Sinopsis
Non-Monogamy Help is a relationship advice podcast for people in non-monogamous or polyamorous relationships. With the help of a therapist with over a decade of experience, your host Lola Phoenix, answers the questions your questions about rules, hierarchies, unicorns and more.
Episodios
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Episode 176 - Hierarchy vs Life Partner
20/02/2026 Duración: 22minTrying to figure out if polyamory is for you while dealing with new relationship energy can be a significant struggle.That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com
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Episode 175 - Re-release Not Good Enough
06/02/2026 Duración: 18minSometimes when your partner wants non-monogamy you can be left feeling like you’ve failed or not done enough.That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com
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Episode 174 - Kitchen Table Parallel Polyamory
23/01/2026 Duración: 14minIs it possible to be kitchen table polyam and also have parallel relationships? Absolutely. There is no rule. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com
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Episode 173 - Polyamory Chicken
09/01/2026 Duración: 25minYour brain is telling you a lie: slowing down their relationship won't make your relationship safer.That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com
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Episode 172 - Forcing Kitchen Table
26/12/2025 Duración: 24minMetas don't owe you friendship and how being too involved in their drama makes it worse.That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com wi
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Episode 171 - Deconstructing Monogamy
12/12/2025 Duración: 22minDon't just follow the cultural script and behave like you're basically a monogamous couple with disposable arm candy.That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com
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Episode 170 - Dating Serial Monogamists
21/11/2025 Duración: 31minAll relationships end anyway. Some just come with a clearer expiration date than others.That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record y
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Episode 169 - Marriage and Polyamory
07/11/2025 Duración: 23minThere is one throne and one person who can sit in that throne, and right now that's you—but you can be replaced.That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your ques
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Episode 168 - Kitchen Table Drama
24/10/2025 Duración: 20minThe hinge is not hinging, and then the two metas have to negotiate with each other like the hinge is a hostage.That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or r
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Episode 167 - Surprise Polyamory
10/10/2025 Duración: 26minYou don't get told who you're in a relationship with. That's something you decide yourself.That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record yo
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Episode 166 - Exclusivity in Polyamory
26/09/2025 Duración: 19minJust because you're secondary doesn't mean you should accept being treated like you don't matter.That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or rec
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Episode 165 - Re-Release Primal Panic
12/09/2025 Duración: 22minThis week I'm re-sharing Episode 104 on Primal Panic because it's one of the most popular episodes and you might have missed it!That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with y
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Episode 164 - Too Much Labour
29/08/2025 Duración: 30minStop carrying the entire mental load of your relationship while your partner coasts on your effort.That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your q
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Episode 163 - People Pleasing in Polyamory
15/08/2025 Duración: 41minAre you people pleasing to the point where you think you've over corrected but really, you're under-correcting?That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or r
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Episode 162 - Setting Real Boundaries in Polyamory
01/08/2025 Duración: 25minYou should never have to ask, 'What if someone crosses my boundary?' Because the boundary, in and of itself, by definition, should include what you will do if it is crossed.Why your brain processes relationship conflicts at night and how to break the cycle without exhausting your partner.That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.This episode also features an ad for a Polyamory Retreat in Spain in September hosted by Dedeker Winston and Orit Krug. For more information about the retreat visit multiamory.com/retreatThat's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode
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Episode 161 - Bedtime Relationship Rumination
18/07/2025 Duración: 25minWhy your brain processes relationship conflicts at night and how to break the cycle without exhausting your partner.That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.This episode also features an ad for a Polyamory Retreat in Spain in September hosted by Dedeker Winston and Orit Krug. For more information about the retreat visit multiamory.com/retreatThat's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://bet
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Episode 160 - What A Boundary Is
27/06/2025 Duración: 16minHow many times should you let someone violate your boundaries and can you rebuild trust after?That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on
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Episode 159 - No Contact Metamour
13/06/2025 Duración: 12minWhen you’re no contact with a nesting metamour, can you make a relationship with your shared partner work?That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on
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Episode 158 - Hierarchies and Polyamory
30/05/2025 Duración: 38minWhen your primary partner only wants to have threesomes other partners and not you, it may not be a good sign.That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on
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Episode 157 - Solo Not Celibate
16/05/2025 Duración: 22minTrying polyamory with a solo polyam person could be potentially difficult for a monogamous person.That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonog