Shrink For The Shy Guy

In this episode, Dr. Aziz dives into the heavy but crucial topic of self-esteem and how to stop the cycle of self-hatred that many people with social anxiety and niceness struggle with. Discover why self-criticism can be so destructive and learn practical steps to break free from this damaging pattern. Dr. Aziz will guide you through understanding the different parts of yourself, the role of the inner critic, and why we often buy into these harsh messages. More importantly, you'll learn how to make the decision of a lifetime—to be on your own side and step fully into your life. Tune in to uncover powerful insights and practical actions that can transform your relationship with yourself and boost your confidence. If you’ve been enjoying the show, please take a moment to leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you listen. Your feedback helps others find the show and supports our mission of mass liberation from social anxiety. Ready to stop hating yourself and start living with confidence? Let’s g

In this episode, Dr. Aziz dives into the three unconscious tactics that nice people often use, which end up perpetuating their anxieties and interpersonal problems. Discover how an apologetic tone, over-explaining, and pre-compromising can hinder your ability to communicate effectively and maintain healthy relationships. Learn how these behaviors stem from an obsessive need to control others' feelings and how you can start to change these patterns. With self-awareness and conscious choice, you can begin to communicate more directly and authentically, leading to deeper connections and greater self-confidence. Tune in to uncover how to stop these nice person tactics and start living more freely and boldly. If you’ve been enjoying the show, please take a moment to leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you listen. Your feedback helps others find the show and supports our mission of mass liberation from social anxiety. Ready to transform your interactions? Let's get started!   ---------------

Are you a control freak? You might be surprised to find that social anxiety often comes with an obsessive need for control. In this episode, Dr. Aziz dives deep into how social anxiety is tied to a constant effort to control how others perceive you. This control can be exhausting and counterproductive, but understanding it is the first step towards liberation. Join Dr. Aziz as he explores the roots of this behavior and provides practical steps to help you let go of the obsessive control, allowing you to feel more relaxed and confident in social situations. By the end of this episode, you'll gain new insights and tools to start living more freely and authentically. Ready to transform your social anxiety? Tune in now!

In today's episode, titled "Social Anxiety Equals Obsessive Control," we dive into a surprising aspect of social anxiety: the obsessive need for control. Have you ever thought of yourself as a control freak? Probably not if you’re shy or socially anxious. But what if social anxiety is a different type of controlling behavior? What if the constant worry about how others perceive you, the fear of saying the wrong thing, or the hesitation to approach new people is actually an attempt to control others' thoughts and feelings about you? In this episode, we’ll explore how this obsessive need for control manifests in social anxiety and why it’s so exhausting and counterproductive. We’ll also discuss the deeper fears driving this need for control and how to begin letting go, allowing yourself to feel more relaxed and confident in social interactions. Join me as we uncover the root causes of this obsessive control, and learn practical steps to release it, freeing yourself from the chains of social anxiety. By the end

Welcome to Shrink for the Shy Guy, where we tackle the fears, self-doubt, social anxiety, and shyness that hold you back from being your true self. In today’s episode, "Healing Toxic Shame," we’re diving deep into a topic that’s often hidden away but profoundly impacts us all. Do you ever feel an intense sense of badness, as if you’re not worthy of love or connection? That’s shame, and for some, it’s a constant, toxic presence. Today, we’ll explore what toxic shame is, where it comes from, and most importantly, how to heal from it. I’ll share powerful insights and practical steps to help you start transforming this toxic narrative into one of self-compassion and empowerment. This episode will guide you in recognizing the internalized messages of shame and how to replace them with messages of love and acceptance. By the end, you’ll have actionable steps to begin your journey toward healing and self-worth. So, join me and discover how to liberate yourself from the grips of toxic shame, step into your true power

