The Chick Whisperer Podcast

Co-Host Dr. Thomas Jordan (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/jordan) My guest is the author of the bestselling book Learn To Love: Guide To Healing Your Disappointing Love Life. In it, Tom Jordan defines your 'psychological love life' and how it often leaves us straight-up disappointed. We can be disappointed in the partners we choose to begin with, leading us to cycle people in and out of our lives. Or, we can be disappointed in the context of the same relationship over and over, inevitably leading us to feel like we've settled. What if you've made a horrible choice when it comes to the woman you're with? What if you regret your long-term relationship? Do people really keep perpetuating bad relationship choices unconsciously? What changes can be expected from finally becoming conscious? What tragic phenomenon often happens the first time or two a person with a distorted picture of relationships actually meets someone who is potentially healthy for them? And along those same lines, what of the pandemic proportio

Co-Host Joe Buchoff (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/photos) Let's face it, a lot of men have become disillusioned about online dating these days. It seems as if the apps and dating sites have cornered the market on keeping everybody single, lonely and addicted to their product. But here's the thing...it is true--and always has been--that 5 percent of the men online are getting all the women. Nope, they're not necessarily the tall, rich, good looking ones. They're the ones who GET IT...and do the best with what they've got. Joe Buchoff is an online dating photographer out of Austin, TX who specializes in turning men from zeroes to heroes on dating apps. You'll find he has some interesting, if slightly controversial ideas on the subject. In fact, he goes against some of the most basic advice you've heard about online dating pics. Along the way we discuss whether or not women are looking for an excuse to swipe left, whether or not men should post 'selfies', and offer our take on the 'beautiful test' I found on Q

Co-Host Jeremy Gardner (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/mademan) My guest Jeremy Gardner has gone from a rough upbringing to being a high-profile 'crypto bro', which led to being a silicon-valley venture capitalist. But nowadays he has turned his attention almost completely to men's skin care. No doubt, I hear men grumble all the time about how women get all the advantages in the looks department--cosmetics, makeup, etc. And I mean, anyone who has ever seen the 'before and after' pics of female celebs with and without makeup knows exactly how that can play out. So then, what Jeremy advocates is leveling the playing field for us as men...starting with making our skin look its absolute best. He even goes so far as to say this could be THE major factor that will attract women who might otherwise not even notice you. In fact, he strongly advocates TELLING women you practice skin care as soon as you meet them to turn them on. As odd as that may sound, there is truth in the simple fact that women appreciate a man wh

Co-Host Joe Cordell (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/cordell) I felt like I already knew this guy, having heard his radio commercials here in San Antonio for like 12 years now. Maybe you've heard of Joe Cordell also, as his family law firm for men only is in 37 states and the UK now--all supported by radio ads. The real question, however, is why I couldn't have heard of this guy 19 years ago now when I needed him! In this unique episode, Joe talks more candidly than any divorce lawyer I've ever met about YOUR rights as a man, the patterns he sees in couples filing for divorce, why most divorces are likely preventable, and how to make the best decisions for yourself AND your family if confronted with the possibility of divorce yourself. Wait until you hear what Joe has to say about when men vs. women file for divorce. He also has surprising comments regarding the oft-used phrase 'in the best interest of the children'. Equally surprising is who Joe suggests you call FIRST when considering divorce (it's not a law

Co-Host John Mitchell (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/mitchell) 'At 50 I wanted to be married. I saw that was more important than making big money.' That's a quote from my guest co-host, John Mitchell. What's particularly significant about it is we're talking about a guy here who increased his income by twenty-five fold. So when he tells you finding the right woman was important to him, that's how serious he was. And yes...in his estimation he increased his success with women every bit as much as he increased his personal wealth. And no...he doesn't credit the latter with the former. Anyway, considering how David DeAngelo once built an empire out of merely doubling your dating, this is a man you should definitely listen to. Interestingly enough, John says it's all actually scientific. To be more specific, the most profound thing John has ever learned is what's directly responsible for it, and he spills the whole secret for you. What is the biggest problem about modern-day self-help that makes it counter-produ

