Delight Your Marriage

Hi there! Belah here. Today, I have with me Luke Gilkerson of covenanteyes.com. First off, Luke talks about how he “fights the evils of pornography” every day for a living. He talks about how this massive industry has alarmingly invaded our homes and polluted the minds of our spouses, friends, and even our children. Luke also discusses about masturbation in children and whether or not this is an okay thing to happen. Listen in as he explains why masturbation happens and what our children are thinking when performing this act. Do they do it willfully or not? Is masturbation an act of immorality? He also openly shares some tips on how to react to the situation, how to manage your children so that they may be free from this act, and what the scripture says about masturbation.   All the links, resources, and show notes available at: http://delightyourmarriage.com/40 Sign up for my free, live online training: “Make Him Wild For You!” The 5 Secrets to Receive Love And Passion In God’s Plan delightyourmarriage.com/w

Hi there! Belah here. Today is Part II of my interview with Shae Bynes of aholythreesome.com and the Kingdom Driven Entrepreneur podcast. In this episode, Shae dives deeper into how communication with the Lord and with each other positively affects the marriage. She tells of her story, on how God talks to her and helps her get through everyday challenges, especially those that concern her marriage. Shae delivers such inspiring wisdom that we could all use in delighting our own marriages. She gives valuable tips on how to enrich your sexual intimacy and shares the practices she has been doing with her husband that have made their marriage sweeter and sweeter each year.   All the links, resources, and show notes available at: http://delightyourmarriage.com/38 Check out Part I at delightyourmarriage.com/37   Join me on my next webinar "Make Him Wild For You: The 5 Secrets To Receive Love & Passion In God's Plan" delightyourmarriage.com/webinar

Hi there! Belah here. Today, I have with me Shae Bynes, the woman (along with her husband) behind aholythreesome.com. She talks about unconditional love and how a marriage is made of three: you, your husband, and the lover of your souls---God. Shae believes that God should be the center of your marriage and should be part of all aspects of your marriage, especially the bedroom. Shae shares about the difficulties they had in their marriage and how they managed to work through their issues as a team---a team of three. Listen to Shae’s story and be inspired by her refreshing insight and how you, too, could enjoy the holiness of sexual intimacy in marriage.   All the links, resources, and show notes available at: http://delightyourmarriage.com/37   Join me on my next webinar "Make Him Wild For You: The 5 Secrets To Receive Love & Passion In God's Plan" delightyourmarriage.com/webinar

Hi there! Belah here. Today is Part II of my interview with Dr. Jessica McCleese of enhancingthedance.com where she mainly talks about the wonders of the female orgam, how it works, and why it is the way it is. You might think that something is off whenever you don’t feel like engaging in the act of sexual intimacy with your husband, but there’s actually nothing to worry about because that’s completely normal, according to this psychologist and sex therapist. She discusses the reasons on this episode! Join us as she shares helpful tips and tricks that could be helpful in delighting your marriage.   All the links, resources, and show notes available at: delightyourmarriage.com/36 Check out Part I at delightyourmarriage.com/35   Sign up for my free, live online training: “How To Love Him MOST” delightyourmarriage.com/webinar

Hi there! Belah here. Today, I have with me Dr. Jessica McCleese, of enhancingthedance.com a psychologist, sex therapist, and studying Christian sex educator who focuses on helping Christian couples improve intimacy in their marriage. In this episode, first how she has battled the pain of infertility. Then, she shares how she had gone through so much sexual abuse in her teen years and how this past experience has led her to become a withdrawn wife in the bedroom. She talks about how she always felt used during sex, and even throughout the marriage. You can beat the past too and become whole again after sexual abuse. Dr. McCleese tells us that it’s not the end, and we can keep moving forward because that is what God wants us to do---to move on and delight in the marriage he has blessed us with. Listen in as Dr. McCleese shares her tips and advices in overcoming your past and understanding that there is indeed life after sexual abuse.   All the links, resources, and show notes available at: http://delightyourma

Hi there! Belah here. It’s just me talking about the biggest issue I see in marriages, in husbands and in wives. We gravely misunderstand eachother. With my background in philosophy, feminist epistemology, sociology, anthropology, feminism and a wife who suffered many kids of abuse in her first marriage… I believe I bring a unique perspective to this topic.   Find out why he keeps asking and what it really means. Also find out why she isn’t as generous as you think she “should”. Its a grave misunderstanding and it’s time to clear this up!   All the links, resources, and show notes available at: delightyourmarriage.com/34   Sign up for my free, live online training: “Make Him WILD For You!” The 5 Secrets to Receive Love & Passion In God’s Plan delightyourmarriage.com/webinar My husband was on the last webinar and said “you have to let husbands listen in too, you think like a man but with a woman’s voice”. So, husbands are now welcome to listen in!