Hey, welcome to today's episode of Shrink for the Shy Guy! It's Dr. Aziz and I'm excited to be with you. How are you doing today? Are you feeling free? Self-confident? On your own side? Capable? Inherently worthy? Or maybe not? Wherever you are today, that's okay. Sometimes people think that if they've been listening to this show, reading my books, or practicing these concepts for a while, they’re supposed to feel confident all the time. And if they don’t, it feels like a personal failing. Let’s clear that up right now—there is no perfection here. Even after all these years of teaching this stuff, I can still experience self-criticism, anxiety, or worry. But I can also not run those patterns. The key is to have the potential for liberation where you can sometimes run those social anxiety patterns and sometimes not. So today’s episode is titled "What If Their Thoughts About You Don't Matter?" This isn’t about forcing yourself to not care about what people think. Instead, we’re going to soften the clinging worr

In this episode, Dr. Aziz sits down with Dr. Robert Glover, author of No More Mr. Nice Guy. They dive deep into the traps that hold men back, from the comfort of the nursery to the relentless drive of 10x culture. Learn about the pitfalls of striving for perfection and how to break free from the patterns of self-doubt and fear. Dr. Glover shares insights on the importance of masculine initiation, overcoming isolation, and the power of connecting with good men to enhance personal growth. Discover practical steps to face your fears, build genuine confidence, and find balance in your pursuit of success. Tune in for a powerful conversation that will inspire you to take bold actions and live authentically.       Break Free from Fear: The Path to Unstoppable Confidence   The Proven Path to Confidence Dr. Aziz opens with a powerful statement: "This is always the path to confidence." With over 15 years of experience and countless success stories, he shares the ultimate strategy for building unwave

Welcome to Shrink for the Shy Guy! Are fear, self-doubt, and social anxiety stopping you from being your true self? In this episode, Dr. Aziz shares the ultimate path to confidence: doing what scares you. Drawing from thousands of personal experiences and clinical cases, Dr. Aziz explains why facing your fears is the key to unlocking confidence. You'll learn how to move from merely understanding this concept to actually living it. Dr. Aziz shares his own journey from deep social anxiety to extraordinary confidence, emphasizing immediate and consistent action. Whether it's a casual greeting or a major life decision, taking steps towards what scares you is transformative. You'll also hear about practical examples, like how reading "Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway" led to a life-changing moment for Dr. Aziz, and how embracing fear continues to shape his life today. Ready to take action? Start small or go big—just do something that scares you today. This episode will equip you with the tools and inspiration to tur

In today's episode, we're diving into The Nice Person's Endless Quests. Have you ever found yourself on a never-ending mission to be liked by everyone? Do you constantly seek approval or feel the need to be seen in a certain light by others? These exhausting and often invisible quests can hold you back from living authentically and fully. We'll explore the various quests that nice people undertake, such as the quest to be liked by everyone, the need for constant approval, and the compulsion to ensure others see you positively. These quests are tiring, unfulfilling, and ultimately futile. By recognizing these patterns, you can start making different choices. Learn how to identify these quests in your life and take steps to break free from them. The goal is to help you stop living for others' approval and start living for yourself. Stay tuned until the end for an actionable step that will help you put this insight into practice. Remember, change comes from consistent and considerable action. If you need more su

In today's episode, we're diving into one crucial question: Discomfort When? We'll explore why embracing discomfort is essential for meaningful growth and how most people shy away from it, resulting in minimal changes in their lives. Do you know that edge where you hesitate because of fear or uncertainty? Today, you'll learn why leaning into that discomfort is the key to radical transformation. It's not just about knowing the theory; it's about living it. You'll hear why small, consistent steps towards discomfort can build the confidence muscle and lead to extraordinary changes. Are you avoiding risks because you're afraid of rejection or failure? We'll tackle these fears head-on and provide strategies to face them. Whether it's asking someone out, speaking up for yourself, or taking a bold step in your career, today's episode will inspire you to take action now, not later. Tune in to discover practical action steps that will help you break free from the cage of niceness and people-pleasing. Let's make discom

