Polyamory Weekly

How do you handle moving, job loss, death, and other relationship changes? 00:30 Introduction and host chat If you’re under 18, visit scarleteen.com We’re heading to Croatia for a vacation! 2:12 Lusty Guy’s Politics Corner The gap between people’s stated positions and what they actually vote for. 5:28 Contact us If you have questions, comments, or feedback call 802-505-POLY or email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an MP3 file with your questions. To book us or anything that involves a calendar, email lustyguy@polyweekly.com and copy polyweekly@gmail.com. 5:51 Interview: Dan and dawn on poly change management Dan and dawn have been a lifestyle couple since 2001 and have presented at over 100 events around North America. Not only do they enjoy teaching workshops and classes, they also share via books, specialized events, and fun consent negotiation playing cards! They were last on Poly Weekly in 2014 on episode 400: Poly for introverts. They are also the co-hosts of the Erotic Awakening Podcast, an educationa

Leanne is a bisexual, autistic, Asian poly polyamory educator, influencer, comedian, blogger, community mentor, and founder of Poly Philia, the largest page dedicated to non-monogamy education in the UK. 00:30 Introduction and host chat If you’re under 18, visit scarleteen.com 00:40 Poly in the news Leanne was on the British version of Fox News talking about polyamory, and she ran circles around the host! 3:00 Lusty Guy’s Politics Corner A white cis man’s view on abortion. Our big mistake is loading abortion with value and framing it as a women’s issue. It’s an issue of civil rights and bodily autonomy for all of us. 08:40 Contact us If you have questions, comments, or feedback call 802-505-POLY or email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an MP3 file with your questions. To book us or anything that involves a calendar, email lustyguy@polyweekly.com and copy polyweekly@gmail.com. 09:30 Interview: Leanne, PolyPhilia Leanne is a polyamory educator, influencer, comedian, blogger, community mentor, and founder of Po

Emily Blake and Gabriel Figueroa share their goal with their new animated sex ed series, Welcome to Kinkyville. Support their Kickstarter here! 00:30 Introduction and host chat If you’re under 18, visit scarleteen.com The empathy gap and why it’s hard to predict your behavior in a hot state when you’re in a cold state. Related to our idea of “experience shock.” Hidden Brain podcast The Empathy Gap A group at Harvard Law School, PLAC (Polyamory Legal Advocacy Coalition, which is an initialism), is working on legal protections for poly folks. The Harvard Law article. 08:16 Lusty Guy’s Politics Corner: is it legal to require vaccines? This issue was settled definitely by the Supreme Court in 1905 with Jacobson V Massachusetts. 13:19 Contact us If you have questions, comments, or feedback call 802-505-POLY or email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an MP3 file with your questions. To book us or anything that involves a calendar, email lustyguy@polyweekly.com and copy polyweekly@gmail.com. 14:15 Topic: Welcome

A listener falls in love with a relapsed, suicidal alcoholic and asks how to move forward when her husband hates this new relationship that makes her so happy. 0:45 Introduction and host chat If you’re under 18, visit www.scarleteen.com 1:30 Lusty Guy’s Politics Corner: look at your party’s track record The next time you’re wondering about what side of any given political debate to adopt, consider the track record of the folk advocating for each given side. If they are among those who think the 2020 election was stolen, say, you can reasonably assume they have a long track record of being wrong. And, as we all know, past behavior is the best predictor of future performance. 6:20 Contact us If you have questions, comments, or feedback call 802-505-POLY or email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an MP3 file with your questions. To book us or anything that involves a calendar, email lustyguy@polyweekly.com and copy polyweekly@gmail.com. 6:30 Topic: My husband doesn’t like that I’m dating a relapsed, suicidal alcoh

A listener in a hierarchical relationship with her nesting partner asks how to start the conversation about moving to a more egalitarian one. 0:00 Introduction and host chat If you’re under 18, visit scarleteen.com In episode 189 of the Normalizing Non-Monogamy podcast, the guest Brea said they used Eight Things I Wish I’d Known About Polyamory Before I Tried It and Frakked It Up! 2:50 Poly in the news Folks are getting serious about creating a new poly flag 5:00 Lusty Guy’s Politics Corner: A note to my fellow white people White people don’t always know what racism is, and saying “I don’t see color” or confuse intentions with outcomes are signs that you don’t understand. Whites should listen to the Black voices around you and read How to be an Anti-Racist by Ibram X. Kendi to start understanding. 9:35 Contact us If you have questions, comments, or feedback call 802-505-POLY or email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an MP3 file with your questions. To book us or anything that involves a calendar, email l

