The Intimate Lifestyle

For this week’s episode of Modern Sex Talks, we try to understand sexuality and kink on a deeper level with our guest, psychologist and sex therapist Galen Fous.   Galen Fous is the author of Decoding Your Kink and is the pioneer of the Personal Erotic Myth. Unlike most sex psychologist and therapists who believe that alternative sexuality is often brought about by childhood trauma, Galen proposed a different view to deal with kinks, BDSM and other sexual behavior considered taboo by general society.   Listen to this episode as Galen whose voice is reminiscent of the voice of God – Morgan Freeman, yearns to make us understand:   What motivated Galen to explore a niche subject that is discussed on the fringes of psychology (8:19). realized lately that what were considered disorders are actually normal (8:19; 9:54). His personal experience, being subjected to a very public and harsh outing amidst a divorce case that judged other facets of his life solely based on his sexual identity (11:02), and how this opene

This episode is re-using a speech I gave over a year ago. I still have people approach me telling me how much they enjoyed my talk, and how much it resonated with them. And given it got a lot of laughs, I thought it would be a great way to start off the year. Remember to leave us a rating a review! Find us at www.theintimatelifestyle.com. Enjoy the show!

Every Tuesday we come at you with Just the Tip Tuesday where we offer a 10 minute segment from a previous episode.  Our episodes can be a bit long sometimes, and it can be hard to remember everything, so this is an option to get bite sized bits of information on a weekly basis. Today's episode is a short segment from EP070: Sexy Vulnerability with Tziporah Kingsbury. In today's segment, Tziporah explains how important it is to communicate and be aware how much you're sharing with a new person. She also explains an important question to ask yourself before you start to share. Enjoy the show!

We have a quite enlightening episode today, with Brad Warner as our guest. Brad grew up in Ohio, but also spent a significant amount of his life in Kenya and Japan. He got into Zen whilst being the bass guitarist for punk rock band Zero Defex, he is also a blogger, and the author of Sex, Sin, and Zen.   Sex, Sin, and Zen is probably one of my favorite books out there and has made me realize how I relate to Zen Buddhism and the similarities of its teachings to basic principles I live by. In this episode, we talk about Zen Buddhism, its teachings, meditation, and how Zen Buddhism views some of the most controversial subjects of our time.   Clear your mind, get grounded and tune into our conversation as we discuss: How Brad views the correlation of punk rock and Zen Buddhism, and its similarities in terms of questioning realities (3:09). What are the forms of Buddhism, and what is Zen Buddhism (4:43)? How Brad ended up writing about sex, Buddhism’s interpretation of sex and sexuality, its background, the percep

Coming from a light-hearted episode with Rianna James, we will be shifting gears this week and discuss something more serious. A little somber for the holidays, but definitely worthwhile to listen to raise awareness on a subject not usually talked about but is relevant and must not be left on the sidelines. To give you a background, our guest is Don Wright, the founder and Executive Director of the British Columbia Society for Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse (BCSMSSA). He pioneered professionals to provide therapy and treatment in the sexual abuse field. He was awarded by the B.C. Human Right Coalition with a human rights medal of honor for his work in this field. Our insightful and relevant discussion today will leave you with some key takeaways and new learnings, including: The four facilities focusing on male sexual abuse in Canada; One in BC under Don Wright; the Men’s Project in Ottawa which lost funding but was continued under private practice as Men’s Healing; one in Winnipeg; and another in Calgary (4

All too often we hear an overly romantic sentiment "I just want you to be happy!" or something else to that effect. It creates a feeling of martyrdom. 'I will sacrifice my happiness and be of service to you, because you complete me. As long as you're happy, I'm happy. If you're not happy, I have failed you, and I should jump off a cliff.' This is the Hollywood version of love. But in reality, there's a simple thing we can do to be more attractive to potential mates and keep our partners interested. Listen in and enjoy the show!  

Every Tuesday we come at you with Just the Tip Tuesday where we offer a 10 minute segment from a previous episode.  Our episodes can be a bit long sometimes, and it can be hard to remember everything, so this is an option to get bite sized bits of information on a weekly basis.  Today's episode is a short segment from EP031: Sexual Art Photography with Ricardo Scipio. In today's segment, Ricardo explains what it's like having a sexual art photography session with him. He also explains that with erotic photography, which is not what he does, they overly focus on the genitals. What he does, is focus on the whole setting and experience.  Enjoy the show!

