Delight Your Marriage

Back 1.5 years ago, Taylor went through the men's program and witnessed God do some important work. Most important: in his heart.  But as Jesus says: For from within, out of the heart of man, come evil thoughts, sexual immorality, theft, murder, adultery, coveting, wickedness, deceit, sensuality, envy, slander, pride, foolishness. All these evil things come from within, and they defile a person.” If the point of Delight Your Marriage is to help men and women get their heart right, then of course the rest would follow. My encouragement to you today, is focus on the heart. Focus on surrendering your heart to the Lord so He can free you of all of that which you hate. He is God and there is freedom with Him. Blessings, Belah PS - If you're looking for changes like this, we would love to help you on a Clarity Call: delightyourmarriage.com/cc   From another recent graduate:  MR Grad: “GOD is certainly using DYM [Delight Your Marriage] to impact lives.”   Before MR: “Some of the biggest struggles I was facing were

We are indeed at war.  Now is not the time to walk idly by.  Now is not the time to pretend it's all just fine.  Now is not the time to think only about ourselves.   And your marriage matters during the tribulation.  Regardless of who endures the end times (our generation... or the next, or next, or next...) what you do or don't do in your marriage matters.   Whether or not Christianity is worthwhile to your kids can be significantly impacted by what they see in your marriage.   But what does preparing for the end times PRACTICALLY look like? What does marriage have to do with the end times? Actually, a lot. Well, I am hoping today's episode is entertaining and encouraging.    Thank you,  Belah   PS -  We'd love to help you delight your marriage. Your first (courageous, yet super easy -- and worth it!!) step is a free Clarity Call: delightyourmarriage.com/cc   Men's Graduate Quote:  "Your program is so holy spirit inspired. I just continue to be amazed at the content in the teaching. I like that it was very p

As an Amish growing up, Donny has had quite the journey.  Just a couple of years ago after God rescued him from a very difficult place, his marriage actually was fairly good.    He found and listened to the podcast for quite a while and felt convicted that he needed to do the men's program.  He was content in his own marriage, he just wanted to know if he could recommend it to others.  But he was surprised to see how helpful it was to him personally, and his marriage grew even more than he thought possible. :)    Things got tricky when some people approached him with concern about the fact that I'm a lady in leadership.  Wisely so, he and his wife grappled with and prayed about it.  He distinctly felt the Lord speak to his heart about it. I would love for you to hear what he felt the Lord say.    I hope his story encourages you.    Love,  Belah   PS - If you would like to see how we can help you, take the courageous step and sign up for a Clarity Call at delightyourmarriage.com/cc   Delighted Wife Grad Quote:

As empty nesters, you know how they say you'll enjoy growing old together. Well, Kim says, "We were growing older, but not enjoying it." Kim was suffering in her marriage -- crying on her friend's shoulder. As they prayed that God would change it. Then, that friend told her about the podcast, the one you're listening to.  That friend also told her husband. After hearing all the testimonials, he joined the men's program.  Kim was kind of annoyed that he did this. Because she also listened to a couple of episodes and it pointed to areas of her marriage that she had wounding around. Things turned around... REALLY beautifully.  I know Russ, her husband, and Kim pretty well by now (after two years) and it has been remarkable seeing this couple grow.  Their first transformation story was episode 293 (be sure to check that out!). That was the first time I met Kim.  It's been amazing to have her in the Delighted Wife program and to see what God has done through it. May this story encourage you. There is hope. If you'

My heart goes out to any wife who has experienced sexual abuse. There are so many layers of pain... it's truly horrible.  As a husband, the evil that was done to your wife harmed her immeasurably. The person you love the most. And it impacted your marriage, your intimacy, and your life forever.    Is healing possible? What if she doesn't "DEAL WITH" her abuse? (Sometimes I hear men say that their hands are tied if she doesn't deal with her trauma.) Can a husband do anything?   I believe Bill's story can give you hope.  He would say, "Yes."    From many years of a full life but an empty marriage, he is thrilled to tell you, there is hope even for your marriage.  He has 43 years under his belt.  He was a self-diagnosed "podcast addict." :) Always looking to FIX his wife. He knew there had to be a solution. But nothing moved the needle ...until Delight Your Marriage.   He said after 3 months of the Masculinity Reclaimed program (MR)... from decades of passionless marriage, they feel "like 60-something teenagers

