The Mating Grounds Podcast

Making sure you pick a good mating market is probably the single most important choice you make in terms of its impact on your dating success. So it's crucial that you get it right. Luckily Tucker and Geoff are here to walk you through the whole process. After listening to this podcast, you'll understand why a good mating market is so important, how to choose a city to live in (we'll recommend a few) and where to live in that city, and how to pick specific mating markets that match up with the qualities that you have to offer.

In part two of her interview, Dr. Kristina Durante shares more great, actionable insights from her research and her own dating experiences. Over the remainder of the discussion Tucker and Dr. Durante will tell you how men's (and women's) mating preferences shift over time, what that means for guys in terms of mating strategy, and why Dr. Durante is turned on when her husband takes the trash out.

If a girl is already in a relationship when you meet her, but she engages you and you want to keep seeing her, then the first thing to do is to be honest with yourself about what you want from her. Do you just want to have sex with her, or do you want a longer-term relationship? Depending on your answer to that question, there are a few different ways this scenario can play out.In this episode Tucker, Geoff and Nils walk you through what you need to be thinking about in each different scenario in order to make the best decisions and get what you want from your relationship with her, whatever that may be.

Long distance relationships are incredibly difficult. As a general rule, they don't work. If you want your relationship to succeed, there are a few key things you need to do to maximize your chances of making it work. Tucker, Geoff and Nils tell you what you need to know, as well as some insights from their own experiences.

A lot of guys are ashamed of some aspect of their sexuality, and this affects their interactions with women. If you are one of them, it's OK, you're not alone. This is common, and there are solutions.   In this episode, we talk through some of the major issues surrounding shame and sexuality, and we'll help you understand some ways to possibly fix the problem.

For sex, men compete for women, but when it comes to dating, women are actually competing for the best guys. If you've implemented our advice so far and have stepped your game up and become one of those "best" guys, then you could be in a position where you have a choice of women to date.   In this episode Tucker, Nils and Geoff tell you what traits to look for in a good long-term partner, why certain traits are important, and how they'll play out in the course of a relationship. Armed with this knowledge you'll be able to choose great women to date.

This interview with Dr. Kristina Durante is your chance to listen to a beautiful, intelligent woman's honest insights into what you can learn not only from her research, but also from her own personal experiences. After listening to this podcast you'll understand why women like bad boys, which qualities of your own you should highlight to compete with these guys, and why women spend so much time and money buying shoes.

Hooking up at a bar is a numbers game. You just keep trying until you find a girl you like who likes you. But online dating is NOTHING like that, and if you adopt that mindset, you will fail.   To succeed with online dating, whether on Tinder, Hinge, eHarmony or the hundreds of other sites out there, you need to get specific about what makes you attractive, and make sure you display those traits to women who will like them.   With help from previous guest Dr. Carin Perilloux, Tucker and Dr. Miller will help you to crack the code of online dating profiles, and create a page that demonstrates your best traits and attracts the right kind of women for you.

Some girls just want to get high, and are looking for a co-conspirator, but if that's not your thing then it can get awkward between the two of you. In this Q&A we'll tell you exactly how to handle the situation so that you can defuse the tension and both enjoy yourselves without making her feel judged.

Being very tall presents a couple of challenges. If you're a lot taller than average, you may be good on the basketball court but it can lead to certain challenges when interacting with women. But if you handle it right, then your height can actually be an advantage. Luckily this is an issue that our own Nils Parker has dealt with. Nils can tell you exactly what he does to make women feel safe around him, and along with Tucker and Dr. Miller's input, you'll learn exactly what to do and how to act in order to signal your softer side while also maximizing the benefits of your height.

If you've been listening to these podcasts and applying our advice, then you'll eventually reach a stage where you actually have a choice in the women you can hook up with (or you may already be there, if so, good for you). When that happens, there are certain types of women you should look for and hook-up with, and others you need to avoid (or pay the price).   Luckily, you can benefit from our experience, because we've been with all types.   By the end of this episode you'll know what to look out for in order to find great women who are open to hooking up, and you'll also know what the big negative warning signs are - and the potential costs of ignoring them.

John Romaniello is an entrepreneur, fitness trainer and best-selling author. In this interview Roman opens up about his transformation from skinny, dorky high school kid to becoming a bodybuilder, a model and a guy who's friends with Arnold Schwarzenegger.   No one goes through that kind of change without learning a few things. Specifically, Roman will tell you how to develop confidence, the small change that dramatically improved his interactions with women, and how to highlight your good qualities in an authentic, organic way.

A lot of guys just want short-term hook-ups, but they have problems both accepting this for themselves, and communicating it to women. In answer to a listener question, Tucker, Nils and Dr. Miller tell you how to solve both of these problems, and explain how to be honest with yourself about what you want, and how to find women who want the same thing as you do.

If you're focusing on the getting a girl's number, you're missing the point. In this Q&A, Tucker and Dr. Miller are joined by our previous guest, Dr. Carin Perilloux, to explain you exactly how you're missing the point and what to do to fix it. After this episode, you'll be able to not only get her number in a natural, organic, anxiety-free way, you won't even focus on numbers at all.

Being short is a disadvantage in mating, particularly in short-term mating situations (and reaching the top shelf). That's life, and it's not always fair. But there are things you can do, and there are ways to compensate for your lack of height. In this episode you'll learn what to focus on instead, as well as some important tactical things you can do to minimize the disadvantage.

All relationship types are valid; from one night stands to a forever marriage, and everything in between, and most guys are going to experience all of them through the course of their lives. The question is not what kind of relationship you are allowed to have, it's which one is right for you at this point in your life?   That’s what this episode is about–explaining all the different types of relationships you can have with women, and helping you understand which ones can be right at what times in your life. By the end of this episode you’ll know everything you need to know about the different types of relationship and you’ll be able to decide what it is that you really want and pursue it.

This is your chance to hear a smart, attractive women talk about where you're going wrong with women, and how you can fix it.   Dr. Carin Perilloux has a PhD in Evolutionary Psychology and has worked with some of the biggest names in the field. She also happens to be incredibly attractive - so she speaks from a place of both academic and practical knowledge and can translate that into actionable advice. She'll tell you how to interpret what a woman is wearing, what guys ignore that is important to women, and how to tell if a woman is attracted to you.  

Every guy has issues--that doesn't make you weak, it makes you human. Facing and dealing with your shit is what makes you a man.  There's a right way and a wrong way to do it. If you're too open about it, you'll come off as desperate, weird and very unattractive to a girl. But if you do it right, you show that you're a man who can both admit that you have problems (like everyone) and deal with them yourself. In this Q&A Tucker, Nils and Dr. Miller tell you how to find the right balance, so you can build trust with women while still being attractive.

If you keep doing what you've always done, you'll keep getting what you've always got. To meet new kinds of women, you have to change your actions. Luckily, you can learn from someone who has walked this path.   In this episode, Tucker, Nils and Dr. Miller outline what steps you need to take to meet new kinds of women. And this isn't just theory - Tucker himself is the perfect case study. No one has (or, rather, had) more of a reputation for being a player than Tucker Max, but he's now happily in a long-term relationship with a fantastic woman. He'll tell you exactly how he did it, and how you can make that change yourself. 

Have you ever been put in the friendzone by a girl you really like? Of course you have. Everyone has. And once that happens, there are a few different things you can do. Tucker, Nils and Dr. Miller tell you exactly what your options are, and what you need to ask yourself before deciding what to do next. Once you've listened to this podcast you'll realize it's actually a very simple decision to make.