The Mating Grounds Podcast

Signalling is one of the most important things you need to understand about communication, and in fact, it is the foundation that everything else is built upon. Almost everything that we’re going to tell you about sex and dating is about the signals you’re sending out or how you should interpret signals other people are sending out, and this episode tells you what you need to know.

This week we interview Jordan Harbinger, the co-founder of the Art of Charm, a podcast (and coaching company) that helps guys be better with women. In this episode, Tucker and Jordan discuss where the PUA industry is going wrong, and the correct way to approach dating and relationships.

One of the defining emotions in all types of relationships is fear. In this Q&A, Tucker, Geoff, and Nils address this issue, spurred by a high school kid who likes a girl, but is scared she may not feel the same way. This is a great question, and this episode begins by explaining why the question is so good, then teaches you everything you need to know about how to deal with fear in cases like this, including what the signs are that a girl is interested, how to ask her out, what the best first date is, and what to do if things don’t work out.  

In America, it can be very hard for Asian guys to have success with non-Asian women. In this Q&A, Tucker, Geoff, and Nils discuss what to do if you’re an Asian guy struggling with non-Asian women, and what you need to do in order to solve this problem.

Many guys think they have to play it cool and act aloof around women. But what about high energy guys? Do they have to reign in their impulses, or is there a way to use their energy to their benefit when talking to women? In this Q&A, Tucker, Geoff, and Nils discuss the downsides and upsides that come along with being a high-energy guy, and how to turn it to your advantage.

This week’s episode is part one of a thirteen-part series explaining everything you need to know to become attractive to women. In the first part of this series, Tucker and Geoff discuss their embarrassing stories from when they were younger, sharing all the mistakes they made and what they learned from them. This is the funniest episode yet, and Tucker shares the discovery that quintupled his success.  

This week’s guest is Dr. Diana Fleischman, an Evolutionary Psychologist at the University of Portsmouth. In this episode, Dr. Fleischman, Tucker, and Geoff discuss a wide range of topics including how nerdy guys can be attractive, men’s desire for sexual novelty, the importance of hygiene, ethics and attraction, and the importance of finding someone who fits with your personality.   

In this Q&A, Tucker, Geoff, and Carin discuss how to get better in bed. The first step is understanding what it even means to be "good in bed," which entails figuring out why you want to get better and what your specific goals are. Once you've done that, the best path forward is experimentation--because there is no such thing as one way to be "good in bed." Tucker, Geoff, and Carin explain exactly how to do this.

In this Q&A episode, Tucker, Geoff, and Carin discuss what to say when a woman asks how many women you've slept with. There are several ways to approach this, and each situation is different. When a woman asks this question, she has a reason for asking it, and this episode explains how to find out that reason and address it.  

In this Q&A episode, Tucker, Geoff, and Carin discuss how living with your mom affects your mate value, and what you can do to frame it in the best way possible. 

Online dating is one of the most important and best developments over the past hundred years in dating. There is no reason not to be using it. In this episode, Tucker and Geoff teach you everything you need to know to succeed using online dating.  After listening to this podcast, you'll know how to build a profile to show your best qualities, you’ll know what kinds of messages women do and don’t respond to, and you’ll know how to set up the perfect first date. Online dating is one of the best ways to meet women, and the information in this episode is invaluable for helping you learn how to utilize it. 

Tucker interviews Dr. Scott Barry Kaufman, the Scientific Director of The Imagination Institute, and author of books such as Mating Intelligence Unleashed:The Role of the Mind in Sex, Dating, and Love, and Ungifted: Intelligence Redefined. In this episode Tucker and Dr. Kaufman discuss, the false dichotomy between alpha and beta males, how to become more attractive, and how to develop true confidence.

In this Q&A episode, Tucker, Geoff, and Carin discuss how to deal with the fear of sexual humiliation that can come with having a small penis. This is a common hangup that lots of guys have, and Tucker, Geoff, and Carin explain why having a small penis isn't (usually) something to worry about, and how to please a woman with whatever you have.  

It may seem unequal and unfair that guys always approach women. Why can't women come after men, right? It's not that simple. There are plenty of very good evolutionary, psychological and social reasons why men tend to do the approaching, and not the other way around.   In this episode Tucker, Geoff and Carin Perilloux explain the biological and social factors behind why men approach women, and Carin also explains the risks women face in mating situations, which are every bit as daunting as the risks guys take (they are just different).   We also cover the way to flip the situation and have women come to you: be famous. Tucker can tell you first-hand what that's like, and the risks that brings with it as well (it can be great, but it's not all great).   Finally, if you want to meet women in lower-risk situations without being judged, then we'll tell you how to do that too.  

In this Q&A episode, Tucker, Nils and Geoff tackle the problems of a professional magician. When you have a dumb-sounding or weird job that turns people off, then you have to change how you're framing it. You need to describe the job in a way that sounds less geeky, and also find women who are into the type of job you do.   After this episode you'll know how to frame your job in a much more attractive light. As a bonus, the guys also detail exactly where this caller is going wrong in his conversations with women, and how to fix it.

Contrary to what you might think, bars and clubs are not the best places to meet women. In fact, they're probably the worst possible place you can imagine.Instead, you should make your dating life an extension of your social life. We'll tell you exactly what this means and how to do it, giving you specific examples of things you should try so you can expand your social life and meet plenty of great women without ever having to talk to a stranger in a bar. Most importantly, we'll explain to you how to think about finding activities, so that you don't just have to repeat our suggestions, but can think of your own.

Today's guest is author, entrepreneur, blogger and semi-professional football player Scott Britton. Scott is a guy who was popular in high school and college because he played football, but once he left college, lost all those advantages and had to learn from the ground up how to be really good with women. In this interview Scott reveals his best answers to the most common questions she'll ask, how to escalate touch with a girl in a non-creepy that makes her feel comfortable, and the right questions to ask her make sure you have a great conversation. After this podcast, you'll know exactly what to do for the first 20 minutes of an interaction with any woman.

In this Q&A Tucker, Nils and Geoff deal with the issue of how to tell a woman that you don't want children. A lot of women might say they're OK with this at first, but then change their mind later, causing problems down the line.   Luckily, there's an easy solution to this. Tucker, Geoff and Nils tell you exactly what to say to avoid this problem ever arising (hint: this is the only time it's OK to lie to a woman).

If you're uncomfortable that you still haven't lost your virginity, then don't despair. The first thing is that you've owned up to it, admitted to yourself that you're not happy, and that you want to do something about it. Good for you. And thankfully, there is light at the end of the tunnel. You actually have a couple of options when it comes to solving this problem. In this Q&A Tucker, Geoff and Nils set out the different paths you can take, and what your next steps should be.

This is understandably a pretty common question. If you're with a girl who has some qualities that you really like, and a few that you don't, then it's natural to want to just change those few bad qualities about her. If you think this way about the person you're with, then you need to listen to this episode. Tucker, Carin and Geoff get straight to the point and tell you exactly how to deal with this situation, and what your next steps should be. Once you understand the issue properly, it's actually a simple solution.