The New Man

What’s the common link between workaholism, greed, and love addiction? Does your sense of self worth go up and down like a rollercoaster? And is there more to life than protecting our egos? If you’re like everyone else on the planet, then you’ve probably struggled with feeling “enough.” Today Alyson and I dive under the hood to discuss Terry Real’s unhealthy forms of self-esteem so that we can all understand what kills our true confidence. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2024/10/workaholism-greed-love-addiction COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com   BOOK   → We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life. → Visit https://TrippLanier.com/b

If you’re angry, is it better to bottle it up or lash out in retaliation? Do you get stuck in a loop thinking of things you should say to that jerk who pissed you off? And how is emotional constipation draining our aliveness and motivation? In this conversation, Alyson and I discuss the problems that arise with anger. For many, we feel stuck — if we say something with anger it might make the situation worse. But if we bottle it up, we become a toxic balloon that could burst at any moment. So today we explore what really drives our anger in hopes that we can find a more productive way to deal with it. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2024/09/dealing-with-anger COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com   BOOK   → We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and un

Is our drive for more money, more status, or more stuff really just an attempt to fill a God-sized hole in our lives? Do you ever feel awkward when expressing love to others? And how does our need for safety block us from having satisfying relationships? Today Alyson and I try to understand why love can be so challenging to receive. We discuss the ways we armor ourselves to avoid vulnerability and how we can still feel alone even when we’re with others. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2024/09/feel-empty COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com   BOOK   → We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life. → Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book

Are you with someone because you really want them or because you’re more afraid to be alone? Are you settling for junk food relationships that never satisfy and leave you feeling empty? And how does loneliness drive us to choose lousy partners? Relationships are hard and the only way to learn is to get in the mix. Today Alyson and I find some friction when it comes to dating and playing the field. We also discuss how we’ve helped ourselves and others face their loneliness so that they don’t have to settle for lousy partners. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2024/08/fear-of-being-alone COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com   BOOK   → We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few

Is the purpose of therapy to just dig up junk from your past? We talk about why many folks — including therapists we know and love — find the conventional form of therapy to be limiting. Is there another possibility? https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2024/08/frustrated-with-therapy COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com   BOOK   → We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life. → Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book

Can a nerd become a stud? Alyson and Tripp react to a movie called The Hitman and the topic of reinventing ourselves. This leads us to discuss pickup artists, neutered men, and handling our inner critic. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2024/07/reinvent-yourself COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com   BOOK   → We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life. → Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book

Do you trust your gut when making decisions? Author, entrepreneur, and former Navy SEAL commander Mark Divine (Uncommon: Simple Principles for an Extraordinary Life) discusses the power of embracing our emotions, intuition, and spirituality. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2024/07/mark-divine-uncommon COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com   BOOK   → We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life. → Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book

What’s going to happen to you after you die? Is death something you ignore or something you use to enjoy your days more? And are near death experiences proof of an after life or just the brain going apeshit because it’s losing oxygen? Sebastian Junger is no stranger to death. As a war correspondent he survived an IED attack on his vehicle and spent a grueling stint in the treacherous Korengal Valley of Afghanistan. But in 2020 he came face to face with his own mortality in a very different setting. At home. With his family. And this brush with death shook him much, much deeper because of what — and who — he saw at the threshold into the unknown. In this discussion, Sebastian shares his amazing story and most importantly how his near death experience has shaped the man he is today. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2024/06/sebastian-junger-near-death-experience COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit

Do you feel pressured to get married because you’ve been with someone a long time? Are you and your partner kicking the can down the road so you don’t have to face the reality of your challenges? And how much longer can you tolerate your relationship if it doesn’t change for the better? Today’s question comes from someone whose relationship is stuck in a rut. Their sex life is boring. They avoid difficult conversations, and he feels pressured to get married even though he has zero desire to commit. Is it possible to get things on a better trajectory? https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2024/06/pressure-to-marry COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com   BOOK   → We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a g

Is FOMO driving you to constantly be busy, busy, busy? Is it scary to admit that the hustle and grind is killing your motivation? And when is our resistance trying to help us? Today Alyson and I discuss motivation, resistance, and the cult of success. We talk about how it’s necessary to learn how to thrive in the world, but ultimately we have to stop jumping through hoops, forge our own path, and create success on our own terms. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2024/05/motivation-success-resistance COACHING - To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com - To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com BOOK - We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life. - Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book

Do you ever feel like something is just not quite right with your life? Do you have most of what you could want but still feel like something’s missing? And who are you underneath that ambition to succeed and avoid failure? Today Alyson and I talk about why so many folks feel empty inside even though they have amazing lives on the outside. We discuss what it means to find our gold, to reveal our essential nature, and what I call the “big imposter syndrome.” https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2024/05/finding-your-gold COACHING - To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com - To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com BOOK - We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life. - Visit https://TrippLanier.com/boo

Does your BS meter keep you from having a spiritual life? Are mystical experiences just our brain chemicals fooling us to believe we have a connection with God? And is spirituality something you can cultivate on your own or should you depend on a tradition or guru? Today my wife Alyson and I talk about religion, spirituality, and just how common it is to wrestle with this stuff. I share a bit about my own messy journey as well as what it may look like to forge your own path — on your own terms. If some of these ideas are helpful for you then great. And if they don’t align with your views, then please toss them aside. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2024/04/spiritual-but-not-religious COACHING - To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com - To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com BOOK - We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling

