relationship with yourself and boost your confidence. If you’ve been enjoying the show, please take a moment to leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you listen. Your feedback helps others find the show and supports our mission of mass liberation from social anxiety. Ready to stop hating yourself and start living with confidence? Let’s g

In this episode, Dr. Aziz dives into the three unconscious tactics that nice people often use, which end up perpetuating their anxieties and interpersonal problems. Discover how an apologetic tone, over-explaining, and pre-compromising can hinder your ability to communicate effectively and maintain healthy relationships. Learn how these behaviors stem from an obsessive need to control others' feelings and how you can start to change these patterns. With self-awareness and conscious choice, you can begin to communicate more directly and authentically, leading to deeper connections and greater self-confidence. Tune in to uncover how to stop these nice person tactics and start living more freely and boldly. If you’ve been enjoying the show, please take a moment to leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you listen. Your feedback helps others find the show and supports our mission of mass liberation from social anxiety. Ready to transform your interactions? Let's get started!   ---------------

Are you a control freak? You might be surprised to find that social anxiety often comes with an obsessive need for control. In this episode, Dr. Aziz dives deep into how social anxiety is tied to a constant effort to control how others perceive you. This control can be exhausting and counterproductive, but understanding it is the first step towards liberation. Join Dr. Aziz as he explores the roots of this behavior and provides practical steps to help you let go of the obsessive control, allowing you to feel more relaxed and confident in social situations. By the end of this episode, you'll gain new insights and tools to start living more freely and authentically. Ready to transform your social anxiety? Tune in now!

In today's episode, titled "Social Anxiety Equals Obsessive Control," we dive into a surprising aspect of social anxiety: the obsessive need for control. Have you ever thought of yourself as a control freak? Probably not if you’re shy or socially anxious. But what if social anxiety is a different type of controlling behavior? What if the constant worry about how others perceive you, the fear of saying the wrong thing, or the hesitation to approach new people is actually an attempt to control others' thoughts and feelings about you? In this episode, we’ll explore how this obsessive need for control manifests in social anxiety and why it’s so exhausting and counterproductive. We’ll also discuss the deeper fears driving this need for control and how to begin letting go, allowing yourself to feel more relaxed and confident in social interactions. Join me as we uncover the root causes of this obsessive control, and learn practical steps to release it, freeing yourself from the chains of social anxiety. By the end

Welcome to Shrink for the Shy Guy, where we tackle the fears, self-doubt, social anxiety, and shyness that hold you back from being your true self. In today’s episode, "Healing Toxic Shame," we’re diving deep into a topic that’s often hidden away but profoundly impacts us all. Do you ever feel an intense sense of badness, as if you’re not worthy of love or connection? That’s shame, and for some, it’s a constant, toxic presence. Today, we’ll explore what toxic shame is, where it comes from, and most importantly, how to heal from it. I’ll share powerful insights and practical steps to help you start transforming this toxic narrative into one of self-compassion and empowerment. This episode will guide you in recognizing the internalized messages of shame and how to replace them with messages of love and acceptance. By the end, you’ll have actionable steps to begin your journey toward healing and self-worth. So, join me and discover how to liberate yourself from the grips of toxic shame, step into your true power

Hey, welcome to today's episode of Shrink for the Shy Guy! It's Dr. Aziz and I'm excited to be with you. How are you doing today? Are you feeling free? Self-confident? On your own side? Capable? Inherently worthy? Or maybe not? Wherever you are today, that's okay. Sometimes people think that if they've been listening to this show, reading my books, or practicing these concepts for a while, they’re supposed to feel confident all the time. And if they don’t, it feels like a personal failing. Let’s clear that up right now—there is no perfection here. Even after all these years of teaching this stuff, I can still experience self-criticism, anxiety, or worry. But I can also not run those patterns. The key is to have the potential for liberation where you can sometimes run those social anxiety patterns and sometimes not. So today’s episode is titled "What If Their Thoughts About You Don't Matter?" This isn’t about forcing yourself to not care about what people think. Instead, we’re going to soften the clinging worr

In this episode, Dr. Aziz sits down with Dr. Robert Glover, author of No More Mr. Nice Guy. They dive deep into the traps that hold men back, from the comfort of the nursery to the relentless drive of 10x culture. Learn about the pitfalls of striving for perfection and how to break free from the patterns of self-doubt and fear. Dr. Glover shares insights on the importance of masculine initiation, overcoming isolation, and the power of connecting with good men to enhance personal growth. Discover practical steps to face your fears, build genuine confidence, and find balance in your pursuit of success. Tune in for a powerful conversation that will inspire you to take bold actions and live authentically.       Break Free from Fear: The Path to Unstoppable Confidence   The Proven Path to Confidence Dr. Aziz opens with a powerful statement: "This is always the path to confidence." With over 15 years of experience and countless success stories, he shares the ultimate strategy for building unwave

Welcome to Shrink for the Shy Guy! Are fear, self-doubt, and social anxiety stopping you from being your true self? In this episode, Dr. Aziz shares the ultimate path to confidence: doing what scares you. Drawing from thousands of personal experiences and clinical cases, Dr. Aziz explains why facing your fears is the key to unlocking confidence. You'll learn how to move from merely understanding this concept to actually living it. Dr. Aziz shares his own journey from deep social anxiety to extraordinary confidence, emphasizing immediate and consistent action. Whether it's a casual greeting or a major life decision, taking steps towards what scares you is transformative. You'll also hear about practical examples, like how reading "Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway" led to a life-changing moment for Dr. Aziz, and how embracing fear continues to shape his life today. Ready to take action? Start small or go big—just do something that scares you today. This episode will equip you with the tools and inspiration to tur

