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In today’s episode, we cover chasing your dreams with Ben Nemtin. Ben is a #1 New York Times bestselling author, co-founder of The Buried Life movement, and inspirational keynote speaker who has delivered over 500 keynotes to brands and Fortune 500 companies. Introduction It’s easy to get caught up in the daily grind and forget about all the things we want to accomplish in life, so what can you do to create a bucket list that excites you, surround yourself with people who encourage you to chase your dreams, and share the bucket list in such a way that fires you up and motivates you? What to Listen For Introduction – 0:00 How did The Buried Life tv show get started? Discomfort Means Growth – 13:36 What are the 3 kinds of people around you who will encourage or discourage you from chasing your dreams? How do you find people who will support you in accomplishing your goals and dreams? Creating the Best Bucket List – 25:46  What’s the best way to create a bucket list to accomplish all the things you

In today’s episode, we cover quitting with Annie Duke. Annie is a national best-selling author, former professional poker player, corporate speaker, and consultant in the decision-making space, as well as Special Partner focused on Decision Science at First Round Capital Partners, a seed stage venture fund. Annie’s latest book is Quit: The Power of Knowing When to Walk Away.  Quitting has acquired a bad reputation in a culture of grit and hustle, but even the most successful people quit things they’re working on frequently, so what is stopping you from quitting a failing project or relationship, and what questions can you ask yourself and others to determine when the right time to quit is? What to Listen For Introduction – 0:00 Why is knowing to quit just as important as grit and determination? How do you know when to quit? – 14:58 Why do many of us quit things too late and waste valuable time that we could be spending on the next success? What are some great examples of people making the right decision

In today’s episode, we cover happiness with Dr. Robert Waldinger. Bob is the director of the Harvard Study of Adult Development, a 75-year-long Harvard study of adult life, and the co-author of The Good Life: Lessons from the World's Longest Scientific Study of Happiness. Our social fitness was shaken over the last few years thanks to the lockdown, so what can we use from the longest study on happiness to improve our social fitness and rebuild lost relationships? What to Listen For Introduction – 0:00 How did the “Harvard Happiness Study” come about? What is the Harvard Study of Adult Development and how did it start? Social Fitness – 13:01 What is social fitness and how did the pandemic affect your social fitness? The Biggest Motivation for Self Development – 24:18 What gives you the greatest motivation to improve your life? What is the secret to happiness and how do you implement it at any age? How do you make new friends? – 37:11 What should you say when you want to reconnect with someone? How t

In today’s episode, we cover money and love with Abby Davisson. Abby is a social innovation leader and career development expert, was the president of the Gap Foundation at Gap Inc and a senior leader on the Environmental, Social & Governance team, and is the co-author of Money and Love: An Intelligent Roadmap for Life's Biggest Decisions.  Making big decisions in relationships can be intimidating, so what frameworks and strategies can you use to simplify the decision making process and how should you handle conversations around money and having kids with your partner? What to Listen For Introduction – 0:00 What proven framework should you use to approach major decisions about money and love in relationships? Thinking about Consequences of Making Big Decisions – 19:06 How should you think about the consequences of decision making? How do you know if you want to spend the rest of your life with someone? Relationship Compatibility – 29:26 How can you find out if you are compatible with your partner in

In today’s episode, we cover the Art of Charm’s best episodes from 2022 with AJ and Johnny.  Turbocharge your social skills going into 2023 with highlights from the best of the Art of Charm podcast in 2022! What to Listen For Introduction – 0:00 Avoid these Low Value Behaviors – 2:41 What 3 behaviors do you need to avoid if you want to attract high value friendships and relationships? Eye Contact for Different Situations – 16:34 How do you decide what kind of eye contact you should give in personal, professional, and romantic situations? Overcome Perfectionism – 19:22 What steps can you take to overcome perfectionism? What are the warning signs that perfectionism is controlling your life? Setting and Enforcing Boundaries – 28:22 How do you enforce boundaries you set with other people who keep violating your boundaries? Overcome Nice Guy Syndrome – 38:02 What are covert contracts and why do “nice guys” make them with people they meet? What is the biggest flaw of nice guys and how do you stop being