Every Tuesday we come at you with Just the Tip Tuesday where we offer a 10 minute segment from a previous episode.  Our episodes can be a bit long sometimes, and it can be hard to remember everything, so this is an option to get bite sized bits of information on a weekly basis.  Today's episode is a short segment from EP073: Attitude and Great Sex with Eyal Matsliah. In today's segment, Eyal talks about his perspective on "conscious sexism" and that men should be taking a bit more of the lead. And to balance that out, he explains how women can also lead, resulting in both genders supporting one another.

We are celebrating the 100th episode of Modern Sex Talks today, and we have an extra-special guest. Our resource person will be using the pseudonym Mae, and she is a sex worker. Contrary to common perception though, she does not engage in penetrative sex, but instead uses her touch to express sensuality through tantric massages.   In this episode, Mae will expound on the concepts of tantra, spirituality, compassion, love and sexuality. Together we will learn about an industry society has filled with stigma and misconception. Let us all listen as Mae discusses:   Tantric massage, how she does her job (2:15), how she views her work, and how it affects other people’s lives (8:20). What she does as a sex worker, the limitations in this line of work, and the difference of sex work vs. human trafficking (4:55). The story on how she got into this trade, and how it transformed her life (12:13). How she asserts her boundaries (20:54), the dangers involved in this type of work (27:07), and how she protects herself fro

SLUT = Sexually Liberated Untamed Treasure SLUT = Sexually Liberated Uninhibited Treasure SLUT = Sexually Liberated Unrestricted Temptress SLUT = Sexually Liberated Unapologetically Thrilled SLUT = Sexually Liberated Ugly-bits Tickler However you decide to look at it, sluts are amazing. As a woman, there are innumerable benefits to women for being sexually liberated. And as a man, you have no right to complain it's hard to get laid if you ever say a woman is a slut, in a derogatory manner, for sleeping around. I don't believe it's important to be promiscuous to become a SLUT, but it can't hurt! Today I share my thoughts on why we need more sluts.

Every Tuesday we come at you with Just the Tip Tuesday where we offer a 10 minute segment from a previous episode.  Our episodes can be a bit long sometimes, and it can be hard to remember everything, so this is an option to get bite sized bits of information on a weekly basis.  Today's episode is a short segment from EP038: Cockfidence Karolina Tatarenkova. A Russian Sex Therapist based in Vancouver, BC, Canada loves talking about cock. And confidence. Cockfidence!  So many men derive their confidence from the size or shape of their dick. This stems from pornography and misguided societal influences.  Karolina will tells us about why that happens, why it's bullshit, and how to generate some serious cockfidence. Cockfidence is the recognition that your value as a man, and in the bedroom, is not reliant on your penis. It’s reliant on you as a lover. And yes, those two are mutually exclusive.  If you’d like to reach Karolina, you can find her at www.passioninlove.com.

What is with the advice "just be yourself'? I remember hearing that and thinking...what am I NOT being? How is this supposed to be good advice. It wasn't until I realized that the majority of my actions were driven by a desire to be accepted by others, that I learned what it meant to be myself. In this episode, I explain why the advice "just be yourself" is baloney, and how you can start to "be yourself." If authenticity is the name of your game here, and you're struggling with how frustrating people are and how they don't seem to "know" you, this episode will be right up your alley.

Every Tuesday we come at you with Just the Tip Tuesday where we offer a 10 minute segment from a previous episode.  Our episodes can be a bit long sometimes, and it can be hard to remember everything, so this is an option to get bite sized bits of information on a weekly basis.  Today's episode is a short segment from EP034: Male Emotionality. Male emotion is Dr Duana Welch's next target. She's here to destroy some myths around male emotionality. It’s certainly not a fluffy show. She explains that men tend to fall in love faster, and fall out of love longer and harder. Men also experience love at first sight at a much larger rate than women. Essentially, research has shown that when it comes to romantic relationships, men are just as, if not more emotional, than women. This is shown by statistics that men, who typically don’t need marriage, choose to get re-married more often than women, after a divorce. And statistics have shown that men tend to say “I love you” sooner than the woman. All around this is a pr

Shame is insidious. And it interferes with almost every aspect of our lives if we don't tackle it head on.  Today is a story of a vision quest I went on, where I didn't eat, have access to internet or phone, see anyone or speak to anyone for 3 whole days. I got woken up by bear one morning, and the main lesson from this vision quest was "Shame."   In this episode, I share of how I overcame (most) of my shame, and a simple, but very powerful process and exercise you can do at home.