In today’s enlightening episode, titled "Self-Confidence: How To Believe In Yourself," Dr. Aziz delves into the foundational aspects of self-confidence, revealing practical insights into what it means to truly believe in yourself. The episode explores why despite our desires to trust in our capabilities, many of us wrestle with pervasive self-doubt that diminishes our sense of self-worth and potential. Dr. Aziz tackles the common misconceptions and self-imposed barriers that hinder self-belief, addressing the critical difference between temporary setbacks and deep-rooted self-doubt. By examining the stories we tell ourselves about our abilities and potential, Dr. Aziz provides a clear pathway toward cultivating a robust sense of self-confidence that transcends mere optimism. Listeners will be guided through understanding the internal narratives that shape their self-perception and how to challenge and transform these beliefs to foster a genuine and empowering self-confidence. Whether you struggle with imposte

Welcome to today's transformative episode, where we tackle a profound yet often unspoken question: What if I don't feel lovable? If this question resonates with you, or if you're curious about the deeper nuances of self-love and worthiness, this episode is tailored for you. In our journey through life, we all face moments where we doubt our lovability, whether in professional environments or personal relationships. Dr. Aziz takes us through the complex layers of these feelings, exploring how our perceptions of lovability impact our interactions and self-esteem. The Roots of Feeling Unlovable Dr. Aziz delves into the core issues that make us question our worthiness of love. "99% of the time," he states, "the anxiety we experience is fundamentally about not feeling worthy of love." This revelation isn't limited to personal relationships but extends to how we perceive ourselves in all areas of life. Key Insight 1: Misconceptions About Love Dr. Aziz challenges common misconceptions about love, clarifying that lov

Are you tired of feeling unnoticed in conversations? Do you ever worry that you might not be interesting enough to keep people engaged? Dive into this transformative episode with Dr. Aziz, where he tackles the common fear of being perceived as boring or uninteresting. This isn't just a discussion—it's a journey to shatter the limiting beliefs that hold you back from being your most captivating self. In "How To Be More Interesting," Dr. Aziz explores the deep-seated stories we tell ourselves about our worthiness and how these narratives shape our social interactions. He illuminates the truth that being interesting isn't about adding more to your plate or becoming someone you're not; it's about recognizing and unleashing the vibrant energy that already exists within you. Through engaging stories, practical advice, and transformative insights, Dr. Aziz guides you on how to: Shift your core beliefs about your self-worth and interest level.Tap into your passions and share them with enthusiasm and authenticity.Cult

In this empowering episode, Dr. Aziz takes you on a transformative journey to the heart of true confidence. It's not the fleeting, conditional type that ebbs and flows with life's unpredictable tides but a profound, unshakeable confidence that stands firm regardless of external circumstances. Discover Unconditional Confidence Unpack the concept of unconditional confidence with Dr. Aziz as he guides you away from the exhausting rollercoaster of conditional self-worth. Learn how to cultivate a deep-rooted sense of confidence that remains steady through life's ups and downs. The Power of Self-Compassion Dr. Aziz reveals that the secret to unwavering confidence lies in self-compassion. He explains how treating yourself with kindness, understanding, and empathy can fundamentally change how you view yourself and your abilities. Empathy and Understanding: The Keys to Confidence Understand how to separate your self-worth from external successes and failures. Dr. Aziz will teach you to empathize with yourself, recogni

In this deeply insightful episode, Dr. Aziz takes you on a transformative journey into the heart of insecurity. Whether it manifests at work, in relationships, or in social settings, the feeling of being 'less than' or 'not enough' is a common thread that weaves through the tapestry of our lives. Dr. Aziz shares a powerful clip from a recent mastermind call, offering a raw and intimate look into the dynamics of overcoming insecurity. Discover Your Insecurity Recipe: Dr. Aziz challenges the notion that our worth is tied to external achievements and societal markers of success. He reveals how this relentless pursuit for significance leads us down a path of endless suffering, oscillating between feelings of superiority and inferiority. Shift Your Currency From Significance to Love: Through engaging storytelling and compelling examples, Dr. Aziz illuminates the difference between chasing significance and embracing love. He invites you to explore what you believe you need to be to be loved, urging a shift towards