Co-Host Ken Bechtel (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/yes) My guest Ken Bechtel has given a lot of thought to being true to oneself, or as he calls it, 'following your yes'. Essentially, the conversation on such a topic revolves around doing what we're told vs. thinking, feeling and intuiting for ourselves. Sometimes that's even trickier than it sounds. For example, what if someone else's 'yes' really sounds like it SHOULD be OUR yes also, but it really shouldn't be? So then, what if your yes isn't everyone else's yes? And what if everyone else's yes doesn't seem like yours? How do our heart, head and gut instinct work together properly to make the right 'yes' decisions at the right time? How do different personality types find their 'yes' in different ways? And how does following your 'yes' reconcile with finding purpose and meaning over the longer-term? What if following your 'yes' creates significant hardship in your life, or causes a rift in your family or your social circle? Are certain personality types b

Co-Host Emily McKay (https://www.deservewhatyouwant.com) Who knows why this topic hadn't been covered yet around here? My edumckayted guess is it probably had something to do with repressed memories. Yes, Emily and I both are survivors of first marriages affected by profound illness. And yes...we both strongly agree you would be better off avoiding psychotic people in general, especially the sexy female ones. But when you get right down to it, that's only one kind of woman you should definitely run away from. So why is it, then, that too many of us as men end up with the wrong woman? Is it that we ignore red flags? Is it failure to even recognize red flags at all? Or does low self-esteem compel us to settle, which is at least better than being lonely? Is it about being 'clouded by beauty vision'? For sure, some people--men OR women--are manipulated or even threatened by black-hearted partners into sticking around. Or what if it's something else entirely? Well, here at X & Y Communications we believe in de

Co-Host April Davis (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/april) Bringing up the topic of what women are looking for tends to trigger heavy-duty cynicism in men. After all, we've all met our fair share of golddiggers, and most of us have been thoroughly confused by women's signals our whole lives...especially the sexual ones. Well, my guest today is April Davis, president of the LUMASearch matchmaking firm in Minneapolis, MN. As a professional matchmaker, she spends her days immersed in helping women find exactly the kind of man they want. Naturally, women want some of the very things you suspect they do--and tune in as April mirrors some of my favorite soapbox points on the subjects without any hints from me. However, April's female perspective, balanced and practical such that it is, means you can expect some refreshing (and surprising) takes from her on where women's heads are nowadays. And rest assured, you don't have to lose your wallet or your dignity to thrill a woman. Quite the opposite, in fact. So what if

Co-Host Avrum Weiss (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/avrum) We don't talk about it. Many of us probably don't even admit it, at least not in public. But the vast majority of us as men are afraid of women...in at least one way, shape or form. We're afraid to approach them and talk to them. We're afraid of 'rejection'. We're afraid they'll cry foul and accuse us of doing something we didn't do. Or we're afraid we'll disappoint them, falling short of being a 'hero' of sorts. Maybe we're afraid of 'failing to deploy' when the chips are down, inside OR outside the bedroom. And you can be darn skippy sure plenty of us fear what will happen to us if ever dragged into divorce court. These fears are exacerbated in part because we as men are told we're not supposed to be afraid of anything, but it's all made even worse by the simple fact that we're ESPECIALLY not supposed to be afraid of women. But here's the truly crazy part. Have you ever stopped to consider that for the most part, women have NEVER imposed fear upon u

Co-Host Roger Williams (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/roger) Ever since the movie called The Bucket List came out in 2007, plenty of people have put together their own version of it. Not everyone, however. Plenty of people are apparently content to do the 'suburban sleepwalk', waking up to do what they did yesterday, and what they'll also do tomorrow, ad infinitum. Well, my guest Roger Williams had a wakeup call in late 2020 when he suffered a heart attack. Suddenly, it was obviously a mistake to assume we can wait until retirement to do everything fun or adventurous that we've ever dreamed of doing. These days, he's not only passionate about crossing off items from his own bucket list, he's all about encouraging you to build a bucket list of your own and do the same. He even hosts a show called The Crossing It Off Podcast. So then, what are the kind of items that are perfect to add to our own bucket lists? What would be a BAD reason to add a particular item to it? What are the kinds of things most men compl