In today’s episode, we cover social media with Dr. Nicholas Kardaras. Dr. Kardaras is an Ivy League educated psychologist, best-selling author, internationally renowned speaker and an expert on mental health, addiction, and the impacts of our digital age. Social media has gripped us by the neck with socially inept nerds calling the shots, so what exactly is going on, how is social media amplifying mental health issues, and what steps can we take to break social media addiction? What to Listen For Introduction – 0:00 What is a social media algorithm and why can they be dangerous to society? What is the Online Safety Act and how does it serve to protect us from algorithms on social media? The social world is engineered by the socially inept – 16:42 Why is there so much friction between what is going on in the real world and the virtual world? How does social media amplify mental health issues and pressure young people to imitate the mentally unwell? Who should we trust – 28:46 How do we know who to trus

In today’s episode, we cover parenting and the CIA with Christina Hillsberg. Christina is a former CIA intelligence officer, writer, and recognized expert on women in espionage, intelligence tradecraft, and parenting, and the author of License to Parent:  Being a parent is hard enough already and now we have so much technology to worry about, so how do you teach your kids to build trust and to know who to trust, how do you properly regulate their access to video games and the internet, and how do you teach kids to recognize and avoid danger? What to Listen For Introduction – 0:00 What should you study or work toward if you want to eventually work for the CIA or other intelligence agencies?  Teach kids to build relationships – 14:22 How do you teach your kids to deal with bullies in school? How do you build trust with your kids or stepkids? Dealing with kids and videogames – 30:30  How do you regulate the access to video games and the internet that your kids have to keep them safe? How do you teach you

In today’s episode, we cover leadership with John Bacon. John is an American journalist, a sports commentator on TV and radio, and author of books on sports and business including his latest best seller Let Them Lead: Unexpected Lessons in Leadership from America's Worst High School Hockey Team. Coaching a poor performing team to victory is no easy task, so what can you learn from a high school hockey coach who did just that, how high should you set expectations, and what can you do to set them up to lead themselves to success? What to Listen For Introduction – 0:00 Why did John Bacon decide to coach the worst high school hockey team in America and how did he take them from losers to champions? The Value of High Expectations – 15:15 Why is it important to set high expectations for your team? What does it mean to separate the behavior from the results and why is it important for you to understand if you want to be a great leader? Rules and Leadership – 30:18  What is the best approach to set rules and r

In today’s episode, we cover self-esteem with Dr. Steven Hayes. Steven Hayes is an American clinical psychologist and Nevada Foundation Professor at the University of Nevada, Reno Department of Psychology, where he is a faculty member in their Ph.D. program in behavior analysis, and the author nearly 670 scientific articles and 47 books including the best selling Get Out of Your Mind and Into Your Life.  The last couple of generations grew up in a world that focused on high self-esteem, but what exactly is self-esteem, why was it catastrophically wrong to focus on it, and what should you strive for when raising kids? What to Listen For Introduction – 0:00 What is self-esteem? Why is it dangerous to artificially inflate self-esteem? What is that critical voice you hear and how does it affect your self-esteem? What is confidence – 18:30 Why are many people who appear confident not? How does social media make it difficult for you to be self compassionate and stay true to yourself? Stop focusing on self-e

In today’s episode, we cover becoming unstoppable with Michael Herold.  We all have the potential to achieve unstoppable confidence, but what are the 3 obstacles that stand in your way, what can you do to overcome them, and how do you identify your core values so you can find every day fulfilling? What to Listen For Introduction – 0:00 What are the 3 obstacles you need to overcome to have unlimited confidence?  What can you do to separate yourself from your thoughts so they don’t get in the way of achieving your goals and dreams? What question can you ask yourself to instantly quiet your thoughts? Overcome negative emotions to achieve unstoppable confidence – 18:27 How do you overcome discomfort so you can get the most out of life? Why do we need to redefine happiness and what should the new definition be so we can pursue a more fulfilling existence? Find your core values –29:00  What are core values and why are they important for you to find for yourself if you want to live a rich and meaningful lif