Clarity is crucial in a marriage because it allows individuals to gain self-awareness, understand their own emotions and behaviors, and without even realizing it, it can help you take responsibility for your part in the relationship dynamics. Maybe you didn't "cause it" but you haven't worked to solve it. When couples face challenges or conflicts, it's easy to blame each other or external factors without examining what is really going on under the surface of the behaviors. A Clarity Call encourages an individual to look carefully at themselves, their patterns, history, and reflect on their thoughts, feelings, actions, and current situation. Sign up for a free Clarity Call today! Delightyourmarriage.com/cc By engaging in a Clarity Call, individuals can identify their own patterns and unresolved issues that may be impacting the relationship. It helps them recognize their own biases, insecurities, woundedness, and areas for personal growth. Through a Clarity Call, individuals can better understand how their own

I'd like to share Kevin's story, mostly in his own words.  As always, there is a huge message of hope and transformation available in this story, so I hope you'll listen in! After 28 years of marriage, feeling like roommates, Kevin said "I felt helpless" and "very isolated, very alone" in the struggles he experienced.  As a very successful (and busy!) IT exec overseeing teams in India, UK, France, and elsewhere, and really being able to figure out most things on his own... It was confusing to not be able to figure out marriage in the same way. And it was painful to hear his wife caring more about something like Diet Coke than him. Logically, he knew it wasn’t true but it sure felt like it at times. He listened to the DYM transformation stories (like this one!). And they sounded too good to be true. But he kept hearing parts of his story over and over again through other people's DYM interviews.  He thoroughly checked into the DYM work and dived into the podcasts. Of the work, he said, "the more and more I lis

I am grateful so many men share their unfiltered hearts with me.  It is an honor and a privilege.  I find that many men feel extremely misunderstood. And they have numbed their pain just to "get through". The problem with numbing is we don't see the people right in front of us and the pain they are experiencing.  What I see so frequently is men who are desperately trying to be the men God designed them to be, but are frustrated with the lack of respect in their marriages. I want to help you understand... 1 - that your feelings here are valid and even God-designed 2 - there is a productive way to handle this gap (Spoiler alert: it starts on the inside of you.)   Love & Blessings, Belah   PS --  Are you curious about the overall health of your marriage? Respect is a big piece and when it's missing, it impacts the emotional, spiritual, and physical intimacy of a marriage.  Discover the strengths and weaknesses of your marriage with our free online Marital Health Assessment delightyourmarriage.com/health When

Oh, the pain of frustration, being consistently misunderstood, and having your needs (legitimate needs) consistently trampled upon. Both Jerry and Joyce felt it. And Jerry desperately looked for answers. Delight Your Marriage wasn't his first program -- but unfortunately, the other one gave advice that almost drove his wife to a nervous breakdown.  Jerry didn't get out of his marriage, though his frustration level (due to his hurt) was through the roof.  The pain was so deep for her, she couldn't even attend the church he pastored. Joyce was considering separation and even talking with lawyers.  But then Jerry decided to give Delight Your Marriage a try.  Now... a year later, Joyce not only loves her husband again, but "likes him," too. ("Liking" your spouse can be way harder than "loving" them.) She's actually looking forward to raising their small children together and is happy even being a pastor's wife now.  The healing that has taken place in just over a year, is now impacting every single person in thei

Join us for an inspiring conversation with Jenny, a loving housewife and mother of four from Finland. In this episode, Jenny shares her remarkable transformation journey and the positive impact it had on her marriage. Previously working as a nurse before having kids, Jenny and her husband made a conscious decision to prioritize their family and serve the Lord in a unique way. Through their involvement in a discipleship-making movement, they found Delight Your Marriage, a program that brought significant changes to their lives. Jenny's husband initially joined the men's program and experienced a profound transformation (from her perspective as the wife). Encouraged by his progress, Jenny recognized her own need for growth and decided to embark on her own journey. She realized that she had lost touch with her own needs while prioritizing the needs of her family, often neglecting her spiritual well-being. But she realized she was busy and God spoke to her heart that she was being a "Martha" far more than a "Mary