Co-Host Jim Wolfe (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/wolfe) A lot of men get 'cold feet' even thinking about a long-term monogamous relationship. It sounds so, well...final to to them. I mean, what if you really do feel buried when you're married? I mean, does the saying have to be true, 'Life's a bitch, then you marry one'? Well, my returning guest and fellow relationship coach Jim Wolfe has some solid ideas on what to do before you even meet a woman to make sure you find yourself with one you're psyched to keep for the long-haul. And after you meet her, how can your masculine leadership have real, tangible effects on how attracted you stay to her over time? Why do people marry when they don't even like each other, let alone love each other? Even if you do love each other and are best friends, how can you proactively guard against resentment creeping into the relationship? What are important ways to stay interesting to each other even after the 'honeymoon period' of raging hormonal lust wears off? Wait a minute

Co-Host Frank Miniter (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/frank) Hard times create strong men. Strong men create good times. Good times create weak men. Weak men create hard times. And so the cycle goes. Where we are at this precise moment in history is open to debate, but one thing is for sure: both my returning guest Frank Miniter from America's 1st Freedom and I are all for being a stronger man rather than a weaker one, regardless. A major part of that is actively embracing masculinity rather than passively sitting on the sidelines. One of the first (and best) ways to affirm that mindset is to actively embrace personal freedom rather than surrendering it. Are you an individual, or are you part of a collective? According to Frank, you're the latter, he cannot see why any woman would take you seriously. And indeed, the same men who lapse into a societal 'coma of comfort' tend to be the same ones who get nowhere in their careers, drown in porn, fail to attract women, and then blame everyone else for their frustra

Co-Host Jonathon Aslay (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/aslay) My guest is fellow dating coach Jonathon Aslay, who conveniently enough for the topic at hand lives in Beverly Hills, CA. He's a good guy, and a smart one too, but he and I disagree on whether or not Hollywood is any good at portraying male/female relationships. That much is evident right from the get-go, and you'll be able to see why right away...and draw your own conclusions. What is the clear pattern to which guys in movies get women and which don't? Why does the wrong guy sometimes get the girl anyway? How come we as men never seem to prefer watching the movies with the best examples of how we could improve with women? Why is it that Hollywood demands post-modern definitions of masculinity, femininity and human relationships from its constituents in real life, yet still freely portrays the primal realities on-screen? What are the differences in how male/female relationships were depicted in the past compared to nowadays? Did John Hughes get it

Co-Host Marc Mawhinney (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/marc) Not so long ago my guest Marc Mawhinney was handed such a massive setback that it made front page news in his city, unreasonably--and falsely--painting him as the bad guy. But nowadays, he has emerged from setback to be one of the foremost experts in his field. This episode is all about turning hateful adversity into a growth opportunity, and Marc is the right man for the job. First off, let's just throw it on the table...how can it be that super high-profile politicians and media pundits can absorb such an overwhelming amount of downright hate, and still wake up in the morning excited to share their opinions with the world? What sets them apart? Is that necessarily even a good thing? Next, discover why being the freakin' man in charge brings its own set of responsibilities. And even if you're not so much as a 'Z-list' public figure, you'll hear what happens when the media gets a hold of your story, and what to do about it. How do you 'get ahead' of

Co-Host Dr. Gary Salyer (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/loveguide) Lots of people have 'trust issues' when it comes to dating and relationships. Where does that come from? And how much skepticism, jealousy and or doubt are acceptable, if not even healthy? Dr. Gary Salyer returns to the show to talk about all of this and more, especially at it all relates to trusting again after divorce. So, how DO we trust again after there has been a breach? And what is the definition of trust to begin with, anyway? What does 'infidelity' and 'cheating' even mean? And is it necessarily the same for every couple? When does a trust issue morph into something completely unreasonable, even to the point of being abusive? What is THE big key to developing the ability to trust again? (Hint: You have TOTAL control over it.) Every couple who has ever come to Gary for counseling has a common roadblock...find out what it is and eliminate it in your life before it's ever an issue. Could it be that one of the most celebrated personal tra