Michelle Hy is from Portland, Oregon and runs the page Polyamorous While Asian, which seeks to normalize non-monogamy through an intersectional lens and amplify the voices of other people of color. 0:00 Introduction and host chat If you’re under 18, visit scarleteen.com Livin’ it up in Hawaii! 3:15 Interview: Michelle Hy We ask Michelle her poly origin story, how her poly and Asian identities intersect, why she started Polyamorous While Asian, the pitfalls she warns against, and dating during the pandemic. We talk about how allies must consider Asian inclusion from the beginning rather than tacking it on. “All relationships are political, whether or not they feel political. Because politics is just us deciding how we relate to one another, and how we feel that power should be distributed.” Michelle Hy is from Portland, Oregon and runs the page Polyamorous While Asian, which seeks to normalize non-monogamy through an intersectional lens and amplify the voices of other POC. She offers non-monogamy peer suppor

Meagan is queer and married a cis man to fulfill family and societal expectations. She’s had mind-blowing sex with a new partner as is questioning her desire to stay in her marriage and be a wife. Meagan isn’t sure they can commit to the hierarchical poly their husband wants. 0:00 Introduction and host chat If you’re under 18, visit scarleteen.com Next episode will be from Hawaii 1:35 Lusty Guy’s Politics Corner On the Palestine-Israeli conflict—it’s OK to admit you don’t know enough. Recommended reading, anyone? 3:40 Contact us If you have questions, comments, or feedback call 802-505-POLY or email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an MP3 file with your questions. To book us or anything that involves a calendar, email lustyguy@polyweekly.com and copy polyweekly@gmail.com. 4:20 Topic: When do I call it quits on my marriage? Meagan is queer and married a cis man to fulfill family and societal expectations. The past year (2019), her husband H and she moved to a new city and have been dating a lot. She’s had min

Mathias' husband vetoed Mathias' feelings for and non-threesome sex with his new partner. Should Mathias end his 13-year relationship or stay but resent his husbands' veto? 0:00 Introduction and host chat If you’re under 18, visit scarleteen.com Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy are doing Navigating Consent classes 4:30 Poly in the news Romper published a 4,000-word feature with the arresting title The Nonmonoga-Moms Next Door 7:30 Lusty Guy’s Politics Corner Lusty Guy defines fascism and comments on its consolidation within today’s Republican party.   Fascism Liz Cheney ousted from leadership role for refusing to support the false claim that the election wasn’t legitimate Republican efforts to suppress voting following the 2020 election 13:30 Contact us If you have questions, comments, or feedback call 802-505-POLY or email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an MP3 file with your questions. To book us or anything that involves a calendar, email lustyguy@polyweekly.com and copy polyweekly@gmail.com. 14:00 Topi

SAF's first poly experience outside her marriage was the best sex she's ever had. How does she address the ho-hum sex with her husband? 0:00 Introduction and host chat If you’re under 18, visit www.scarleteen.com 00:45 Poly in the news Poly community builders Christopher Smith, Robyn Trask, Marina Reiko, Ruby Bouie Johnson and others did an impressive job for more than an hour on Areva Martin's influential online talk show The Special Report 2:00 Lusty Guy’s Politics Corner Today’s politics corner is the argument for D.C. statehood. The over 700,000 inhabitants of Washington, D.C. pay their taxes and have no voting representation in Congress. The arguments against: it’s unconstitutional (it’s not); you could shrink the size of D.C. to encompass just the White House and government buildings. Others have pointed out the inherent racism, since D.C. has a large percentage of Black people, and there is the partisanship, as D.C. is likely to vote Democratic. When Rep. Mondaire Jones (D-N.Y.) pointed that out, his

Two topics this week! What does post-pandemic poly look like, and how do you keep your boyfriend from surprising you with new partners when you've asked him not to? 0:00 Introduction and host chat If you’re under 18, visit scarleteen.com We’re in top 20 podcasts about polyamory! https://blog.feedspot.com/polyamory_podcasts/ Minx is fully vaccinated, pending 10 more day’s wait. A massage and travel are on the horizon! 3:15 Poly in the news 3500-word BBC article quoting Dossie Easton and great to show to relatives who think it’s just you: https://polyinthemedia.blogspot.com/2021/03/major-bbc-article-rise-of-multi-partner.html COVD and poly https://polyinthemedia.blogspot.com/2021/03/at-one-year-mark-polyamorys-many-sided.html 5:15 Lusty Guy’s Politics Corner Most white U.S. citizen don’t know about the MOVE bombing, in which when the Philadelphia Police Department bombed a residential home occupied by the militant black anarcho-primitivist group MOVE, and the Philadelphia Fire Department let the fire burn