Are you tired of the nagging sensation of embarrassment holding you back in life? In this eye-opening episode, Dr. Aziz delves deep into the world of embarrassment, unraveling its complexities and revealing how it can dictate our actions and shape our lives. From the classroom embarrassments of childhood to the adult fears of speaking up, Dr. Aziz shares his personal journey and insights, illustrating how these moments of discomfort can have long-lasting effects. Embarrassment isn't just about feeling uncomfortable—it's about the meanings we attach to these experiences and how they confine us within an invisible cultural field that dictates what is acceptable. But what if you could break free from this field? What if you could embrace embarrassment and turn it into a source of strength and freedom? Join Dr. Aziz as he explores the concept of the cultural field and how our fear of judgment keeps us playing small. Discover through vivid anecdotes and personal revelations how confronting embarrassment head-on ca

Welcome to a groundbreaking episode of "Shrink for the Shy Guy" with your host, Dr. Aziz. Today, we're diving into a transformative guided process that Dr. Aziz has perfected through his extensive work with individual clients, mastermind programs, and virtual events. Now, he's bringing this powerful practice directly to you. Introducing the Five Channels to Confidence and Freedom. This episode is more than just a listening experience; it's an interactive guide designed to be integrated into your daily life—whether you're at the gym, commuting, or taking a moment of stillness at home. Dr. Aziz will walk you through the five channels where you can direct your focus to significantly impact how you experience life and interact with the world around you. What You'll Discover: The Essence of Focus: Learn how your focus shapes your experiences and how shifting it can transform your reality.Practical Guidance: Dr. Aziz offers a hands-on practice to navigate through the five channels of focus, including breath, though

Click Here To Get Your Ticket For Liberate Yourself! Welcome to a transformative journey where we challenge the norms and embrace discomfort as a catalyst for growth. In this episode, "Discomfort = Progress," Dr. Aziz invites you to explore the unconventional wisdom that discomfort is not just a part of life to be avoided but a powerful tool for personal development. Are you tired of staying in your comfort zone, only to find that growth and opportunities pass you by? Dr. Aziz delves into why we naturally shy away from discomfort and how this avoidance shapes our lives in ways we might not even realize. He shares insights on how embracing discomfort can lead to breakthroughs in confidence, self-awareness, and ultimately, a more fulfilling life. Unpack the Power of Discomfort Discover the Role of Discomfort: Learn how our instinct to avoid discomfort at all costs could be what's holding us back from achieving our full potential. Change Your Perspective: Dr. Aziz challenges you to see discomfort through a new l

Click Here To Get Your Ticket For Liberate Yourself! Are you ready to confront the hidden force that's been holding you back? Dive into this transformative episode of "The Demon of Doubt," where Dr. Aziz peels back the layers of a pervasive yet often overlooked barrier to our growth: doubt. Whether it's that nagging voice telling you you're not good enough, the fear of making mistakes, or the hesitation to step into the unknown, doubt can be a formidable adversary on your path to self-discovery and achievement. In this episode, Dr. Aziz doesn't just dissect the anatomy of doubt; he provides practical, empowering strategies to dismantle it. Learn how to recognize the insidious narratives of doubt that weave through your thoughts, influencing your actions and decisions. Discover the liberating power of questioning these narratives and how defying doubt, even in small steps, can open up a world of possibilities you never thought attainable. But it's not just about theory; it's about action. Dr. Aziz challenges y

Welcome to a transformative journey in our latest episode, "End Insecurity Now," where we delve deep into the roots of insecurity and how it affects every facet of our lives - from work and relationships to our social interactions. In this episode, our host shares an insightful and engaging clip from a recent mastermind call, focusing on a powerful discussion about overcoming insecurity. This is not your average talk; it’s a dive into real, raw experiences and the profound impact of understanding and addressing the underlying causes of feeling 'not enough.' Hear firsthand the passionate exploration of how insecurity manifests, the endless pursuit of significance, and the ultimate quest for love and acceptance. Through a candid conversation, our host reveals the common thread of human experience, illustrating how we all strive for a sense of belonging and worthiness through external achievements and recognition. Yet, the key to liberation lies in recognizing this pursuit as a source of endless suffering. The e