In today's episode, we're diving into The Nice Person's Endless Quests. Have you ever found yourself on a never-ending mission to be liked by everyone? Do you constantly seek approval or feel the need to be seen in a certain light by others? These exhausting and often invisible quests can hold you back from living authentically and fully. We'll explore the various quests that nice people undertake, such as the quest to be liked by everyone, the need for constant approval, and the compulsion to ensure others see you positively. These quests are tiring, unfulfilling, and ultimately futile. By recognizing these patterns, you can start making different choices. Learn how to identify these quests in your life and take steps to break free from them. The goal is to help you stop living for others' approval and start living for yourself. Stay tuned until the end for an actionable step that will help you put this insight into practice. Remember, change comes from consistent and considerable action. If you need more su

In today's episode, we're diving into one crucial question: Discomfort When? We'll explore why embracing discomfort is essential for meaningful growth and how most people shy away from it, resulting in minimal changes in their lives. Do you know that edge where you hesitate because of fear or uncertainty? Today, you'll learn why leaning into that discomfort is the key to radical transformation. It's not just about knowing the theory; it's about living it. You'll hear why small, consistent steps towards discomfort can build the confidence muscle and lead to extraordinary changes. Are you avoiding risks because you're afraid of rejection or failure? We'll tackle these fears head-on and provide strategies to face them. Whether it's asking someone out, speaking up for yourself, or taking a bold step in your career, today's episode will inspire you to take action now, not later. Tune in to discover practical action steps that will help you break free from the cage of niceness and people-pleasing. Let's make discom

In today’s enlightening episode, titled "Self-Confidence: How To Believe In Yourself," Dr. Aziz delves into the foundational aspects of self-confidence, revealing practical insights into what it means to truly believe in yourself. The episode explores why despite our desires to trust in our capabilities, many of us wrestle with pervasive self-doubt that diminishes our sense of self-worth and potential. Dr. Aziz tackles the common misconceptions and self-imposed barriers that hinder self-belief, addressing the critical difference between temporary setbacks and deep-rooted self-doubt. By examining the stories we tell ourselves about our abilities and potential, Dr. Aziz provides a clear pathway toward cultivating a robust sense of self-confidence that transcends mere optimism. Listeners will be guided through understanding the internal narratives that shape their self-perception and how to challenge and transform these beliefs to foster a genuine and empowering self-confidence. Whether you struggle with imposte

Welcome to today's transformative episode, where we tackle a profound yet often unspoken question: What if I don't feel lovable? If this question resonates with you, or if you're curious about the deeper nuances of self-love and worthiness, this episode is tailored for you. In our journey through life, we all face moments where we doubt our lovability, whether in professional environments or personal relationships. Dr. Aziz takes us through the complex layers of these feelings, exploring how our perceptions of lovability impact our interactions and self-esteem. The Roots of Feeling Unlovable Dr. Aziz delves into the core issues that make us question our worthiness of love. "99% of the time," he states, "the anxiety we experience is fundamentally about not feeling worthy of love." This revelation isn't limited to personal relationships but extends to how we perceive ourselves in all areas of life. Key Insight 1: Misconceptions About Love Dr. Aziz challenges common misconceptions about love, clarifying that lov

Are you tired of feeling unnoticed in conversations? Do you ever worry that you might not be interesting enough to keep people engaged? Dive into this transformative episode with Dr. Aziz, where he tackles the common fear of being perceived as boring or uninteresting. This isn't just a discussion—it's a journey to shatter the limiting beliefs that hold you back from being your most captivating self. In "How To Be More Interesting," Dr. Aziz explores the deep-seated stories we tell ourselves about our worthiness and how these narratives shape our social interactions. He illuminates the truth that being interesting isn't about adding more to your plate or becoming someone you're not; it's about recognizing and unleashing the vibrant energy that already exists within you. Through engaging stories, practical advice, and transformative insights, Dr. Aziz guides you on how to: Shift your core beliefs about your self-worth and interest level.Tap into your passions and share them with enthusiasm and authenticity.Cult

In this empowering episode, Dr. Aziz takes you on a transformative journey to the heart of true confidence. It's not the fleeting, conditional type that ebbs and flows with life's unpredictable tides but a profound, unshakeable confidence that stands firm regardless of external circumstances. Discover Unconditional Confidence Unpack the concept of unconditional confidence with Dr. Aziz as he guides you away from the exhausting rollercoaster of conditional self-worth. Learn how to cultivate a deep-rooted sense of confidence that remains steady through life's ups and downs. The Power of Self-Compassion Dr. Aziz reveals that the secret to unwavering confidence lies in self-compassion. He explains how treating yourself with kindness, understanding, and empathy can fundamentally change how you view yourself and your abilities. Empathy and Understanding: The Keys to Confidence Understand how to separate your self-worth from external successes and failures. Dr. Aziz will teach you to empathize with yourself, recogni