Is marriage a death sentence for the part of you that is wild? Alyson and I dive into the topic of domestication. We explore how responsibilities and structure are necessary, but they don’t have to kill what makes us feel alive and free. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2024/04/marriage-domestication COACHING - To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com - To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com BOOK - We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life. - Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book

Is watching porn the same as cheating on your partner? Alyson and I try to help someone who is at odds with his partner about porn. Instead of debating who is right or wrong, what if we understood what’s driving us to seek porn in the first place? https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2024/04/porn-cheating What are the 3 Steps to Find Clarity and Get Unstuck? Watch the free video course now. Visit https://www.TrippLanier.com Most men will let fear get the best of them. This book is not for most men. This Book Will Make You Dangerous is a swift kick in the ass that will make you laugh out loud. It’s a practical guide to play for what we truly want, to get over ourselves, and have a ton of fun along the way. This Book Will Make You Dangerous is now available at DangerousBookstore.com. http://dangerousbookstore.com

Navy SEAL Jeff Boss struggled to find his way as a civilian. Self-medicating with booze and women, he believed healing was for the weak -- until he couldn’t take it anymore. Today he helps those who struggle with the demons that plague us all. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2024/03/jeff-boss-healing-warriors What are the 3 Steps to Find Clarity and Get Unstuck? Watch the free video course now. Visit https://www.TrippLanier.com Most men will let fear get the best of them. This book is not for most men. This Book Will Make You Dangerous is a swift kick in the ass that will make you laugh out loud. It’s a practical guide to play for what we truly want, to get over ourselves, and have a ton of fun along the way. This Book Will Make You Dangerous is now available at DangerousBookstore.com. http://dangerousbookstore.com

Do you believe in soul mates or is that just some rom com BS? And what relationship advice would have helped your younger self avoid a huge headache? Tripp and Alyson discuss past relationship failures and what it may really mean to have a soul mate. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2024/03/soul-mate What are the 3 Steps to Find Clarity and Get Unstuck? Watch the free video course now. Visit https://www.TrippLanier.com Most men will let fear get the best of them. This book is not for most men. This Book Will Make You Dangerous is a swift kick in the ass that will make you laugh out loud. It’s a practical guide to play for what we truly want, to get over ourselves, and have a ton of fun along the way. This Book Will Make You Dangerous is now available at DangerousBookstore.com. http://dangerousbookstore.com

Alyson and Tripp discuss trying to improve ourselves by going to war with ourselves. What really helps us attain the emotional peace we hope that victory will bring? Plus, embarrassing stories about Tripp's many blind spots. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2024/02/at-war-with-yourself What are the 3 Steps to Find Clarity and Get Unstuck? Watch the free video course now. Visit https://www.TrippLanier.com Most men will let fear get the best of them. This book is not for most men. This Book Will Make You Dangerous is a swift kick in the ass that will make you laugh out loud. It’s a practical guide to play for what we truly want, to get over ourselves, and have a ton of fun along the way. This Book Will Make You Dangerous is now available at DangerousBookstore.com. http://dangerousbookstore.com

Do you have an amazing collection of books but suck at taking action? Today’s call is with a personal growth junkie. He can easily spend hours pouring through books and podcasts, but when it comes to taking action it’s like pulling teeth. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2024/01/taking-action What are the 3 Steps to Find Clarity and Get Unstuck? Watch the free video course now. Visit https://www.TrippLanier.com Most men will let fear get the best of them. This book is not for most men. This Book Will Make You Dangerous is a swift kick in the ass that will make you laugh out loud. It’s a practical guide to play for what we truly want, to get over ourselves, and have a ton of fun along the way. This Book Will Make You Dangerous is now available at DangerousBookstore.com. http://dangerousbookstore.com

Commitment Issues: What would make you excited to commit to a relationship? In today’s coffee date, Alyson and Tripp Lanier talk about radical honesty early on and why being out of alignment on the big stuff dooms us to struggle with the small stuff. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2024/01/commitment-issues-2 What are the 3 Steps to Find Clarity and Get Unstuck? Watch the free video course now. Visit https://www.TrippLanier.com Most men will let fear get the best of them. This book is not for most men. This Book Will Make You Dangerous is a swift kick in the ass that will make you laugh out loud. It’s a practical guide to play for what we truly want, to get over ourselves, and have a ton of fun along the way. This Book Will Make You Dangerous is now available at DangerousBookstore.com. http://dangerousbookstore.com

Do you wish you could change something about your partner? Alyson and I flounder through a conversation about commitment, refusing to be the bad guy, and why it’s so important to keep your side of the street clean. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2024/01/changing-your-partner What are the 3 Steps to Find Clarity and Get Unstuck? Watch the free video course now. Visit https://www.TrippLanier.com Most men will let fear get the best of them. This book is not for most men. This Book Will Make You Dangerous is a swift kick in the ass that will make you laugh out loud. It’s a practical guide to play for what we truly want, to get over ourselves, and have a ton of fun along the way. This Book Will Make You Dangerous is now available at DangerousBookstore.com. http://dangerousbookstore.com