Hi there! Belah here. Today, I have with me Dr. Nina Burrowes, a psychologist and researcher studying sexual abuse victims and abusers. Dr. Burrowes gives brilliant insights on the intricate patterns of sexual abuse and the sad realities of our society. She talks about the biggest reasons victims are not reporting their abusers. We also dive into how offenders can be someone whom you wouldn't expect. She shares powerful insights about the physiological and psychological effects of sexual abuse and why it’s important to understand these reactions. She ends with hope for the future and practical steps we can take to protect and heal.   All the links, resources, and show notes available at: http://delightyourmarriage.com/33   Sign up for my free, live online training: “How To Make Him Wild For YOU!” delightyourmarriage.com/webinar

Hi there! Belah here. Today I have part II of Karen’s amazing journey through and after abuse in her childhood. And how she survived the horrific events of finding out her daughter’s sexual abuse. She talks more about how she handled the struggles she had as a child and how she made it through depression anxiety attacks which affected her life and especially the intimacy in her marriage. She talks about commitment, trust, honesty, and most of all, forgiveness. And how it has helped her heal and be more open. Listen in as she shares powerful and inspiring words that would definitely help steer you toward the right direction in your married lives.   All the links, resources, and show notes available at: http://delightyourmarriage.com/32 Check out Part I at delightyourmarriage.com/31   Sign up for my free, live online training: “How To Love Him MOST” delightyourmarriage.com/webinar

Hi there! Belah here. Today, I have with me Karen, a DYM listener who bravely shares her heartbreaking---yet very enlightening---story. She talks about her own struggles with anxiety and depression and thoughts of taking her own life due to abusive experiences from  childhood. She shares about the more recent issues of sexual abuse that has  ravaged her family. Not only did these affect her individually, but they have also taken a toll on her marriage. She tells about how the frustration and emotional torment affected the intimacy in her marriage. Listen as Karen takes us deep into how common sexual abuse is and how victims have been silent under a blanket of shame. Karen urges everyone to keep an seek help from trustworthy people who can help and support you.   All the links, resources, and show notes available at: delightyourmarriage.com/31   Sign up for my free, live online training: “How To Love Him MOST” delightyourmarriage.com/webinar

 Hi there! Belah here. Today is Part II of my interview with Brad and Kate from onefleshmarriage.com. In this episode, this godly couple talks about how they were able to overcome struggles in marriage, through opening up to each other. They share a most inspiring story of how they arrived at a better place in their marriage with three central things that you too could use in your own marriages. Join us as we tackle the intimacy hardships faced by married couples, new and old, and as we unwrap helpful tips to take yourselves out of the darkness and bring your marriage into the light.   All the links, resources, and show notes available at: http://delightyourmarriage.com/30 Check out Part I at delightyourmarriage.com/29 Sign up for my free, live online training: “How To Love Him MOST” delightyourmarriage.com/webinar

Hi there! Belah here. Today, I have with me Brad and Kate of onefleshmarriage.com. Together they bring us into the first few years of their marriage when they were too distracted by everyday life and it greatly affected their intimacy. Kate opens up about how it was tough for her to switch gears, from being a full-time mother and homemaker to being a wife who desires her husband. Brad pitches in about how he was too busy making a living for his family that he neglected his wife’s emotions and failed to understand her needs as a woman. Listen in as this godly couple takes us on a journey with their helpful tips and advice on how to vanquish selfishness in marriage and be more present in the relationship, especially during sexual intimacy.   All the links, resources, and show notes available at: http://delightyourmarriage.com/29   Sign up for my free, live online training: “How To Love Him MOST” delightyourmarriage.com/webinar

Hi there! Belah here. Today is Part II of my interview with Julie Sibert of intimacyinmarriage.com. Julie talks more about how to nurture your sexual intimacy by intentional habits and letting your spouse know exactly what you want in the bedroom. Hear her speak about how to get past the past, it’s okay to let your guard down, and drown out the insecurities. Listen to her tips on how to be proactive in the bedroom and shares the three chief things that are central to marital success.   All the links, resources, and show notes available at: http://delightyourmarriage.com/28 Check out Part I at delightyourmarriage.com/27 Sign up for my free, live online training: “How To Love Him MOST” (and receive my free guide!) delightyourmarriage.com/webinar

Hi there! Belah here. Today, I have with me Julie Sibert of intimacyinmarriage.com. Julie is a wife and mother to 2 boys and is passionate about creating a long-lasting marriage with sexual intimacy as a big part of it. She believes that marriage is to be enjoyed by two "grown ups" who are in love and have the desire for each other. Listen as Julie shares her experiences with her past relationship and how she has come to realize that sexual intimacy, alongside friendship and faith, is a major part of married life and should be nurtured and taken care of. Join in as Julie tells us how she keeps track of “healthy” relationship habits that will surely affect your marriage positively. All the links, resources, and show notes available at: http://delightyourmarriage.com/27   Sign up for my live, free online training: “How To Love Him MOST” delightyourmarriage.com/webinar  