A listener wants to know if it's OK to consider nesting with a partner if she's not sure she'll be comfortable hearing them have sex with someone else. 0:00 Introduction and host chat If you’re under 18, visit scarleteen.com Thanks to L for taking the dog so we could record! And forgive Baloo saying hello a few times in the episode. J D asked for our poly pet peeves, so here they are: Sex negativity in the poly community. Nothing wrong if it IS all about the sex! Folks who describe polyamory as “more evolved.” Poly gatekeepers. 8:30 Poly in the news Three best poly 101 articles: https://polyinthemedia.blogspot.com/2021/03/the-3-best-poly-101-articles-to-share.html 10:00  Lusty Guy’s Politics Corner We all need to listen to BIPOC voices with respect to U.S. history. Watch the Netflix series Amend: The Fight for America, executive produced and hosted by Will Smith. 14:30 Feedback If you have questions, comments, or feedback call 802-505-POLY or email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an MP3 file with your q

Ashley Robertson, child care provider and sex-positive educator, makes her podcast debut to answer questions about age-appropriate sex education. 0:00 Introduction and host chat If you’re under 18, visit scarleteen.com Same ole’ same ole’ pandemic, just waiting for the vaccine 2:25 Poly in the news Three Dads and a Baby Caroline Rose Guiliani is a poly unicorn! Cambridge, Massachusetts passes new poly domestic partnership legislation 5:55 Feedback If you have questions, comments, or feedback call 802-505-POLY or email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an MP3 file with your questions. To book us or anything that involves a calendar, email lustyguy@polyweekly.com. 6:40 Interview: Ashley Robertson on talking to kids about polyamory and sex Ashley identifies as a feminine, bi-curious, ethically solo-polyamourous, sexual submissive. With over a decade of experience in the BDSM community, she isn't shy of perverse topics. She is a liberated, ethical slut who wishes to share with others the freedom of sexuality

Matt writes in to ask what to do after a partner asks to be platonic while she figures things out. Lusty Guy and Minx give advice. 0:00 Introduction and host chat If you’re under 18, visit scarleteen.com Let’s talk about snow and the polar vortex. Seattle snow was fun for us and our puppy, but Minx was worried about her family in Texas. 4:30 Lusty Guy’s Politics Corner We all learned about the pilgrims founding America to enjoy religious tolerance, but it’s not true. They decamped England and went to Amsterdam and then Leiden, where they faced no religious persecution. They stayed there for 10 years and ran for office in order to try to impose their religious views on everyone else. They weren’t fleeing religious persecution; they wanted to establish it. Smithsonian Magazine reference, the pilgrims’ time in Holland A primary reason the US government forbade membership in a specific church to run for office was because no one could agree on which church that should be. Want to find out more? Watch Stephen

Dr. Eli Sheff joins today to share her new project, The Bonding Project, in which she seeks to help people understand how they bond. 0:00 Introduction and host chat If you’re under 18, visit scarleteen.com Minx was down for a week with horrible symptoms of menopause, but feeling better now. Hoping to get Heather Corinna, author of What Fresh Hell Is This: Perimenopause, Menopause, Other Indignities, and You, soon! 3:45 Poly in the news Chris Smith and Ben Schenker's have proposed legislation to the Washington, DC, City Council to expand domestic partnership and anti-discrimination laws to include multi-partnered relationships. More info from Chris on how to participate. Amy Dickinson finally gives good poly advice! Ask Amy: Polyamory creates an extra family challenge. Alan’s blog post. If you have questions, comments, or feedback call 802-505-POLY or email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an MP3 file with your questions. To book us or anything that involves a calendar, email lustyguy@polyweekly.com. 6:1

Dr. Liz Powell and Kevin Patterson share insights from their new online course, Unf*ck your polyamory 0:00 Introduction and host chat If you’re under 18, visit www.scarleteen.com 1:00 Poly in the news BBC 2 has a new drama called Trigonometry centered around black poly folks If you have questions, comments, or feedback call 802-505-POLY or email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an MP3 file with your questions. To book us or anything that involves a calendar, email lustyguy@polyweekly.com. 2:00 Interview with Kevin Patterson and Dr. Liz Powell: Unfuck your polyamory Kevin Patterson has practiced consensual nonmonogamy since 2002. In 2015, he started Poly Role Models, an interview series and polyamory's most inclusive platform. This has led to the writing of the book, Love's Not Color Blind and along with co-writer Alana Phelan, the sci-fi novel series, For Hire. Dr. Liz Powell is a licensed psychologist (CA 27871) and coach who specializes in helping you build your most fulfilling, authentic life. They teach,