Mother's Day is almost here! (This Sunday!) Make sure the mom in your life is getting treated really nicely! She is WONDERFUL and deserves to be celebrated! I have a wonderful mom. She sacrificed so much for me. I am forever in her debt. As a mom myself... I believe sacrificing to be a good mom brings her greater joy than if she had never sacrificed at all.    Sacrifice. Duty. Responsibility.    Sounds antiquated, old-fashioned, and maybe even oppressive...?   Am I morally obligated to take care of my kids?  Did I assume the responsibility for their well-being when my husband and I enjoyed... ...ehemm... "actions with procreative potential"... which (happily) resulted in a child?   I would submit the answer is "yes."   I now lay down Feelings and pick up a life built upon proper values.  Hopefully, your mom did the same... otherwise, it would have been a very difficult existence for you.    The nature of a mother: assuming a role and duty to care for those souls entrusted to her.   What does this have to do w

This title was hard to come up with.   Essentially, I want you to have the tools and mindset to figure out how to set boundaries with yourself and with others when needed. Jesus was the servant of all.  He came to serve not to be served.  He was the most humble and meek.  And yet, Jesus set boundaries. A lot.  Here are a couple, but once you read this, you'll probably not be able to read a parable or look at the life of Jesus without noticing His leaning into boundaries over and over again.  Jesus disappointed people because his priority was God over people In Mark 1:35-39, Jesus wakes up early to pray, but his disciples come looking for him, saying that "everyone is looking for you." In Matthew 16:21-23,  Jesus tells his disciples that he must go to Jerusalem and suffer at the hands of the elders, chief priests, and scribes. Peter rebukes him, saying that this should never happen to him. Jesus responds by telling Peter that he is setting his mind on human things rather than God's things and calls him a

Pastor David had a rocky start with his marriage.    Facing his hurts wasn't what he actually wanted to do. He was nervous to bring it up to his wife -- they share all their finances. So he brought it up to her and said he wants to transform into the man, husband and father he wants to become.   Even only 4 weeks into the program, Pastor David's wife commented, "I have noticed a change. Keep it up. It was worth the money."   And she is not a physical touch kind of person, which was his highest love language. Yet, even in just those 4 weeks of implementing what was taught in the course, this has increased.   It's hard to face our pain, isn't it! It's tough to be vulnerable about the things we struggle with that are closest to our hearts...yes, it takes courage to open those wounds up so that we can get them healed.   Husband... wife... you don't have to struggle alone. Do you desire to grow but don't have a safe space to be open and real with what is going on in your heart and marriage?   We're here for that..

Our interview is about how to get a young person to read/do this workbook that could set them up for a successful dating and married life! --- WOW! I am honored and grateful! My goodness.    So, the story goes... yesterday morning Amazon told me that it might be 3 days before the workbook could be live... Pre-Dating Workbook: What you need to know and do before you start dating (and definitely during) Biblical guidance from a marriage trainer and coach https://amzn.to/40Hr21D   Eeek!    Of course, we've all been counting down the days and the launch day was Friday.    So yesterday (Thursday) I sent an ask to my list that they would pray that it would in fact be live on Friday.  And guess what posted late on Thursday.  By the time I saw it, somehow some clients had picked it up and already had purchased AND already had REVIEWED!!!   So, today BEFORE we even told our email list that it was live, it has been named #1 New Release for Christian Youth Ministry!!!!   WOW!    THANK YOU if you have already purchased!

Brett is fantastic! Firstly, many men have a similar past that we work with but don't share it openly. I really appreciate Brett's boldness to share and it encourages so many others! That yes, even for your history, there IS HOPE! My favorite quotes:  "Now, I can't wait to go home at night."    "[I have] closer friendships in MR than what I have in everyday life...It's unexplainable how you feel when you've got guys or brothers reaching out to you."   "The biggest thing is my relationship with Lord has grown."   His marriage is transforming, healing, and trusting again -- his friendships are deep and encouraging, and as a father, he's influencing his kids for the Lord.  (His wife is really liking the changes -- but he hasn't yet shared that he did the program.) His relationship with the Lord is thriving like never before! It's amazing to see what God has done! I hope you will feel encouraged too! Blessings, Belah PS - If you'd like help like Brett, sign up for a Clarity Call at delightyourmarriage.com/c