In today’s episode, we cover the pursuit meaning and fulfillment with Yael Schonbrun. Yael is a clinical psychologist, assistant professor at Brown University, co-host of Psychologists Off the Clock, and the author of Work, Parent, Thrive: 12 Science-Backed Strategies to Ditch Guilt, Manage Overwhelm, and Grow Connection (When Everything Feels Like Too Much).  The pursuit of meaning has taken a back seat in the last few decades and we’re paying the price, so what can you do to introduce more meaning into your life, how should you balance meaningful and pleasurable pursuits, and how can you you strengthen the relationships that already give you meaning? What to Listen For Introduction – 0:00 Is it more fulfilling to be great at one role in life or divide your time between multiple roles? How should you balance the pursuits of meaning, pleasure, and purpose? Prioritizing the different roles in your life – 16:16 How do you determine which roles you should prioritize in your life when you have to take other

In today’s episode, we cover talking to strangers with AJ and Johnny.  You never know what friend, business partner, or love interest you’ll meet by striking up a conversation with strangers in your daily life, but how do you create engaging conversations with anyone, what two things do you need for great conversations, and how do you make an unforgettable first impression? What to Listen For Introduction – 0:00 How is technology harming our ability to hold conversations and how do we overcome it? Why is it important to your health and social life to make small talk with strangers? Simple Techniques for Talking to Strangers – 23:16 What tips can you use to have fun conversations with strangers? How do you know what to talk about with strangers? How do you give a compliment to a stranger? The Art of Charm Conversation Formula – 37:05 What is the formula for great conversations? How do you have a good conversation with anyone? What are the two things you need to have great conversations? Why is vuln

In today’s episode, we cover masculinity with Richard Reeves. Richard is a senior fellow at the Brookings Institution, where he directs the Future of the Middle Class Initiative and co-directs the Center on Children and Families, and is the author of several books including his latest, Of Boys and Men: Why the Modern Male Is Struggling, Why It Matters, and What to Do about It. Western culture is experiencing a masculinity crisis, so what does mature masculinity look like in today’s society, what defines toxic masculinity vs mature masculinity, and how do we start instilling masculinity in our boys? What to Listen For Introduction – 0:00 What are the trends in education and how are they impacting the genders? Why is there a lack of male teachers? The Crisis of Fatherhood – 24:07 What role should fathers play moving forward? What does mature masculinity look like in modern society and how do we instill it in our children? Toxic Masculinity – 38:15  What is the difference between mature masculinity and t

In today’s episode, we cover social engineering and corporate espionage with Robert Kerbeck. Robert is the founder of the Malibu Writers Circle, his essays and short stories have been featured in numerous magazines and literary journals, and his new memoir, RU$E: Lying the American Dream from Hollywood to Wall Street, is a thrilling look into his career as a secret corporate spy. Espionage has been around for as long as people have kept secrets, but what do corporate spies do to get information from unsuspecting employees, what should you be on the lookout for to protect yourself and your company, and how do you become a corporate spy? What to Listen For Introduction – 0:00 How do you become a corporate spy? How do corporate spies prepare for deceptive calls with competitors? Corporate Espionage Tools of the Trade – 13:36 What is a false time constraint and how do scammers and spies use them to manipulate you? How do scammers and corporate spies manipulate you to get whatever information they want? How

In today’s episode, we cover hunting discomfort with Sterling Hawkins. Sterling is the CEO and founder of the Sterling Hawkins Group, a research, training and development company focused on human and organizational growth, and is the author of Hunting Discomfort: How to Get Breakthrough Results in Life and Business No Matter What.  Discomfort is an inevitable aspect of getting anywhere in life, so what are the 5 kinds of discomfort we all face, what are the ways we all deal with discomfort that make it worse, and how can you leverage discomfort to turn your dreams into a reality? What to Listen For Introduction – 0:00 Why do you risk everything you’ve worked for when you avoid discomfort? What are the 3 default ways we try to deal with discomfort that only make the discomfort worse? How to Evolve through Discomfort – 11:20 What can you do to adopt a mindset that embraces discomfort and leverages discomfort to evolve as a person? What are the 3 kinds of beliefs and how do they drive everything you do? H