Hi there! Belah here. Today I have Part II of my interview with founder of Covenant Spice. She talks about how she and her husband has made their marriage a priority, right after God and even before their children. Listen as she shares about the importance of resolving problems when they are still at the beginning stages, growing connection with your husband, and knowing each other’s limits. She tells us a refreshing story about just having fun with your hubby and how her business has served as their ministry that reaches out to others who struggle with the same intimacy issues.   All the links, resources, and show notes available at: http://delightyourmarriage.com/26   Or go directly to Covenant Spice to spice up your intimacy!   Sign up for my free, live online training: “How To Love Him MOST” delightyourmarriage.com/webinar

I would be honored if you have agreed (even if only with parts of DYM) or have been interested to hear the true heart behind it.... I have tried to be as honest as possible here. (There may be areas that-- I can't see currently, that were dishonest--but I tried!) I didn't listen to this again before uploading it. I plan not to listen to it, (but maybe I will when I need help getting refocused on what I think is God's heart is for DYM). I would be honored if you at some point were able to listen (though beware: my vulnerable heart is revealed in it). I do sincerely ask that you would choose wisdom if you have feedback for me--or want to talk about this to others--as Jame 3:17 says: "But the wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure; then peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere." Thanks and love, Belah

Hi there! Belah here. Today I have founder of Covenant Spice talking about her married life and how intimacy changed when she opened herself up to really enjoying it. She and her husband founded Covenant Spice, an online shop featuring intimacy products for married Christian couples. She shares about her wildly conservative upbringing and how it has required a journey through the Bible and discover that there’s a lot more to enjoy than she thought! Listen in as she talks about how it is perfectly okay for a married couple to use more interesting means and make sex exciting for you both! Shop at the adult toy store here and receive free shipping for this week! Just type in the coupon code: delight (Offer ends 5/5/15) Or go directly to Covenant Spice to spice up your intimacy!    All the links, resources, and show notes available at: http://delightyourmarriage.com/25   If you’re interested in joining the free, LIVE training “How To Love Him MOST” sign up at delightyourmarriage.com/webinar

Hi there, Belah here. Today is a BONUS (Friday) episode: Part III of Annie Lobert, hookersforjesus.net, and she shares her best intimacy tips for husbands and wives! Tips for how you can turn on your wife tonight. And for the ladies: how you can understand your husband at a whole other level! The underlines the truth that there is hope for your marriage. And I deliver a challenge at the end that I hope you and your spouse pays attention to. I believe God wants to do some incredible things in your marriage and this world. Listen in!   Find all the show notes and resources at delightyourmarriage.com/24   Challenge links: For men: Delightyourmarriage.com/dignity For women: Delightyourmarriage.com/webinar

Hi there! Belah here. Today is Part II of Annie Lobert, hookersforjesus.net, talks about how one can leave the sex addictions whether it is or inappropriate fantasies, porn, and using call girls. Its so sad but a reality and it is important to understand and be ready to resist. God cares about every person struggling in this sin and He wants to give you hope and inspiration to fight against this significant struggle.   All the links, resources, and show notes available at: http://delightyourmarriage.com/23   Sign up for my free, live training and receive my FREE guide! delightyourmarriage.com/webinar

Hi there! Belah here. Today, I have Annie Lobert of hookersforjesus.net talking about her story from being coerced and abused in the sex industry. She has been through horrifying experiences, where she was beaten into submission by her then boyfriend who ended up controlling her as a pimp for years and how she was raped at gunpoint multiple times. Since her amazing transformation, she has now been married to an awesome man for 6 years and has 3 step-children, she shares hope in the midst of so much brokenness. All the links, resources, and show notes available at: http://delightyourmarriage.com/22 Sign Up for my free, live Online Training (for wives only!) at delightyourmarriage.com/webinar

Hi there! Belah here. Today I have with me Dr. Joel Kahn of drjoelkahn.com and author of The Whole Heart Solution. Dr. Kahn is practicing medical doctor who specializes in cardiology and gives quick, but important keys to support your sexual health. He gives pointers on how to achieve a better lifestyle to support a great sex life, and how wives can support their husbands in this journey toward optimal health. Listen as he explains practical insights on making your health work in the bedroom!   All the links, resources, and show notes available at: delightyourmarriage.com/21 If you’re interested in joining the free, LIVE training “How To Love Him MOST” go to delightyourmarriage.com/webinar