You are teaching them.  Whether consciously or unconsciously, they're observing you and figuring out whether you have something they want.  Do they want the marriage you have? Is marriage worth it? Do you have guidance that would actually give them the result they want?   If you’ve been around Delight Your Marriage a while, you know we are passionate about helping marriages get better, SO THAT they can do God’s will better in the world.    But what if your marriage was set up with the right framework, role modeling, and good habits BEFORE you even started your dating relationship?    Since we started teaching marriage, we have always been told that they WISHED they knew this before ever getting married.      And it’s so true.   So many people didn’t start out with the tools.    They’ve never even seen a good marriage! But your son or daughter could get a leg up. They could get started on the spouse pursuit journey by having not only a great example (you!) but also the tools clearly articulated for them. What

When the crisis occurs outside of your home, if it's not peaceful and healed in your marriage, it becomes an additional stress instead of support in a horrible time. I am not sure if you’ve lived through war – literally – but if so, you’ll relate to Alex. I’ll share more about him in a second.   Every member of our DYM team witnessed life transformation in their own marriages (first) and then God seemed to give us a need for a position right as He gave us the person who fits that need.    But with our need for a tech and automations specialist, the expertise was so specific that it was important we go for someone who is foremost extremely good in their specialized field, as we can’t risk the infrastructure of the organization to not work correctly.   That’s when, last April we hired Alex as our tech and automations consultant. He has amazing experience in the field, with our specific systems, and has worked with hundreds of clients, some businesses making millions per year and one even $50M per year.   It w

Are you exhausted from the fight? The struggle? The resist and then then fail? Then try, then fail, then good, then fail, then try again, then fail...   Maybe you have a few good days, weeks even months...   But it's lurking in the background. Waiting to take you down again. And who knows how long you'll be down this time. Maybe it'll be just this once... maybe you'll be down forever. Maybe you'll never get back out. Maybe you'll never be the man God has called you to be. Truly. Maybe you'll squander the life He gave you...      And no one knows. And the ones that do, don't understand.   Men. I honor you. In your suffering.    I hear you.  I hear you. I hear you.   You are not alone. And there is hope.  And there is a way out.      It's Good Friday tomorrow. And you know the story. And you know the ending. And you know what happens. And you sing the songs. And you attend the service. And you have heard it all -- maybe you even conduct the service. And you know the stuff -- maybe you've memorized it. You teach

So... a serious ex-military gent (on his way to becoming a drill sergeant) decided it was time to fix his marriage.  Then as a business leader and a leader in the church, people would come to him for marriage advice. Their connection looked good on the outside, but sadly it was lonely. When he started the program, he began to realize maybe he should stop giving marriage advice.  He shares in his story how hard, but necessary it was to become humble.  Which as, Andrew Murray says, is the chief sin -- all others flow from it. Murray goes on to say, if you think you don't struggle with pride, sadly, you do more than those who are at least aware of it.  We all have to fight against pride. Steve decided to take on that challenge. (Maybe his military background helped?) And he decided to listen and deeply consider if his heart, perceptions, and approach have been wrong in his marriage.  He not only became humble, but he also became teachable and asked the Lord to change him from the inside. And that caused him to l

"Unbelievable." (ie: There's no way that's true.) That's how he felt when he heard the transformation stories. He was in a place of desperation.  Being in the marriage felt like a chore.    But that glimmer of hope that kept him listening to the transformation stories made him wonder if he should take the leap of faith and schedule the free Clarity Call ( delightyourmarriage.com/cc )  Well, he did.  His wife didn't know.   We don’t make these stories up. Maybe your marriage could be next. We invite you to schedule a free, no obligation call at delightyourmarriage.com/cc. What do you have to lose? This could permanently change your life.    From a graduate:  “After 36 years of marriage and being ‘settled’ (or maybe complacent?) in the rhythm of our relationship, I figured something along the lines of, ‘Well, for us this must be as good as it’s going to get!’   Now, two months and eight modules later, my feeling is, ‘If it can be this good already, and I still have four modules to go, where are we going from he