How to experience and nurture compersion in your relationships 0:00 Introduction and host chat If you’re under 18, visit scarleteen.com The Book of the Kiss is a fantasy romance sourcebook designed to be system-agnostic. Poly Weekly listeners can get half off the cover price here. Love is Polytical was a conference in Berlin last weekend. 3:50 Lusty Guy’s polyamory and politics corner Both sides are not the same. If what you are looking for deep, systemic reform to systems, yeah, they are similar. But with 300,000 new cases of COVID in the U.S., the response would have been different with a Democrat in office. If you’re a woman seeking an abortion, an economist, a climatologist, or a trans person, you can see the difference. 8:45 Contact us If you have questions, comments, or feedback call 802-505-POLY or email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an MP3 file with your questions. To book us or anything that involves a calendar, email lustyguy@polyweekly.com. 9:00 Topic: How do I develop compersion? If you don’t

Worried and her roommate are seeing the same long-distance dom, and her roommate started dating him and then put restrictions on Worried's time with him. Should they move in together? 0:00 Introduction and host chat If you’re under 18, visit scarleteen.com The surprising obstacles to polyamorous marriage 2:40 Lusty Guy’s polyamory and politics corner Lusty Guy provides insights on expertise: what is it, when do you have it, and what to do in its absence. To start increasing your expertise on U.S. politics, LG’s suggests reading Howard Zinn’s A People’s History of the United States. 6:50 Topic: My dom’s girlfriend is domblocking me Worried has a roommate, and they have both been playing with the same long-distance dom for two years. The roomie and the dom began dating, and the roomie began “putting restrictions” on the dom’s play with Worried. Worried thinks that the roomie is fabricating issues to enforce her girlfriend status. They are talking about moving in together. Don’t move in until this is resolv

Why we didn't produce an episode for eights months and what to expect from Poly Weekly moving forward. 0:00 Introduction and host chat If you’re under 18, visit scarleteen.com 1:00 Host chat: why haven’t we produced for eight months Puppy! COVID pandemic left me frustrated, helpless, and unmotivated to podcast Stay-at-home had a negative effect on our relationship for a while Lack of access to coping strategies. Swimply is the app to rent outdoor pools by the hour. George Floyd, BLM, CHAZ/CHOP, federal stormtroopers, kids being tear gassed 14:30 What Poly Weekly will be moving forward We’ll be talking more about politics when it’s relevant. We believe it should be OK to talk about politics, like we believe it should be OK to talk about sex. The personal is political. And we’ll be making calls to action like this one: volunteer with the critical senatorial runoff election in Georgia, donate to Stacey Abrams’ Fair Fight, or donate or volunteer for the candidates Jon Ossoff and Reverend Raphael Warnock. And

How do we practice poly responsibly during a pandemic? Is it OK to move my metamour in with me rather than not see her for the duration of enforced social isolation? 0:00 Introduction and host chat If you’re under 18, visit scarleteen.com Found a new poly podcast, Pod Pod Cvlt Cast, with 34 long episodes! We’ve got a new puppy to keep us company during #stayathome! 3:00 Poly in the news Elisabeth Sheff’s four-part series on monogamy in Psychology Today: CNM is not a good choice as a method to fix a relationship that is broken, Four tips for heteroflexible couples who are considering opening their relationships, Three reasons why consensual non-monogamy will not work for people who are monogamous, and her latest, Monogamy by Orientation. Alan’s Friday Poly in the news roundup, covering primarily the coronavirus pandemic. How coronavirus is impacting polyamorous relationships How a polyamory expert is dating during the coronavirus pandemic What it’s like to isolate with your girlfriend and her other

What do you do when you have one romantic partner and your partner has none? 0:00 Introduction and host chat If you’re under 18, visit scarleteen.com What were your favorite shows of 2019? 569 Building open relationships with Dr. Liz Powell--March 18--17,397 572 When your partner’s jealousy precludes your polyamory--April 28--14,392 568 A framework for consent--March 3--13,440 576 Will poly help emotionally unavailable partners--July 1--13,019 All-time downloads: 7,261,446 5:15 Contact us Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. If you want us to teach a class at your event, want us to coach you, or want to appear on the podcast, email lustyguy@polyweekly.com. 5:40 Topic: Feast or famine: when you have more partners than your partner Oliver is in his first non-mono relationship with S. S had said she wouldn’t date him if he were monogamous, so he gave it a try. Now he is in a relationship with T, and S has dec