This is part two of our retrospective of the first nine 'lost episodes' of the erstwhile Chick Whisperer Podcast from 2007. Very soon after you click 'play' on this one, you'll figure out that the last episode was only a warmup. My co-host Steve 'The Dean' Williams an I go off on why it's harder to talk to women at bars and clubs than anywhere else, and how that just may be our own fault as men. Then, I reveal a weird secret to how I knew Emily was the right woman. Later, we cover how you too can know when you've found 'The One', and why if you've done so you'll never get bored with her. Next, wait until you get a load of our take on MILFs and 'cougars'. Also, find out why sex is like sales...as long as your salesmanship is coming from the right place. Following that is an interesting take on what women thought of the show, even at a time when most men's dating advice was 'underground'. How long should you wait to contact a woman after getting her number? What is the deal with so-called 'serial dating', and w

In honor of the first 15 years of the show, this is Part One of a two episode retrospective on the early days of what was then called The Chick Whisperer Podcast. The first 9 episodes were co-hosted with Steve 'The Dean' Williams. To this day, that is why I refer to my guests as co-hosts and the format is typically more discussion oriented than purely an interview. I've compiled my favorite clips from all of them. These two 'retrospective' episodes feature those clips, along with a bit of modern-day elaboration. This time, enjoy our 2007 take on the difference between younger guys and seasoned vets when it comes to success with women. Next, hear about the time I told my wife Emily early on that she might make a nice 'friend'. Then, I offer proof we've always been about respecting women even when the PUA movement seemed proud of taking advantage of them, long before the #metoo movement. Personal power as a masculine man has also always been a constant theme. Listen in as I call out the 'stripper's mentality' i

Co-Host Lia Holmgren (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/lia) My returning guest is sex coach extraordinaire Lia Holmgren, and the topic is maximizing the thrill, pleasure and overall experience of flings, one-night stands and 'friends with benefits' relationships. Why do so many people have so many hangups about sex purely for enjoyment, yet those same people often fantasize about it? Well, according to Lia, a whole lot of us would be happier if we simply expressed our sexual fantasies more freely. After all, more people are having 'recreational sex' than we might think. Even the Olympic villages every two years are stoked to the hilt with condoms...for good reason. So then, what are the six areas to focus on to make sure your sexually athletic endeavors are top-notch in quality and intensity? How can we make sporting sex even hotter and naughtier than it sounds...and how can we make it last? How do we make her want more, more, more? What do wolves have to teach us about sex? What if there are more than two play

Co-Host Emily McKay (https://www.deservewhatyouwant.com) Let's face it, when single moms and single dads get together, it's pure naive idealism that would cause us to expect we're creating our own Brady Bunch. The reality of blended families is much different. Emily and I have been there ourselves, and have first-hand experience. We know full well it can seem more like being put through a Vita-Mix than a mere blender. But does it have to be such an ordeal? Well, there's no doubt that bringing everyone involved under one roof is a challenge, but yes...there is plenty of 20/20 foresight that can minimize both the drama and the pain. And what if you're already all together and facing profound issues as a blended family? No worries, Emily and I have real, actionable answers for you as well. So, why is blending a family uniquely different when it comes to baseline compatibility measures? What should we think about BEFORE dating a single mom? How does selfishness creep in to the picture...often with devastating res

Co-Host Nick Gray (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/gray) My guest Nick Gray is the originator of The Cocktail Party Method to grow your social circle and influence. Throwing parties in his twenties led to his success and how you can do it too. Discover why holding even small parties at your home (and yes, it needs to be at YOUR place) is the perfect way to grow your social circle and your influence on many different levels. Next, Nick gets into the specifics on how to throw parties. How much should you spend, what should you buy, what should you NOT buy, and what other ways should you prepare? Find out why your party might even be BETTER if you live in a small or even relatively dumpy place. What if you are introverted or even have social anxiety? Does that mean you can't do what Nick's talking about? You'll stand up and cheer at his surprising response. What are the pros and cons to co-hosting a party with someone else? And how exactly do you build your guest list? Is it okay to invite people who you like, bu