In today’s episode, we cover the different work genius skills with Patrick Lencioni. Patrick is founder and president of The Table Group, a firm dedicated to helping leaders improve their organizations’ health and the author of ten business books including his most recent work, The 6 Types of Working Genius: A Better Way to Understand Your Gifts, Your Frustrations, and Your Team. Knowing what kind of work your personality is inclined toward can make the difference between loving your work and hating it, having an innovative team and a failing team, so what are the different types of work and how can you leverage them to achieve incredible success? What to Listen For Introduction – 0:00 Why do we get frustrated at work and what is triggering this?  What are the skills necessary to fully function in any work environment? Different Kinds of Working Genius – 5:32 What are the different types of working skills we already have and the skills we still need to develop? What are the benefits of learning and know

In today’s episode, we cover the science behind the hidden power of relationships with AJ and Johnny.  The people in your life can you lead you to success or failure, joy or frustration—so how do you know what influence people and their friends are having on your life, how can you be a high value person to attract high value friendships and relationships, and what steps can you take to upgrade your social circle? What to Listen For Introduction – 0:00 What influence do the people around you have on your happiness and ability to achieve your goals? How do you handle relationships that have a negative influence on your life? High Value vs Low Value Behavior – 10:55 What does it mean to be high value and why should you avoid low value behaviors if you don’t want to lose great friendships and relationships? What are the benefits of being high value as much as possible? Inescapable Influence of Friends and Family – 23:01  How can your life be influenced by the friends of friends you don’t even know and wha

In today’s episode, we cover conscious conversations with Chuck Wisner. Chuck is a business and personal consultant and an advisor to leaders in high-profile companies in several industries such as Google, Rivian, Apple, and Tesla, and is the author of The Art of Conscious Conversations: Transforming How We Talk, Listen, and Interact.  Conversations are an important aspect of running a business with employees, so what conversations should you be having with your employees and what types of questions should you ask? What to Listen For Introduction – 0:00 How many different kinds of conversations are there and why do you need to know them all? Advocacy vs Inquiry – 22:55 Why is it important to balance advocacy for yourself and inquiring about others? The 4 Questions to Ask in Conversations – 34:16  What kinds of questions should you ask yourself when you’re talking to someone if you want to spark more engaging conversations? Conversational Bypass – 48:30 Why is it important to touch on all four types of

In today’s episode, we cover groundedness with Brad Stulberg. Brad coaches executives, entrepreneurs, physicians, and athletes on health, well-being, and sustainable excellence, and is the bestselling author of The Practice of Groundedness: A Transformative Path to Success that Feeds -- Not Crushes -- Your Soul. Being present is harder than ever in a world with a million things fighting for our attention, so what can you do to stay grounded in a world of distractions, what mindset can you adopt to work hard without burning out, and build a community that keeps your carries your momentum forward? What to Listen For Introduction – 0:00 What is groundedness and what does it mean to practice groundedness? The Principles of Groundedness – 10:22 What practice can you implement to accept where you are in the moment so you can make better decisions about where to go next? What is the best thing you can do if you feel like you’re in a hole and time has slowed down to a crawl?  The Key to Feeling Good and Being H

In today’s episode, we cover leadership and motivation with Dan Luna. Dan formed 3LX Consulting in 2019 to empower leaders through coaching products that combine academics, consulting, and coaching, after a twenty-year career in the United States Navy SEAL Teams.  Leadership is a skill that requires conscious effort to develop, but how do we define leadership, what daily practices can you utilize to improve your leadership, and what can you do to lead and motivate your team to achieve their potential? What to Listen For Introduction – 0:00 What does leadership mean to a Navy SEAL? Leadership Skill Transference – 10:42 How do you transfer your leadership skills from one area of your life to another? What can you do to develop self-awareness so you know where you are lacking when it comes to leadership? How to Start Journaling for Leadership Development – 30:51  What can you do start journaling from a leadership perspective to develop your leadership skills? How do You Motivate Other Leaders – 43:10 Ho