Intentional Living With Tanya Hale

So today we go into detail about how to coach yourself.  We will discover how to decide what the circumstance is, and what your thoughts are.  Then we'll discuss how to fill out the thought model to come to an awareness of how your thoughts impact and create your feelings, actions, and the results of your life.  This is the basic process for learning how to see yourself more clearly and understand how you can take more control of your life.

What do boundaries have to do with healthy relationships?  Everything!  Today we're going to talk about how our thoughts can help us to respect other people's boundaries so we can have greater connection and satisfaction in our relationships.  

You know that lady that offended you last week?  She didn't really offend you.  She just acted like a human.  You chose to take her words or actions and think about them in such a way that you hurt your own feelings.  Getting offended is such a "go-to" when we don't want to take responsibility for our own feelings, but feeling offended is entirely up to us.  We choose what to think about what other people do or say, they actually don't have any control at all -- unless we give it to them.  Join me today as we talk more in-depth about how we can never be offended again.

Oh my gosh!  How many of us find ourselves totally stuck in life sometimes?!?  Definitely me.  We're in a situation and we can't figure out how to get out of it and move on.  Well, today we're discussing how to get unstuck.  What are the types of thoughts that keep us stuck and what are the types of thought that get us unstuck and keep us moving forward and progressing?  I know this is a shocker, but it all begins with our thoughts.  

Adversity.  Just the word can cause us to shrink back and want to hide in a corner.  But despite all of its struggles and challenges and frustrations, adversity is one of the greatest blessings in our lives.  It can take us from a life of stagnation to a life of growth and happiness. Today we discuss all the ways adversity is actually a huge blessing in our lives.

This is the second half of an interview I had with my 19 year old daughter, Allison, almost four years after my divorce.  She showed up with some vulnerability talking about the effects the divorce has had on her, both good and bad.  If you know a teenager impacted by divorce, this is insightful to see things from one child's perspective on her parents' divorce.  

This is the first half of an interview I had with my 19 year old daughter, Allison, almost four years after my divorce.  She showed up with some vulnerability talking about the effects the divorce has had on her, both good and bad.  If you know a teenager impacted by divorce, this is insightful to see things from one child's perspective on her parents' divorce.  

For many of us, our past can be one of the biggest obstacles we have to overcome in this life.  Experiences from when we were younger, or even just last week, can weigh us down with feelings of worthlessness, anxiety, frustration, and anger.  In this episode we are discussing how to see things from our past as things in the past, and not something to dictate our today or tomorrow.  Here's a hint - it has everything to do with how we choose to think about them!

It is so easy to get caught up in the blame game!  It's just such a natural part of being a human.  But blaming instead of taking responsibility is a place where we become the victim, a place where we have no control over where we are and how we got there.  Responsibility is a place of empowerment where we realize that we are in control of our thoughts, our feelings, our actions, and ultimately the results in our lives.  Join me today as we discuss what blame looks like, and how to move from blame to responsibility.

Alright.  Today we're hitting some of the basics of self-coaching, figuring out how to tell the difference between the facts in our story and our thoughts in our story.  This is the first and most important skill to master in being able to start moving towards a more healthy emotional life and being in control of our emotions and how much drama we experience.  

All of us find ourselves in a place of overwhelm at times.  Today we're discussing how to get out of it, and how to keep from going there as often and as deep.  

Setting and accomplishing goals is one of the hallmarks of all successful people.  Today we're discussing five of the biggest mistakes we can make when setting goals, and how to combat them.

Who are the people you trust to be in your inner circle?  These are the friends who are closest to you, who know your hopes and dreams and fears, and with whom you can be most vulnerable.  We have a lot of friends in our lives, but there are just a few who have earned the right to the title of inner circle.  Join me today as we discuss the qualities of an inner circle friend, which can be very different from a Friday night Netflix friend.

For most of my life I believed the adage "forgive and forget", and in so doing, I thought that if I forgave someone I also had to trust them.  Not so!  Forgiveness and trust are not the same thing.  In today's episode, we discuss what forgiveness is and why having a forgiving heart doesn't require that we also have a trusting heart.

Being nice and being kind -- they're not the same thing.  Join me today as we discover why it's so much better to be kind than to be nice.  

So many of us live our lives in such an unsettled place.  We don't feel we're good enough, or strong enough, or beautiful enough.  We really struggle to accept ourselves for who we are, our strengths and weaknesses, and we struggle to accept others as well.  Today we'll discuss how we can live a more content life, a life full of acceptance and growth.  

Do you have a growth or a fixed mindset?  And why would it matter?  Based off of Carol Dweck's phenomenal book "Mindset", today we are discussing what the difference is between a growth and a fixed mindset and why it's important.  Trust me.  It matters.

Our self-worth is not something we build up, but rather something we discover.  Each of us is a person of worth just because we are -- just because we are human.  Discovering that we are enough is the most important thing we can do in this life because it fuels every decision that we make.  Join me today as we discuss how to discover that we are enough.

Unconditional love is perhaps the biggest secret to truly being happy and content in life, and it's probably not what you think!  Join me today as we discuss what unconditional love is, what is isn't, and how to get there.

In the last two episodes we discussed what boundaries are and why they are so important.  In this episode we will talk about 9 steps we can take to implement healthier boundaries into our lives.