Every Tuesday we come at you with Just the Tip Tuesday where we offer a 10 minute segment from a previous episode.  Our episodes can be a bit long sometimes, and it can be hard to remember everything, so this is an option to get bite sized bits of information on a weekly basis.  Today's episode is a short segment from EP014: Finding the Right Partner (for men) Myke has a really interesting story. He came to Canada from the Phillipines as a teenager in high school, having never seen a microwave or white people. He couldn’t speak English, was overweight, and was incredibly shy. After years of loneliness, he dove into the world of Pick-up Artists and started to learn how to be a social, confident man. He eventually moved away from the pick-up artist world and moved towards ethical coaching for men to navigate their way to romance and social confidence.

Did you know that women can experience up to 11 types of orgasm?  Yea. Women can actually experience more than that. But as Devi says in this interview, we model our understanding of orgasm off of a teenage boys experience of ejaculation.   Our understanding of orgasm is currently a climax, where there is a quick rise, huge peak, and then a quick rush down.  But an orgasm doesn’t need to have a climax like that. Instead, it can be an extended peak of pleasure. Or a rush of pleasure or tingling, or any other peak that sticks around.  It can show up in multiple different ways.   And Devi shares 3 MAIN BLOCKS that prevent women from experiencing:  -clitoral orgasms -G-spot Orgasms -Urethral Opening Orgasms -Cervical Orgasms -Uteran Orgasms -Ear gasms -Throat gasms -and a whole lot more. You can kind more info on how you can reach her in our show notes at www.modernsextalks.com.

I decided after interviewing Oanh Love on Abstinence that I was going to deliberately go without sex for a while.  I didn't want to do it. But deep down, I actually DID want to do it. I knew it was the right thing to do. And as a result, I'm extremely happy Today's episode is just a fun little conversation that goes in a couple of different directions, but is centered around how we should avoid using sex to build confidence. Enjoy the show.

Every Tuesday we come at you with Just the Tip Tuesday where we offer a 10 minute segment from a previous episode.  Our episodes can be a bit long sometimes, and it can be hard to remember everything, so this is an option to get bite sized bits of information on a weekly basis.  Today's episode is a short segment from EP015: Erotic Massage. This is a very interesting show. Enter into the world of sensual ‘erotic’ massage. Ki has been doing whole body, genitals included, massage for over 10 years. He and his partner, Aurora, have an exceptional amount of experience in sensual massage, and even give regular live demonstrations of G-spot massage, squirting orgasm, vulva massage and cock massage. Today they touch on how erotic massage can be a great tool for resolving conflict in your relationships. If you want to reach Ki and Aurora, you can contact them on www.massagebyki.com and www.erosha.com.

The male ego gets a bad rep. But it serves a purpose. What is that purpose? The same one that the female ego serves. To be desireable. A woman's ego is centered around beauty and youth.  A man's ego is centered around strength.  How does that strength play out? By having a larger ego, and never showing weakness.  Target a man's ego, and you target his entire value as a human being.

Every Tuesday we come at you with Just the Tip Tuesday where we offer a 10 minute segment from a previous episode.  Our episodes can be a bit long sometimes, and it can be hard to remember everything, so this is an option to get bite sized bits of information on a weekly basis.  Today's episode is a short segment from EP029 - Status and Dating. Devon O’Brien Ash has been teaching men, and women, how to identify their bad social habit that interfere with developing better connections with people. He’s been doing this for over a decade and has helped hundreds if not thousands of men and alike.  His style is one that brings out a persons genuine self, rather than adding a layer like some “dating coaches” do to their clients.  He’s a leader in his field and knows how to lead by example. If you want to improve your dating life, get more promotions at work, or just take your social life to the next level, then listen to this episode.  You can reach Devon at http://www.devonobrienash.com/ and learn his Authentic Soc